Let me start by saying I haven't actually read "The Rules" but I'm referring to books like it that essentially tell women what behavior is most attractive to men. Of course, no women on this site probably read anything like it and probably would burn any copy they could get their hands on as anti-feminist, but as usual that small percentage of very vocal feminists who are sometimes on my side and sometimes want to burn me at the stake will not deter me from writing this Take the way I want to write it. So here's my thinking...
- Women Are Taught The Rules Whether They Like It Or Not
In the way their mothers behave with their fathers or their older sisters or their friends or the media. Teachers are everywhere. We're all looking to make sense of this reality. We're all trying to figure out what's real and what's misconception. To survive, a woman, like a man, has to inevitably look to the most common practiced example so that she knows what life means as a woman.
If a guy knows "The Rules" he can know some of what they've been raised to think whether they've bought into it or not. This can lead to understanding and understanding is always essential in any positive relationship.
- May Help Differentiate Between Disinterest and Playing A Role
This is a smaller point but it's always great when you can tell why you aren't getting responses that you want. Sometimes that girl that you think hates you just likes you so much she doesn't want to come off too needy.
- The "If I Like A Guy I Won't Text Him A Lot" Epiphany
Every man hopefully has it. The girl that crushes on you isn't often the one inviting you to frozen yogurt. She's making awkward conversation and running away from you in the hallway because she hasn't done her makeup. It changes the signs you look for in a woman. I imagine The Rules gives you a lot more insight into how women actually act around guys they like.
- Paranoid People Will Find Sources To Fuel Paranoia
Yes, such a book can make you extremely paranoid. I would argue, however, that if it does you were already a paranoid person to begin with and were going to find fuel for that fire one way or another. This book just gave you an easy means. To a guy who doesn't think all women are against him and are part of an evil militia hellbent on destroying the integrity and self esteem of all men--this book might actually give you some information that can give you good insight on your lady.
- 90% Of Relationship Problems are Miscommunication
I read that somewhere. I should cite this but I won't bother. Think about it...you got together and you were more or less the same people as when you break up. The difference is a lot of miscommunication happened. You said stuff she said stuff. Or you didn't know how to communicate or she didn't. Someones needs went unfulfilled and so goes another end to a love story. By understanding why a woman might not be able to act the way you think she should act, you can learn to be more patient with her.
- It could be funny
We spend so much time thinking about girls it might be funny to realize they actually have all these crazy things they do so that we don't know they like us. You might see something in the book and be like yep...that's what that one girl was doing. Yep. I'm never opposed to some good laughter.