How women can improve their dating skills

[smølf]

Dating can be a challenging and nerve-wracking experience for many women, but with a few key tips and tricks, it is possible to become more confident and successful in the dating world. Whether you're looking for your first romantic partner or seeking to improve your current relationship, there are several things you can do to become a better dater. Here are some suggestions to help you get started.

• Know Yourself: The first step in becoming a better dater is to have a deep understanding of your own values, needs, and emotions. Take some time to reflect on what you're looking for in a partner and what kind of relationship you want to have. This will help you make more informed decisions and avoid wasting time on people who are not a good match for you.
• Communication is Key: Clear and assertive communication is essential in any relationship, and it's especially important when it comes to dating. Make sure you're open and honest with your partner about your feelings, desires, and boundaries. Be sure to listen actively to your partner as well, and try to understand their perspective.
• Emotional Intelligence: Being able to manage your own emotions and understand your partner's emotions is a key aspect of dating success. When you're able to remain calm and level-headed during conflicts, you'll be better equipped to find solutions that work for both of you.
• Build Confidence: Confidence is attractive and can make a big difference in how you present yourself in a dating situation. Work on building your self-esteem by focusing on your positive qualities and accomplishments. Try new things and take risks, even if they make you feel a little nervous. With time, you'll become more confident and comfortable in social situations.
• Flexibility: Dating can be unpredictable, and it's important to be open to different perspectives and to be able to adapt to changing circumstances. Try not to get too attached to a particular outcome, and be open to new experiences and opportunities.
• Listen Actively: Active listening is an important skill for building strong relationships, and it's particularly important in dating. When you listen carefully to your partner and show genuine interest in their thoughts and feelings, you'll build trust and connection.
• Compromise and Negotiation: No two people are exactly alike, and it's important to be able to compromise and negotiate in order to find solutions that work for both of you. Be willing to listen to your partner's needs and to find creative solutions that meet both of your needs.
• Take Care of Yourself: It's important to prioritize your own physical, emotional, and mental well-being in order to be your best self in a relationship. Make time for self-care, exercise, and hobbies that you enjoy. This will help you feel refreshed and rejuvenated, and ready to tackle the ups and downs of dating.
• Empathy: Understanding and appreciating your partner's feelings is a key aspect of dating success. Try to put yourself in your partner's shoes and imagine how they might be feeling. When you can see things from their perspective, you'll be better able to build strong and lasting connections.
• Curiosity: Finally, it's important to be curious and continuously learning and growing together with your partner. Ask questions, try new things, and explore new interests together. This will help you to stay engaged and connected with each other over the long term.

In conclusion, dating can be a thrilling and rewarding experience when you have the right skills and approach. By focusing on self-awareness, communication, emotional intelligence, confidence, flexibility, active listening, compromise, self-care, empathy, and curiosity, you can become a

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Simple BE KIND!

Don’t date someone you aren’t willing to make sacrifices for

Dont accept gifts from men you aren’t attracted to

Dating requires a personality trait that is severely lacking in our society SELFLESSNESS

This couple had been together for over 80 years

https://www.youtube.com/embed/hZU8UZZFAw8

what’s their secret? Be Nice To Each Other!

[MzAsh]

#1. Choose a man who first proves he’s worth being nice to.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh no be nice to everyone conditional kindness is a lie

[MzAsh]

Courteous. But what you first described is a bit much. Don’t date someone you’re not willing to make sacrifices for? What. Dating is getting to know someone. You don’t know whether or not you want to make sacrifices for them. Don’t accept accept gifts from someone you’re not attracted to? Ridiculous. Some people get angry if you don’t accept their gift. A GIFT doesn’t require sexual attraction. That’s what it means to be selfless which you ironically mentioned in the same breath. Amazing.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh why is it too much? Wrong is wrong even when everyone is doing it and right is right even when no one is doing it

People in this generation date for years because they date based off fear scarcity and lack it doesn’t take years to get to know someone

Men don’t give women gifts because we like them or want to be your friend you know damn well if a man buys you a gift he expects cheeks in return stop playing dumb that’s why you don’t accept it

[MzAsh]

It absolutely takes years to get to know someone. If you’re giving only to receive then that’s not actually giving. It’s transaction and women need to avoid men with that mentality like the plague.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh right and you do that by not accepting gift from them whether it’s jewelry or a dinner we don’t do nice things for women just to be nice and you women know that if a man spend 700 on a dinner date he expects you on your knees afterwards

That’s why you don’t accept gifts from men you aren’t attracted to you were playing dumb but I know you knew that

No it doesn’t people in the 60s and 70s only dated for a couple of weeks or months before they got married if you can spend years with someone and still not know everything about them you aren’t dating seriously or at all actually you’re just wasting time

[MzAsh]

If a guy expects sexual favors for dinner, that’s his problem. She doesn’t owe him anything. I’ve been given gifts and had dated paid for me without expectation and that’s how it should be. Getting married before being together for at least 2 years is risky. I’d recommend 3-4 years dating before getting engaged.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh this is why western society is dying why do you older women keep giving younger women this horrible dating advice?

Men in the west are literally running away from you women 😂 Passport Bros 2023💯

[MzAsh]

Because unlike most, I’ve actually maintained a happy and successful marriage for the last 15 years. The only men running away are the undesirables. Women overseas will find out what bs they’re trying to pull. Brazilian women already are. Got some family there and they do not take shit.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh undesirables? You women today are hilarious a lawyer making 10 million a year isn’t undesirable that’s a 1% man who was cuffed by a Tahitian woman

Please do tell me what this BS they’re trying to pull is? Is it getting away from western women? Is it going to women who actually respect men? Is it seeking women who care about what men want? Is it seeking fit marriage minded women who would love to find a husband? I have family in Colombia and they love passport bros are you women jealous? That they’re better and you can’t compete 😂 well maybe y’all should get yourselves together

[MzAsh]

Lawyers work over 40 hours a week. I've dated a guy who works that much and I’ve been the woman who works that much and relationship satisfaction declines at that point. Id never date a lawyer, doctor, or corporate executive. I don’t care about the money.

Most men I see trying to flex this passport bs are average dudes who can’t find a woman in America willing to put up with him. Y’all are the ones mad that women here don’t put you in a pedestal, that’s why they’re going to the countries where women are marginalized. It’s not a coincidence.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

by the way I’ve been to Brazil the women there were very nice , friendly , hot , the booties were fat and the
Moqueca was delicious ❤️ 🇧🇷

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh do you know what men want?

[MzAsh]

I know what good men want. I also know what selfish men want but who cares what they want. 😆

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh elucidate me

[MzAsh]

Good men want a partner. An intelligent, ambitious, skilled woman with healthy standards and firm boundaries, in a relationship where they support each others mission and lift each other up.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh survey says WRONG!🤣

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh are you implying that women today aren’t intelligent ambitious or skilled? LMFAOAOAOAOAO

[MzAsh]

No. That’s not what I’m implying at all. You know it so knock it off.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh well you’re at least implying that western society is severely lacking these women or else the “average men” as you put it would just be with the average women? But wait why would these men be leaving if that’s what they want? Are you saying the average woman isn’t intelligent, ambitious or skilled?

[MzAsh]

Oh I see what you’re saying. No the men leaving are a completely different group of men than the kind I was referring to.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh
Majority of men want the exact same things from a woman, want me to tell you why? Because men are very Simple we are very easy to please. So if what you said is what men really want then the fact that men are leaving says more about the women in western culture

And according to what you say men want the women are unintelligent, not ambitious and unskilled

[MzAsh]

I said *good men* want women who are intelligent, ambitious, and skilled. The men leaving that I’ve talked to keeping telling me they want women who will submit and make dinner, even though the men aren’t even close to being worth that kind of treatment.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh so you’re implying a submissive woman isn’t intelligent, ambitious or skilled honestly that’s quite misogynistic. Just because a woman want to submit to her husband and be a home maker she isn’t intelligent? She isn’t ambitious? She isn’t skilled?

[MzAsh]

They can be those things. Only IF she’s submitting to a worthy man is she intelligent. Most submissive women are foolishly submitting to the wrong men. These women eventually end up in my inbox asking for help.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh Marilyn vos savant one of the smartest women of all time was a housewife and she submitted to her husband Robert

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I think she would take great offense to your implications

[MzAsh]

She married a baby daddy. Not smart.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh so you’re saying they aren’t very intelligent because they submit to the wrong men? Which is it because you’re talking in circles here and altering your original claim that men want these? And if the wrong men are getting them why would they be passport bros? Because according to you they’re getting all the submissive women in the west

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh they’ve been married since 1987 so?

[MzAsh]

No woman with brains marries a deadbeat dad. She’s NOT happy. Bet.

[MzAsh]

She could have done so much better and I guarantee she knows it.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh she could’ve done better than a CFO and co creator of the artificial heart that man has saved lives what does your husband do? Like humble yourself

[MzAsh]

He didn’t give me sloppy seconds I’ll tell you that.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh is that how you think of single mothers? Sloppy seconds 😂

[MzAsh]

They’re actually taking care of their kids. Unlike fathers who split. Fathers who split are the undesirables, not women who actually step up.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh right they’re raising their kids
That’s why 90 percent of homeless runaways come from single mother homes 70% of juveniles 85% of kids in prison come from single mother homes and 80 percent of rapist come from single mother homes

Great job ladies

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh these women aren’t sloppy seconds but this great man who changed and saved millions of lives is? You’re an absolute muppet

[MzAsh]

If women started qualifying men for loyalty, cooperation, and responsibility, a lot of men would shape up. A lot of them will fall out of the boat, and that’s what needs to happen.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh doesn’t that say more about the women that they don’t because women in other countries look at a man’s character some of the most beautiful women I’ve ever seen absolutely value men on cooperation, loyalty and responsibilities

Look you cannot defend modern western women without holding them accountable for their choices these women in other countries who actually respect men laugh at these women because they are so lacking in femininity that they can’t even keep their men

I don’t think you realize how pathetic western women look to the rest of the world when their men are fleeing from them men are not hard to please or keep again we are very simple what we want in a woman any woman can provide

[MzAsh]

They’ll find out. Brazilian women don’t like American men who are fleeing because they already seeing their bs.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh the world is much larger than Brazil sweetheart me personally I prefer Swedish and Argentine women they love doggystyle and feeding their men don’t get me started on Ghanaian women 😍 big fat asses and cook like Michelin star chefs

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh oh yea they also are gorgeous and not fat

[MzAsh]

They can do better

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh much better which is why they’re stealing men away from women who think like you and laugh about it

[MzAsh]

No they’re not. The only ones leaving are leftovers.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh riiiight leftovers LMFAOAOAOAO
You keep wrapping yourself in that big warm lie to shield from the cold harsh truth

[MzAsh]

The cold harsh truth is that I have a ring in spite of it all. 🥂

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh so do other women you’re not a snowflake luv 😂

[MzAsh]

Not many make it to 15 years. And sometimes I’m not so sure…. you’d be surprised by how many people are willing to tell me I’m a special snowflake when it’s convenient for them just to invalidate my experience.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh and many make it much longer than 15 years and they aren’t anywhere near as arrogant as you are

But you just proved my point that’s these women aren’t the caliber of woman that men want according to you intelligent, ambitious or skilled

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh why do you think modern women are unintelligent?

[MzAsh]

The average marriage only lasts 8 years and half eventually get divorced. We’ve already crushed all our parents and grandparents marriages, and all before 40. I am proud of that.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh not true at all the marriage rate for people in the 60s almost 70% ages 14 and older that generation is our grandparents and most of them are still married also you do realize that more than two thirds of women in the world are married right and the average marriage Globally is 15 years

[MzAsh]

That generation stayed married out of obligation. Divorce was taboo so they would instead either put up with each other unhappily or go estranged. These days, people explore their options and remain more honest about their desires which I think is a step in the right direction.

[Lookingforthetruth]

@MzAsh This goes both ways. Men shouldn't have to prove themselves and jump through hoops for women.

[Lookingforthetruth]

Yep. One red flag on how to avoid a woman is look how she treats people that are not in her immediate social circles. If she is a huge cunt for no reason or has no respect for someone because she just isn't physically attracted to them then she is for the streets.

[MzAsh]

Of course they don’t have to. But the better men will want to.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh out of obligation? Are you freaking kidding me?

So what does for better or worse mean to you?

[MzAsh]

That means you choose to be there.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@MzAsh be there for what?

[KrakenAttackin]

@MzAsh Don't use guys as free drink machines, free dinner buyers, and otherwise abuse men for their resources. Is that easier for you to digest?

[MzAsh]

That’s fair enough, but likewise, don’t get all pissy when you don’t get something in return from your date or investment.

[KrakenAttackin]

@MzAsh I agree as long as her intention was to date with some prospect of potentially having a relationship with the fellow. The foodie calls are reprehensible.

[Lookingforthetruth]

@MzAsh You realize the arrangement of men must give you resources to "get something in return" is bordering along prostitution, right?

[MzAsh]

I encourage women to obtain their own resources.

[Lookingforthetruth]

@MzAsh And yet just a while ago you mention if men don't give X resources to women then they are likely to not get anything out of there dates. So on the one hand you want women to get their own resources but at same time still adhere to a prostitution type of arrangement when dealing with men.

[MzAsh]

What “X resources” are you referring to that I mentioned?

[Lookingforthetruth]

@MzAsh Kraken stated " Don't use guys as free drink machines, free dinner buyers, and otherwise abuse men for their resources."

Your response
"That’s fair enough, but likewise, don’t get all pissy when you don’t get something in return from your date or investment."

This type of arrangement of men having to indirectly hand over money to women in order to get something out of a date or be invested in borderlines on a form of prostitution. It's kind of a sneaky way of saying if you don't pay then you don't get sex since a big drive of men going on dates with a woman is to sleep with her.

Now, I'm not saying that's not their only motive but it is essentially a big factor in a man wanting to go out with said woman.

[MzAsh]

I said that because a lot of guys do expect either sex or continued interest. A date may or may not be followed with those things and they need to internalize that. But also, I agree with Kraken that women should have intentions to actually date and explore potential rather than just accepting the date for the purpose of a free meal.

[Lookingforthetruth]

@MzAsh A lot of guys do expect sex or continued interest but are also aware and don't expect every date to follow through. Recall, most of the rejections in dating is done by women on men. A lot of guys are aware of this very early on. Your underlying statement though that a guy who does not give out resources should not expect getting sex or continued interest is worrying though as it frames the relationship in the form of prostitution. If women wish to be respected more in dating then they shouldn't be thinking of dating like this.

[MzAsh]

I said a guy who takes a woman on a date shouldn’t expect sex or continued interest. He can want it til the cows come home, but the key here is how he reacts when he doesn’t get what he wants.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

@Lookingforthetruth women today are hunting men without bait smh

[Anonymous]

Woww very good! As someone who doesn’t have any dating skills! It is good to know about these!

[Guy13]

Get in the market and practice There is no secret.

[Uzi777]

Can confirm lol

[uwotm8e]

How?

[Anonymous]

This is some good advice for both genders but especially women. I also recommend the following:

• Accept that some things are going to be out of your control. For example if you got a crush on a guy you should give him a strong hint. Say hello to him and start a conversation. Make eye contact. Ask him to get coffee. But there is a chance he might not feel attracted to you despite you looking your best. That’s disappointing but just accept it.
• There is a delicate balance of not looking needy vs. playing too many games. Most women I’ve met tend to overdue the later unless they have a huge crush.
• If you want to have sex then have sex. If you don’t then don’t. It’s weird how women all too often do the opposite what they are feeling in these scenarios. They want to sleep with a guy but get this immediate guilt/slut complex. Or they don’t want to sleep with a guy but they like the attention the guy is giving and force themselves to do it in some sort of weird self reverse psychology.
• Take the effort to understand the man’s position even if you have lost interest yet he’s still interested (but he’s not rude). Obviously it’s easy to get motivated to try to understand someone you really like. But the true test of character is how you handle people you lost interest in yet they have no idea about it and never did anything fundamentally wrong. Treat them with respect when you reject them. Treat them how you would like to be treated if the roles were reversed.
• Check yourself on being “attracted” to challenge and thinking you can “change” a man. Chances are you won’t be able to change him. But for some reason some women get real turned on with prospect of taming a wild man. Chances are your efforts will be in vain and he will screw you over.

[Ligerzzero]

Have realistic standards, unless your a 10 your not going to be able to get that fairy tale rich attractive man.

Be kind, you expect men to be kind and caring, you half to be willing to be the same.

If your on dating sites if guys message you, have some common curiosity just to write back saying not interested..

there is so much more, but why waste time explain when no one is willing to hear it.

[TheSimFans]

yep done this and hasn't change thing and know is take times but is doesn't seem if you have a a learning disability. know what i want from men. i know what i expect. my take is good but some people might have bit more trouble with dating and finding people.

[smølf]

I understand that you've tried different approaches in dating but still haven't had much success. Having a learning disability may make it harder for some people, but it is important to remember that everyone is different and what works for one person may not work for another. The most important thing is to be clear about what you want and what you expect from a partner. Focus on finding someone who respects and supports you and has similar values. Good luck with your search!

[TheSimFans]

I'm being very much clear about what i went in a partner but i also got a strict mum that doesn't help with me dating and finding good repecful men that are not asshole or creeps. that are not intersted being friends with some men. i did found men that just want to be friends and rejected some of them since they live in different country like the USA. guys that were busy and other guys that did have girlfriend after i found out after on snap chat and did blocked him after that. is always has be restarting again with someone new that I'm still texting to now. I'm on my very last hope and already been over and over and now I'm just tired and annoyed sometimes. is doesn't work with older men can be just be immature if a guy did have a learning disability and i not sure if I'm one that seem to attracting guys that i never will be interested or be attracted.

[Anonymous]

@ligerzzero Every single guy is going to message you and you're going to choose 1 or 2 guys you might be interested in talking to. You cannot respond to 500 messages a day, so if you don't hear back, just assume not interested. It's not being rude, it's just impossible to do, and if you make it impossible to do, girls won't use dating sites at all.

[DarkWinterNights]

500 messages a day lol. The top 1% of guys on dating sites may get 500 messages in their lifetime, IF they’re a successful player. “Dating” is dead and gone.

[Qdbrown]

Leave the country and find a traditional country, and hang out and see what makes a traditional woman.

If you can pull that off, most women would be in a league of their own, in America.

American women have a serious bad rep.

[Anonymous]

it's a reminder that people will always say to never compare ourselves to others or don't worry about what the comparison is but it makes me mad and angry whenever people in society say women need skills to attract a guy or how to meet a guy or how to get a guy, which doesn't make sense because all women have to do is just either accept or reject, that's not really something that takes practice or training or trial and error

[smølf]

Dating skills are about self-improvement, are you saying women do not need self-improvement?

[Opinion Owner]

No it just makes me mad when people say women need skills to know how to meet a guy or how to attract a guy when women don't have to be the ones to approach a guy or be the one to escalate or lead in anything

[chicosuave]

haha you forgot. they need to lower their expectations cuz its too high. Also they have to stop being evil entitled trolls. once they fix that they will be the best gfs alive.

[EmyyWolf]

What are her skills supposed to be? lol

looking at your ugly average simpleton, ugly face, in a date?

😂😂😂

[Jamie05rhs]

How is this related to women specifically? It seems like this article would be equally applicable to both men AND women.

[smølf]

Yes that's how it is to be human, more often than not we are alike.

[Jamie05rhs]

@smølf 👍 🙂

[Asad1ONE1]

Excellent dating advice and my dream woman. But this goes both ways. May I ask? Is there a reason why you wrote this directed specifically at women? Because it generally does seem women are worse than men overall regarding gender relations.

[strateguy632]

not skills to learn. we each need to act ourselves naturally

[MountAverage]

While these are all good points, they don't seem very gender specific and rather apply to all people.

[bamesjond0069]

Don't have casual sex! Don't think a career or materialistic things will impress a man, it's the opposite.

[aaron210419]

Stop being so consumed by their wants and take some interest in their partner

[Anonymous]

You forgot the most important aspect of it. Making the first move. Shoot the shot. With that girls will already stand out from the rest of back sitting do nothing's.

[zagor]

They should also know what they want. Realistically, not some fairy-tale list of attributes.

[KrakenAttackin]

Women need to realize that just showing up and offering sex isn't enough.

[Anonymous]

Who consumes their time and energy to be a better prospect? Like is this a real thing that folks concern themselves with?

[Uzi777]

Or we could just up our RIZZ lol

[smølf]

Whatever works for you

[Jamie05rhs]

@uzi777 What is a rizz?

[Deliciouscookies]

@Jamie05rhs (slang) One's ability to seduce a potential love interest.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Deliciouscookies Oh! Interesting.