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I don't mind more sensitive guys. I actually prefer more sensitive guys. And I don't mind being the more dominant one, I don't want to be dominant all the time but I would want to be more dominant
Really? Most girls say they're submissive.
What kind of dominance do you like?
I'm not super dominant or anything, but I can be more dominant if I have to.
So you just mean making more of the decisions?
Yeah, I guess just being more of the guide. Also acknowledging important things to talk about and things like that.
That's cool. I think women like that are extremely sexy. XD
Thank you, I think dominant women are sexy too!
Pity there aren't more of you.
I know, I feel like there are more dominant women out there but they assume guys want some very submissive naive girl, so they act differently
Not me. Strong and confident women make me weak at the knees. XD
That's cute, and is a good thing. Women's housing be afraid to feel strong
I means shouldn't not housing
Exactly. I love women who embrace their strength.
I live when women show strength and men show nurturing
I hope I find a woman like you. :)
Awe thank you, I hope you find a dominant woman too
I'd like to say no.
But yes.
You don't need to act like you don't want a relationship. You do need to beleive you're only willing to put a lot in if you're getting a lot back. You need to stick up for yourself.
You don't need to have casual sex. But if suggest if no girls want to have casual sex with you, you're not ready to be in a relationship.
What do you mean by your last sentence? I don't understand it.
Well they need to feel like you'll be able to protect them, but personally, I like it when a guy is sensitive. Also, I don't like it when they play hard to get because I feel rejected. I'm super shy so I'd give up.
How do you mean protect? I wouldn't stand by if she's in danger but I'm not a trained soldier either. Besides, is that not what the police are for? :P
@Canterbury_Bellz I'm kind of like you then. Sensitive myself, really not sure about myself when talking to girls especially if they play hard to get/push me away. Really hurts. v_v
See so we exist. :)
I'm the same as both of you tbh.
Do don't be worried. You'll find someone
You are perfect. Stay the way you are. Being dominant won't make her sad rather guys who are dominating physically are major turn on. Am not talking about S and M. Just occasionally grab her wrist and kiss her senselessly, push her up against the wall, playful wrestling etc are good.
You got the qualities I dream my husband would possess.
That I can do. :)
I would just find it hard to let a girlfriend down or not focus on their happiness. I can not be a doormat but I would put her needs before my own. That to me (plus the shy thing) seems to mean that I'm not dominant enough to be attractive.
You do make a good husband.
Marry me already.
So you don't think I'm too weak or feminine?
Naa you are perfect. Many girls are going to be jealous of your girlfriend.
If you are so worried try working on your body. Join gym if that's not a problem. You don't need to get bulky just defined lean muscles. Get yourself in shape.
I don't actually worry about being physically weak it's more about being strong ito personality.
Guys here often say you need to dominate a girl for her to respect you.
I'm worried about treating her too well.
Not that I could stop doing it. It's more instinct and who I am.
You need to respect a girl for her to respect you.
You are just too good. Don't let girls use you. Sometimes being too good can be a downfall.
Am not advising you to turn into a crook but set your limits.
Be as good as you want with your girl but put a limit on how good you should be with every other girl.
What's your age btw?
Good advice.
I'm 21.
Why do you ask?
Hey don't worry.
So you haven't confessed your feelings to her, am I right?
I'm talking about girls in general. I've never had a girlfriend or never even been kissed so I don't really know much about girls.
I've never really approached a girl or 'confessed my feelings'.
Is there some girl you like whom you are so worried about?
If you wanna tell. Hope am not getting to personal.
Too*
It's no problem :)
As I said, I really want to fall in love and get married but I do worry if girls would even like me. If not, my dreams will be next to impossible. Unless I act different.
Don't worry. As I said you are perfect and dream man of many girls including me.
All girls want a guy who's hard on the outside and soft inside. You said you are physically strong right, so you're a trophy husband.
I'm not ripped or very strong. I'm actually a little skinny but I'm fit enough. I'm thinking of getting involved in my local rugby team which would definitely keep me fit lol
Thanks. :)
That's great. Now don't worry be happy.
Questions like these reek of bullshit. It's honestly really simple. Be your own man while treating your woman right. You can be a gentle man and still protect your lady. She has to feel safe around you and the only way that will happen is if she wants to be around you in the first place. Stop with these pitiful posts about being shy and bitching about what it means to be a "man". You don't have to be some rude dick head to be considered manly or masculine.
Regarding the end of your post, be who you are. How long do you expect to keep up your facade should you actually trick the girl into falling for you?
If you are yourself then there's no facade to maintain. The second you stop being yourself is when you project a facade.
Act cool but composed. Be funny and witty, they love that shit
Funny and witty I can do. Cool might be trickier but I'll try and get the hang of it. XD
Thanks.
Don't change who you are for any girl. Society has left a negative impact on men by telling them they cannot be sensitive or emotional- I'm hear to tell you they can. And I am sure some girl will love you for yourself! Personally, I am not sensitive, and consider myself strong, confident, and powerful and also look for those traits in a man, I want to be equally as dominant. But that's my own personal preference.
nope i find sweet , cute and funny guys really attractive even more attractive than masculine men <3
Girls often tell me I'm sweet, cute and funny and I make all the girls I speak to laugh often so I'd say that applies to me.
Do you really rhink girls wouldn't get bored of me and would be attracted to me?
hell no a guy with such descriptions is a guy to fight for that is prince charming
Really? Thanks. :)
I've never thought of myself as a guy worth fighting over.
hahahahah no problem :)
I personally love sensitive guys and wish they were easier to find.
Well I'm not very social and I've never really approached a girl. :/
To be truthful to you bud some times your shooting yourself in the foot an then other times your walking on egg shells to please the girl because you dont want to hurt her feelings
For me Guys dont need to act , they just need to be themselves :)
I wish that were true but still, as I said to sammy_31, it must be better to pretend a little than be myself and alone for most of my life.
As the male Anon said below, "Keep it up and you'll die old and alone."
well for all girls it doesn't go that way but for me yeah it does, id rather be with a guy that is himself cause if he acts as someone else itll probs make me act different too :)
I hope you're right. I'm kinda used to pretending to make me people like me.
i hope i am too ahhaha :)
isn't it safer and easier to just be yourself cause what happens if one day you get sick of it and you want to just be yourself and not act like someone else just to impress someone? won't that cause so much trouble also
It just feels safer for some reason.
I am a little odd. :/
aye fair enough , everyones different its all g :) goodluck to you :)
Thanks. I know I shouldn't act. Hopefully I'll find a girl who sees me and loves me for who I am.
itll take time to find her , but you'll get her :)
Nah, but you've gotta stick up for yourself and set clear and healthy boundaries. Only accept good treatment and assertively communicate your needs.
I can do that. But I like to help others, especially if I'm close to them. I would get happiness and pleasure from pleasing a girlfriend. I only need a few things like appreciation, respect and her really talking to me and wanting me to be happy. But I don't really need her to do things for me in bed, or dote on me or anything like that
Appreciation, verbal kindness, support and respect sound like good foundations.
I look to relationships more for emotional support and connection. Ito who actually does more, I quite like the idea of pampering a girl.
Aww, you are sweet, for that reason alone, girls will love you already. What really matter is being in yourself not pretending to be someone else.
No, they seem to like nice emotional guys who look tough/rugged/bad.
Nah, girls like it when you're girlier than they are. Just kidding! :p Don't take it so seriously, everyone.
You sound great as long as don't let yourself become a doormat for girls!
What's the line between being nice and being a doormat?
too nice and u'll be taken advantage of
@Keyspirits I know that but what's the difference between being taking advantage of and being a good bf?
it all comes in hand to hand. them cuties will eventually take ur luv for granted and if u treat them and be too nice to them, they will get bored. being nice and u will get taken advantage of no matter what so u gotta balance out both mean and nice side. dont let'em step over u.
I'm not really into manly men. They turn me off.
Really? So sweet guys are better for you?
Yeah, definitely.
Do sweet guys actually turn you on though? I'm sure they'd seem like bettter bfs but are they genuinely attractive to you?
I wouldn't date a guy if I wasn't attracted to them. The whole "macho man" thing is irritating and I can't stand men like that. Sweet, sensitive guys are where it's at.
Thanks. I've always thought that I'd come second to those guys in most girl's minds. I'm kinda surprised that you'd find sweet guys MORE attractive.
I hate the patriarchal propaganda advertizing cold emotionally detached sociopathic confident dominant masculine guys.
Depends on the girl.
Obviously but I was kinda hoping on learning the balance. Like do the majority of girls prefer macho guys or is it 50 50. That kind of thing.
You're right, but "depends on the girl/guy" is also the 'right' answer for half of the questions on this site.
Haha ok, I'd assume for the most part yes. women tend to be attracted to masculine men, although currently women appear to be becoming attracted to more effeminate men. Hairless emotional etc
Only feminists girls hate manly men
Basically you're saying only intelligent people hate manly men? Well that's not true. I don't hate them, despite the fact I believe in fighting for women's right, I just find them unattractive. Good luck with your love life being, spit on and beaten and whatever masochistic stuff you seem to enjoy?
Right, @Maosource, because every guy is either a woman with a penis and facial hair, or some cave man who goes upside his woman's head. You're right those are the only two options.
wth albrandy? My message had nothing to do with males at all, I wasn't saying anything derogatory about them? Stop being a little pissy malenazi. I was saying what I did because this girl stated she doesn't mind not having any rights, it has nothing to do with guys being one thing or the other.
And little girl, sweetie, I assume you're about 14, as that was what you talk like: Not everyone in the world is American, I, for one, am not. So maybe get your narrowminded face out of your ass and notice the world surrounding you ^^ and just because you're being a slut, electing for president or whatever, doesn't mean all girls are.
I would never want a girl has a president
The sexism is real. I'm just gonna assume you're a guy, trolling and prettending to be a girl to annoy people :)
You think I'm trolling just because I don't like feminist?
STFU