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I feel like the real definition of friend zone is:
The place where girls put guys they are not attracted to in, as a subtle way to reject them without really rejecting them, because they don't like conflict or rejecting someone.
It's basically a sneaky way of rejecting someone before they have the chance to ask, so you don't have to deal with the awkwardness.
The problem is that dudes won't take the damn hint!
I've never really proposed to or asked anyone out but if I get rejected, I'll move on and forget them. This friendzone bull is too confusing and I don't get it.
No, not me. I'm out of there.
(I did read your mytake by 50% but all I have to say is exactly this as a response to your mytake title. Good take by the way)
Sure... But girls are simply not honnest about what they want, otherwise you wouldn't think they are interested in you in the first place. They like the. Attention
oh? So you mean when I asked my boyfriend out, I wasn't being honest about what I want?
No I meant girls who want to go out with you and don't explain in what context are clearly sending a weird signal, and it's convenient to pull out the friendzone card... If you weren't interested you wouldn't have to bother... Or at least you would specify you are just a friend BEFORE
true. But the same logic applies to how, if the guy sees the girl as more than a friend, he should specify that BEFORE taking her out and paying for dinner/buying her things. Rather than hoping she'll be able to read his mind then bitching about how she's a golddigger/user who friendzoned him after the fact, when he didn't even have the courage to so much as TELL HER how he felt beforehand.
I have lived in the friend zone all of my life and although I have hated it I am now content because I came to realise I have nothing to offer a women anything but friendship.
Great take. Even if the friend zone was real, why would it be a problem? It's better to be someone's friend than enemy. I've had times where I'd casually asks friend if she wanted to go out and after that she'd act all dramatic and avoid me. It's like she'd make a bigger deal out of it then I was.
Interesting point on taking the girl's reaction into consideration as well. It's refreshing to hear a guy talking about an incident with a woman without any implication that she was gloating or power-tripping over simply having not returned his romantic/sexual interest. :P
I mean sure rejection sucks, but it's like oh well move onto the next one. Being led on and strung along is way worse only because they're giving you false hope. Like I said it's only bad when you're rejected if they make you feel bad about it for asking them out or insult you. Otherwise it's a numbers game. Just gotta keep trying.
I have to agree with this and I like how you pointed out why guys like to use it as an excuse. The friendzone is why everyone needs to make their intentions clear from the start. You will lose out if someone doesn't know you're interested
This is why i dont bother to show interest in girls i like. Whats the point if they are going to get uncomfortable about it.
uncomfortable about what? &in what way?
Well my current problem is a female coworker around the same age im trying to be friends with as i try to be friends with all my co workers. She gets awkward and uncomfortable for no reason and i think its because she thinks im interested in her. Her typical behavior around me is that we talk for a few minutes, she gets quiet and takes glances at me while we work. Im thinking of just asking her why she's so awkward around me. To be honest, she's pretty cute but i dont let my physical attraction to her effect the way i interact with her.
Maybe it's just you who thinks its awkward? Or maybe the way you interact is actually affected in a subtle way (that seems out of your control if so) and she notices? I don't know
@frozenhorizon its out of my control. Best to let it be until she finds a way to chill out
Another woman denying the friendzone exists but I bet you anything she thinks the patriarchy is real.
next time, save yourself the little bit of dignity you've got left and consider actually reading what's written, eh?
'Is the mythical ‘friend zone’ real? No. At least, not in the way that many seem to portray it as being; not all that different from hell. In (universal) reality, the friend-zone is simply what happens when your emotions are not reciprocated.'
:)
Whatever. You are just trying to devalue the term by redefining it. Here's the thing though, just because you don't believe in it doesn't make it any less real.
how in fuck's sake could I devalue a term whose existence I've acknowledged, yet simply clarified how little sense it makes? &in the end, accomplishes nothing but making the individual who uses it (primarily males) look like an even bigger bitch?
"Make your intentions clear from the start" is the golden rule for me.
Its a pity though that some girls take advantage of those "kindness coins".
"You are sweet"-----On internet , I read somewhere that this means that you are friend zoned. I don't believe it.
I've always thought the friendzone was when someone is only seen as a friend
It's something to joke about. You see teenagers say this shit seriously. .. Meh w/e
hah yeah, pretty much. I mean the whole idea is comical. The fact that there are plenty of people who are in their mid to late 30's and give stories about how them being 'friendzoned' so dramatically you'd think they were involved in a workplace shooting or something.. it gets a bit more concerning. You can even scroll down and see a gentleman who is supposedly 58 and posted this:
'Be forewarned. Men are waking up. Men are incredibly pissed with women. A war is on the horizon, and it will break VERY soon.'
😞
I hear senility comes with old age :(
As expected, shitstorm from gag guys
i wonder if girls ever end up in the friend zone too
well do girls ever get their advances rejected by men?
@kaylaS91
Women are rejected, but usually after about age 35, which is the age after which women begin to approach men commonly.
I do not reject women outright, usually.
Instead, I pretend to be naively unaware of their displays of interest, or of their date invitations, etc.
When an occasional woman makes a straight out sexual proposition, that is when I have to say no, but thank her for the interest and invitation.
Female reactions to sexual rejection have ranged from bewilderment, to rage (with screaming), to tears.
Women are not used to a male saying no, when access is offered to the golden vagina.
This merges with a sense of entitlement, which is left over from their younger years, and a growing sense of desperation as they become older and are still single.
Truth is, I am too broken inside to deal with a relationship, or sex. Nor can I risk a false rape allegation, child-support payments (some of the women are that young), or the Family Court taking everything from me.
@cth96190
Interesting theory. I guess you'll choose to just look past the fact that I asked out two guys before the age of 25, and got rejected once (aside from times when the 'approaches' were not all that serious, and also got rejected) because it doesn't sit well with the generalization you pulled out of your ass. -_-
@kaylaS91
I have not had you under surveillance for the past 10 years, so I do not know every detail of your interactions with males. :-)
I commend you for taking the initiative with males whom you fancied. If more women went after what/who they wanted the world might be a happier place.
Expecting males to make the first move every time builds in a lot of missed opportunities for mutual happiness.
Before I was 30 that happened to me once. . . but she was insane. Feel free to suggest that any woman who was interested in me would have to be insane, which is the normal female response.
Re generalisations: when talking about a group of people, that is the only way that it can be done. I did not pull those generalisations out of my arse. That is what I have experienced, observed and read about the experience of others.
it takes a lot of life and sexual experience to find out that actual friendzone does not really exist
kinda? but not really.
I mean, I'd like to think that by the time they hit the age of 10, most kids should be past believing that there exists this mythical place where (primarily male) individuals who misbehaved or didn't tickle the fancy of (mostly females) will be outlawed too. I don't see how the fact that these children lack any dating experience would stop them from whether they believe in this fairy-tale like material or not.
i prefer ones who are straight and tell me the real reason
What Kind of bullshit fuckery is this?
read above for clarification.
i never got friend zoned <3
lol glad to hear, I guess.:P I speak from experience that sure, it's not a pleasant experience but.. I'm not really sure which is worse. Being 'friend-zoned' or rejected then straight out blocked out of the life of someone who you mustered up the courage to ask out; not even given the option of keeping things platonic. 😫
i agree, it's pathetic.