Love comes when you least expect it
It's a common saying that you're told when your dating life is looking fairly bleak or when you show the slightest sign of dissatisfaction at being single. It's probably a saying you choose to ignore, it's just a saying that people say to cheer you up, right? Well I don't think so, it's a little more logical and it's always been true for me.
When you're waiting for something, it's never a good idea to sit and watch the clock because the time will feel slower. Most of us tend to distract ourselves by doing something entertaining or productive and suddenly the time seems to whiz by! This is the case in the world of love and it's happened every single time I've gotten into a relationship. If you're constantly on the lookout for love, the longer it will feel until you find the right one and by then, you'll probably be very dissuaded after numerous dating fails and spending your time with the wrong person. You may become impatient and bitter which will not be the true reflection of you to your potential soul mate and you could lose your chance. You may be quick to dismiss that person, believing they'll let you down too because you would've become so pessimistic about finding the one. Doing something entertaining (hobbies, seeing friends) or productive (finding who you are, making the most out of life, becoming a better person) will make the time go by quicker, whilst also being useful to you.
If, when you wake up in the morning, one of your first thoughts are about dating, pleasing a love interest, finding the one and/or feeling lonely, you need to change up your thought processes! Distract yourself with the things you enjoy and put work into reaching your goals. Life isn't all about love and being with someone. It's a negative way of thinking which could lead to depression and co-dependency. You don't want to look back on life and remember very little happy memories from your younger years, just memories of the wrong men/women you chased after.
So cross off "find the one" from your bucket/to do list and live life for you. Lose track of time and stop actively searching for love. It won't hinder your chances or permanently stop you from ever finding the one. Go out with friends regularly, visit family or go on holiday and you may just bump into someone unexpectedly that you click with. Hopefully, you'd be at your happiest because you would've given yourself time to discover who you truly are and found happiness in something other than love.
It may seem difficult to suddenly stop going in search for love, it may be second nature to you but it's not too hard to distract yourself from it all and it's totally worth it. Time heals everything but it also appears to bring love to you quicker when you ignore it, as well as shine light on the right person to date.
Have you any stories of meeting your ex/SO when you least expected it or when you lost complete sight of dating for a while?