STAY OUT!
I would never date a girl:
1. With tattoos or body piercings.
I believe that the body is a temple. It is beautiful enough all on its own and does not need any more special "ornaments". Tattoos and piercings deface the body, making it ugly; and the bigger they are and the more of them there are the uglier the body looks.
2. Who is morbidly obese or emaciated.
Morbid obesity and morbid emaciation are medical issues. Both are opposite ends of the scale and each is as bad as the other. Morbidly obese or emaciated persons need doctors and/or dietitians, not dates.
3. Who has a child.
I know men who have married single mothers and been happy but that's not for me. I also know a guy who dated a single mother only to have her betray him by sleeping with the father of one of her kids. This, along with other things, has made me believe, rightly or wrongly, that single mothers should try to work things out with the biological father of their kids, focus on the development of said kids, and forget about dating.
4. With substance abuse problems.
As far as I'm concerned, substance abuse problems include dependence on drink and drugs along with smoking or vaping. Befouled clothing, reckless and violent behaviour, stained teeth, a damaged or prematurely aged body, and horrible breath are just some of the consequences of substance abuse. It is a burden I would gladly keep off my back.
5. With criminal connections.
In my country such girls are frequently associated with "bad boys"---men with guns and no morals. I know at least two such girls, and in each case the man was shot to death and she became a single mother. The girl herself could be dangerous to me. She could be violent or even a criminal herself, or use her seedy associates to try to dominate or control me. Even if she is neither violent or controlling, her underworld associates could enter and complicate my life as well. No woman is worth my life---not in that way.
6. With a high "body count".
A girl who has had a lot of sexual partners is unsuitable for the kind of relationship I would want. I associate sexual interaction with intimacy, real love, passion, exclusivity, and privacy. A girl who has had a lot of sex might not appreciate this. Neither would be happy with the other and indeed one would soon view the other with contempt. I'd rather build my house in undiscovered country than on the freeway, anyway; and she would likely ridicule my being a virgin. It would be safer for me to hold out for a virgin like myself---we'd have more in common that way.
7. Who is on the rebound.
Such a girl has just dumped, or been dumped by, her now ex(or has just been widowed); and might seek comfort in the arms of another man. Sorry, I can't be that man. I won't be anyone's rebound guy; what would I gain from this? The girl should first take the time to heal and move on from what happened to her. The widow should allow herself to properly mourn her husband's death. Only then will her head be clear enough for her to have a healthy romance with someone else.
Dating none of these would show wisdom on my part. Some of the characteristics I have described would require a fair amount of enabling, to keep the individual who has them happy; it would ultimately prove unrewarding and self-defeating because I'd still lose the girl. If I went out with a woman, she'd be my partner, not my project. I'm a lover, not an enabler.
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