My girlfriend of 3 months cheated on me with a guy she used to date from her past, should I forgive her? (Page 2)

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Me and my girlfriend are in college we have been together for 3 months, the 6 degrees of separation brought us together, we look good together , the sex is great, I met her family and she recently met mine. Even though me and my girlfriend were great for each other we did fall on rough times about 2 months in, she felt as if I didn't appreciate her she felt as if I didn't listen to what she was trying to say she felt as if I was being arrogant and non caring of her feelings. I found out that a guy she use to date a couple months before me has constantly been in her ear since we've been together, egging her to leave me and come back to him because he misses her and loves her and wants her back, (bullsh*t). Now she would always tell him no and keep it moving and not even think twice about what he was saying until this 1 particular night. The dude called her up from her friends house (who stays across the street) and asked her to come over because he had some issues going on in his life, being they were somewhat friends she went over, now remember it was about 12 at night and his roommates were gone. They start talking and conversation turns into jokes and catching up on old times etc. Then the guy ask her about our relationship, she tells him that we are on bad terms, one minute everything is fine and the next she doesn't know what's going to happen. (She later told me at the time she felt our relationship was on the brinks.) So the guy says to her you know I told myself that even if you did come back I wouldn't want you and she replies all I want is your friendship, someone to be an ear to talk to. Time goes by as they watch t.v. and the guy takes his pants off and ask her to give him head. She says no about 5 times, as more time goes by the guy tries to grab her and to touch it, she slowly pulls away, he pulls her hip to bring her closer and she pulls away. It becomes a battle of will at that point. Finally she gives in, she tells the guy regardless of what happens were not going to have sex without a condom. The guy pulls 1 out and she lays there as he takes of her sweats and proceeds to move behind her. She lays there and lets it happen and it goes on for about 15 minutes as he strokes her from behind and pulls out b4 he orgasms. She lays there for about 5 minutes gets her stuff and then leaves, when I found out 3 weeks later because apparently the guy was telling his friends, I was mad I confronted the both of them and they admitted it after they tried to lie, she said she had planned on telling me because I'm such a great boyfriend better than any of her past that I deserved to know, she would do anything to get me back at this point, her family and friends have all tried to contact me telling me how sorry she is and how much she cares about us, how much she needs me in her life even though she admits I deserve better than what she's done. She said she is going to be better and she will be the women of my dreams, should I forgive her & give her a chance in the future?

jenn_a_adams · Answer

So many details! Did she tell you all of this? Having a picture in your head of what actually happened is not going to be helpful if you choose to forgive her.

sweetsparks95 · Answer

seriously I'm going to try to be understanding in my comment.i believe if you have someone who supposedly your significant other, they should not cheat on you. they don't even have to be your s.o., if they're dating you, then all their "goodies" should be kept in a jar for only you and her knows the combination. once someone cheats on you, you should break up with them instantly. but if you really feel like she is sorry and will never do it again, try the new relationship out.

Lunchboxraider · Answer

No just because she hates him doesn't change that when times were tough she cheated on you. Nothing justfys it. she has to make it up to you, which has to feel equal to what she did to you.

XxSunshinexX · Answer

YOU CAN FORGIVE BUT NOT FORGET.. THAT WILL ALWAYS WILL BE AN ISSUE, I DNT THINK YOU WOULD BE ABLE TO TRUST HER THE SAME WAY YOU DID, AND THAT WILL END UP DESTROYING THE RELATIONSHIP.

jacquesvol · Answer

If you love her, you'll have to chose between pride and love  (I'd forgive in that case) If you were just fooling around with her, you'll have to chose between pride and lust. (I might choose lust;-))

Standingpretty · Answer

NO. Once a cheater, always a cheater in that relationship. You BOTH need someone new.

funky909 · Answer

i wouldn't forgive her if she don't care about your feelings then she don't deserve you

Anonymous · Answer

ok I had this same issues except it with a girl I went out with for a 6 months and she cheated for me for some fat lard who think he is Mr. hulk. trust me dump the girl and forget her altogether it helps trust me.

bkyoungin85 · Answer

No..Fighting over a girl is pointless.  The best thing to do would be to give her another chance. I believe EVERYONE deserves a second chance. (only one tho)

Anonymous · Answer

At least she used a condom.   Give her a second chance!

teadybear2008 · Answer

no don't do it. by heating him you are lowering yourself to his sizes,what he did was wrong and yet you won you have the girl and he doesn't have sh*t

mpalmer7 · Answer

Let her go. If it is this complicate, then you are not in love. If you can't decide if it's worth it, I promise that it isn't. End it. You're only in it for the sex anyway.

obligations · Answer

Obviously not. she cheated. Dur.

Fabiana222 · Answer

no I would not go out with her

Anonymous · Answer

no. once a cheater, always a cheater.

Whoknows87 · Answer

NO!

Anonymous · Answer

Dump the bitch

My girlfriend of 3 months cheated on me with a guy she used to date from her past, should I forgive her? (Page 2)

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