This is kind of a weird situation I'm in and I would like some advice in how to handle it please. My guy and I have been dating about 2.5 years now we are both in our mid twenties and we live together in a cute little apartment. Every time we go to his mom's for dinner which is just about every Sunday and I happen to mention to her a new food I'm going to they to cook for Ben or something like that the next time we are over she has the same exact food I was describing prepared. Or like on his day I was making conversation with his mom when he left for a fire call and I was trying to bond with her and I mentioned that I was going to make him a bday cake this year since I never done it before. Low and behold when we go over for his bday she has the same friggin type of cake to a T prepared. She did the same thinf last year with Christmas gifts I mentioned I was going to get him a nice new wallet and then well you guessed it she went out and bought it for him. I think she is a little jealous that I am starting to become to main women in his life and Im aware I probably sound paranoid and crazy when I say that to you guys. I swear though its just about every time I mention something I'm going to do for him or buy for him that this happens. I know that the easy solution is to stop telling her but I don't want it to have to come down to that because she is really sweet in all other areas. Obviously my bf is definitely a topic that we both have in common Lol because we both love him equally. Differently obviously but equally. What do I do? I feel like I'm going to hold back my resentment so long that one day I may explode and I will end up saying something I regret.
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Yep, I hear you there. His mom is totally jealous and probably somewhat threatened that you are taking away "her baby". She has been his primary care giver since he was born and some moms just have a hard time passing the torch. She is doing everything and anything she can to make sure she still feels significant, important and needed. She is trying to out-do what you do like it is some kind of competition. By her actions she is basically saying that she feels like her son doesn't need her anymore. The thing to do here is to continue to reassure her that she is certainly loved and needed just as much. I would say if your planning to do something special or get something special for your bf to just keep that to yourself. At the same time you both still need to keep up appearances that she is still important and needed in your life. Spending time and talking to her is great. Ask her for advice, help, cooking recipes. You two can certainly bond. It doesn't have to be a competition. Let her feel like she is genuinely helping. Let her have her moments, and you have yours, but separately to avoid hurt feelings.0