Girls, about the touch barrier...

[asdf15]

Do you usually break the touch barrier between you and the guy you like if not, is it because you are shy/nervous around him or because you want him to break the touch barrier?

[Olivia9]

I break the touch barrier first. If I want to feel you or be felt then I will either touch you or let you touch me. If I back away and shake my head its a no. Some guys don't understand that even though it seems pretty simple to me. I don't think hugs count as touching I will hug a person that I'm not sexually attracted to as well as a guy that I am sexually attracted to. I don't know I don't really monitor who touches whom first, I think it depends on the person and the circumstance. Like if the guy that I am on a date with is really laid back and relaxed I will probably touch him. But I've been out with guys that were really active and engaged and they touched me first. So it depends on the vibe on the date or in the relationship. I think that in a pretty short period of time people determine who is the more aggressive of the two. Good question, hope this helped.

[Olivia9]

Thanks for BA :)

[asdf15]

Ty for the great answer :)

[singlegirl1992]

I agree with the person below who said that everyone has their own idea of what constitutes breaking the touch barrier and what doesn't. With that in mind...yes, I always break the barrier first if I like a guy. I'll playfully touch his arm, lightly knock our knees together (if we're sitting) or graze his hip with mine.

I definitely get shy and nervous around a guy I like, and of course I would love for him to initiate contact with me, but I figure there's no point in hiding my interest because he might believe me and move on to someone else. I would never get anywhere if I sat around waiting for guys to make the first move!

[Sparkling]

I'd prefer the guy to break the touch barrier first, but that happens like.. hardly ever. I guess most guys are shy and worried they'll scare the girl away. So most of the time I'll end up be the one to do it and he catches up real quick :P I'll be honest though, if I've tried once and he didn't do anything at all back, I'm extremely unlikely to do it again (It's only happened once). I'll only do it if I'm really into the guy and believes that he's into me and believes he's not making the moves because he's shy.

I'd rather back off after one try than look like I'm desperate for a guy who's not into me.

[kholland65]

99% of women will prefer you break the touch barrier however however, this isn't really surprising or unique.

I'm sure the majority of men would prefer this as well and for the same reason.

Guys like the women here are just as shy in many circumstances. It's just women have one the game of chicken and have convinced society that somehow men are more deserving of the short end of the stick.

[NymphoVic]

I've had bad experiences with my boundaries being unwillingly violated, so I'm very uneasy around guys. I guess you could say that I'm nervous, and I usually want to break it with a handshake, or similar hand contact. I'll usually wait for him to go in for a hug first though.

[RedSmartie]

I don't break it. In fact, if I like a guy I will pull away and touch him less and stand and sit a little farther from him. I'm shy when it comes to things like that. Also, I like to see if he'll notice me pulling away and make up the distance. If I stop touching him and sitting close to him and he doesn't notice, I know he's probably not into me.

[Jmark]

or you shoot him down and make him feel rejected xD Considerate.

[Hannah591]

I'm quite confident in making the first move so if I feel the time is ready, I'll break the touch barrier. It's not a huge deal haha! Though I do prefer it if the guy breaks the touch barrier first; especially if he's hard to read and I can't tell if he likes me or not!

[heytheresunshine]

I don't, mainly because I'm a shy person... if I was interested, I'd want him to break it first, otherwise I constantly worry that he doesn't want me to... sorry if this wasn't much help, because I feel like that feeling is kind of mutual between the genders

[thataznbabygirl]

id want him to break it first ha ha but ill say/do cute little things so he gets the hint that I like him

id feel wayy more sexually comfortable with a guy who I know wants me. and yano wouldn't think I'm sexually harassing him or something Loll

[Anonymous]

The 'touch barrier' is so abstract. There is no touch barrier. Everyone feels comfortable with different things and some might feel better if you touch them while some won't. Just touch someone on a neutral part of the body (shoulder), see how they react and just keep talking because it's not like you're going to feel them up during a normal conversation.

If you want to know whether the other person likes you, look towards different things than this.

[Anonymous]

I would rather if he breaks the barrier, I'm a shy person. Not only that but it's a turn on to me when a guy takes charge so by him breaking the barrier shows me that he's not waiting for me To tell him what to do. All girls are different though. Some like to take that first step.

[Anonymous]

I'm reserved and I don't like being touched by anyone. My family members don't touch each other, I don't touch my friends...and I am uncomfortable letting anyone touch me. So I do break the touch barrier. I physically do not let him break the barrier. I will step away lol. If I really like someone, then I'll break that barrier myself. I'm a freak.

[unighted]

I do break the touch barrier. I would touch his arms or tap him on the knee or something cute like that. However, I would not make the move to kiss him because for me that is strictly the guy´s job. Unless you are already in a relationship.

[toulouse]

Ido it first when I'm comfortable. I don't like him doing it first because I don't like surprises. if I think hell be OK and I'm OK ill do it. but I'm not very touchy So I worry hell be uncomfortable as well... so it takes a very long time.

[MissAM]

I don't do it often but I have broken the touch barrier with a guy I like first. I have done it because I felt comfortable enough around him to touch/hug him. ^__^

[Daph81]

I only break the touch barrier if I'm comfortable with someone. Although if I like the guy I might "accidentally" brush against him or something, no obvious touching, I'm too shy for that.

[CarrieDawn]

Usually I do, but I'm a pretty touchy-feely person, with strangers and everyone.

But I would PREFER for a guy to break the barrier first, it's nice!

[prettypeach20]

I usually break the touch barrier by moving in closer while we are watching a movie or hanging out...something subtle always lol

Answer mine please?

[lauramor]

It is hard for me to break it, but I always force myself to start touching the guy I like (even if it sounds weird hahaha) after he starts doing it.

[MorbidPrincess94]

I would rather have him break the touch barrier. This way I'll know if he really likes me or not. And I'm quite shy so I don't usually do it myself.

[chI0e]

no, he usually breaks it. if he doesn't the date doesn't reli go well

[ComeBackkk]

i usually let a guy break the touch barrier. no reason, I'm not shy, but I just don't really do it.

[Anonymous]

I'll break the touch barrier when I'm comfortable and I know they won't freak out about it. I'll touch their hand or give them a fake light hit when we tease each other or something like that.

[snowangle]

I'm not usually shy. I like to break the touch barrier early on and get it over with, haha.