I was in a physically/mentally abusive relationship for two years, choked until I would lose consciousness and he would laugh at me, slapped me, hit me until the point of bruises..
I recently left him in August, and met a man a few weeks later, we exchanged numbers, talked.. Fell for each other and started hanging out, he had seen my bruises and asked for my story, so I told him. We were "exclusive" through September, because I wasn't ready to date yet, I told him physically my ex was out of my life but mentally I was still damaged, I did not want to have sex and I would flinch every time a hand was even raised just to touch my cheek.. Mid October I went back to my ex, he had asked to see me to "talk" and ended up turning me around and we had sex, I did not say yes, I just kind of let it happen.. Because every time I would say no to him he would scream at me, or get mad at me.. And I didn't want him to be mad with me.. I told the guy I was seeing the day after what had happened, and he broke down and cried, I asked him if he wanted me to leave he said no, He told me he loved me, and even though it's going to be hard this is what he wanted, me. So we did, two months passed I couldn't tell him I loved him back, I felt disgusted with what I had done, we went to concerts, hockey games, dinners after that happened.. I went on vacation in December and came back the 26th, we emailed everyday... on the 28th he told me "I am in awe with how amazing things are" we made love the 29th.. spent new years together, January 1st he drove me home after I slept over after I waited for him to finish work and pick me up from a friends ( I left the bar he worked at because he only finished at 6 am), I spent all day with him, he said he had a "vivid nightmare" about my ex, drove me home and broke up with me.. January 15th he's dating someone he's been talking too since the 26th, which he denied having any interest in when we first broke up..
I recently left him in August, and met a man a few weeks later, we exchanged numbers, talked.. Fell for each other and started hanging out, he had seen my bruises and asked for my story, so I told him. We were "exclusive" through September, because I wasn't ready to date yet, I told him physically my ex was out of my life but mentally I was still damaged, I did not want to have sex and I would flinch every time a hand was even raised just to touch my cheek.. Mid October I went back to my ex, he had asked to see me to "talk" and ended up turning me around and we had sex, I did not say yes, I just kind of let it happen.. Because every time I would say no to him he would scream at me, or get mad at me.. And I didn't want him to be mad with me.. I told the guy I was seeing the day after what had happened, and he broke down and cried, I asked him if he wanted me to leave he said no, He told me he loved me, and even though it's going to be hard this is what he wanted, me. So we did, two months passed I couldn't tell him I loved him back, I felt disgusted with what I had done, we went to concerts, hockey games, dinners after that happened.. I went on vacation in December and came back the 26th, we emailed everyday... on the 28th he told me "I am in awe with how amazing things are" we made love the 29th.. spent new years together, January 1st he drove me home after I slept over after I waited for him to finish work and pick me up from a friends ( I left the bar he worked at because he only finished at 6 am), I spent all day with him, he said he had a "vivid nightmare" about my ex, drove me home and broke up with me.. January 15th he's dating someone he's been talking too since the 26th, which he denied having any interest in when we first broke up..
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Throughout January I cried to him, he picked me up a few times to talk and I told him again, how it was an abusive relationship.. those aren't things you just come out of completely okay, I was scared he would hurt me again, I didn't even say yes to him, I just went by what I had always known.. and that I loved him and I was sorry I didn't say it earlier but I just couldn't, I was scared, and he replied with "if you would of said all of that sooner it would of made a difference"
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After the break up he texted me every day, saying he was still thinking about us, continuously asking me how I was, promised me he would always be here for me and once they started dating he hasn't talked to me once..
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