I respect people who are self-aware enough to know that they aren't ready for a relationship yet. I think self-growth is crucial for success in any relationship and that includes confidence.
Anon... Not at all. I am describing an all-to-common experience by young men these days, I am not describing myself as my dating days were before social media weaponized dating.
If you want to include all situations you can talk about the guys that just don’t wanna be in a relationship because they want to just have sex with women and that’s it. No strings no relations no nothing.
Anonymous. Again, women have the power in dating, absolutely. If you don't like fuck boys and hookup culture, than women like you should not have created it.
With the power dynamic it is women who drive overall dating behavior. Again, be the change you wish to see.
Great be single and alone we don’t have any power especially if you decide you don’t want to be with us. I hate when y’all think that it’s a mutual decision if you decide to both be together
Anon... I am past the dating/hookup phase of life. This stuff doesn't effect me. Your saying women "don't have any power" is a fantastically clueless comment, like a someone who just napalmed a village saying "wait, that burned stuff"? It's painful to read statements like yours as it tells me there will be no positive change in the near future.
The dating scene is controlled almost entirely by young women. If you want changes you need to work with other young women.
Believe me when I say men will follow your lead in dating. If you are a kind, faithful, feminine, honorable woman! You will attract AND RETAIN a similar man. If you are a Tik Thot you will attract and get run through by fuck boys.
Once again, women hold the keys to dating and men hold the keys to marriage. If the dating scene is a colossal train wreck than women have the power to change it. Do you not see this as good news?
Clearly you don’t know about the young mindset of a man and especially in this generation. Same goes for women we can’t expect to be in a relationship with someone and they are OK with cheating or want to be with someone who is Taipei versus a regular B and C. You’re right you’re out of the game you don’t know but young women do want those relationshipsBut get their heart hurt due to the fact that young men don’t want that older maybe but not really
But that’s not the whole population of men. Just because your group has the hook up phase they’re still in their’s. It’s always the old culture talking about the new culture. Think about the world that we live in it’s a lot of openness and don’t base it on women a lot of bisexual men are out there now closet men Women don’t have a real fair advantage anymore
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Oh he knows very much about the young man's mindset. Hence why much of what he explained here is the reason why many men especially of my age stray away from committed relationships and only chase hookups. Many happen to have become bitter from rejections and investing in relationships that eventually died out while seeing the same girls going for someone who couldn't give two shits about them. @KrakenAttackin was actually spot on in explaining the deregulated sexual market. There obviously is something very wrong in comparison to previous generations. Claiming someone doesn't know anything without having tackeled anything he said isn't going to disprove anything he did say.
Now, with that said. Does this mean that women are entirely to nblame? Absolutely not. I personally put blame on men first. As men have allowed it all to get to this point, in the first place. Kraken still did a good job explaining the issue from a man's perspective in today's dating world. YOU however are married. So who are you to talk about other people's experiences? You're not even in the dating market yourself.
Op... if you have been fucked by a bunch of Chad's that's your fault. You knew going in he was a fuck boy and you thought giving him sex would keep him, when it hasn't worked for tons of women before/after you. Really it's pretty arrogant of you to think you are so good at sex that Chad will suddenly change his ways.
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I respect people who are self-aware enough to know that they aren't ready for a relationship yet. I think self-growth is crucial for success in any relationship and that includes confidence.
"Regular" dudes have these issues yes. Guys do need to wake up a bit and speak upfront about their wants and needs.
No need to become some type of chads. Respect goes both ways so don't go too crazy into opposite.
Not women, but the women this guy dates.
He was the one allowing the dates to happen.
You can only be effective by being selective.
Get to know the people outside of dating.
Pervert spotted
@B83vtvre all He saying is be a friend and you can watch and see how people are. How is that a pervert?
@Justneedtokno She has multiple accounts, which uses to insult people as long as possible.
She always call me pervert.
Whatever, troll blocked :D
Crazy people in the world
Lol the truth must hurts i noticed some angry woman here in anon, they do not understand they will be future cat ladies by disagreeing.
@KrakenAttackin After reading your tweet, I concluded that the return of investment for dating & marriage is abysmal at best.
You cannot talk for everyone, everyone is different. There maybe stuff that you don’t know.
Perfectly said Sir! women don't actually want equality imho,
Reading comments while drinking my coffee... and SMH
The best part of this question is the last paragraph
I did this 100% dated, married, kid, our relationship was base on a few things in common but the 2 big ones disappeared and we ended up divorced.
We know it’s all smoke and mirrors the first few months.
Not possible. The modern skank is incapable of even the facade of respectability.
On point as always @KrakenAttackin
Thank you sir.
To think all this could be solved by seperating men and women into 2 walled off continents
When he think that this woman is not worth it to invest. Clever enough.
Dude are you a fucking prophet💯 👑
@bigkevhanma Thanks man, just some observations from a guy who has a few years and lots of miles.
It's all bout insecurities or else one might think the other is obsessed that they'll stick by all the time even without offering anything
I love making generalisations, and sarcasm.
@JustinTimberlegs. That's helpful *sarcasm*
men who are not ready will not invest at all with anyone.
It seems like you’re basing every relationship on one incident that has happened. Which is not always true
Anon... Not at all. I am describing an all-to-common experience by young men these days, I am not describing myself as my dating days were before social media weaponized dating.
Yes it doesn’t happen all the fucking time. You’re only using these fucked up situation and that’s not life
If you want to include all situations you can talk about the guys that just don’t wanna be in a relationship because they want to just have sex with women and that’s it. No strings no relations no nothing.
Anonymous. Again, women have the power in dating, absolutely. If you don't like fuck boys and hookup culture, than women like you should not have created it.
With the power dynamic it is women who drive overall dating behavior. Again, be the change you wish to see.
Great be single and alone we don’t have any power especially if you decide you don’t want to be with us. I hate when y’all think that it’s a mutual decision if you decide to both be together
Anon... I am past the dating/hookup phase of life. This stuff doesn't effect me. Your saying women "don't have any power" is a fantastically clueless comment, like a someone who just napalmed a village saying "wait, that burned stuff"? It's painful to read statements like yours as it tells me there will be no positive change in the near future.
The dating scene is controlled almost entirely by young women. If you want changes you need to work with other young women.
Believe me when I say men will follow your lead in dating. If you are a kind, faithful, feminine, honorable woman! You will attract AND RETAIN a similar man. If you are a Tik Thot you will attract and get run through by fuck boys.
Once again, women hold the keys to dating and men hold the keys to marriage. If the dating scene is a colossal train wreck than women have the power to change it. Do you not see this as good news?
@KrakenAttackin do you really think you know that much about the dating scene today when you just said you are completely out of it?
Clearly you don’t know about the young mindset of a man and especially in this generation. Same goes for women we can’t expect to be in a relationship with someone and they are OK with cheating or want to be with someone who is Taipei versus a regular B and C. You’re right you’re out of the game you don’t know but young women do want those relationshipsBut get their heart hurt due to the fact that young men don’t want that older maybe but not really
OP, well the young men seem to agree with my perspective and observations overall, so...
But that’s not the whole population of men. Just because your group has the hook up phase they’re still in their’s. It’s always the old culture talking about the new culture. Think about the world that we live in it’s a lot of openness and don’t base it on women a lot of bisexual men are out there now closet men Women don’t have a real fair advantage anymore
"Clearly you don’t know about the young mindset of a man and especially in this generation."
Nope. No he doesn't.
@This_Is_My_Opinion8 Oh he knows very much about the young man's mindset. Hence why much of what he explained here is the reason why many men especially of my age stray away from committed relationships and only chase hookups. Many happen to have become bitter from rejections and investing in relationships that eventually died out while seeing the same girls going for someone who couldn't give two shits about them. @KrakenAttackin was actually spot on in explaining the deregulated sexual market. There obviously is something very wrong in comparison to previous generations. Claiming someone doesn't know anything without having tackeled anything he said isn't going to disprove anything he did say.
Now, with that said. Does this mean that women are entirely to nblame? Absolutely not. I personally put blame on men first. As men have allowed it all to get to this point, in the first place. Kraken still did a good job explaining the issue from a man's perspective in today's dating world. YOU however are married. So who are you to talk about other people's experiences? You're not even in the dating market yourself.
he's a known asshole troll. Ignore.
Op... if you have been fucked by a bunch of Chad's that's your fault. You knew going in he was a fuck boy and you thought giving him sex would keep him, when it hasn't worked for tons of women before/after you. Really it's pretty arrogant of you to think you are so good at sex that Chad will suddenly change his ways.