The question I hate when people discover I'm single is "why?" I don't see why I need to justify it to anyone, especially people I barely know. I'm not a problem that needs solved.
Like every words and yeah i can say that's me.. love take care of myself ♥ and take my own choices.. no interested cause all guy now is fake ( fake feeling wanna juat sex or taking to u to forget another girl then leave and hurt u ) Bullshit
There u go. Your a lot further than most in life. And you will know when you know. Stay single. If u get needs once in a while. Fill them. We only get one chance. Make them count and be the best at all of them
@solidsoul777 yes we have only one chance so live our life like what we want.. and achieve all what we wanna that's most important.. to me Wanna have my own business, car, house, dog ^_^ and travel around the world that all 💜♥
If i wait a boyfriend or marriage to achieve my dreams i will not do anything.. so what's diff If i do it with myself or partner.. partner make u weak and feel confused most time
Hahaha, maybe that's the problem, but who knows? I'm fine without one for now. In my personal experience, relationships equate to momentary happiness and a large grade of pain. I rather stay on my own than get attached to someone and lose a great deal more.
Men and women who have whored around don't have the ability to properly form bonds with others because they're addicted to the quick fix of one night stands and cutting people off after they do or say the slightest infraction. As a guy i've noticed that women especially love to jump from guy to guy and toy with a million men in their 20s, then when that life gets old, their bodies sag and they're 37 finding out men dont want them anymore - suddenly here comes the victim card.
I agree with ‘players’ inability to form meaningful bonds with others. And let’s not forget that men look bad too when they get old. Most start to lose their hair in their late 30s, balls and ass begin to drag the ground... so sad! Money can only make up for so much... 🤔
@solidsoul777 🤭 sarcasm is so hard to get across in an answer. I think 🤔 the main problem with relationships is that we focus on the wrong qualities in a partner. Looks aren’t lasting! We need to focus on finding a partner that inspires us to be a better person. Challenges, nurtures, loves, shows kindness, displays loyalty, takes responsibility for their actions, has a sense of humour, resilience, etc.
@Poppykate Men can look like shit as we get older but it's more pronounced and brutal in women. I look WAY better at 36 than I did at 26 while girls I had crushes on in my early 20s now look so bad I wouldn't go anywhere near them.
That depends on the person! Again with the gender thing! If one takes GREAT care of themselves, both physically as well as mentally/emotionally, you will find that BOTH genders will age rather well for their age. I'm in my mid 30s yet I get mistaken for someone younger quite a lot! I just make sure to take good care of myself and know my limits. No body is perfect and people make mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes and their consequences last a lifetime, sometimes' not. It just all depends.
that's a bad way to think bro. Trust me on this, if a relationship just 'happens' to you at your age, it's gunna end in fucking disaster. Thank your lucky stars some messed up chick didn't lock her sights on you yet, they will fuck with your head man, take it from a dude who had an absolute batshit crazy girl crushing on him in highschool, it is BAD, REALLY, REALLY BAD NEWS BRO RUN RUN FAR!!! Get smart and stop being so desperate, control that shit, then you can consciously try and find the needle in the haystack
The best thing you can do for yourself is not settling for the first chick that lets you touch her tits, and secondly, finding someone with common interest. If you like similar things you'll have plenty to talk about and bond over. Be with someone who you genuinely want to be with, not just for the sake of having an armpiece. I have another take about relationship advice which I recommend you read.
what you should say is 'hmmm, I'm a kid, these guys are older... they have literally nothing to gain from giving me bad advice... maybe I should take their advice and get a massive head start on my adult life'
simplyarandomgirl's advice is pretty spot on, but what girls rarely tell you ever is that they have a very dark side as well, and that dark side is actually being encouraged and completely let loose by our society in western countries currently, as they are structured. We are very aware of the male demons as a society, but we get clobbered by the female ones. I am actually 25 and it was not so long ago I was in highschool, feeling just like you... making some bad mistakes and nearly making some REALLY bad mistakes.
Keep your wits about you when you feel that 'stupid' feeling come on, usually spurred by a nearby female. Your brain is being bombarded by dumb dumb chemicals and you gotta just try and fight it.
6. Having a relationship doesn't add to your value in the minds of good friends or family😊 You'll still be who we love and want to be around, single or not. Single pringles are in no way inferior (nor superior) to us, we've all been single.
I’ve noticed that too... how people go from one relationship to another. Like anyone is better than being alone. I have to have chemistry so I guess I will keep waiting alone
I had all of these reasons too. Especially, the "working on myself." Until I found that special someone and that turned world upside down and makes u reconsider all of those reasons you just typed up. When ur not expecting it, love will hit you.
I agree with you. Most people are uncomfortable, being single and I’ve never understood why. Also I do agree on the “no drama” part a lot. I also like my life like a straight line, away from those constant ups and downs.
@Dargil If you have something you wanna get off your chest, take it elsewhere. I don't care about the laughable third-wave western feminism, or your worry for evolution.
If you’re not looking for a relationship, it’s because you’ve had bad experiences with guys, and only a close minded attitude will procure the idea that you don’t need a relationship
I'm willing to keep an open mind about it. I don't care for a relationship at the moment, but that doesn't imply that I've crossed it off forever. I agree that eventually I'll want a partner, and that I've had bad experiences. Who hasn't? That however isn't why I crossed it off my priorities for right now. If "Bad Experiences" were the cause, they'd be up there in the take. I'm not obsessed with having a partner because frankly, I've seen through it. It's a never ending cycle of false hope, disillusion and heartbreak, and we buy into it every single time. It's bullshit that leaves us blindsided wondering where we went wrong.
@simplyrandomgirl you’re wrong. I know I’m a lot younger and I have little to no experience, but I know that there are guys and girls out there who are worth it all the way through, you just haven’t met them ye (or you’ve scared them off). I know because I’m one of them, I’d never date a girl I knew I couldn’t be good to, because I’d never date a girl I didn’t like. If you love someone you treat them right, and whatever you may have had in the past may not have been the kind of love I’m talking about. Don’t give up hope please, you just need to look in the right places, but if you must stop looking, it may help to let the right guy come to you
I have experienced what you're talking about. The guy I mentioned in point 3 let me go because he was going through complicated times and didn't want to hurt me. I agree that there are good guys out there, I just guess my bad experiences out-weigh my good ones.
We don't need a bad relationship but it's nice to have a good relationship. It makes all those negative things you mentioned, worth it - worth losing the freedoms.
If you got that take away from the Mytake, then you didn't understand the point of it, to begin with. It's not about being self-centered, it's about knowing yourself before trying to get to know someone else. Also about not letting a relationship suck you whole and remembering that you were an individual before becoming a couple.
You can't learn yourself until you know your boundaries. Boundaries exist in the context of others. Until you have and fail at a few relationships, you'll never know your boundaries. Failure is instructive--if you've the brains to learn.
Relationships are a learning experience, that I can agree with. However, I don't think you need others to define yourself. I've understood myself and what I want on my own, far better then whenever I've dated anyone. I can agree that you do test your limits when confronted with a situation, but you should know what you stand for and who you are before then. If not, what are you to do? You're like a weather vane pushed around in whichever direction the wind says.
Read 'SEX AT DAWN' by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.
During this time you're 'working on yourself' you should work on deprogramming yourself from all the BRAINWASHING you've been under since birth. Monogamy is apart of that brainwashing.
Not all women do, it's about finding the Bonnie to your Clyde. Personally I've never had a casual relationship but, given the right circumstances I might consider it.
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I will sum it up very simply as to why I'm not interested in a relationship... The juice is not worth the squeeze...
Ummm. K
The question I hate when people discover I'm single is "why?" I don't see why I need to justify it to anyone, especially people I barely know. I'm not a problem that needs solved.
Like every words and yeah i can say that's me.. love take care of myself ♥ and take my own choices.. no interested cause all guy now is fake ( fake feeling wanna juat sex or taking to u to forget another girl then leave and hurt u )
Bullshit
There u go. Your a lot further than most in life. And you will know when you know. Stay single. If u get needs once in a while. Fill them. We only get one chance. Make them count and be the best at all of them
@solidsoul777 yes we have only one chance so live our life like what we want.. and achieve all what we wanna that's most important.. to me
Wanna have my own business, car, house, dog ^_^ and travel around the world that all 💜♥
If i wait a boyfriend or marriage to achieve my dreams i will not do anything.. so what's diff
If i do it with myself or partner.. partner make u weak and feel confused most time
Only if you have the wrong partner
@solidsoul777 how make me sure that i'm with ri8 one all relation start with love atrract then nothing
You will know. Your gut never lies dear
I will help you honey
That's because girls are only good for sex, that's not our fault.
All of that sounds like excuses for someone who can't find a stable relationship but don't want to admit it affects them.
It does
Hahaha, maybe that's the problem, but who knows? I'm fine without one for now. In my personal experience, relationships equate to momentary happiness and a large grade of pain. I rather stay on my own than get attached to someone and lose a great deal more.
I thought the exact same thing when reading througj. It sounded like a defense mechanism trying to convince itself it was for the better.
Men and women who have whored around don't have the ability to properly form bonds with others because they're addicted to the quick fix of one night stands and cutting people off after they do or say the slightest infraction. As a guy i've noticed that women especially love to jump from guy to guy and toy with a million men in their 20s, then when that life gets old, their bodies sag and they're 37 finding out men dont want them anymore - suddenly here comes the victim card.
I agree with ‘players’ inability to form meaningful bonds with others. And let’s not forget that men look bad too when they get old. Most start to lose their hair in their late 30s, balls and ass begin to drag the ground... so sad! Money can only make up for so much... 🤔
Hard core dear
@solidsoul777 🤭 sarcasm is so hard to get across in an answer. I think 🤔 the main problem with relationships is that we focus on the wrong qualities in a partner. Looks aren’t lasting! We need to focus on finding a partner that inspires us to be a better person. Challenges, nurtures, loves, shows kindness, displays loyalty, takes responsibility for their actions, has a sense of humour, resilience, etc.
Agreed
@Poppykate agreed.
@Poppykate Men can look like shit as we get older but it's more pronounced and brutal in women. I look WAY better at 36 than I did at 26 while girls I had crushes on in my early 20s now look so bad I wouldn't go anywhere near them.
That depends on the person! Again with the gender thing! If one takes GREAT care of themselves, both physically as well as mentally/emotionally, you will find that BOTH genders will age rather well for their age. I'm in my mid 30s yet I get mistaken for someone younger quite a lot! I just make sure to take good care of myself and know my limits. No body is perfect and people make mistakes. Sometimes those mistakes and their consequences last a lifetime, sometimes' not. It just all depends.
-SFV
I really want a girlfriend. Someone to cuddle with and spend time with. I wish I was so lucky
and we all want to eat as well, but the food is filled with poison, so is the air, water, and the WOMEN so be careful.
It's not bad wanting a relationship. I'm sure you'll find someone who'll compliment you accordingly. Best of luck!
It’s so depressing not having anyone. I’m not sure if I’m good enough for a relationship otherwise it would have happened already, so yeah
that's a bad way to think bro. Trust me on this, if a relationship just 'happens' to you at your age, it's gunna end in fucking disaster. Thank your lucky stars some messed up chick didn't lock her sights on you yet, they will fuck with your head man, take it from a dude who had an absolute batshit crazy girl crushing on him in highschool, it is BAD, REALLY, REALLY BAD NEWS BRO RUN RUN FAR!!! Get smart and stop being so desperate, control that shit, then you can consciously try and find the needle in the haystack
@Shamalien so many guys on here and bitter I just don’t know what to say
The best thing you can do for yourself is not settling for the first chick that lets you touch her tits, and secondly, finding someone with common interest. If you like similar things you'll have plenty to talk about and bond over. Be with someone who you genuinely want to be with, not just for the sake of having an armpiece. I have another take about relationship advice which I recommend you read.
what you should say is 'hmmm, I'm a kid, these guys are older... they have literally nothing to gain from giving me bad advice... maybe I should take their advice and get a massive head start on my adult life'
simplyarandomgirl's advice is pretty spot on, but what girls rarely tell you ever is that they have a very dark side as well, and that dark side is actually being encouraged and completely let loose by our society in western countries currently, as they are structured. We are very aware of the male demons as a society, but we get clobbered by the female ones. I am actually 25 and it was not so long ago I was in highschool, feeling just like you... making some bad mistakes and nearly making some REALLY bad mistakes.
Keep your wits about you when you feel that 'stupid' feeling come on, usually spurred by a nearby female. Your brain is being bombarded by dumb dumb chemicals and you gotta just try and fight it.
@Shamalien Lol, maybe YOU'RE the crazy one bro! Haha, not all women are like this. Don't generalize!
-Sue
@TenderFantasy Go ahead and respond to something completely made up while ignoring what I actually said
love it
6. Having a relationship doesn't add to your value in the minds of good friends or family😊 You'll still be who we love and want to be around, single or not. Single pringles are in no way inferior (nor superior) to us, we've all been single.
I’ve noticed that too... how people go from one relationship to another. Like anyone is better than being alone. I have to have chemistry so I guess I will keep waiting alone
I just think the Internet/social media makes you think that being alone makes you a loser. You just explained it best.
I had all of these reasons too. Especially, the "working on myself."
Until I found that special someone and that turned world upside down and makes u reconsider all of those reasons you just typed up.
When ur not expecting it, love will hit you.
I love this so much. It is so true and more and more people prefer to be independent over being in a relationship.
I agree with you. Most people are uncomfortable, being single and I’ve never understood why. Also I do agree on the “no drama” part a lot. I also like my life like a straight line, away from those constant ups and downs.
Ladies and gentlemen, natural selection at its finest, thank you for not contributing your genes to the next generation!
I can still reproduce asshat. Which isn't even of the matter, currently.
Hoping feminists will do the same thing.
@Dargil If you have something you wanna get off your chest, take it elsewhere. I don't care about the laughable third-wave western feminism, or your worry for evolution.
If you’re not looking for a relationship, it’s because you’ve had bad experiences with guys, and only a close minded attitude will procure the idea that you don’t need a relationship
I'm willing to keep an open mind about it. I don't care for a relationship at the moment, but that doesn't imply that I've crossed it off forever. I agree that eventually I'll want a partner, and that I've had bad experiences. Who hasn't? That however isn't why I crossed it off my priorities for right now. If "Bad Experiences" were the cause, they'd be up there in the take. I'm not obsessed with having a partner because frankly, I've seen through it. It's a never ending cycle of false hope, disillusion and heartbreak, and we buy into it every single time. It's bullshit that leaves us blindsided wondering where we went wrong.
@simplyrandomgirl you’re wrong. I know I’m a lot younger and I have little to no experience, but I know that there are guys and girls out there who are worth it all the way through, you just haven’t met them ye (or you’ve scared them off). I know because I’m one of them, I’d never date a girl I knew I couldn’t be good to, because I’d never date a girl I didn’t like. If you love someone you treat them right, and whatever you may have had in the past may not have been the kind of love I’m talking about. Don’t give up hope please, you just need to look in the right places, but if you must stop looking, it may help to let the right guy come to you
I have experienced what you're talking about. The guy I mentioned in point 3 let me go because he was going through complicated times and didn't want to hurt me. I agree that there are good guys out there, I just guess my bad experiences out-weigh my good ones.
We don't need a bad relationship but it's nice to have a good relationship.
It makes all those negative things you mentioned, worth it - worth losing the freedoms.
right! I can make choice by myself and spend nice day.
I like this. Many people center their lives around it, but a reason you should add is having bigger aspirations.
Translation: ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME ME! I'm a self-centered, bitchy, egotist!
Good to know.
If you got that take away from the Mytake, then you didn't understand the point of it, to begin with. It's not about being self-centered, it's about knowing yourself before trying to get to know someone else. Also about not letting a relationship suck you whole and remembering that you were an individual before becoming a couple.
No I did. I've been single as you have been reading almost 7 years now. I'm stronger than I've been in a while
I'm sorry. I hope I didn't come off as jagged
You said suck you whole
@solidsoul777 are you 12 years old?😂 What does it matter if I said suck you whole?
Been a long week. My bad
You can't learn yourself until you know your boundaries. Boundaries exist in the context of others. Until you have and fail at a few relationships, you'll never know your boundaries. Failure is instructive--if you've the brains to learn.
Boooooy. I like that
Relationships are a learning experience, that I can agree with. However, I don't think you need others to define yourself. I've understood myself and what I want on my own, far better then whenever I've dated anyone. I can agree that you do test your limits when confronted with a situation, but you should know what you stand for and who you are before then. If not, what are you to do? You're like a weather vane pushed around in whichever direction the wind says.
Wow! We agree on something, @HereIbe.
Read 'SEX AT DAWN' by Cacilda Jetha and Christopher Ryan.
During this time you're 'working on yourself' you should work on deprogramming yourself from all the BRAINWASHING you've been under since birth. Monogamy is apart of that brainwashing.
Heard
I prefer casual relationships, where we get the benefits of the relationship without the mess.
I agree but it's harder to approach
@Joker8 Women hate casual relationships. I hope one day they ditch that attitude
👍👍👍
Not all women do, it's about finding the Bonnie to your Clyde. Personally I've never had a casual relationship but, given the right circumstances I might consider it.
I know most women won't :'(
Lol, you ladies always gotta drag shit out. Could have just said ya just don't give a shit about relationships.
I'm not in one simply because I think they are lame.