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Some of those things aren't issues and/or normal (especially for women). There are a couple "issues" there though (like being touched) you might have to seek some counselling for to work though.
whats normal about any of that
I can be touched I'll give someone a hug or something but I'm not found of people touching me I avoid it if possible
1 & 2 are pretty normal for most women. 8 even.
I mean I talk more than most
Somethings just take time.
I'm twenty eight and still single , sure it would be nice to have female companionship but I'm in no hurry , I'll let nature take its course with love.
Not likely to happen but you will get a girl
Number 8 is just like every woman isn't it? Love a woman for her personality - she has like 10 so you can choose.
Um no your thinking of mood swings
Same thing.
Um no no thare not a mood is things like angry Happy sad I mean personality
no need to worry u are only 16 yet and as long as you have decent looks it's fine. do u have that?
Nope and I don't care. And I'm 17 on Friday
lol u are grumpy now
You sound like a teenage girl with a very unique look at life.
Not really
Based on your description, I will not disagree with your conclusion.
Thank you.
You sound pretty awesome. Don't ever change for anyone.
I don't see how any of that is awesome
The lifestyle you want is pretty interesting, you seem smart, emotionally independent, self sufficient, and not afraid to be yourself ☺
Yeah but most people don't want that life
Deep down, you know that you are wrong. Or maybe you just want someone to tell you that you're wrong.
Um nope
Well you're wrong. Because I might date you.
No you wouldn't your a lot older than me
18y 1m
Wait your 18 ? Normally blue Anon are in thare 20 something up
No more anon.
I think you put you age wrong thing says your 19
1999.
Um ok
I think 3&4 are the issues.
I don't see your point
Shyness is a barrier to meeting people but not an issue once someone knows you.
The rest of your points i don't really see them as being barriers to having a boyfriend.
I completely agree. Your only problems are 3 (not liking to be touched) and 4 (don't wanting to be helped). Everything else can be seen in a rather large part of girls. And those two are the greater barriers between you and a possible boyfriend.
Why? Because not only will you not like being touched, but you'd also not wanting to be helped. And those are the best ways to create a connection between you two. Touch and help, the foundations of a (healthy) relationship.
@Sapioit i dont see how everything is top secret or personality constantly shifting isn't a problem
It just isn't.
How is personality change back and forth not a problem
Because that's not an actual personality change. I know at your age (which I remember in the distant past being myself) your style and interests and music define who you are.
But they aren't really who you are. They're just sort of tribal markers. They aren't actually important. How you treat people, what kind of interaction brings you joy, how affectionate you are, things like that matter.
the way I behave actually changes what I ware and it's not my age it my whole life
You will cross the bridge when your time comes.
Cross what now
You are single. Hope you find a nice boyfriend to mingle.
Wasn't this whole my take on why I wouldn't have one
You used the word "I" and made it sound personal.
I'm confused now
See , the title of your take is , "Why I Doubt I Will Find A Boyfriend?" ----That's why I thought you connected it to your personal problem.-----Any way since you now want to imply that it is a general take and has no personal connection to your private life , let us take it as a general take. Let there be no bad feelings for my understanding it differently from your original thoughts.
It was a personal take its WHY I WOULD NOT HAVE A boyfriend the editors fucked with the title to what they wanted it to be it said before why I wouldn't
Thanks for explaining your point of view.
I'm so confused it's seems like you're pisses off at me
Don't be confused. If you feel confused or if you feel hurt , I am sorry.
Just the way you are saying things is confusing me I'm not sure what you mean
I mean , "I am sorry."
I still want to understand what you were trying to say
So... you're a teenager.
Yeah I'm a teen what's the point here?
Lots of your points are perfectly normal in adolescence. Most of the rest are just a matter of personality, and will be an asset if you find a boy who has the same interests.
The one about not wanting to be touched might be a challenge. Unless the guy feels the same way, or is asexual or something. Maybe you can take it slow or something.
I can touch people just don't like it because people tried to hold on to me my whole life. And that was me my whole life
Fair enough. I don't think all guys are clingy. It varies.
Yeah I know but I don't meet people so it won't happen anyway
You can make it happen. Sign up to coed activities you enjoy. Meet guys that way. Or online. Snapchat. I don't know, I'm too old to know this stuff.
Not likely to happen I don't think to many guys go to the activities I like and PS I don't look like the pretty girl boys go after not going to happen
Lots of guys want to be self-sufficient and pursue that lifestyle. I read about a guy who lived without money for a long time. Anyway, you could join the scouts or whatever. I don't know if that is coed? Just look for guys that enjoy that shit. Lots of guys like fighting and martial arts. Try that. And lots of guys like cartoons and being childish.
I doubt you're that hideous. More like what I'm suggesting sounds like hard work and may involve some rejection?
I didn't like dressing like a giant marshmallow for judo and it was all girls you have to be a boy to be a boy scouts but they don't ware I'm living now it's mostly people in thare 60s and the ones who sent are interested in drugs and alcohol
Hmm... I don't know what to do then. Sorry.
It's why I said fuck it I have a dog who loves me I don't need a boy who's looking for trouble
That's good :) Kinda wish I had a pet if I weren't so lazy.
Why feed water out side not to hard. I sure as hell don't be around when they try driving like that. I'll have my homestead and I'll be alright
True I guess. The most I ever had was a hamster. Live in an urban environment atm, so it's a no-go. It sounds nice. I love nature. I could live out there, only I'd miss other people.
Not like you couldn'tleave for a little while and go back. But I plan to have cows pigs goats and things like that
Great! Goats are so cool. Good that someone cares about the environment.
I like goats thare cute. Im going to have a big garden this year but I use natrul no pestadide here
Awesome :)
I just use lady bugs and praying mantis and grow plants that reple bad bugs like mosquitoes and grass hopers
Cool! And a little creepy :)
Hay I already said I'm crazy what you want. I just know stuff I probably shouldn't lol
That is cool. You have a passion. That's attractive. You know stuff. My younger cousin is (or used to be) a biology nerd. Maybe those are the boys you should be checking out?
I like biology I understand it. My mom thinks I'm wird because I know how to make cheese and soap and I do make that so I'm wired and know things like finger is a pain reliefer and passion flower tea is good for ADHD so my mother thinks I'm wired and I have had kids think I'm a witch or something
Haha, awesome! Very cool personality.
Ginger not finger lol. Most people just think I'm wired for it though
Lol. People will often think that if you're different. But almost no matter how different you are, there are people who'll understand you out there.
Well I have yet to meet anyone even remotely into to things I like other than my cousin who is my only friend?
That's why I recommended trying to find activities like that. Maybe there's some kind of biology club or something?
It'll get much better if/when you go to college. If e. g. you were to study biology, EVERY GUY there would be into biology.
I know I'm going to start working when class is out for the summer. Yeah maybe
Cool. What'll you do?
Do you mean the job? I'm going to be working at a green house
Cool! I kinda wanted to try that. I went to China, and we picked the best strawberries I've ever tasted in greenhouses on a farm there.
Cool 😂 I'm either going to be thare or like a shopco or something
What's a shopco?
It's a store
Selling what?
It sells things like electronics makeup food and other stuff
Oh, okay. It's sure to be educational regardless, but from what you've told me, I hope you get the greenhouse job.
I hope so to sound like more fun
Yah :)
I go to online school so I normally have a lot of free time lol. A boy in my online school thought I was flirting with him once
Wow, can't imagine what that must be like?
Were you?
Was I what flirting ? No I wasn't he thought I was trying to give him a cute Nick name because I said what's up buttercup
Hahaha :D
Ha but I do think he's cute
You do? What about him is cute?
Well yeah he's a cutie and sweet heart why?
Just interested.
Um well his taller than me and I'm 5'7 he dark hair
You like that?
Well I like guys with dark brown hair and green eyes it's cute to me
Okay. What about you, what do you look like?
My eyes are blueish green and my hair sun bleachs so I'm blond or brown but right now brown hair
Sounds beautiful :)
Not really. I forget my hair is curly 2
So what? That can be beautiful too.
I didn't say curly hair was bad
Oh, okay.
I like having curly hair I'm just not a cutegirl is all
What do you mean?
um this is the only pic i have on my cell so this is me laste year on my birthday like i said im not considered a pretty girl lh3.googleusercontent.com/.../..._23_03_10_Pro.jpg
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Lol, you look nice, and shouldn't worry at all. You also have some "assets" that many guys will be very pleased with...
i do not look ok. and what ar you talking about "assets?
You do. You actually have a pretty face. In plain English: your big boobs.
i dont see what my boobs have to do with anything.and me and the boys my age would have to disagree
Srsly? You're very innocent :D
Lots of boys are idiots at that age. No offense. I think they usually mature over the years.
I hope in time you'll gain more confidence in yourself and realise you have been blessed with pretty features and a feminine body.
im not innocent i just don't under stand besids no matter how big my boobs are im going to be ignored
I remember those years were brutal socially. But when people grow up, they become more down to earth, humble, and less judgmental. In general. When you're young, everyone is kinda amplifying each other's insecurities, by pretending they don't exist.
im home schooled so im pretty used to being treated like i dont exist
Aww... that's terrible!
not really when your homeschooled and dont have siblings you get used to being alone all day
Why are you homeschooled?
i moved around a lot and its a better school
I see. I can relate a bit, I think. I'm very shy and judge myself harshly, so I'm not spontaneous or extroverted socially. I'm pretty crippled socially a lot of the time. Spending too much time home alone hasn't helped. So I kinda know what it's like to feel overlooked. I don't know the answer. I suppose it's something to do with accepting yourself and being a bit brave, if there's someone you want to get to know.
Other than thare is not anyone I want to know and even if I did my mother would just rip my life apart again
Oh, how do you mean?
My mother is a control freak and will piss thare parents or them off
Oh. That sucks.
Yeah she's why I don't have friends plus she's an alcoholic
I'm sorry. That has to be tough.
It's not so bad
Well you're 16 you still young
im actually 17
And I am 19 and I am still fucking young , you start to chabge your mentality when you grow
I didn't say I wasn't young
You're 16. You really don't know yet.
Know what
How you will always be, how love will happen, how you will change between now and 19, now and 25, now and 35.
I know what I am I'm the kid of 2 alcoholics. I'm bat shit crazy. Nothing is going to happen. Other than getting older and getting more tired more stressed and more working
I am alcoholic child of an alcoholic and a psychotic person. I can't even begin to tell you the adventures I have had in love and life since I was a teenager. Life is just never what I could have imagined at your age.
And now I understand a little more about your attitude. ;)
Have you contacted a group called Al-Anon Family Groups to possibly attend Alateen? It's for people just like you.
I don't need help I'm just fine. besides my dad quite and I live with my mother. I don't. Need. People to tell me how I should and shouldn't be it's not a problem I'm 17 in 6 days I only have to wait a year then I go to collage I don't need help I don't need love and. I don't need someone's pitty
Who said anything about pity?
I did just now
Yes. exactly. I don't think anyone is pitying you in this discussion. And if you got involved in a self-help group to help you cope with the life of a kid with alky parents, the goal wouldn't be pity, just help.
You are clearly ruled by a great deal of anger and resentment, or, at least the day you posted this and your other question about schoolwork, you showed some signs of that. Everyone deserves a life where these kinds of emotions don't rule them.
You will learn a lot and change a lot in the next ten years. You can try to be intentional about the changes, or you can let outside forces change you in ways you may not be entirely happy about.
My life is fine it just hit a rough patch I don't need help I don't resent anything and the my take I'd true and this I'd the first time I complained about my home work.
I'm not convinced.
Like it or not it's the truth my life is not the best for the past few years my grandmother died my dad had a small stroke my grandpa had a stroke my uncle had a major stroke and my dog died so get off my back
I'm not on your back. I am sure these situations have had an effect on you. My cat is literally dying right now - I'm dealing with a daily decision "is today the day I take her to be put down?" It's horrible. I have had some incredibly painful stuff happen in my life too - you and I actually have some similarities in our backgrounds. But you appear to be exhibiting an oppositional behavior pattern which is a way people often deal with emotional pain, but becomes a problem later in life.
Live your life as you wish. In fact, live it to the fullest. That's what I hope for you. And if you feel like getting some things off your chest, or maybe just helping other people who have gone through some of the same stuff, there are resources out there for you.
Like I said I do not need help I don't want help I want to do what planed my whole life to live in the middle of no ware with live stock and growing my own food and the animals food going to get water from a well and of solar panels for power I wanted it my whole life its not going to change I litterly have a book with animal breeds and equipment. And what they will cost that if anyone trays to touch will die. I do not need help
Isn't single life so cool?
Um no not really
What do you mean "not really"
1. You won't be worry about him talking to other girls.
2. You can have all the bed.
3. you can spend time on the things you like.
4. you can wear anything you want without your boyfriend bothering you.
*worried
I don't worry about him talking to girls I'd don't bother me I only sleep on part of the bed anyway i would spend time on things I like either way and I'd probably ware whateverI want with or without him
OK...
In other words I just don't give a shit if he wanted to talk to girls why should I make a big deal about it not like he's going to start bitching because I talked to some boy
You know some girls give shit.
I'm not sure if I'm supposed to be insulted by that or not
I read this earlier, this shouldn't prevent that
i dont see why it wouldent
No. 7 isn't a turn-off though.
What's the no?
You might find a guy with the same ambition as you
not very likely epeshily with everything is top secret or the shifting of my personality
you sound good
Am sorry are you talking about me?