Why I Don't Wanna Date in 2017!

[Anonymous]

As a single 26 year old woman, living in a big city- I am a New Years Resolution: NO DATING IN 2017.

1. I am so done with modern dating

I don't wanna sound negative or even cynical, but I have had enough with modern dating. The common ideology that I have discovered is that many men do not wish to commit to one woman and would rather go around playing the field. Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? I am tired of wasting my time, resources and energy on men that don't take relationships as serious as they should be.

2. Love happens when you least expect it

I have to be honest, in that my last 2 serious boyfriend happened in this manner. I ran into one on the public transit, and the other I was introduced to via a friend, when I was sweaty and on my way home from the gym! So honestly, maybe it is time to stop looking for love and let it happen, whenever it happens.

3. Focus on me this year

I want this year to be focused on learning about myself and what I want and don't want. I need to spend time working on being the best me I can be, and perhaps more time working on my health and fitness. I have put men in front of my well being for a long time now, and I hope 2017 will be a different outcome- but that is up to me.

[Taleygirl1998]

Why does it seem like everyone is on the same page as me 2017?😍🙌💪
The idea of dating, or even liking someone bothers me. I've been hurt so much and struggling with guys for as long as I can remember. It's really time to focus on myself and let me be in control of my own emotions. Vs. a guy making me give way to tears every other hour. Im so over it

[coachTanthony]

i will bet you a slice of pizza you will have a boyfriend by Valentines Day. :+)-

[godfatherfan]

I did that in 2016 to a point. First off, I feel the same way about women. I think most men want just one woman. But while women refuse to make the first move and ask guys out or pay for dates, they do want to date other men and never want to just be in a relationship. Seems they just figure they will fuck every guy. I have never met a guy (and I am very serious about this) that wanted to "Play the field".
After getting screwed over by yet another woman, I realized that when I started dating WAY too early after the divorce I did not want, I took time to get myself "ready to date". That is, I took 6 months off from dating until my head was ready to date after 3 months of disasters. But what I never did in the 2 years since the divorce is take time for me. I dated someone for 66 days. I was with her 56 of those days. It was very much like how I met my wife. Actually what was funny is both were named Amy and Both were blonde / blue eye's.
Anyway, I took the rest of 2016 off. I got into bowling big time. I just did things to make me happy. The only thing is not having sex really sucks. Women are lucky in that they have toys that completely replace a penis. Your toys look, and feel better then the real thing. but guys have are Fleshlights. They are better then our hand but far from the real thing. And to use them right, you have to heat them up in water (so simulate the body being warm) and that is such a pain in the ass, it is easier to just get it over with.
Anyway, a woman I dated for 8 months in 2015 texted me. She offered friends with benefits. So we hook up for just sex when we can. She lives 40 miles away so it is only every couple weeks.
The issue I have had is that this whole last year, I am so torn about dating. I keep unhiding my account on POF, okcupid, tinder etc., then hiding it. It seems I really want to be with someone. I just don't know if I can ever trust a woman again. Seems woman just lie, cheat and only care about themselves. I haven't come accross any yet that have made me think otherwise. WOmen in their 40's are like men in their teens/20's. All they want is sex. And while they won't take that first step in dating, they go after it fast and that is all they seem to want. Me, meh. I don't have a huge sex drive.

[Anonymous]

"The common ideology that I have discovered is that many men do not wish to commit to one woman and would rather go around playing the field."

You women need to open your eyes about why that is happening. Hint: it is because of you.

"Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?"

Why do you think that is happening? See hint above.

"I am tired of wasting my time, resources and energy on men that don't take relationships as serious as they should be."

As seriously as we should? Men used to take relationships a lot more seriously, because women used to be worth it. Most women today are simply not worth the time, resources and energy for men.

Dating and gender relations in the west are in a tough spot, and that is only getting worse. Women have essentially removed all their value to men with the exception of sex and childbirth, and the latter has mostly lost it's allure to men as well since we have no parenting rights but are financially responsible nonetheless. That's just yet another losing proposition for us men, so we've had enough of that too.

What does that leave? Do you think men are willing to make a long-term commitment to a single woman just for sex? Do you think they should?

If you women want men to be willing to commit to you again, you need to start offering men reasonable value again, like you used to. Today, you are simply not worth it.

[Mrwoo99]

In other words why dont women invest time impressing men.

[cth96190]

Thank Feminism, which has resulted in divorce law that is so loaded against men that only a delusional lunatic who had a death wish would want to cohabit with, or marry, a woman.
Thank Feminism, for child-support law that makes it too dangerous to touch a woman.
Thank Feminism, for sexual harassment rules and laws that can criminalise just asking a girl on a date. Look up what has been happening in Nottinghamshire, England.
Thank Feminism for the false rape allegations, which make it too dangerous to be alone with a woman.
Western women had better get used to being alone, because a lot more of them are going to spend their lives alone. . . aside from their cats.
Thank Feminism.

[AviationMonk]

Spot on!

[eyesofdesire]

@AviationMonk I guess that ends up with everybody being lonely then!

[Jager66]

@eyesofdesire It sure does, but it's still true, sometimes the truth just plain sucks.

[Mrwoo99]

Im going to start business selling cat toys and profit off these lonley bitches. This will be the market in next decade, can't wait for all those lonly female customers cueing up to buy another toy for her 5th cat.

[PlacentaSalad]

Well, it's true. Many men aren't willing to commit. But this is because many women around your age are not done partying and drinking every weekend and will give themselves away easily. You quoted it yourself.

It's either that they're promiscuous or they're too focused on school or a career. Personally, the career woman isn't for me. The sad part is that these are the only two types of girls that seem to exist and neither make for particularly good wives or mothers.

I've had enough with modern dating as well. What I've mentioned previously is exactly my experiences in meeting with women.

[Anonymous]

"The common ideology that I have discovered is that many men do not wish to commit to one woman and would rather go around playing the field"

Translation. I keep picking Chad and guys who have tons of options in women and who other women want and wonder why those guys end up cheating on me behind my back or dumping me for other women. I keep acting like I pick men for their great personality when i often pick them to make other women jealous and for superficial reasons like look, money, and status.

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[eyesofdesire]

Found the "Nice Guy"

[Opinion Owner]

@eyesofdesire Oh I'm not nice honey but i'm also not a mangina who will tell you that men are all bad and women are victims.

[Mrwoo99]

Women are full of crap. They get heart broken and cheated on because theyre always either fucking tall jacked douchbags, violent bad boys/thugs, rich Playboy's/high flyers and pretty boy players. Nice guys get fobbed off, called a creep and used. These little whores all deserve to be alone.

[AviationMonk]

@Mrwoo99
Hahaha true!

[Mrwoo99]

@AviationMonk women in their 20s just want to party and whore with those men then when their looks fade in their 30s when no man wants leftovers or scraps she begins crying to her family.

[Anonymous]

What about the women who like to play the field and don't take dating seriously? There's two sides to every coin. Feminism is destroying dating. I've had women who I've dated who I've gotten into a relationship with and then a month in , they wanna be single again. Reason why... being in a relationship with a guy was taking away their "freedom". Well aren't I... the guy in the relationship, doing the exact same thing? Giving up my "freedom" as well to have a nice romantic relationship. Then they go back to what they know... "playing the field" and string people along either cause they don't know what they want or they do and are just playing a giant game with the men they come across, which is messed up. We re all human beings and should respect each other and our feeling and take relationships seriously.

[GraveTruth]

1. If you'd pick guys to date for reasons that are not stupid such as "he's tall" then maybe you can find a meaningful relationship.
2. Being a woman, yes. You don't have to do anything to find a boyfriend. They will come to you. So therefore it's easy to say "I'm gonna stop trying" when it'll just work out for you anyway.
3. Yes, that's fine as long as you don't self destroy yourself with loneliness as I have and millions of other guys and woman have done.

[Teenagekid16]

Lol when she gets to your age then she will have to start trying by then

[Anonymous]

It's not that I won't date, but just put myself out there and not make it a priority.

Last year was a weird year. I got a lot of dates and some flings with the most attractive women I've ever dated in my life yet got screwed over the most. I got sick of being able to attract a lot of women only for it to fall through. I think online dating is kind of a joke especially with all the options people have and it affects both genders.

But I'd be able to get a lot of dates and women tell me I'm cute, funny, etc and how they wanna see me again only for them to disappear.

[Mrwoo99]

"I am tired of wasting my time, resources and energy on men"

You don't waste anything! Us men have to do the approaching, go through numerous hostile rejections, pay for your dates, lead the interaction, spend time chasing and messaging women and work our asses off mind gaming so you can feel attracted to us because female sexuality is so dam complicated and retarded.

What do you do; sit there and open a tinder account or just wait somewhere in a bar.

[spoonman2014]

Meh, you ain't lying. I usually notice a good chunk of the chronically single girls I know is because of something really fucking stupid. Like their ideal man is 6'6, a lawyer who models and plays the french horn. Guys on the other hand, it is a project in itself, like you gotta take him clothes shopping and teach him how to shower.

[Mrwoo99]

@spoonman2014 it would be cheaper and hassle free to pay for model escort. At least they're guaranteed sex and to be smoking hot.

[Teenagekid16]

I don't think it's that easy for women but yeah I get it.

[Mrwoo99]

@Teenagekid16 Its too easy for them because they're self entitled and think that men should be the ones investing, paying, proving themselves, approaching and leading the interaction. Its unequal and this is why mgtow exists. If women are going to make men pay using our money, time, energy, work and mind gaming then its no different to prostitution. If sex is mutual between a man and a women then I shouldn't have to invest anything with a women except being a good person. Women should give sex to the people who are good, nice caring and loyal, its rational logic.

[Teenagekid16]

Yeah I get it but it's not as easy. It's easy but not too easy. Some women actually reject men because they have stuck up attitudes. Then the men get to move on to good girls.

[spoonman2014]

I remember when I went to Europe when I was in the air force I learned in countries were prostitution was legal the girls put out more because in those countries if the girl doesn't give it up to the guy she likes he will just get a hooker so it is more competitive in those countries

[Teenagekid16]

@spoonman2014 that's cool

[Mrwoo99]

@spoonman2014 exactly! Women hate prostitution because it puts them out of business. The problem is society and feminism has brainwashed men in to shaming men for seeing escorts because women know when they see competition.

[Mrwoo99]

@spoonman2014 men need to wake up and see that women are manipulating men by taking there freedom to pay for it or have a sexual outlet. Lucky for me its legal in my country. It means i dont have to put with women's bitchyness, bad behaviour or bs.

[Teenagekid16]

You are very lucky then. In America all the pussy whipped men and the white knights give too much attention to women and they think they're hot shit even the fat girls.

[Mrwoo99]

@Teenagekid16 American women do their best to keep it illegal. Feminism use it as a sexual strategy so that unattractive, middle aged or fat women can get attention and access to attractive males. Beautiful women will always be in demand whether prostitution is legal or not but it makes average and ugly women obsolete, even okay looking women would have to start working hard to get a boyfriend by having to prove her self to men. Think about it... if you could pay hard cash to have a good time with a escort that looks like a model and fucks like a pornstar, would you bother having to pay for plain Jane on a series of dates and wait patiently like a dog before she opens her legs which is not guaranteed and she could use you? Men need to wake up to this bs.

[Teenagekid16]

@Mrwoo99 I know men need to wake up but the problem is social media also gives women attention. Random women with selfies and booty pics on their Instagram with 10k followers. I wish I lived in your country, the men here will do anything to please a woman.

[Mrwoo99]

@Teenagekid16 Go mgtow and spread the love everywhere you go lol. Do a bit of research online about mgtow and you will learn the harsh TRUTH about female nature that you know nothing about...

[Teenagekid16]

Yeah but I won't make a difference. You're right men do need to wake up because then women wouldn't be the way they are now.

[spoonman2014]

I admit, some of your views are a bit extreme but I see where you are coming from. I remember when I went to Spain everyone took care of themselves. Even the elderly and not so good looking. I think the issue in America is that girls want men to love them for who they are. Which I can understand, it is not uncommon for a woman to stop caring about her looks, stop having sex once she feels she has the man forever and when a baby comes into the mix they go super crazy. I can understand loving someone for who they are and not making them into your slave. But to not make yourself a person of worth and let the things you had going for you go right down the drain is a terrible idea and it is frowned upon in other aspects of life.

[Mrwoo99]

@spoonman2014 whats extreme about my views?

[spoonman2014]

You said you are from a different country than the United States and that it is probably more okay in your country than mine. Trust me i'm not offended at all and I think the United States could learn a thing or two from your country. The only reason prostitution became illegal is because the Irish and Italian immigrants were raking in tons of money doing it when they first came to america.

[spoonman2014]

I want to take the middle approach here and say this. We as a gender need to accept our own faults. Like how dumb is it that men will cheat on their girlfriends but her boss gives her a promotion and he is ready to blast the guys brains out? Or how dumb is it that a girl will say she wants a guy who will treat her right but because he didn't get you a dime bag and a 40oz it is took much for you?

[Unit1]

That's totally fine! We are not to judge.
Some of us guys also have the exact same reasons, why we don't date women.
In particular for me it's the entitlements, that turn me away from dating.

If it's not worth it, it just isn't.

Enjoy your 2017! Good luck!

[dolemite68]

I think you're expectations in number 1 are a bit delusional. How does monogamy really benefit anybody but women? number 2 is sooo true. It's never the nights you specifically go out to meet people that turn out great its always random nights. That's why I think its lame when guys go out to bars and clubs specifically to get laid. I've always had much more success with girls when my goal for the night is i'm just going to go out to have fun.

[Anonymous]

"many men do not wish to commit to one woman and would rather go around playing the field"

This is a result of womens standards going through the roof. A guys odds of getting with a girl even with him dedicating a lot of time solely to her are still low. His odds of a girl showing any interest at all are higher if he casts a wide net.

You can blame men all you want but it's women who did something that caused this reaction. If you want men to change women are going to have to change.

[Other_Tommy_Wiseau]

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[NyomiMcClinton]

This was a nice read, I feel the same way. I am focusing on myself and my goals. I dont want to go out in search for someone. I believe the dating scene has changed a lot.

[Anonymous]

Let me guess your pick of men, he has to be 6ft, has to be this or that has to always make me laugh has to be confident and if he complains about something he's a whiny B, and then you get comments from women saying you go girl, lmao, am i surprised no, why because you keep going out with chad thundercocks.

[Loadedgamer]

All you have to say was "I am a single women whose broke, so I need to focus on getting my financial stuff rather than cock."

[Love_Is_Eternal]

Who cares? A lot of men feel the same about women and arestaying single. I am a MGTOW and I have saved thousands of pounds as a result of staying single and the best is yet to come. Stay single, I doubt men will care if you do :)

[Atlas67890-]

"focusing on me this year!' Ahhh the ramblings of a woman approaching the wall at breakneck speed. Shit that women with full inboxes never say.

[Anonymous]

this is kind of like that woman who told ellen d. "i dont hate you, god just hates your sin". it's a common religious homophobe slur, to make it look like she's not homophobic.

You obviously, just don't want to risk getting hurt. otherwise, you'd date

[LittleSally]

That's the best way to be overall in my mind.
It's the healthiest. Why would you waste your time with 'dating' when you have better things to do...