Ghosting is defined as: "The act of suddenly ceasing all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date."
The hope here is that the ghostee will "get the hint" and understand that this person no longer wants to date them, that they will "leave it alone".
And ghosting is done instead of just simply having a conversation and telling this person that they are no longer interested.
Ghosting is not gender specific. Both men and women are known to ghost on one another.
I believe that ghosting has always been around and that it is more prevalent in today's world due to our ability to be connected to anyone instantly. Gone are the days of waiting for phone calls on a corded phone at home. Gone are the days of snail mail. We are able to connect and communicate anywhere, anyhow.
Urban dictionary (as well as other sources) say: "Many attempt to justify ghosting as a way to cease dating the ghostee without hurting their feelings, but it in fact proves the subject is thinking more of themselves, as ghosting often creates more confusion for the ghostee than if the subject kindly stated how he/she feels."
I think this defines how mature the ghoster is. Ghosting is confusing and hurtful. It leaves a sense of dread with the ghostee. They'll eventually get over it, but it will always be there when they meet someone new and communication goes quiet. Ghosting is the act of people who are scared, immature, or just simply don't know how to state the truth.
I've been ghosted on numerous times, each time leaving me more confused than anything. Each time makes me a little more cautious and nervous when I meet someone new. It makes one wonder where things went wrong, especially when they thought things were going well.
A few have returned a few months later to apologize, saying they were wrong, and that I didn't deserve to be treated in that way. Then why do it? If no one deserves to be treated in this manner, then why do it?
Honesty and truthfulness will you get your further in life than ignoring someone.
No one deserves to be treated like this. Ever.
Keep that in mind the next time you lose interest and start "ghosting" on someone.