Girls: Why the "bad guys?" Seriously... (Page 2)

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Girls openly admit that they NEED a nice guy, but they WANT a bad boy...  Even if they always break their hearts.But why do you want a bad boy?  What do they do for you exactly?  I mean its cool to be dating some drugged up loser, or just an idiot in general that isn't respectful to those around him, someone that will, in some way, abuse his GF?  These "bad boys" aren't men...  They're selfish and immature.  A real man would always be there for his lady, treat her (and people in general) with respect and just be an all-round good guy. I mean what attracts you to a guy with a p*ss-poor attitude, or a guy on drugs or whatever in the first place?  What's wrong with a good, nice guy?  Even good looking nice guys have a hard time with attracting a girl.  I don't understand...  I'm just sick of being the friend and not the BF.  And its like I'm just living a good, clean, normal life, and no love for me.  I'm 19, completely sober, very nice and respectful of those around me, I don't act like an idiot...  And I've never had a GF.  I don't get what I'm doing wrong.  I hope all my pain and suffering will be worth it because it seems like I can't get any decent girls to like me.  I feel totally undesirable, and to me, for what seems like no reason at all.

Meggiepoo77 · Answer

I don't go for the bad guys I go for the guy that is nice and will treat me right but won't be overly nice. I want someone in the middle cause otherwise its irratating. I have a friend that had his heart broken awhile back and it changed him. He decided he would have to be a jerk to get girls. Which has translated over into all of his relationships. He used to be nice to be and now he constantly calls me stupid and fat. For me it doesn't make me want him it just makes me want to punch him and never talk to him again.

DeviantBeauty · Answer

Bad boys are exciting, thrilling, and dangerous. They're attractive because they're often spontaneous (though sometimes unpredictable) and a step outside of the humdrum day-to-day. Another reason they're appealing to some women is that they're also sort of predictable. They're bad and it's usually right up front. We know what we're getting into and it's way easier when a bad boy turns out to be bad than when a nice guy turns out to be a real asshole.

For the person who said that all women want a Dominant man...ummmmm, that'd be a NO! There are plenty of women who would rather be with a submissive man, and are totally happy that way.

Javera · Answer

Nice Guy,

Ok I admit it, I like the bad boys. To answer you initial question let me just give you an basic summary:

I'm 17, beautiful, smart, athletic and I can get any guy I want at the school. Why do I choose the bad guys? Even though I know they will hurt me? Its simple; every girl wants a little risk, someone to make even the most confident of girls nervous, someone that is exciting. No one really wants a safe relationship, someone that is satisfactory that want someone that makes them feel wild, themselves, and free.

Now people will tell you just keep being you and everything will work itself out. That's true, but It doesn't hurt to bring out your wild side. Keep true to yourself, but don't be afraid to show girls that you can be spontaneous and that you have a naughty side as well.

Yes you can go on being the good "BF" but if you want the girl of your dreams this is reality. Show her how you can make her feel. Don't be afraid to say something daring.

Cheers,

Javera

boylover · Answer

Hi

girls most of the time want bad boys cos there bad

so they can be bad together trust me I'm a girl

and I don't want a bad boy infect I like the opposite cos at school there's 2 boy's who like me and there very nice but I got chose cos I like them both

but anyway girls like boys who are bad! My biff once went out with a bad boy and he broke up with her cos she was chatting to another boy and the next day he broke up with her and she was so mad that she never wanted to go out with a bad boy again

bbibi · Answer

girls want a guy that acts like he's cool, but he also has to be cool. If you have what they like or at least try your best to look good, never let them know you doubt yourself that will make you attractive, then treat her good if she responds don't be shy, girls don't want a shy guy that they have to make him want them, you look more attractive when you act like you really want her and that you have to have her. and make sure you know what your doing , good sex will bring you up a level or two, the rest is up to you. women don't just want a nice guy, they want him + good sex+ a good dresser+total devotion to her+and to be put above all others for her. if she sees that she will fall inlove with you especially if your friends are jerks and she sees you don't  care what they think. women hate men who   will get influenced by their stupid friends,she will respect you if you can make you own desicions.

shes-a-lady · Answer

they're fun. and interesting. and a challenge :) and they're the ones who get my attention first. nice guys seem boring because you know theyll get you anything you want - from the very first second.

it'd be perfect if a truly nice guy plays games in the beginning (to get me interested) and then, once I've got to know him, turns into the nice guy ;P

answersbymarie · Answer

For me, I don't want a drugged up loser, either. You abuse substances and that's it. It's okay for occasional recreational use, I mean, a lot of us do it, but once it's become a huge part of your life, or God-forbid, it controls your life--you're done.

The thing that attracts girls to "bad" guys is the prospect of danger.

Danger is hot. Danger is exciting.

downtowngirl · Answer

It's simple really, girls like bad boys and women like nice men. When you're young your dumb, the older you get the more you get 'it'. Be who you are and remember everyone looks good in confidence.

invisiblewun · Answer

i can tell you right now, I'm considered one of the 'good girls' and I actually am desperately looking for a good nice guy... I can't seem to find one.

it seems all the nice guys go for all the bitchy girls.

it just feels like lose/lose situation.

crisscrissify · Answer

whose the girl? hey, don't beat yourself up. girls want a guy to take charge and to follow too. we just want some balance.mysetery is a huge deal.even if you don't have a secret or mystery about you girls will want you if they think you do. I think what a girl wants most is someone to be there and someone to listen to the important stuff.if you can add in some laughs that won't hurt anything either. there's nothing special about a "bad boy". they just know what a girl wants and know how to get what they want from that. girls want them bcuz they think that the guy cares and while they're w the guy the "bad boy" fills their needs and desires. but it's only skin deep.keep being a great guy and you'll find a great girl. don't pretend to be something that you're not.

yokosrei · Answer

I'm guilty of that to a point. I agree with seregiel that it's the urge to improve someone. It also doesn't help when friends are also saying that you're good for the guy and you're going to help him follow a straight path that he should follow on his own.  I really don't know any other reason beyond that. But there are also VERY few "bad" boys that become exceptions to the assumption that they treat their girlfriends like crap. But those guys did have to mature.

Reeses-pieces777 · Answer

i met a bad boy as my first bf. hugest mistake I ever made. I believe in karma and I think he's paying for what he did to me slowly and everyday because he can't get with a girl for a real relationship. I want to be with a good guy but have't met any yet

Michael_Wang · Answer

I think the girls want a bad boy mainly because of the sexual thrill. Like they're being naughty or bad. And the most part they look at the 'bad boys' because they're usually 'hot'. Humans look at the way you look, mentally or not, because if they're good looking they usually have good genetics and will give their offspring good genes.

Don't worry man, girls usually end up with guys like you.

RibRobz3 · Answer

i feel ya but , but try diff approaches. but yes I would also like to know why I got  hurt  because I wasn't bad enough too, but what do girls get out of bein with a di^k besides gettin hurt? my cuzin is a a$shole to girls and he gets them left and right. I dongt get it.

emzy-89 · Answer

i can seriously say that I don't want a bad guy. I tend to like the more rugged rebellious look in a guy, mainly because that's the kind of guy I'm friends with but I like guys that have morals and values and a good heart. I think this is partly to do with the fact that I was raised catholic with my own morals and values and I want someone the same. but yes good guys are a ok in my books

just926 · Answer

It's kind of the way guys see girls as slutty vs. girlfriend material. A girl wants to have fun with a bad boy the same way a guy wants to have fun with a promiscuous girl. But in the end, when we settle down we want what's good and real.

Anonymous · Answer

Most girls that go for bad boys aren't really romantic, so they aren't expecting anything big. they just love the thrill that they can get out of them, never knowing what will happen next with them.

i on the other hand avoid the bad boys. they all play us girls and they end up wasting our time. I love the shy guys, that once you get close enough to them you realize how great they are.

Anonymous · Answer

TOUGHEN UP!

nice guys ALWAYS finish last.

Be nice and be frisky and obnoxious.

love it when guys be rude to me, because then I'm a total bitch right back at them. and guys don't like it when girls are mad so they get over it.

Ever watch romantic comedies like "My Best Friends Girl" like HELLO the douche bag totallllllly scored her. and the nice guy got sloppy seconds.

Anonymous · Answer

I agree with the first answer. The drugged up losers just seem to be the only ones with confidence (which is screwed up because why be confident about that)

The trouble with admitting that you want a nice guys is that they'll surprise you when they break your hearts.

If you fool around with a bad guys (jocks are my weakness) then in the bottom of your heart you know they'll mess you about and can keep it more superficial.

Thie thing with admitting you want a nice guys is that you let your guard down to find them. Do that and you're vulnerable. Let the wrong 'nice guy' in and when it goes south it'll really break your heart

Anonymous · Answer

I can't spreak for other girls but I'm not really attracted to bad boys. I like my bfs nice and respectful, I don't like how many bad boys act, their actions are a major turn off. . I men yes a bad boy can be hot, but it doesn't turn me on like it does some of my friends. Don't worry about being a nice guy because you will meet a girl one day who wants a nice guy.

moonlight223 · Answer

Depends on the girl, I perfer a gentlemen, I know some of my friend like bad boys because you never know what's going to happen with them it exictes them, and don't look for love it just makes it seem longer, let love find you

Anonymous · Answer

The bad guys are good at manipulating too and are sometimes deceitful...so unfortunately sometimes the girl gets charmed by this fool and before she knows what she's gotten into she is ready to get out. BUT there is a saying that you never know how good your man is until you've had a really bad one. So eventually when she does find her good guy, she will appreciate him that much more.

grnpari · Answer

I don't know about OTHER girls, but nice guys who are at least cute TURN ME ON  ahhhhhh I need to find one...I'm watching out for the shy one's that I'm attracted to :)

Scandal · Answer

Because all bad boys are mysterious and fun, there is always a hint of danger around them, and its thrilling really...and also I think we see these bad guys as the "dark nights" they are troubled/broken and we want to save them and care for them. lol

lled11 · Answer

Seriously I don't get them either. Ladies read this...     You never see a guy dump a girl or not become interested in her just because she was too "nice."  Think about it!

KoiaVette · Answer

Sane grown up women want a man with intensity and passion who is assertive about what he wants. Not necessarily a "bad boy".  Plus a little mischief is fun : ) unfortunately some disturbed chicks take it too far because of their own personal issues and end up fostering crazy abusive relationships with douchebags.

Anonymous · Answer

cuz bad boys do me good in bed that's all...theres nothing about them that is appealing but that..this girls who fall for this guys are the same type..so if you don't think you are the same type of guy don't stay with this peole for god sake..

chloeroxsmiledream · Answer

Do you really think that's wut a bad boi iz? but you are rite bad bois do not show reespect or be very kind. I would know I've dated a bad boi but they stick up 4 you but I would rather have a guy to respect me (not asking you out) and be sweet  but we date them to look cool I guess well you gotta be yourself.

BirthdayGirl · Answer

Well...urm...I just love the mysteriousness, I guess...and the way they don't say much...it just makes you wonder...But anyhoo, I really just want a guy that acts all bad boyish but on the inside, they are really sweet and wouldn't do anything to hurt anyone...

rg727 · Answer

I am attracted to a bad boy look but I don't want all the BS comes with it. If I had a nice guy that looked the edgy part I'd be a happy camper. I don't think a bad boy has to be a drugged up loser.. that's just a druggie.

is444 · Answer

cause bad boys are sexy, so sexy i dnk its just our nature to feel attracted to bad dudes

lovefaithful · Answer

for me it was to be rebellious and p*ss off my parents.

hugytd · Answer

it's not always like that. and not all guys on drugs are bad. don't be judgemental. don't be such a stick in the mud and maybe girls will like you.

Ollie · Answer

Reverse that

kellylizzz · Answer

I think most girls date "bad boys" because they may have a few good qualities and they feel like they can be the ones to change them. That , of course, is a completely misguided approach, because it won't ever work, but many seem to think it will.

Titi18 · Answer

wtff! so not true. I hate ThE Bad Boy Type. such a turn off too.

dwiller943 · Answer

We don't WANT them. They just happen to be the ONLY ones WANTING to be with us.

Vaticka · Answer

they always seem nice at first, and they tend to approach me

Anonymous · Answer

idk all ds bitches want dem kinda niggaz all I know iz that ma nigga iz hella bad and smokes weed bt point black durs more den what you c jusss cus you dnt c every side they might bkuz people say I'm stupd 4 going out wit hym and he juss going break ma heart bt we bein going out 4 3yrs so all bad guyz aren't all bad

obscene · Answer

well you've answered your own question you know what to do DO IT! sorry, dogg

TalerWackyy · Answer

Bad boys know how to attract girls. and the girls who can't stand to be single go after the bad boys because it takes a while for a nice guy to ask a girl out.

socalgamehater2006 · Answer

because unfortuneately, women love being submissive to men

butterflybites · Answer

They have really big d*&ks. *ahem* I mean they're mysterious and interesting.

Anonymous · Answer

my ex is a bad boy and I am going to kill him one day.

Anonymous · Answer

Young girls mistake "badness" with strength. Their evolutionary imperative is to mate with the strongest male they can. When they get older, they get more sensible.

Anonymous · Answer

i like men who are mean to everyone else but are super nice to only me. hahah

pezzonovante88 · Answer

You're preaching to the choir, my friend.  It baffles me.

Anonymous · Answer

sometimesu just wanna have fun. . . n good boys don't do that n normally bad boys are deckedout and hottt

Anonymous · Answer

because! there's just something cool &thrilling about a bad boy.. nice guys can sometimes be boring.. I mean its nice to have a 'nice' guy there but its nothing really worth chasing for..

scotpet11 · Answer

Join the club dude.  I know exactly how you feel

immamust13 · Answer

So we can transform them into good guys. Duh.

FunnylikeSunny · Answer

cause they make me so wet. they just do man lol

emble · Answer

I agree with malindaisme and thegiver13

trod199 · Answer

WHOS BAD!

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