Girls: Dating 101: True Love Waits (Page 2)

[loveslongnails]

I like your husband's answer. It avoids a lot of words. LOL. Had you put it first, I might not have read your take, which is pretty darn good. :-D

[AmandaYVR]

Oh Loves. Can I throttle you? Nah, I'll just give ya a hug instead I guess. 🤗

[loveslongnails]

You can do either, or both. :)_

[Jamie05rhs]

Haha

[asshole_]

But if you're in your 30's women, and you're still not a mother.. you're gonna need to speed things up, if you want to have kids, of course

[AmandaYVR]

Right, exactly. What I wrote is for younger girls. Fertility drops dramatically at 35 so they definitely need to be proactive. And one would also assume people of that age know themselves and others better, they can read behaviour more, are more decisive, more mature, and less bound by societal and cultural pressures. To a woman in her thirties, I would more likely say something like, 'Go for it, girl. What are you waiting for?' It's better to start. People need time to get to know each other, and bond, before considering bringing kids into the picture.

[asshole_]

You hear that girls?

AGE MATTERS. IT ALWAYS WILL

Just like looks, matter

[Jamie05rhs]

Though there are some girls who have waited and are older now and want to just jump into things, but that's kind of dangerous for them because they have no experience dating and so they don't know what to watch out for. They could be easily taken advantage of. At least the younger girls are more cautious, to their credit, because they know they have time.

[DiegoO]

I don't have an eternity to wait for anything or anyone. If I am in a "serious" relationship and something is missing, and nothing gets better, despite a million efforts, I am out. Some things are just not meant to be.

Between more you force your will to make that 1 thing work, you realize, it will not. Not now, and probably never.

[luvstoned4him]

Yes! I can appreciate all the time and effort you took in writing this and every bit of it is true.

[DavidHart]

Those guys who are hunting for sex prey will not like your post.

What a nice advices you've given.
Thank you so much.
Hope there will be more.

[Madirashed2]

Love it... you really good keep going... i want to read more please write another one.

[AmandaYVR]

Really? Aw, thank you so much.
Yes, I've got a few more up my sleeve...

[magiusX26]

gonna respectfully disagree on 2 points here. 1 : not all guys willing to do friends with benefits are in category 2 or get jealous. 2 : there is a 5th type that is some form of hybrid of the stuff from 2 or more of the other 4.

[AmandaYVR]

Yeah that's fine. It's not easy to distill everything down and I think near impossible to find the precise line between too much and too little. This mytake is short, for me. Add to that, I can only edit for 48 hrs and then it's locked. But yeah, I wish I had written one sentence about hybrids. There's certainly a bunch of those.

I've seen countless questions on here from girls saying they're in a friends with benefits and the guy doesn't want her seeing anyone else. So I believe that's common. But yes, it's not the only scenario. Some guys are fine with it. (It's why I put it in parentheses, as a minor mention.)

You've got some credit in the bank with me so speak away.
P. S. I like your die pic. I have a small collection too. (From Vegas. Where are yours from?)
But your banner is unreadable. What's the last word that's cut off?

[magiusX26]

its a wallpaper from the zedge app. am a D&D player so liked that puc. nice and colorful.

am a guy who has had a friends with benefits and was never jealous of any other guys she was seeing (sleeping with). dud have an issue with 1 other guy but not from jealousy, he was beating on her

[Be4rdy]

So what about the experienced but not sexually active but patient guys


Or in lamens terms the ugly guys like me


Nope we dont exist blah blah blah

[AmandaYVR]

I'm sorry you feel excluded. It is an oversight, not deliberate.
Even as an Editor I am only allowed 24 hrs of editing on mytakes, so many details become set in stone, which is unfortunate. (And Updates feel insufficient.)
I wish I had added one more line into #3 which said "the sexually active now and not right now" or something. But as I said to TremorJay, I don't think that aspect is particularly pertinent. Hybrids exist, and we all know that.
Do you want to write a #5 describing yourself? Go ahead.

[Be4rdy]

I would write it but honestly I'm no good at explaining things without sounding like a dick.

Honestly just sick of hearing women say "there's no hood guys"

In reality is there no good guys who are 10s, us uglys know women dont come along every 2 seconds for us so we treat them better

But no women won't even take the time to even speak to us.

Honestly starting to think there isn't any good women out there

[AmandaYVR]

Yeah, I hear you. It's honestly pretty cut-throat out there right now it seems. There are soooo many factors contributing to this, but yes, people are treating others more like cattle, with an overly simplistic value ascribed to everyone. I don't see it reversing anytime soon. I wonder if anyone predicted this. It all started in 2007 with the smartphone/iphone, but there are other factors too. It's easy for me to see the dark side of things. Sometimes I don't know how to put a happy spin or interpretation on things. Only real tactic I have figured out is to break it down, one piece at a time, and instead of focusing on the big picture and the end product, zoom in to analyze one problem at a time.

[Be4rdy]

I'm going to agree with you there tbh, I had better luck before phones now it's just like what the hell am I doing?

[AmandaYVR]

You grew up before this smartphone explosion, so you are a product of that world, but not existing in this world. So you saw what it was like before. You have perspective. Which is actually harder than simply being entirely indoctrinated into it. You lament the past, knowing well what we have lost.

You're dealing with: Major distraction. It's not easy to pull peoples' attention away from their screens and onto other human beings. They're getting constant, low-grade dopamine hits with them. Communication is devolving. Most people primarily date in apps, and that distills people down to pics and marketing capabilities. I understand loathing both.

[AmandaYVR]

But the good news is that females read (profile bios, etc.) Men tend to only look at the pics, and base their interest almost solely on those (see why women take hundreds of selfies, filter themselves, and live in constant anxiety about their looks?) But females read the words. There was a study on this, where they tracked the eye movements of users, and all websites are basically tracking finger movements on screen pages. They know how many milliseconds you hover too. So, they know, for a fact, that females care about the words guys write. You do not have to be the best looking. I'm going to write a mytake about all this, debunking this annoying idea that men have (it comes from one site, one stat, and it has been grossly misinterpreted, but people are too freakin lazy to read and research, so the idea has been propagated like wildfire). Use your damn brains, people. Anyway, if you are talking about dating online, you need to improve your pics (most guys don't put nearly enough effort into them), and write a damn good bio of yourself. These are two must-do's for guys. (And if you're talking in-person being ignored, yeah, that's a legit problem. Beef up your talking skills. Ask lots of questions and try and be friendly, even if you're feeling very pessimistic. It's essentially a supply and demand issue. There's tons of supply on the market now, because people aren't committing, so it's a vicious cycle of non-commitment.)

[Kaneki05]

Waiting is just common sense.

[jestergent]

I support this for women to read.

[Aquiline_feast]

Yes, wait for centuries. Don't loose the beauty behind the pure love that you share.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Nice Take. Well done.

[Eagle_93]

Great Mytake!
Pretty much spot on😊👍

[AlwaysBelieving]

Where’s the 102, 201, and 202?

[AmandaYVR]

Hahaha. Yeah, I did get sidetracked, didn't I.
You wouldn't believe how many half-begun mytakes and notes I have going.
So what topics shall I do next?

[AlwaysBelieving]

I’d say “what to talk about on dates” or “how to tell if he’s really liking you, or just using you” (though the second one might get a little backlash from here).

[Alex_988_2]

i think u n i need to have a talk now

[AmandaYVR]

Are you going to be nice now? I'm getting tired of being insulted, Alex.

[Alex_988_2]

what? what did i do now :(

[Alex_988_2]

I've been caught up in exams so i didn't text u

[Bhavin2184]

Good take

[Pain_no_more01]

I option four