Polls: Break Up & Divorce

Girl #1: A good friend of yours had been talking about this girl he's liked since middle school. He's made numerous attempts to ask her to prom (including a wall sized chalk mural, guitar serenading, flowers & chocolate etc). She finally says yes. You & your girlfriend of 5 months meet her for the time. She is a 5'5" Filipino girl. 100lbs, very skinny (subtle curves, A-Cup, small butt), pretty face. After prom you, your girlfriend & friends go to her house. There, you discover she has multiple tiny pet chow-chows, does not play video games or likes sports, & prefers to stay at her large house w/family instead of go out, she has a high end fashion sense & a lot of money so she can buy you things. She is very nice & innocent looking w/a nice smile. (CONS:) She does not like dancing. Se went to prom w/the guy who loves her only so she could see which of his friends were single & soon became one's girlfriend. Throughout the relationship she would brag to the guy who loves her how great her boyfriend is. This creates a riff between your friends who do not like her. When they brokeup, she looked to him & your girlfriend for comfort. They both agree to help her & she ends up using him once again until he finally cracks & breaks their friendship. You tell your girlfriend "she's fake. I don't think we can trust her. Don't talk to her, she's trouble." When you did hang out with her, your girlfriend, her and your friend you discover she has very bad trust issues, is terrified of just about everything, nosey, spoiled, whinny/annoying & bitchy. She also is very argumentative. You also discover you have very little to nothing in common.

Girl #2: You met when she transferred to your school 4yrs ago. She was dating a guy in your class who you knew abused her & you were dating a girl already. You admired her from afar & she did the same. She is 5'3", Japanese and Filipino, 127lbs (very noticeable curves, D-cup and good sized butt)Your girlfriend makes you miserable & you leave her. After being friends for years you see she is nice everyone but isn't afraid to tell someone her opinion, she wears whatever is comfortable but nice, likes being w/friends & you, & always listens to you. You trust each other with everything. She loves video games (she plays mw3/Dead Island w/you & your friends every night) she loves to dance & have fun, loves cars, guns & sports, has a more wild/feisty personality, but is very loving & sweet. When together you watch horror movies left & right, shoot your air soft gun at cans in the backyard or play-wrestle. She loves cooking for you & making you happy & gets along very well with your friends and family.(CONS) She sometimes feels insecure because of her abusive ex but takes therapy. She has problems w/girls at her new school & vents to you sometimes. At times she can get overly affectionate. Sometimes she's jealous/suspicious about someone if they have your attention (except family). And out of habit, she randomly asks everyone who they are texting.

Would you date someone with a bunion?

Would you be disgusted or turned off if you found out your girlfriend/boyfriend had a bunion?

I have a friend who recently moved in with her boyfriend and he hates dogs with a passion. He's goes crazy every time he sees one and he thinks they smell bad. On top of that, he was bit by his family dog as a child, so they freak him out. Well, she's moving from her parents and she has a 9 year old yorshire terrier that she wants to bring with her because her parents don't want the responsibility of taking care of it. she's very attached to her dog she's had since she was 12 years old. If you were her what would you do?

I would like to know, in your honest opinion, what constitutes as PHYSICAL cheating, not emotional cheating, just plain physical cheating.

What I mean by this is, if you were in a relationship and you or your significant other decided to cheat, what is it that you have to physical do for it to be considered cheating? Or what is it that your boyfriend/girlfriend does that you would say, you cheated on me, we're done.

Some people have told me that it isn't cheating unless you have sex with another person. Others have told me that the second you touch another person it's considered cheating.

Again, I mean physical cheating, not emotional cheating. (Emotional cheating is more so being really flirty with another person to where you start developing feelings for this other person even when you're in a relationship)

So, do you consider it cheating as soon as they hold hands? Kiss? Only have sex? Or is it something else?

I don't want to repeat myself, but I'm just trying to make my meaning as clear as possible. Do you think it's cheating the second they hold hands? Or is holding hands okay, but as soon as they kiss THAT'S when it's considered cheating? Or do you only think it's cheating when they have sex?

I'm just curious to know what everyone thinks.

If your ex gave you a perfume when you were together, do you still use that perfume?

I still love an ex of mine. I have let go, but I was thinking about him the other day and I realized a big part of me does still him. He was the first person I had a real relationship with and he was my first love. But we broke up a little over 2 years ago. I feel kind of pathetic for having lingering feelings for him, but its hard to keep them away when he always send me mixed messages. Like a couple weekends ago he told me that when I went out that I should let him know cus he'd come, and that he was always bored and blah blah blah. Then ill text him and he doesn't text me back/acts short with me. Once we got into an argument when we were drunk and he threw in my face the fact that I had dated other guys but he hasn't dated anyone since me... why would he do that?

Do you still love an ex of yours? how long did you break up?

It's not working out. It's not working for me. I am taking the relationship status on Facebook down until we have a better footing because it seems like we don't have enough time for each other. I understand you're busy with school and league, but 2 weeks is just too long not to talk. I was really worried about you. I don't like the way we're treating each other, and I forgot we were even dating. I want us to try again in the future, but right now it's just not working. Next time I'll treat you the way I want to be treated. So you're okay with breaking up?"

you say "if that's what you want, and if that makes you happy, then fine." and you remove her from everything- photos, Facebook, Skype. she tries to apologize immediately after and you ignore her and her other two attempts to call. you say that the nagging was annoying.

-then realizes what she said was stupid as hell-

and apologizes a month later and says:

"I'm sorry for what has happened between us and ended what we had. I was wrong and have had time and help to recognize that. It is important to let you know that you weren't at fault, and I wish I could turn back the clock with what I now understand, and it wasn't fair to disrespect you like the way I did without even talking to you, and just assuming things. I realize now that I couldn't handle the stress I was putting on myself to be a good girlfriend for you with the distance, and at the same time causing a lot of fights and rifts between us. I kept picking at us and our relationship, when all I wanted was to just talk to you, not blame you for every little thing. You're always going to be you and I'll always be me but that doesn't mean we can't co-exist and understand each other. You did that for me, and I want to do that for you too. I knew that we were busy and I was fine with it, but still exploded on you. And I wanted to stop that, and the control I wanted over everything. We were fine just the way we were, and I could not let up. I don't want to jerk you around or beat you up and freak out anymore, I just want to make you happy and support you, no matter what, and I'm upset I wasn't there for you when you needed it the most, because not everything is about me, and I can't force things either. You've made me really happy and been there for me. It really hurt me that I was pressuring, annoying, and alienating you with my actions and words towards you, when all I wanted to do was just be with you or at least a friend to you. I would love just to talk. There is a lot to share. And I just hope that you're happy and I will always think the best of you."

i found out that my ex boyfriend is dating my roommate. well here's some background. ex and I first started dating in 8th grade going on and off. we split up before college because he didn't want to have a long distance relationship and I really hurt. well this is year 4 for me and him in college and earlier this week I saw him on campus. I said hi and we talked for a little bit and I found out that he had transfered. Well anyway back to the problem. yesturday I walked in on my roommate and him while they were shoving their tongues down each others' throat. I was shocked and I dropped every thing and ran out cause I just totally FREAKED. Well later last night when I finally thought I had calmed down, I went back to my room, slowly opened the door and walked in. they were both sitting there on the couch looking down at their hands. My roommate ask if I was okay, and I was like hell no. then she started crying and so did i. my ex just sat there like thinking I guess and he then finally said, I didn't know you two knew each other. and... I jumped in and said, why? why did you say that you didn't want a long distance relationship and yet you have one? he answers I didn't want to hurt you and I didn't know what to do or say. I mean I loved you both so much and I couldn't choose. my roommate goes, "and yet you still chose me and you dip her off?"

i ran out of the room after that and spent a night with my guy friends in their place. Today I just don't feel like trying to talk to either one of them.

Am I being to freaked or should I just go on? PLEASE HELP ME!

Lets be honest if you are not dating the guy or girl does the whole "I'm not going to contact him so he will contact me more " really apply to every situation? Because my ex boyfriend he says that he don't want me in his life but now we are talking because I initiated contact . I'm tired of reading these articles that say mess like if you don't bother him he will want to come to you. My ex has a girlfriend so you mean to tell me if I suddenly l leave him alone he will be all over me again ? When I called him he said I'm f$&#%?+ working then he hanged up but he was texting me regularly today & he will tell me when he is sad. His girlfriend lives in a different state for now

I'm 21 years old. Here's the story: a few months ago, just before I turned 21, my mom told me the man she is married to (let's call him Joe) is not my real dad. I knew something was up for several years because they both have blue eyes and mine are brown. But that's all beside the point here. The big issue I have is that she won't tell me his name.

My mom told me this: she was dating a guy, got pregnant by him (with me), and then left him a couple of weeks later. Shortly after that she met Joe and he was cool with her being pregnant with another man's baby and whatnot. I was born and his name was put on my birth certificate as my father, and I have his last name. He raised me as his own child, and had 4 other kids with my mom. I was never treated differently than any of them.

All I know about my bio dad is that he is from Toronto (and that's where I live too), went to University of Toronto, is my Mom's age (mid-forties, my mom was 23 when I was born), and of course that he has brown eyes :-)

Mom doesn't think it's important for me to know his name. That upsets me so much, it makes me very angry that she thinks that way. I've told her this and it doesn't seem to bother her. I'm constantly thinking about how different my life would be if I knew him or even if he married my mom instead of Joe. I'm totally obsessed with this and it bothers me. I'm not sure how to get my mom to tell me his name.

Sorry for the length, I just had to vent and get some thoughts from you guys.