Why dating coaches, books and seminars don’t work

[jennifer_bloom]

1 - You can’t fake your knowledge.

I said that smart people manipulate objects and slackers manipulate emotions. If you don’t take a math or chemistry class and continue to paint your hair different colours, you become chained to the temporary gifts of youth.

2 - You can’t fake your quality.

A person can say they are religious but not understand the bible, they can say they are ambitious but not have any achievements or evidence of work, they can say they are neat but misplace things and have messy hair, they can say they love your family but not be capable of crying at funerals. They can say they take care of their health, but are not able to lift a 42 unit water bottle box down to your basement.

3 - You can’t fake your friends.

Somebody can say they are not snobby but not have a single friend who is neither beautiful nor rich. They can say they are easy going but yell at people who take too long to respond to their questions. They can say they are nice but make rude comments to homeless people who ask for money and they can say they love somebody but gossip about them behind their back. The way you respond to and choose your inner circle, cannot be hidden because hiding it is a full time job that normal people cannot do.

[MrOracle]

As Coach Anthony says, a true coach gives you guidance, and holds you accountable for your failures and your lack of study or effort, but they aren't there to do the work for you, or teach you a cheat code that makes everything easy - you're actually going to have to put in MORE work and effort, and leave your comfort zone far more often with a coach.

A coach also cannot guarantee an individual, specific success - he can only improve your overall odds of success over time and a number of attempts.

[coachTanthony]

Dating Coaches if done right are just like athletic coaches. They are there to hold you accountable and help you maneuver through the dating world. Pick up artists are not coaches. They teach manipulation etc.

[Summeroflove]

Because many of them sell stuff telling people what they want to hear. Taking one size fits all approaches. As well as encouraging people to be whores

[es20490446e]

In summary, you don't do what needs to be done.

Coaches and books can bring clarity on what needs to be done, but in the end of the day it is up to the individual to act on it.

For example you can be told that a huge way to become attractive is to exercise, yet you not exercise at all.

Or be told that the best way of getting to know people is by going to new activities, yet you choose to stay at home on social media.

The thing is that, most of the time, you don't need big actions to achieve good. Just some simple action.

The problem comes when the individual does nothing, or they always do the same shit that doesn't work.

[TenderFantasy]

Even if you do everything that was told to the textbook T, it STILL doesn't guarantee anything really.

[es20490446e]

@TenderFantasy You assume the risk, and figure things out as they come.

[TenderFantasy]

Relationships are personal. It's not a one size fits all. Plus, if you DO land your guy/gal, and you needed training wheels in the past, what happens AFTER that? ! Are you FOREVER going to need your counselor, dating coach's help in your relationship? ! That would get rather expensive in my opinion! So yes, I completely agree. And dating coaches, often times, they're just there to make money and or gain influence with their clients/customers. If they are THAT altruistic (and want to truly see people succeed in their marriage and partnerships, family, etc.), then they shouldn't charge fees for their services! The fact that they helped create a family should be thanks enough!

[Blackmoonsns]

You really want to get to know the opposite sex it's just a matter of studying their biology and their behavior it's as simple as that. Take for example of women they crave an emotional bond in relationship men create a physical one when the couple doesn't recognize the others wants and needs that's when there's problems but when a man organizes a woman's once needs which is an emotional connection with a man and a woman recognizes he's most likely in it for a physical connection but if they come together and unite the two you have a great harmonious relationship outside of that I mean really just comes down to the individual with who they are what they're about their goals their ambitions they're likes their dislikes but at the end of the day men they're pretty much generally the same women they're pretty much generally the same.

[Anonymous]

Dating coaches and seminar whatever are very personal they give opinions as in how they feel or think so it might not work for you.. they are very generalized. Most of them are also single and divorced too.. why? Because they don’t know shit too.
For example don’t talk for 3 days so he thinks this and that they teach toxic games. But you should know the guy better than this coach. Let’s say If you meet a guy and he is shy or introvert will you play toxic games? It might backfire
So it’s best to “ study this guy “ his personality and attitude and yeah this shouldn’t be enough for you to know if he is with a try or not. You don’t need a coach your intuition is enough too

[Alex8736]

every personality is different and the same goes for job interviews where you are better off just being yourself so if you're asked a specific question later on you don't have to grab a guide to remember your answer

[Anonymous]

I think dating coaches can work, but you've got to listen to them... My bff gives me dating advice all of the time (she's old enough for me to be her daughter but don't tell her that) and when I listen, good things happen, when I don't, bad things happen

[Tracker1958]

Take it from some one that has 45 years in a marriage. Never take relationships advice from anyone that doesn't have at the minimum 35 years in a marriage. What does a single person know about how to make a relationship work when they themselves are not in a long-term relationship.

[TenderFantasy]

Exactly.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I'm lost as soon as they ask for money in any way. Maybe they have a message but I'm not going to buy anything.

[RILEY1982]

I know it works for some people but it doesn’t stop the other person flaking.

[TenderFantasy]

Yes!

[moviedude714]

Yeah a lot of them are scam