In light of the approaching Valentine's day I wanted to get something off my chest: I'm twenty years old and I've never dated. I'm the boring, unkissed virgin other girls sometimes make fun of because she just doesn't seem to be able to get a man.
To clear up with this stereotype a little, I want to give my five reasons for just not having dated up to this point in my life.
1. I have only met very few people I thought of dating
This doesn't mean I'm super picky, my standards are pretty much that I want someone who treats me decently, loves me for who I am and is an overall nice person but I do want to get to know a person a little better before I even start thinking about dating them and that just doesn't happen that much. I tend to befriend them instead of dating them.
2. It just didn't work out
With the few guys I did actually try to date, things didn't really go well. One rejected me, the other turned out to not be my type after the "getting to know you" phase and the last one was so complicated and sending so many mixed signals, I completely lost my interest.
3. I don't have the time and energy to go out and meet new people at the moment
While I'm not at all opposed to dating at this stage, meeting a potential partner is impossible for me to manage at this moment in my life. Between my bachelor's degree, dance training and a job, I can't really make time for anything bigger than a few squeezed in hours of lounging on the couch in sweatpants and watching Netflix together. Which is great with friends but you don't meet new people like that.
4. The curse of the late bloomer, a.k.a. everyone is taken
So I definitely was an ugly duckling in the teen phase, which lead to me being completely ignored. Nowadays, when I flaunt my assets as a beautiful young woman, there's nobody to do that for. Why? Because as someone who doesn't have the time to go out, I'm reduced to guys at my university or existing social circle which happen to usually be taken.
5. The type I am isn't hugely in demand at my age group
Personally, I would refer to myself as the more serious type, I'm working for my future, try to be responsible. I take interest in a variety of things, I'm willing to stick up for the things I believe in and I have defined plan for what I want and don't want in life. These traits don't make me unpopular with men, they just make me usually more popular with a more settled age group but since I would feel uncomfortable with dating someone who's a lot older than me, I don't date at all.
I hope you enjoyed and if you're in a similar situation, I hope you can relate at least to some parts and it helps you carry some warm thoughts with you over Valentine's Day!
Thanks for reading!