"When is he going to ask me out?"
Ah, the dating world. So cute, so romantic, so annoyingly traditional. For the longest time, it has been the idea that men are always the pursuers, and women are always the pursued, but there's an issue here. What if the girl liked the guy first and wanted him to approach her? What if this happened before the two met, meaning the girl took a notice in the guy? Now she's stuck with having to wait on a guy when he doesn't even know she exists yet. Now there is a benefit to waiting: you don't have to face rejection and instead get to accept or reject the person pursuing you. That's a good reason why you should be the pursued right? Well not exactly.
Now it is nice to feel in control in the acceptance of your new partners, however it's much better to choose from who you want instead. If you haven't already noticed, it sucks having to wait around for the asking of that good ol' first date, and it can leave you quite depressed because he hadn't asked you yet. The chances are, he may be waiting for you too. Who knows? But I know that waiting around will surely cause you to become:
Insecure of their feelings if you happened to catch feelings, whether it be sexual or romantic feelings. You won't care about whether or not he or she likes you if you wait around for them to attempt to asks you out. You will doubt that they like you, even if the really do, just because you waited around.
Anxious or Stressed
Mainly applying to guys, the longer you take to make a move, the more anxious you're going to be right before it happens. You do not want to ever lose control as far as women go in this situation, and waiting will surely give you those chills that you don't need.
Everything he does, including his behavior around other people, matters to an extent.. even if it really doesn't. A result of insecurity, you may be more likely to watch his every move and analyzing what he does to determine whether he still likes you or not, and no one has the time for this.
And finally, because of the fact that not everything will come to you just because you want it.
You will waste much less time by making a move as soon as you realize that you like someone. That way, you may move on with no emotional or sexual attachment, even if they were the most interesting person on the planet.. trust me, there are others very similar. You need not waste countless amounts of time waiting for someone when you could be going after what you want, because I guarantee you, if the person you're waiting on turns out to not share the same feelings as you do, you will feel far worse than the rejection you'd feel if you got rejected by a person you found interesting within a week, and by not waiting, you:
Are less likely to become attached
Especially in vain
Are able to go after what you want at will
You have control over who you want. If they like you, great! If not, move on to the next.
Get to choose which person you find most interesting
If you could choose between your favorite celebrity crush and your crush at school, wouldn't that be more efficient than having to wait for them to ask you out?
Will have less regrets after you've made your decision
Even if it was a bad one. You also get to end it right then in there because once again, you have the power to do so.
I hope this inspires some people that dating is not just a waiting game. It's a moment in life where you genuinely get to have fun and get to know those around you, going after what you really want to be with. All great dates start with a spark of attraction and a pique of interest, and so if you want it, you must go out there and get it. Not everything will come straight over to you, especially the girls, guys.