WARNING! What you are about to read may trigger you. Read the title and understand these opinions are highly unpopular among the common population.
1. Sex is important and crucial.
I heard a lot growing up from both parents and friends that sex is not the most important thing in a relationship. Sure, as I can partially agree with this as sex shouldn`t be the only thing to rely on, I have to say that it`s otherwise ridiculous. The main thing that differentiates romantic relationships from friendships IS sex. If you eliminate sex from your relationship, doesn`t that just make you friends? Also, sex is engraved in human nature (especially men), and if they don`t get it from you, you can`t expect them to stay faithful. This is not because they have fallen out of love with you, it`s just because their biological imperative is calling them.
2. Flirting with other people while in a relationship is healthy and normal.
Yeah, this one may be considered crossing the line. Others may even consider flirting as cheating. And it does, in some cases. However, light, innocent flirting is actually completely normal and healthy in relationships. Here is the psychology behind it: when you feel desired by the opposite sex, it builds confidence. Confidence is KEY when in a relationship. When you feel confident and desired (if you are a healthy-non toxic person), you feel like you are good on your own and you have options if the current relationship doesn`t work. Why is this important? Well, people who are insecure tend to act toxic towards their SO because they are afraid of them leaving. If they are confident, they will stay with you and not act toxic. However! If you have intentions with the flirting, and if you start complimenting their appearance, that is probably crossing the line. If you have no intentions, and the two of you are just telling jokes and laughing, it`s totally fine.
3. Staying fit, being positive, and taking care of your appearance will make the relationship last.
Once the person you are in a relationship with starts getting too relaxed, things start to happen with their bodies and mental health. Being too relaxed just sends the message that "they got you and they will accept you the way you are", and it`s actually pretty toxic. If you gain a few pounds due to hormones or pregnancy, that`s something completely different. But if you consciously start to gain lots of weight due to overeating, your SO will lose that spark with you. Regardless, hard work is sexy and shows you truly value them and want to impress them. If the hard work still won`t make them stay, at least you did it for yourself and you can get back into the dating game with no problem. And not only that- working to improve yourself will make yourself feel amazing! You`ll have more energy, burst with confidence and positivity.
4. You have a right to privacy.
Your SO has no right to demand your social media and phone passwords (and reversed). When you are in a relationship, your SO and you become united as one, but you are still an individual. You have your own life, your own friends and your own interests. It`s great and important to share these things with other people, but you shouldn`t lose all privacy. If you don`t trust your partner or suspect them cheating on you, either break up or talk about it. They will show you on their own accord if they are good people and have nothing to hide.