Polls: Break Up & Divorce

I met a guy via online dating. We talked for 5 weeks before meeting up. I guess I wanted to make sure he seemed normal, nice and decent. We opened up to each other about a lot of things, but as time would tell, he hid a lot too...



We slept together too early - second date. And then he pulled away and revealed more of his 'real ' self. no more sweet talking - and a lot more brash and up himself. then he would be sweet again, and send heaps of text messages, opening up about how he's a bad guy and bad influence, that his brother is a bikie and the gang comes over often. That he does drugs etc. I was shocked, but also compassionate. seemed like a cry for help. we got close again (talking - not sex) and the talks were good.



Then he was rude and asked me to pick him up from a date. I lost it and told him to grow up. It's like he enjoyed seeing that I cared. He then messaged and called asking me to please come over and see him - I ignored it.



Anyway I called him on his 'act' and games and pulled away. I told him I wouldn't see someone who treated me like dirt and spoke to me unkindly. He then put on the 'nice guy' act again, all because of the chase I think. And the harder I made it for him, the more he chased. He promised he just wanted me to give him a chance to make it right. and that if all I offered was friendship fine he would take that. so after a week of pleading, I gave in.



Wemet - but only as friends. I went to his place and he was p*ssed off when I left becuase I didn't sleep with him or even let him touch me. I told him if he begged to see me for so long after being friends, and he can't REALLY be friends - then leave me alone. It was a tactic to make him realize his own game had failed.

Anyway I still have a feeling ill hear from him again, maybe in a few days or a week. that's what he tends to do when I say 'dont contact me again'. What do I do then? He's made it clear he's talking to other girls - that's fine I'd rather someone else put up with the lies and games. but why does he keep coming back? Especially when he knows he's not getting anything from me now I know his game.

I was talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. He was all into me. Making time for me before and after work. Told me he couldn't believe he felt the way he did so soon. Then he tells me, he is spoiling me and has to stop giving me so much attention. After that I noticed a change. He wasn't trying to see me as much. He still texted and called, but it was always during his work hours, not after work. When I brought this to his attention he made an effort to change. During a conversation the topic of his children's mother came up. They seem like they get along so well(which is good) I asked him did he think they would get back together. He said maybe, he didn't know what the future held. That made me feel like maybe he was stringing me along, and maybe they are still involved. Here is where I messed up. I should have faded into the background, and dealt with him on a diff level. I told him it was best if we didn't talk anymore. We ended up getting into an argument via text, because he threw jabs and I threw back. I told him to loose my number and don't call. And he hasn't. Even after I apologized for not being "Christian like" (he had pointed that out in the text) He said some hurtful things, but I know he was upset for me telling him we should end it. I wish I hadn't told him to loose my number and not to call, because I do miss our conversations. Guys; Would you call back? From a guy's point of view what is he thinking? Part of me wants to call and tell him I didn't mean it and lets start over, but the other part of me keeps hearing him say, "It's my way, I write the book" and my head is saying "Don't you dare call him back, if he really cared he would reach out." What do you think?

We haven't talked in almost a year. We still had feelings for each other last time we talked, but I didn't want a relationship... well I did but I am dealing with stressful times, I still am, I love him and want to be with him... but I can't, at least for now... see this is what I hate... I feel like I'm leading him on, or that by saying merry Christmas he will think I'm interested again...I don't want to make him think that, but I'd hate to loose all contact with him... maybe I'm just being selfish... maybe I should leave him alone if I can't make up my mind? I don't want to play with his hear. I have already done that enough to him in the past...

I miss him so much and I just want to talk to him...

If you think It would be OK to send this how should I say it?

should I mention I miss him? or would that make it seem like I like him?

I would like to add something to my message(sending it over Facebook) but I don't know what... oh also I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not...

Any help is greatly appreciated! Happy Holidays guys.

My parents have been together for over 30 years. I recently found concrete evidence that my mother cheated on my father over a span of 2 years with 3 guys regularly roughly 14 years ago.

My mother is a homemaker and has never worked a real job. My father is disabled but still provides for the family. I honestly don't think they'd be able to make it without each other.

They swear they love each other and I have no clue if my father knows or not. I'm not sure how to handle this situation. Any ideas/suggestions?

I'm happy for him. She's super pretty and seems nice too.

Should I like a picture of my ex and his new girlfriend on Facebook?

I want to do what is best for him tho and I don't want him to fight with her so I'm ambivalent. The picture is really nice.

I always think that women suffer more in a divorce.However,from what I have read in our local newspapers,it seems that there are more cases of men than women committing suicide when the marriage ends with a divorce.What do you think?

Thanks beforehand for your time and response and the best answer would be selected.

Girl #1: A good friend of yours had been talking about this girl he's liked since middle school. He's made numerous attempts to ask her to prom (including a wall sized chalk mural, guitar serenading, flowers & chocolate etc). She finally says yes. You & your girlfriend of 5 months meet her for the time. She is a 5'5" Filipino girl. 100lbs, very skinny (subtle curves, A-Cup, small butt), pretty face. After prom you, your girlfriend & friends go to her house. There, you discover she has multiple tiny pet chow-chows, does not play video games or likes sports, & prefers to stay at her large house w/family instead of go out, she has a high end fashion sense & a lot of money so she can buy you things. She is very nice & innocent looking w/a nice smile. (CONS:) She does not like dancing. Se went to prom w/the guy who loves her only so she could see which of his friends were single & soon became one's girlfriend. Throughout the relationship she would brag to the guy who loves her how great her boyfriend is. This creates a riff between your friends who do not like her. When they brokeup, she looked to him & your girlfriend for comfort. They both agree to help her & she ends up using him once again until he finally cracks & breaks their friendship. You tell your girlfriend "she's fake. I don't think we can trust her. Don't talk to her, she's trouble." When you did hang out with her, your girlfriend, her and your friend you discover she has very bad trust issues, is terrified of just about everything, nosey, spoiled, whinny/annoying & bitchy. She also is very argumentative. You also discover you have very little to nothing in common.

Girl #2: You met when she transferred to your school 4yrs ago. She was dating a guy in your class who you knew abused her & you were dating a girl already. You admired her from afar & she did the same. She is 5'3", Japanese and Filipino, 127lbs (very noticeable curves, D-cup and good sized butt)Your girlfriend makes you miserable & you leave her. After being friends for years you see she is nice everyone but isn't afraid to tell someone her opinion, she wears whatever is comfortable but nice, likes being w/friends & you, & always listens to you. You trust each other with everything. She loves video games (she plays mw3/Dead Island w/you & your friends every night) she loves to dance & have fun, loves cars, guns & sports, has a more wild/feisty personality, but is very loving & sweet. When together you watch horror movies left & right, shoot your air soft gun at cans in the backyard or play-wrestle. She loves cooking for you & making you happy & gets along very well with your friends and family.(CONS) She sometimes feels insecure because of her abusive ex but takes therapy. She has problems w/girls at her new school & vents to you sometimes. At times she can get overly affectionate. Sometimes she's jealous/suspicious about someone if they have your attention (except family). And out of habit, she randomly asks everyone who they are texting.

Would you date someone with a bunion?

Would you be disgusted or turned off if you found out your girlfriend/boyfriend had a bunion?

I have a friend who recently moved in with her boyfriend and he hates dogs with a passion. He's goes crazy every time he sees one and he thinks they smell bad. On top of that, he was bit by his family dog as a child, so they freak him out. Well, she's moving from her parents and she has a 9 year old yorshire terrier that she wants to bring with her because her parents don't want the responsibility of taking care of it. she's very attached to her dog she's had since she was 12 years old. If you were her what would you do?

I would like to know, in your honest opinion, what constitutes as PHYSICAL cheating, not emotional cheating, just plain physical cheating.

What I mean by this is, if you were in a relationship and you or your significant other decided to cheat, what is it that you have to physical do for it to be considered cheating? Or what is it that your boyfriend/girlfriend does that you would say, you cheated on me, we're done.

Some people have told me that it isn't cheating unless you have sex with another person. Others have told me that the second you touch another person it's considered cheating.

Again, I mean physical cheating, not emotional cheating. (Emotional cheating is more so being really flirty with another person to where you start developing feelings for this other person even when you're in a relationship)

So, do you consider it cheating as soon as they hold hands? Kiss? Only have sex? Or is it something else?

I don't want to repeat myself, but I'm just trying to make my meaning as clear as possible. Do you think it's cheating the second they hold hands? Or is holding hands okay, but as soon as they kiss THAT'S when it's considered cheating? Or do you only think it's cheating when they have sex?

I'm just curious to know what everyone thinks.

If your ex gave you a perfume when you were together, do you still use that perfume?

I still love an ex of mine. I have let go, but I was thinking about him the other day and I realized a big part of me does still him. He was the first person I had a real relationship with and he was my first love. But we broke up a little over 2 years ago. I feel kind of pathetic for having lingering feelings for him, but its hard to keep them away when he always send me mixed messages. Like a couple weekends ago he told me that when I went out that I should let him know cus he'd come, and that he was always bored and blah blah blah. Then ill text him and he doesn't text me back/acts short with me. Once we got into an argument when we were drunk and he threw in my face the fact that I had dated other guys but he hasn't dated anyone since me... why would he do that?

Do you still love an ex of yours? how long did you break up?

It's not working out. It's not working for me. I am taking the relationship status on Facebook down until we have a better footing because it seems like we don't have enough time for each other. I understand you're busy with school and league, but 2 weeks is just too long not to talk. I was really worried about you. I don't like the way we're treating each other, and I forgot we were even dating. I want us to try again in the future, but right now it's just not working. Next time I'll treat you the way I want to be treated. So you're okay with breaking up?"

you say "if that's what you want, and if that makes you happy, then fine." and you remove her from everything- photos, Facebook, Skype. she tries to apologize immediately after and you ignore her and her other two attempts to call. you say that the nagging was annoying.

-then realizes what she said was stupid as hell-

and apologizes a month later and says:

"I'm sorry for what has happened between us and ended what we had. I was wrong and have had time and help to recognize that. It is important to let you know that you weren't at fault, and I wish I could turn back the clock with what I now understand, and it wasn't fair to disrespect you like the way I did without even talking to you, and just assuming things. I realize now that I couldn't handle the stress I was putting on myself to be a good girlfriend for you with the distance, and at the same time causing a lot of fights and rifts between us. I kept picking at us and our relationship, when all I wanted was to just talk to you, not blame you for every little thing. You're always going to be you and I'll always be me but that doesn't mean we can't co-exist and understand each other. You did that for me, and I want to do that for you too. I knew that we were busy and I was fine with it, but still exploded on you. And I wanted to stop that, and the control I wanted over everything. We were fine just the way we were, and I could not let up. I don't want to jerk you around or beat you up and freak out anymore, I just want to make you happy and support you, no matter what, and I'm upset I wasn't there for you when you needed it the most, because not everything is about me, and I can't force things either. You've made me really happy and been there for me. It really hurt me that I was pressuring, annoying, and alienating you with my actions and words towards you, when all I wanted to do was just be with you or at least a friend to you. I would love just to talk. There is a lot to share. And I just hope that you're happy and I will always think the best of you."