My boyfriene is too much of a pushover with me. He does things for me without any sort of backbone. And when i find out he doesn't want to so it, it's because i had to get it out of him. It makes me feel like i'm wasting my time, and his. I love it that he's nice and sweet, but i would appreciate if he tells me exactly what he wants and actually grow a backbone for once. He is capable of arguing with his friends, and tell them what he wants or doesn't want without having to waste their time. However, when he's with me, its like he doesn't have an opinion or something. I want him to stop acting like a pushover. He never seems to care what goes on, and if i'm mad about something, he just goes with it. He never argues with me, yet he does with his friends. I know this sounds crazy (i actually want my boyfriend to argue with me, be aggressive, etc), but it's annoying that i'm making the decisions for him, and i have to go out of my way for him. What should i do?
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With you, he is insecure and thus indecisive and submissive. Simply put, he is of the belief that he does not measure up to you and cannot stand up to you. And, giving you what you want will satisfy you and keep you around. He fails to realize that by being submissive and catering, he is losing your respect and interest and, as a consequence, the relationship is doomed if he fails to change.4