It sounds like you just haven't found the right girl yet! Stay true to who you are and what makes you happy. I view maturity as a positive in guys, but will admit to also enjoying guys who are a little on the wild side. But just because you're mature doesn't mean you can't have exciting passions or adventures.
Well ironically I am younger and I like that. I am not a party girl at all. Fun shouldn't be only about partying or getting drunk like some think. there are many other things. Do not join the crowd, you're good like this. I wish there were more guys like you. If you don't find a girl now, you will later. Be yourself.
Don't just join the crowd. Be yourself so you'll actually find a girl that is into you. A lot of girls wouldn't be into you but that's fine, that narrows down the list of girls you may date so you don't have to waste your time looking for the one. Personally, I am more attracted to mature men, and there are plenty of other women that are into that too. Be patient, my friend.
I'm just like that just a little younger (16) I'm lucky with girls I'm 6.5" athletic and good looking and girls in the most part fall for me maybe they even like it that I'm responsible I have never been drunk in my life or been to any concert aside from classical music enjoy a good book from time to time and pretty much a family type of guy.
Haha to be honest, I'm in the same boat right now. I'm 21, living on my own, working full time, paying bills, and just sort of living like an adult. Get one alcoholic drink during dinner maybe and that's it. But the guy I'm in love with is in college and likes to go to parties and get pass-out drunk. He finds me boring :P And I'm pretty sure that's why we broke up.
Anyway, don't let it bother you. Just find a girl who's mature like you are. :)
Doesn't sound bad at all. I'm 21 and most of what you stated I can't stand or just not interested. I think a lot if mature girls like mature guys. Although for me, he has to be able to move around. Like at least a bit athletic. I like outdoors and hiking and moving around so a guy who sits on his bottom all day may feel like an anchor. Especially if he isn't even old.
As long as you can hold up a conversation and make me laugh then nothing else will matter. There are guys who do all that and just give me one worded answer or one sided answers and its all too boring for me. I'd rather have a mature guy who can be my rock than some drunk idiot. Never liked those anyways.
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How do you really know that they are not interested in flashy cars and going to concerts? I think the important thing here is to ask questions and hint around to the men you are interested in about events that are coming up. I'm sure that ANY decent man out there will want to go with you if you give hints.
Do NOT just join the crowd you will regret it later! Girls like a "bad boy" but those are the guys who break their hearts in the end. Don't change because a lot of girls love a mature guy I think maybe you are looking at the wrong type of girl. Maybe try to talk to mature girls or other people becuase only the crazy party girls are the ones who won't go for a mayure guy.
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Trust me man I'm like you and one of the reasons my girlfriend said she went out was me was because she said I'm not like other guys, and when she asked me why she basically said because I was mature she wasn't scared about jumping into a relationship with me and me bothering her for sex within the first week. She felt more secure basically so depending on the type of girls you are dating will just depend on the response you get.
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The question is "What kind of girls are you trying to attract?" Certainly, the kind of wild lifestyle you described would attract girls of a certain kind.
Me myself, I'm happy with being mature, pragmatic and grounded. And I want to find a girl like that too, who espouses my lifestyle and my principles too.
Be yourself because I think most women prefer a man who isn't trying to be something other than himself. You could try dating women 25+. Did you mean you do or do not drink?
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Im a social drinker but I get drunk easily because I never drink unless I'm in a group or having a chat.
Ok. I was just confused by how it's written in the post. I'd be careful with not getting too drunk. No girl I know likes slobbering drunk guys approaching them. ( not to suggest you do this )
If you're mature, but you have fun every once in a while, then any girl will fall for you. By "have fun every once in a while" i mean by you break the rules every so often, you don't always follow the rules.
If you have confidence and take care of your physical appearance (like looking clean, wearing decent clothes), I find your type of profile extremely attractice
Girls in your age group are not the smartest. I say look for the girls who have a good idea of what they want to do. Also if they're independent that's even better. They are the best choice for you trust me.
carry on being you, I'm 16, look 20 and feel it, I know how you feel being around a bunch of jerks. But I'm becoming a commercial airline pilot and they aren't, I've held it out in school and i'm soon to fly..
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No, but they do write you off because you're not old enough to be mature. They just assume you aren't mature and go for older guys. The ones that would go for guys your age aren't looking for "mature" guys. It's stupid, but that's what I've seen.
That wouldn't be a turn off for me. I would only think that you were boring if everytime we went out it was the same thing over and over again. It really depends on the girl though
honestly, you don't have to do drugs just to say that you belong to the group. maybe, you're trying to belong to the "Wrong" group. I don't find it boring. as long as you have a sense of humor, you can easily get along with others. for dating, try to find someone 2 years younger than you atleast.
I mean I always loved the mature guys I am mature for my age it shows as well as long as you're open minded and funny dont want someone treating me like a child 😳
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It sounds like you just haven't found the right girl yet! Stay true to who you are and what makes you happy. I view maturity as a positive in guys, but will admit to also enjoying guys who are a little on the wild side. But just because you're mature doesn't mean you can't have exciting passions or adventures.
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Well ironically I am younger and I like that. I am not a party girl at all. Fun shouldn't be only about partying or getting drunk like some think. there are many other things. Do not join the crowd, you're good like this. I wish there were more guys like you. If you don't find a girl now, you will later. Be yourself.
Im sure am dat one guy fasho. Interested? ;3
Haha, too much distance lol
Distance dont matter. Luv will find our way... together.
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Yes, one of the best shows EVER... although Kutner, and the way they handled Cuddy and House's relationship was a bit overkill.
Don't just join the crowd. Be yourself so you'll actually find a girl that is into you. A lot of girls wouldn't be into you but that's fine, that narrows down the list of girls you may date so you don't have to waste your time looking for the one. Personally, I am more attracted to mature men, and there are plenty of other women that are into that too. Be patient, my friend.
I'm just like that just a little younger (16) I'm lucky with girls I'm 6.5" athletic and good looking and girls in the most part fall for me maybe they even like it that I'm responsible I have never been drunk in my life or been to any concert aside from classical music enjoy a good book from time to time and pretty much a family type of guy.
Haha to be honest, I'm in the same boat right now. I'm 21, living on my own, working full time, paying bills, and just sort of living like an adult. Get one alcoholic drink during dinner maybe and that's it. But the guy I'm in love with is in college and likes to go to parties and get pass-out drunk. He finds me boring :P And I'm pretty sure that's why we broke up.
Anyway, don't let it bother you. Just find a girl who's mature like you are. :)
Doesn't sound bad at all. I'm 21 and most of what you stated I can't stand or just not interested.
I think a lot if mature girls like mature guys. Although for me, he has to be able to move around. Like at least a bit athletic. I like outdoors and hiking and moving around so a guy who sits on his bottom all day may feel like an anchor. Especially if he isn't even old.
As long as you can hold up a conversation and make me laugh then nothing else will matter. There are guys who do all that and just give me one worded answer or one sided answers and its all too boring for me. I'd rather have a mature guy who can be my rock than some drunk idiot. Never liked those anyways.
How do you really know that they are not interested in flashy cars and going to concerts? I think the important thing here is to ask questions and hint around to the men you are interested in about events that are coming up. I'm sure that ANY decent man out there will want to go with you if you give hints.
I'm not interested in men
Do NOT just join the crowd you will regret it later! Girls like a "bad boy" but those are the guys who break their hearts in the end. Don't change because a lot of girls love a mature guy I think maybe you are looking at the wrong type of girl. Maybe try to talk to mature girls or other people becuase only the crazy party girls are the ones who won't go for a mayure guy.
Trust me man I'm like you and one of the reasons my girlfriend said she went out was me was because she said I'm not like other guys, and when she asked me why she basically said because I was mature she wasn't scared about jumping into a relationship with me and me bothering her for sex within the first week. She felt more secure basically so depending on the type of girls you are dating will just depend on the response you get.
The question is "What kind of girls are you trying to attract?" Certainly, the kind of wild lifestyle you described would attract girls of a certain kind.
Me myself, I'm happy with being mature, pragmatic and grounded. And I want to find a girl like that too, who espouses my lifestyle and my principles too.
Be yourself because I think most women prefer a man who isn't trying to be something other than himself. You could try dating women 25+. Did you mean you do or do not drink?
Im a social drinker but I get drunk easily because I never drink unless I'm in a group or having a chat.
Ok. I was just confused by how it's written in the post. I'd be careful with not getting too drunk. No girl I know likes slobbering drunk guys approaching them. ( not to suggest you do this )
To answer your question, no, I don't think that is boring ;)
If you're mature, but you have fun every once in a while, then any girl will fall for you. By "have fun every once in a while" i mean by you break the rules every so often, you don't always follow the rules.
If you have confidence and take care of your physical appearance (like looking clean, wearing decent clothes), I find your type of profile extremely attractice
what are decent clothes in your opinion?
Girls in your age group are not the smartest. I say look for the girls who have a good idea of what they want to do. Also if they're independent that's even better. They are the best choice for you trust me.
carry on being you, I'm 16, look 20 and feel it, I know how you feel being around a bunch of jerks. But I'm becoming a commercial airline pilot and they aren't, I've held it out in school and i'm soon to fly..
No, but they do write you off because you're not old enough to be mature. They just assume you aren't mature and go for older guys. The ones that would go for guys your age aren't looking for "mature" guys. It's stupid, but that's what I've seen.
That wouldn't be a turn off for me. I would only think that you were boring if everytime we went out it was the same thing over and over again. It really depends on the girl though
honestly, you don't have to do drugs just to say that you belong to the group. maybe, you're trying to belong to the "Wrong" group. I don't find it boring. as long as you have a sense of humor, you can easily get along with others. for dating, try to find someone 2 years younger than you atleast.
I mean I always loved the mature guys I am mature for my age it shows as well as long as you're open minded and funny dont want someone treating me like a child 😳