Why you SHOULD date Mr. Wrong

Why you SHOULD date Mr. Wrong

It seems that from a young age, we are all stuck on one idea of the kind of person we will spend the rest of our lives with. He has to be doctor, or she has to be into sports, or he has to be 6 feet tall etc etc. As we get older, we have this sometimes unrealistic standard of the type of people we date. We expect them to be "perfect" for us, for us to see them and say "that's the one."

Speaking from experience, I know how comfortable or safe it can be to stick to our "types" and our man or woman of our dreams. I've rejected some guys simply because they don't play soccer, and we all know my "perfect" guy has to play soccer. You fall into this habit of choosing dates that you are familiar with. You allow something so superficial like the way he eats or the color of her hair or any little thing not in line with your "perfect" image to keep you from taking chances and meeting new people. And I get it, taking chances in the dating world is scary stuff, but they're necessary. In reality, nobody is perfect. We all have our flaws, our quirks, our bad habits. They are what makes us, well, us. When you finally drop the idea that there is only one unrealistic version of who your Mr. Right can be, you begin meeting incredible people who you never would have before. So next time you meet a potential date who you connect with, who is genuinely nice, who respects you, don't make a list of reasons why they aren't Mr. or Mrs. Right, take a leap of faith and get to know them. That Mr. or Mrs. Wrong could turn out to be exactly what you never knew you wanted. :)


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  • While the article shares good advice the title really should be changed when you say Mr. Wrong it gives us the idea that your talking about jerks, losers etc. it really should be done thing like Mr. Realistic or something.

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What Guys Said 44

  • Good stuff, though Mr. Wrong is an awful strong term for it. It sounds less like you're saying "Keep your mind open for the realistic men around you." and more like you're saying "Here's why you should keep dating the guy who is controlling/abusive/apathetic"

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  • I largely agree, but that's not really dating "Mr. Wrong". It's moreso adjusting your definition of "Mr. Right" to more... realistic levels, I guess you could say. No one should date someone whose "wrong" for them. I realize that this is probably a semantics issue. Overall, good take.

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  • I think it's kind of sad that people need to read these articles to finally understand such a basic principle like "no one is perfect".

    I pity the women who turn down guys because they are missing a little insignificant detail lol.

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    • "This girl is amazing, she's the most wonderful person on earth. But why did she have to be a brunette and not a blonde! Her boobs are also a cup smaller than my ideal perfect size. Fuck I guess I still need to keep looking..."

    • That's so superficial. The guy im talking to said im not the type he usually goes for, but he seems to like me cause im down to earth. A part of me is worried he wouldn't be interested in anything else though for that reason.

    • People who think like that are crazy.

  • Well, the problem isn't finding Mr. right. That's easy. He meets most of the absolutely necessary qualifications like kindness, caring, etc. but probably doesn't check evwry single "want" box. Mr. perfect checks everything. The problem is, some women confuse who Mr. Right and Mr. perfect, they're two separate guys. so shell either reject Mr. Right since he isn't Mr. perfect, or even worse, get in a relationship with Mr. Right and try to CHANGE him into Mr. Perfect.

    To me, Mr. Wrong isn't anyone who's not Mr. Perfect, he's a guy to avoid. He might appear to be Mr. Perfect or Mr. Right but actually isn't. He'll usually end up hurting her if she dates him, too.

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  • Who greenlit this title? So misleading. How about instead of dating "Mr. Wrong", you just date "Mr. Imperfect"?

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  • Nice article, very insightful.

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  • You could have titled this differently. Good read otherwise.

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    • Yeah, reading it now I realize the title may have been a bit misleading. Thanks for the feedback!

  • You've seriously rejected guys for not playing soccer?

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  • I like the way you said it. Makes sense, and it does feel true!

    You're great <3.

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  • Every failed relationship you go through is just practice for when you meet the right person.

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  • Agree, the worst he/she could say is no. , but maybe she/he could say yes.

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  • Interesting take. I enjoyed the read.

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  • The title had me thinking this was another "date the crazy guys, the bad boys, and then when you want to settle down, date decent guys" type deal, lol.

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  • You SHOULD date Mr. Wong. He makes good noodles. The Chinese are winning anyway.

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  • Give this lady a round of applause!!!

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  • a lot of people overdo it though and go for the first best choice, ending up with an abusive douchebag. it´s not that easy.

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  • This is very simple and straight to the point i love it!
    People are so picky! great Take!

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  • Mr. Wrong? really? people mismatch, opposites attract, but would you want a bad guy who is akin to be a felon and who beat up on his last ex?

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    • You clearly read nothing but the title and no more

    • I know but its the principle of it all. Its misleading, my take is this. how can you date or be with someone who dont complete you

  • everyones standards are messed up because of the freaking media. people are lonlier and unhappy as ever!

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  • I don't stick to "types". I date anyone I find attractive, that I get along with, have a lot in common with and enjoy spending time with. I would prefer to have NOT dated my last ex though.

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  • This is very true. I was always asked out by these "bad boys" who thinks all girls love them but in reality they get the girls because they are the only ones brave enough to ask us out. After realising this I ended up asking out a "nerd" and guess what we ended up actually sharing a lot of interests and we have been in love for almost 2 years now. And he isn't exactly the standard beauty. Or well he's slightly above 6 feet thats about it but almost all guys here are xD. What I wanna say is that mr right might actually exist and he isn't too far away you might just not be able to see him!

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    • That is bull because many nice guys do ask out women but they get rejected

    • Well I've never been asked out by a "nice guy" ever. Only idiots.

  • I managed to find a guy who is perfect in my eyes. With that said, I've never been as bad as rejecting a guy over a very minor thing like not having the right favorite color or the right favorite food etc etc. But for the more important things such as lifestyle preferences (smoking, drinking, values) and outlook in life I definitely don't see why anyone should compromise. I found a man who ticked all my boxes and have no regrets. It just meant I had to go through more heartbreaks, rejections and break ups in order to finally get to the right man but once again, I'm now VERY thankful for not settling.

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  • Girls just need to stop being so naive. Mr. Wrong is not going to treat you as sh*t and you do not need to be in a relationship where the guys is the biggest douchebag ever.

    Mr. Wrong is the not perfect guy that at the end has the things you might didn't know you want.

    By itlself develops wonderful things.

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  • I'm currently dating a Mr. Wrong, a type of guy my friends would have never imagined me dating :)

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  • I thought this article was going about real Mr. Wrongs aka Senior Cheater or Monsieur Douchebag..

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  • I dont see guys who are different from me as mr. Wrong. Mr. Wrong js more of douche or someone with unpleasant personality

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  • You're right - it's a good learning experience. And yet, it's easier said than done! Haha. Good article OP.

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  • I kissed mr. wrong and I really dodged a bullet getting away from him while I could. I should have never lowered my standards he was a below average looking asshole. But as soon as I went back to having high standards someone came along who exceeded them and he's been mine for 6 months now! When you lower your standards you end up with people who treat you like shit so go ahead and be picky.

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  • Basically, don't let your unrealistic expectations blind you to the wonderful world of real people. Revolutionary.

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    • No need to make fun. It may not be revolutionary but that doesn't mean it houldnt be addressed. That's like saying we Gould talk about feed the hungry because it's not "a brand new idea". It's good idea and sometimes we new a reminder

  • Nice article, I think that all that topic about looking for Mr/Miss Right, evade the Mr/Miss Wrong is part of growing up.

    Part of growing up consists also in overcoming and accepting the idea that no one is perfect, including oneself.

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  • There is no MR right or MR Wrong there is Just MR, and all of them are the same, they start with friendship to get your trust and after that they play there game and when they become 100% they got you in that stage there start showing there real faces, guys are the same right now this opinion will get down vote because it's the truth that guys try to dined..

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    • Girls do the same thing. It's the fault in human and it has nothing to do with a particular gender.

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    • what the hell are you talking about here? go get a life before you fuck off in here.

    • nope.. I agree...
      it's simple.. girls lower their expectations after the first guy.. or they don't date for a long time..
      the first one leaves the biggest pain when you see their real face..
      (although people do not always break-up because the guy had his way and is now off to next-girl-land..)
      After my first break-up I didn't get a girl for a very long time..

  • Nice 'My Take' 👍. And this is not an excuse to date bad boys, it's an excuse to date every boy lol. I'll next time keep an open mind. I've rejected some guys just cuz they were too skinny for my liking. I always liked the strong kinda beefy guys. I promise to stop being that shallow. And guys should stop being shallow too.

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  • I am not selective. As long as there isn't a big age gap, he is working/studying, not a religious fanatic or cultural differences that will stand in our way, and has a good heart he can be mine :)

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  • Id date him for laughs

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  • I date guys by personality not looks anyways :)

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  • I like bad boys but only ones that treat me right so
    right or wrong it only matters if u like the guy if u don't he wrong for u

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  • I refuse to waist my time with the wrong person. If God is telling me that he is the right person then I would be with the guy if not then the guy can forget it.

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  • Because Mr. Wrong says the right things

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