The minimum Standard for Women/ what Men should expect from a women.

[HedwigInABox]

1) Intelligent

2) Attractive

3) Open to Therapy

4) Feminine

5) Sexually generous

6) Invested in you

7) High quality friends

8) Want to know you

9) Correct relationship with parents

10) Not materialistic

I came across this video and wanted to know what other people this about it. Do you agree with it? I watched quite a few of this guys videos and I usually agree with most of what he says. However I think he sometimes overgeneralizes. Not ever person can be labled or put in a box.

In this case I'd mostly agree. The point I have an issue with is number 10. Not everyone is blessed with perfect or even somewhat decent parents. Of course if they are rude to their parents without any reason that's very telling of their personality but not having a good relationship with your parents is sometimes justified.

Most of theses characteristics would fit an ideal men too in my opinion.

[startingfitness]

Yes this is very good for starters, but there are a few things to add too:
One is self awareness. Being self aware is unfortunately not something that is a universal given for all people today. Another thing is being accountable for her actions, and its related to self awareness too.
And the last thing would be discipline. A woman without discipline is not only fickle and disloyal, but she can also never be a good wife or mother in any way.

[Barbaric]

I wouldn't take any advice from that dweeb.

Some of it is true, some I disagree with. The most important thing is to look at behaviour, not to tick off a checklist. People make these checklists but often you might find someone who ticks every box, but they're still no good as partners. You might find someone who doesn't tick off every box but makes a great partner.

[mindNsoul]

well said 👌

[startingfitness]

why do you call him a dweeb? he is intelligent and well-spoken. Does that not sit right with you?

[Guy13]

One, Three, Ten are not a real concern for me. Quality Character and personality that has good judgment and makes good decisions.

[Unit1]

I disagree with those:

Open to Therapy - That's her decision to make and her business.

Feminine - Do not box yourself into the view society of what women do or don't do. Ask any female mechanic or female oil rig worker.

High quality friends - We live in a society, where friendship is rare and many people have malicious intend, so it's normal to be a loner or having just 1 or 2 real friends.

Correct relationship with parents - Many parents aren't even worthy of the title parent. Many kids aren't blessed with loving parents.

[HedwigInABox]

The therapy one is actually the one I feel strongly about. Cause it shows that they are willing to work on the relationship and that they are willing to improve themselves if they might be wrong in some aspects.

I've watched a few of his videos and when he says feminine he doesn't just mean walking around in flowery dresses all the time. He means having female traits like being nuturing, caring and all that. Which I would agree with. But I wouldn't see it as strict as him since he also thinks women should want to have kids, which I don't.

I think having one or two good friends is more than enough. But I do somewhat judge people based on their friends. At least somewhat. If a guy has terribly disrespectful friends, I would't date him.

And about the parents, I completly agee. I wasn't really lucky on that part either but I guess I can see where he is coming from. people with good parents probably have a lot less beggage on average. But that doesn't mean people who dont aren't fit for a relationship.

[Unit1]

Meh.

Makes it sound like men are pussies if they're caring or nurturing 🙄
That's the problem with gender specific traits and society. Masculinity and femininity do not exist in my point of view. There is however the toxic part of both, that i can see. "men don't cry" and "women are dishwashing sex slaves" to name a few.

I don't blame you for judging the friends of someone. Birds of a feather flock together.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

The issue I take with this dude is that he works on the assumption that women have any level of self awareness that isn't inflated and ready to pop at any moment. Women believe they are more than they are in almost every category listed but the one I take most issue with is intelligence. Most women WAY WAY WAY OVERCONFIDENT in their intelligence and grossly underestimate their man's intelligence. I'm not saying this to boast or anything, but I've got an IQ that qualifies me for Mensa and I've never had a girlfriend that listens to me when I speak.
While this dude is pretty good on the basics of what he's saying and all this shit works well in a society that isn't collapsing, but right now, he's wrong on most things in the modern age.

[HedwigInABox]

A high IQ doesn't mean you communicate well. And generalizing a whole gender instead of recognizing the common denominator in all your past relationships is you, doesn't really speak for your intelligence either. If you have a point but can't deliver it well, no one will listen to you.

[ronaldo75]

Guys need to stop dating for this generation at least. The internet has inflated millennial women's egos to the point of nausea. Adopt children and pay for surrogate pregnancy. No way I'm living up to these insane standards from women who largely are nothing much to offer themselves.

[Liam_Hayden]

Too many rules. Just don't be obese or a drama queen and it can work.

[Anonymous]

Men need higher standards, we have basically allowed women to be worthless and still get male attention.

[jestergent]

No deal. Keep shopping.

[Sabretooth]

okay, we'll change 9. 9: mature... enough.