There is nothing wrong with having some standards. However, you need to show him he is valuable to in small ways. I don't see anything wrong with any of these except paying for the first date. That's fine for you, but it never has and never will be an expectation of mine. My mother raised me to believe that you should pay for your own meals unless you're in a relationship, and it's a special occasion that he is treating you to. However, you should also treat him to special occasions too.
And that's the thing with most of these. I see nothing wrong with your expectations, only if you're willing to treat him the same with other gestures. You shouldn't be entitled to certain treatment just for being a woman. It's the small things you do to show each other that you respect and value each other.
This is okay, these expectations are not high. I do these things because I want to show her that I'm interested in her, not because it's something that is expected of me. I wouldn't mind if she approaches me first. I wouldn't lose interest because I was approached first. If I wasn't interested in the first place, then I would decline the offer in the beginning.
Reading that, I feel like you are a real lady and genuine heart. Very sweet and so agree. We males need to hear that, , not because it is a rule to follow, but because we need to know women's hearts.
I'm more of a "be there during my ups and downs, stay true to your word, never lie to me, and speak directly instead of playing games." in short, be a trustworthy Person I can rely on and adore and be someone who can be a great role model for out potential future kids (should we decide to have some)
Good take. I have done these things all the time in past dates/relationships, because it shows i'm really into her. Over time, I have approached women I think are cute, and would like to get to know better, less and less because it ends up being that I am more interested in them than they are me. And this becomes a problem because I tend to get attached to people quickly and easily. And when it's over its hard to let go and move on. It's not cheesy at all.
This isn't really high expectations. I could argue about some of the points but honestly your personal view doesn't matter to anyone but you and your partner. Thinking poorly of men as people for not following these is bad but you wanting to date someone who does these is no different than a man saying he wouldn't date someone who was overweight or unattractive. Different strokes for different folks
than he takes u to the bathroom sits u on it and helps u pee and poop whipes your ass he chews food and spit it in your mouth like a bird he carries u on his back around 1400 arabs used to kill female kids by burying them alive now after seeing this question i know why they did it
i dont hate women, nice strawman argument though. I hate NARCISSISM. i hate beliefs of superiority.. so ya, i hate mytakes that are ME ME ME entitlement mytakes... so sue me
Hey, I'm with you there! There's nothing wrong with having standards :) I love seeing a guy go out of his way for me, that's such a turn on and will guarantee that I'll put some extra effort in, too. A gentleman is so sexy.
I don't think it is a good idea setting these expectations or having these desires. If guys would do the same your jaws will drop and you'll be saying "I'm not going to do that!". I think it has to be more about two people finding a way to come together, if they like each other. If you set standards and have high expectations you will more than likely have a very hard time finding the right one or a guy at all.
Except with me, I don't text unless it's a meaningless communication (i. e., "be there in 5 mins."), so you might get an actual mini-letter as an email or a call.
hey, that guy should visit sluthate and lookism ASAP, he has potential. If he gets a hair transplant and grows a big beard, he is a slayer. He has god tier eye area and nose and lips
All reasonable, as for the walks up to the door, if he honks for you to come out thats pathetic when he can just walk a few feet to the door. I understand if it hurts for him to walk and such but other then that its only 10 to 80 feet from his car to the door, i mean come on lol
I had an old id with xper level 5. I accidentally deleted it. I thought I was deactivating it but it turns out I was actually deleting. Lmao, I'm such an idiot. :'( #sadlife
Its okay to have expectations, even if you dont meet them yourself. Essentially you're limiting your own choice and if you can live with that without blaming the other sex, then I salute you. I agree go for the best you can find- after all in the end of the day it is your life and your relationship.
Everyone has the right to have expectations. You dont even need to rationalise it lmao. But I guess I'm sort of the minority here?
look - this mytake is like racism... i don't expect you to see how entitled it is, or how superior you obviously think women are. but any egalitarian sees exactly what it is, a ME ME ME mytake. sorry i dont find that attractive and rather i find it common
no, you said "EXPECT" quit backpeddling, it's right in the title @Puppylove94 and "hope" doesn't sound better-either way what you HOPE for is for him to take all the risks and do all the work. we read loud and clear. you'll never find a healthy relationship when it's all about you.
I dislike feminism and hypocritical women as much as the next guy but I don't see anything wrong with this take. But hey, I'm not a woman hater, so maybe I'm doing it wrong.
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There is nothing wrong with having some standards. However, you need to show him he is valuable to in small ways. I don't see anything wrong with any of these except paying for the first date. That's fine for you, but it never has and never will be an expectation of mine. My mother raised me to believe that you should pay for your own meals unless you're in a relationship, and it's a special occasion that he is treating you to. However, you should also treat him to special occasions too.
And that's the thing with most of these. I see nothing wrong with your expectations, only if you're willing to treat him the same with other gestures. You shouldn't be entitled to certain treatment just for being a woman. It's the small things you do to show each other that you respect and value each other.
This is okay, these expectations are not high. I do these things because I want to show her that I'm interested in her, not because it's something that is expected of me. I wouldn't mind if she approaches me first. I wouldn't lose interest because I was approached first. If I wasn't interested in the first place, then I would decline the offer in the beginning.
Reading that, I feel like you are a real lady and genuine heart. Very sweet and so agree. We males need to hear that, , not because it is a rule to follow, but because we need to know women's hearts.
well done!
Awh thanks ☺️
I'm more of a "be there during my ups and downs, stay true to your word, never lie to me, and speak directly instead of playing games." in short, be a trustworthy Person I can rely on and adore and be someone who can be a great role model for out potential future kids (should we decide to have some)
This is just for the initial stages of dating
Yeah a guy who courts a girl and act all gentlemanly can be doing all that just to get into her pants.
Good take. I have done these things all the time in past dates/relationships, because it shows i'm really into her. Over time, I have approached women I think are cute, and would like to get to know better, less and less because it ends up being that I am more interested in them than they are me. And this becomes a problem because I tend to get attached to people quickly and easily. And when it's over its hard to let go and move on. It's not cheesy at all.
Excellent way to handle the who pays on first date issue.
Especially awesome how each point is phrased as a "hope" rather than a demand. This is the kind of girl that deserves everything on that list.
thank you :)
This isn't really high expectations. I could argue about some of the points but honestly your personal view doesn't matter to anyone but you and your partner. Thinking poorly of men as people for not following these is bad but you wanting to date someone who does these is no different than a man saying he wouldn't date someone who was overweight or unattractive. Different strokes for different folks
than he takes u to the bathroom sits u on it and helps u pee and poop
whipes your ass
he chews food and spit it in your mouth like a bird
he carries u on his back
around 1400 arabs used to kill female kids by burying them alive
now after seeing this question
i know why they did it
... yeah okay
bwa ha ha ha
@feminismisnarcissism why do you hate women so much?
i dont hate women, nice strawman argument though. I hate NARCISSISM. i hate beliefs of superiority.. so ya, i hate mytakes that are ME ME ME entitlement mytakes... so sue me
@feminismisnarcissism You're the only one who's coming off as a narcissist. Pretty ironic.
Well said best comment on here.
Hey, I'm with you there! There's nothing wrong with having standards :) I love seeing a guy go out of his way for me, that's such a turn on and will guarantee that I'll put some extra effort in, too. A gentleman is so sexy.
I don't think it is a good idea setting these expectations or having these desires.
If guys would do the same your jaws will drop and you'll be saying "I'm not going to do that!". I think it has to be more about two people finding a way to come together, if they like each other. If you set standards and have high expectations you will more than likely have a very hard time finding the right one or a guy at all.
Got no problem with any of those.
Except with me, I don't text unless it's a meaningless communication (i. e., "be there in 5 mins."), so you might get an actual mini-letter as an email or a call.
That's high expectations? Lol I was expecting something else...
Your expectations are normal :-)
According to GaG men, if we date anything other than an unemployed ugly guy, we are shallow future cat ladies with high expectations
@BuchitaBuchys hahaaha
@puppylove94 reading your comments, I see they've already used the "future cat lady" insult
@BuchitaBuchys well those type of guys are losers and not real men :-)
@BuchitaBuchys ohh yeah of course.. I've gotten that plenty of times
Even if a guy that looks like this does those things, you'd still date him?
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Exactly what women means is they want a tall goodlooking rich guy to do it for them.
hey, that guy should visit sluthate and lookism ASAP, he has potential. If he gets a hair transplant and grows a big beard, he is a slayer. He has god tier eye area and nose and lips
All reasonable, as for the walks up to the door, if he honks for you to come out thats pathetic when he can just walk a few feet to the door. I understand if it hurts for him to walk and such but other then that its only 10 to 80 feet from his car to the door, i mean come on lol
Very Nice take as usual 👍🏼
only if you're an entitled woman who wants an advantage over men in dating... <not attractive.
@feminismisnarcissism your attitude is not attractive to anyone so you can leave. Bye.
you mean my splash of reality-that this is entitled bullshit. You don't like that feminism killed chivalry, take it up with feminism, not me :)
@feminismisnarcissism both me and Puppy love aren't feminists. I think it's obvious...
i blocked him lol he was spamming the entire take
Not high at all. It's how it should be.
Sets him aside from others.
Good MyTake, hope you meet him soon.
Seems pretty normal to me. I don't see anything sexist about it.
Haha yeah you're new looking at your xper level. A lot of guys dont agree with it
I had an old id with xper level 5. I accidentally deleted it. I thought I was deactivating it but it turns out I was actually deleting. Lmao, I'm such an idiot. :'( #sadlife
Its okay to have expectations, even if you dont meet them yourself. Essentially you're limiting your own choice and if you can live with that without blaming the other sex, then I salute you. I agree go for the best you can find- after all in the end of the day it is your life and your relationship.
Everyone has the right to have expectations. You dont even need to rationalise it lmao. But I guess I'm sort of the minority here?
PASS... dong dong dong, entitlement and high maintenance radar going off the charts.
I'm not high maintenance at all.
"You're the worst kind... your high maintenance but you think you're low maintenance."
-When Harry Met Sally
you're*
just kidding lol
Are you mentally ill?
look - this mytake is like racism... i don't expect you to see how entitled it is, or how superior you obviously think women are. but any egalitarian sees exactly what it is, a ME ME ME mytake. sorry i dont find that attractive and rather i find it common
a mytake is about MY preferences. These are things I hope for on MY dates with men.
no, you said "EXPECT" quit backpeddling, it's right in the title @Puppylove94 and "hope" doesn't sound better-either way what you HOPE for is for him to take all the risks and do all the work. we read loud and clear. you'll never find a healthy relationship when it's all about you.
That is women for you.
I dislike feminism and hypocritical women as much as the next guy but I don't see anything wrong with this take. But hey, I'm not a woman hater, so maybe I'm doing it wrong.
People tend to read things that aren't there.