Very comprehensive, it's a little bash the single girl/guy, people's personalities differ quite a lot, it is easy to be single, I like it, won't give up my freedom for just any woman, got other responsibilities and interests, dating is not on top of the list.
The only things that are true for me are probably 11 and 10 a very tiny bit mainly as a result of no. 11 since I'm in a small town that's pretty shit. But because of my lack of success 12 applied to me aswell but I'd say I have dealt with that recently.
I think a lot of people fail to have self awareness when dating. I here a lot of people with some of these traits that decide to blame the other sex rather than look at themselves.
A lot of that on GaG... with people assuming that they have no part in the reason at all as to why they are single not by choice, and as the other commenter suggests, that the people you like don't like you... this is life; you can't expect every person to love you because you exist. You eventually pick your ego and your heart back up and keep looking. The world doesn't end with one guy or one girl.
I had 4 in my life to be honest. I was too comfortable and did not want to share my life with someone. Because you know you finally found your inner peace then someone wants to destroy it :) What a dillema!
can totally understand you. when my boyfriend spoke about marriage i was like wtf. after about a year i accepted eventually. but before that i was too yolo to bother with it. i found out that people need to feel special and need some jealousy and interest from you to feel attractive. or else they interpret you as a cold hearted player... .
I have antisocial personality disorder, so I actually enjoy being on my own. I can (very) happily go DAYS without seeing or talking to anyone and frankly, it's a chore!
Proud to say some of these used to be me, but now aren't. Some still are, but that's okay because I'm in no big rush to get married or even date often.
Lol yep. You could also be afraid of relationships. Or really insecure and afraid that any relationships won't last. You think every relationship will end inevitably.
I know people with all of these and still find someone, its all about luck and money nothing more nothing less, dating girls ia bragian, you bragain with her, how much money you have and what you're willing to share with her.
I am sort of proof of that. The truth is though, I don't know how long it will last. Will one of these things end up being a cause of a breakup? My current girlfriend is a social butterfly and she says she appreciates my introverted and somewhat calm anti-social demeanor, but honestly, I feel anxious and that something is off when I want to be more social but feel kind of lost, especially among strong personalities.
My girlfriend actually makes more money than me, so I don't think it has anything to do with money, unless you are dating a woman who is young and unestablished.
@freakyzeaky you're 34 i assume your girlfriend is around your age, girls after 27-28 know they have far limited options and have to ignore some things such as a hot or rich husband, they will get one if they can but if the guy lacks one its cool they are still okay with it.
take me for example a 23 years old guy to 99% of girls iam fairly good looking and it shows, but i lack status, power and money, all i have is my looks and personality and that has affected my dating life a lot, i do far worse than an average looking guy with money and i see examples everyday.
these traits on the other hand seem to not make much sense to me since guys with all that still manage to get a girlfriend, its all about status, money and if its a good deal for her, apparently iam not a good enough deal for most girls, sure iam hot to them but i lack the providing part if i had money and have all the traits listed above i would still find a girlfriend with ease , its just how the world works, sad but true.
Well, she is actually older than me. I mean you could say she is settling for me, but then again, I am also settling for her. I think at some level, we all settle, even with a partner who ticks lots of boxes. There are always flaws, always dimensions to people that we have to surrender to and compromise around. Relationships take work. They aren't all fun and games, and sometimes it reveals things about us that we never even thought about, even after being in many relationships beforehand. Sometimes the revealing is what has us face our inner demons, but hopefully, we all come out the stronger for it.
I think for you, you might have to lower your standards. There are certainly women out there that don't care about status or money, but they tend to be average in the looks department.
@freakyzeaky I have standards for a reason, i can't lower them, i may ignore some smaller flaws but if i lower them enough to date a girl i never wanted that can't happen, iam a one woman man, i am quite loyal and very family orienated thats why when i date i attempt to find the best match for me, cause iam not planning to upgrade every few years, iam curently studying for a degree and hopefully will get a good job in the future, but til them i guess i will have to face manipulation adn games from women.
Oh I hear yah, but I think the best people to actually build a life with, one that will last a lifetime, is going to be one that gets you and vice versa, who compliments you, who you have amazing chemistry with. If you only focus on those women who are knock-outs, then you could be missing out on a woman who is truly right for you. Many guys who get with drop dead gorgeous women claim that while they are beautiful, they are lacking in other areas that make it difficult to keep around for a long-term relationship, and yes, beautiful people sometimes feel entitled to a man's status, money, resources, etc. just because she has been put on a pedestal for so long. Even some women who are merely above average in looks think they deserve a man who can provide them with a better life merely by being in a relationship with them.
@freakyzeaky I got attention from stunning girls andi still do but i never thought much about pursuing them, or lost interest half way, they are entitled and not someone you can trust i see them talking to me then switching to the next guy, and i can't accept that... what i like are cute girls, cute and feminine but not stunning or gorgeous, pretty and physically attractive but not drop dead grogeous, those are the girls i go for usually but even they are kinda entiteld lol
i can't date a girl i find unattractive, physicaly attraction is a big part for me, if she's not attractive enough seh can have a great personality and i won't really be interest and i have turned girls down before it is what it is, i won't sacrfice looks for personality, sometimes i stop conacting hot girls who play games or seem entitled, and when they see me they keep staring at me and eyeing me , wondering why i stopped talkin to them... oh well i may not be rich but i still have my dignity.
Not everyone is meant or wants to be in a relationship. Some people are happy being single and want to be left alone. People place too much value on superficial things.
This whole list seems to be a bashing brigade of single people.
If you're one who is reading this and racking your brain as to why you're forever alone, you might find a clue or a suggestion from this list as some have. One is more than welcome to live in denial or just blame the world for all their dating problems, but what shall that solve exactly? What will not loving yourself or giving yourself credit that you aren't some nobody loser, solve?
I know you would love for me to believe that you've never thought of anyone ever in life as an a-hole or lame, but whether you admit it or not, you've come across those men and women in your life. A-holes exist. Lame people exist. If you think I'm calling you that... it's usually the people who are those things that take the most offense, because otherwise why would those two points even apply to you or make you think about them or feel some kind of way? There are 12 reasons you could possibly be forever alone, and not all apply to every single person or none may apply. This is my opinion based on observations. You are welcome to believe none of it, ascribe to none of it, refuse to believe these are the reasons, know that these aren't your reasons, it's all good. Not every bit of advice or opinion is for you.
All this is well intended but you know it;s all BS at the end of the day. Your looks, and Social Status (in reguards to everyones specific situation), all play a part on what Women you'll attract. Lets be real, all that vague "get yourself out there more" and "love yourself" is BS. I don't understand why some woman can't admit they simply have it easier. Women dictate the man they want to be with it's as simply as that. Men can't, unless your super attractive male. a lot of men will simply never know whats it like to live that kind of life. It's really that simple. It's a very sad truth, but it's Reality no amount of dating advice is going to change that.
i've heard that again. also lets not forget the other sign of the coin. there is another bitterness coming from parents and friends who are couples, to the single people. some are jealous of their freedom and not give an f attitude.
But that simply puts you in the single by choice category. If you've decided you don't want to date and aren't actively trying to date for whatever reason, that's by your own design rather than any other circumstance or something you are or aren't doing.
I don't care what other people think or feel, I'm going to say and do whatever, I'm just going to do me no matter what, I don't owe the world anything, and everyone else sucks.
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7,8, 10 only apply to men. Women can be shy and socially awkward and still successfully date they can be broke as hell too and still successfully date , women can also be a bump on a log lame and still successfully date.
That's not true, social awkwardness, anxiety, shyness, financial problems etc and all of the insecurities that come with it take a toll on our self-esteem as well, and we beat ourselves down about any chance of love.
@Lynzerilee Its true, women can be broke and socially awkward and still date. Men can't since its the societal expectation that he should know and be able to approach a woman and risk rejection . Women can also choose to work or have their life financed by a guy, men don't have that option
You're speaking about a minority of women. The world is a harsh place, Life isn't more fair or unfair on neither gender. We all need in the present day to work our asses off. You can't tell us, girls, who are experiencing shit in our lives that we are not. I have always been rejected, I have never been given a chance to get to be known, to begin with. I've approached and been approached. Whenever I love a guy, I beat myself down over it and my mind keeps telling me that i'm never gonna be good enough for them and should just give up on the idea that I can be loved. Please, don't stigmatize, we both know how bad it is to fall into a stereotype and be restricted to it by everyone. People are different, we have different lives and go through different things.
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Very comprehensive, it's a little bash the single girl/guy, people's personalities differ quite a lot, it is easy to be single, I like it, won't give up my freedom for just any woman, got other responsibilities and interests, dating is not on top of the list.
The only things that are true for me are probably 11 and 10 a very tiny bit mainly as a result of no. 11 since I'm in a small town that's pretty shit. But because of my lack of success 12 applied to me aswell but I'd say I have dealt with that recently.
I think a lot of people fail to have self awareness when dating. I here a lot of people with some of these traits that decide to blame the other sex rather than look at themselves.
Yeah, and also sometimes it's just that the people you look for aren't interested in you that way and there will be nothing you can do
A lot of that on GaG... with people assuming that they have no part in the reason at all as to why they are single not by choice, and as the other commenter suggests, that the people you like don't like you... this is life; you can't expect every person to love you because you exist. You eventually pick your ego and your heart back up and keep looking. The world doesn't end with one guy or one girl.
I had 4 in my life to be honest. I was too comfortable and did not want to share my life with someone. Because you know you finally found your inner peace then someone wants to destroy it :) What a dillema!
can totally understand you. when my boyfriend spoke about marriage i was like wtf. after about a year i accepted eventually. but before that i was too yolo to bother with it. i found out that people need to feel special and need some jealousy and interest from you to feel attractive. or else they interpret you as a cold hearted player... .
@levantine99 you are so damn right:)
I have antisocial personality disorder, so I actually enjoy being on my own. I can (very) happily go DAYS without seeing or talking to anyone and frankly, it's a chore!
But I'm not forever alone. I have the best husband in the world!
Proud to say some of these used to be me, but now aren't. Some still are, but that's okay because I'm in no big rush to get married or even date often.
Lol yep. You could also be afraid of relationships. Or really insecure and afraid that any relationships won't last. You think every relationship will end inevitably.
I was going to add a 13th one but decided it was too depressing. Instead...
I know people with all of these and still find someone, its all about luck and money nothing more nothing less, dating girls ia bragian, you bragain with her, how much money you have and what you're willing to share with her.
I am sort of proof of that. The truth is though, I don't know how long it will last. Will one of these things end up being a cause of a breakup? My current girlfriend is a social butterfly and she says she appreciates my introverted and somewhat calm anti-social demeanor, but honestly, I feel anxious and that something is off when I want to be more social but feel kind of lost, especially among strong personalities.
My girlfriend actually makes more money than me, so I don't think it has anything to do with money, unless you are dating a woman who is young and unestablished.
@freakyzeaky you're 34 i assume your girlfriend is around your age, girls after 27-28 know they have far limited options and have to ignore some things such as a hot or rich husband, they will get one if they can but if the guy lacks one its cool they are still okay with it.
take me for example a 23 years old guy to 99% of girls iam fairly good looking and it shows, but i lack status, power and money, all i have is my looks and personality and that has affected my dating life a lot, i do far worse than an average looking guy with money and i see examples everyday.
these traits on the other hand seem to not make much sense to me since guys with all that still manage to get a girlfriend, its all about status, money and if its a good deal for her, apparently iam not a good enough deal for most girls, sure iam hot to them but i lack the providing part if i had money and have all the traits listed above i would still find a girlfriend with ease , its just how the world works, sad but true.
i ignored the truth for too long but i can't anymore, not after my last few interactions with women
Well, she is actually older than me. I mean you could say she is settling for me, but then again, I am also settling for her. I think at some level, we all settle, even with a partner who ticks lots of boxes. There are always flaws, always dimensions to people that we have to surrender to and compromise around. Relationships take work. They aren't all fun and games, and sometimes it reveals things about us that we never even thought about, even after being in many relationships beforehand. Sometimes the revealing is what has us face our inner demons, but hopefully, we all come out the stronger for it.
I think for you, you might have to lower your standards. There are certainly women out there that don't care about status or money, but they tend to be average in the looks department.
@freakyzeaky I have standards for a reason, i can't lower them, i may ignore some smaller flaws but if i lower them enough to date a girl i never wanted that can't happen, iam a one woman man, i am quite loyal and very family orienated thats why when i date i attempt to find the best match for me, cause iam not planning to upgrade every few years, iam curently studying for a degree and hopefully will get a good job in the future, but til them i guess i will have to face manipulation adn games from women.
Oh I hear yah, but I think the best people to actually build a life with, one that will last a lifetime, is going to be one that gets you and vice versa, who compliments you, who you have amazing chemistry with. If you only focus on those women who are knock-outs, then you could be missing out on a woman who is truly right for you. Many guys who get with drop dead gorgeous women claim that while they are beautiful, they are lacking in other areas that make it difficult to keep around for a long-term relationship, and yes, beautiful people sometimes feel entitled to a man's status, money, resources, etc. just because she has been put on a pedestal for so long. Even some women who are merely above average in looks think they deserve a man who can provide them with a better life merely by being in a relationship with them.
@freakyzeaky I got attention from stunning girls andi still do but i never thought much about pursuing them, or lost interest half way, they are entitled and not someone you can trust i see them talking to me then switching to the next guy, and i can't accept that... what i like are cute girls, cute and feminine but not stunning or gorgeous, pretty and physically attractive but not drop dead grogeous, those are the girls i go for usually but even they are kinda entiteld lol
i can't date a girl i find unattractive, physicaly attraction is a big part for me, if she's not attractive enough seh can have a great personality and i won't really be interest and i have turned girls down before it is what it is, i won't sacrfice looks for personality, sometimes i stop conacting hot girls who play games or seem entitled, and when they see me they keep staring at me and eyeing me , wondering why i stopped talkin to them... oh well i may not be rich but i still have my dignity.
I'm a bitch and all the boys want this, I don't know what you're on about.
Not everyone is meant or wants to be in a relationship. Some people are happy being single and want to be left alone. People place too much value on superficial things.
This whole list seems to be a bashing brigade of single people.
i don't think many people are happy to not have sex for years
@Federico84 you'd be surprised how long some people go without sex.
I haven't had sex in 2 years an I"m okay so? 😕
@PetrovaFire92 It tends to be not a problem for a woman anyway , being celibate. I'm glad my libido has faded greatly.
Trust me, I know
@PetrovaFire92 so now wait others 60 years
I just have trouble finding people who I'm not awkward with lol
"You do actually need to believe yourself worthy of love. If you don't believe it, how will they?"
why would anyone believe in themselves after reading a demanding list?
If you're one who is reading this and racking your brain as to why you're forever alone, you might find a clue or a suggestion from this list as some have. One is more than welcome to live in denial or just blame the world for all their dating problems, but what shall that solve exactly? What will not loving yourself or giving yourself credit that you aren't some nobody loser, solve?
1. You're an A--Hole
8. You're lame
Yup, totally feel like I'm worthy of love after hearing a stranger on the internet call me that.
I know you would love for me to believe that you've never thought of anyone ever in life as an a-hole or lame, but whether you admit it or not, you've come across those men and women in your life. A-holes exist. Lame people exist. If you think I'm calling you that... it's usually the people who are those things that take the most offense, because otherwise why would those two points even apply to you or make you think about them or feel some kind of way? There are 12 reasons you could possibly be forever alone, and not all apply to every single person or none may apply. This is my opinion based on observations. You are welcome to believe none of it, ascribe to none of it, refuse to believe these are the reasons, know that these aren't your reasons, it's all good. Not every bit of advice or opinion is for you.
My mistake then, I had assumed all 12 reasons were directed at the reader.
All this is well intended but you know it;s all BS at the end of the day.
Your looks, and Social Status (in reguards to everyones specific situation), all play a part on what Women you'll attract. Lets be real, all that vague "get yourself out there more" and "love yourself" is BS.
I don't understand why some woman can't admit they simply have it easier.
Women dictate the man they want to be with it's as simply as that.
Men can't, unless your super attractive male.
a lot of men will simply never know whats it like to live that kind of life. It's really that simple.
It's a very sad truth, but it's Reality no amount of dating advice is going to change that.
Umm... Would you say that my odd are better or worse no to die alone, if I actually have all 12 ? :-)
Thanks for sharing :-)
Lmaoo none of that is true for me, i actually enjoy being single , guys try 😂😂 but they all get friendzoned.
yeah some people are just not for relationship i have friends like that. but you are to young to say that with certainty.
@levantine99 nope I'm serious , there's so much of nice guys I know and I even like being around one but I still don't want a relationship.
I'm "forever alone" because I don't want all the cons that come with being in a relationship.
i've heard that again. also lets not forget the other sign of the coin. there is another bitterness coming from parents and friends who are couples, to the single people. some are jealous of their freedom and not give an f attitude.
But that simply puts you in the single by choice category. If you've decided you don't want to date and aren't actively trying to date for whatever reason, that's by your own design rather than any other circumstance or something you are or aren't doing.
I don't care what other people think or feel, I'm going to say and do whatever, I'm just going to do me no matter what, I don't owe the world anything, and everyone else sucks.
7,8, 10 only apply to men. Women can be shy and socially awkward and still successfully date they can be broke as hell too and still successfully date , women can also be a bump on a log lame and still successfully date.
The whole list is her basically taking a cheap shot at men.
That's not true, social awkwardness, anxiety, shyness, financial problems etc and all of the insecurities that come with it take a toll on our self-esteem as well, and we beat ourselves down about any chance of love.
@Lynzerilee Its true, women can be broke and socially awkward and still date. Men can't since its the societal expectation that he should know and be able to approach a woman and risk rejection . Women can also choose to work or have their life financed by a guy, men don't have that option
You're speaking about a minority of women. The world is a harsh place, Life isn't more fair or unfair on neither gender. We all need in the present day to work our asses off. You can't tell us, girls, who are experiencing shit in our lives that we are not. I have always been rejected, I have never been given a chance to get to be known, to begin with. I've approached and been approached. Whenever I love a guy, I beat myself down over it and my mind keeps telling me that i'm never gonna be good enough for them and should just give up on the idea that I can be loved. Please, don't stigmatize, we both know how bad it is to fall into a stereotype and be restricted to it by everyone. People are different, we have different lives and go through different things.
I've known people with any or most of these "problems" and they have people. Personally, I don't fit any of those and yet, nada.