Is there any hope for ugly guys? (Page 3)

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As an ugly, shy, social phobic, socially awkward guy I cannot help but ponder the idea that I will be alone for a LONG time.I realize that I'm ugly due to several spiteful statements from my former classmates. I've been called ugly, retard, and pizza face (I have a terrible skin condition). I realize I do sound bitter, and, quite frankly, I am. I'm angry over the fact that people my age can be so shallow that they automatically reject me just because I am different. I'm ugly, quirky, weird but I'm still a f***ing person. Wouldn't you be bitter if you haven't had a friend since 7th grade?And here I stand, age 19 still haven't gone on a date, still haven't been kissed, still have my virginity (Which I do not consider precious. In fact I've contemplated paying off a hooker for a long time), and I'm slipping deeper and deeper into misanthropy. I want to like people, I really do, but they have to accept me first because I accept them! I'm nice, cooperative, and amiable when given the chance to voice my opinion (which is rare, I lack the assertiveness to speak up most of the time).I know this question just reeks of self pity...because that's exactly what I'm doing. Typically I bottle up my feelings and just don't let my pessimism affect me. Lately, however, my loneliness has triggered a series of pity party antics on my own part which I am NOT proud of. I WANT to have confidence, I WANT to be assertive. I'd love to fall in love with the girl of my dreams.At this point, sex is not a necessity. I'd be MORE THAN satisfied with just your basic snuggle sessions, etc. I yearn to feel the warmth of a girl's figure against mine while cuddling up together under the sheets watching a movie. Sigh...I'm a helpless romantic. =/And if you are wondering what I look like, well I'd rather not supply a picture. Just imagine a fat, acne infested, gross looking, greasy, long haired guy. There. Satisfied? Lol.

Anonymous · Answer

The society we live in has been hurtful a long time.  I'm a male, overweight, VERY intelligent in tech areas, age 46 and have never had sex (I refuse to pay for it).  Girls are not attracted to me.  Girls first look at the body and then any obvious personality that shows up first.  After passing muster there, then one has a chance.  I've already decided the claim that there is someone for everyone is garbage.  You can't wait that long, you have to go out and get the girl and dump the ones not for you.  The other way doesn't work.  I'm living proof.  Me, I've already decided that if I am still a virgin at age 50, I will kill myself.  I'm a male but totally worthless to this society apparently.  Good friends?  Many.  But I can take just so much invalidation of me as a male and I'm pretty sick of it.

Beilie · Answer

Sounds to me like you have to accept your self first. People are attracted to nice and happy people and sounds to me like you have really good values. I can't say I know a lot of guys who aren't reaching into a girls pants asap. Just do you for a while. You need to find yourself so that when you do find that special someone you don't lose your self again.

spectra79 · Answer

just be yourself :) but also try to make an effort to be a better person than what you are right now. if you feel good about yourself, people will see it, how you shine from other good looking guys.

undercut12 · Answer

OK, First Off. lose the negative aptitude. You will never get a girl that way. I have one suggestion tell the girls  "I have a HUGE penis" OK just kidding, don't do that. but... do you know what goes a long way? Laughter. if you can make a girl laugh. you have it in the bag. I don't care what you look like. girls like the funny guy.  As long as your not gross. get cleaned up and be funny!

EddyMetal · Answer

I'll be in your situation in about 2~3 years. I can't f*cking wait -_- Be a pal and let me know when you find a way to get out of this rut.

sonic241928 · Answer

Keep doing the exercise bud.  I relate to everything you've written in your question.  Keep up the good work.

896867 · Answer

well things sound rough now i just want to say i love long hair men and weight doesn't matter to me also i have acne scars and bumps
confidence in a person makes them sexy
fuck what others say there just trying to break your spirit😎

WovenEclipse · Answer

No body is ugly! You will find someone! >< YOU WILL! WHEN YOU LEAST EXPECT IT SOMEONE WILL COME ALONG WHO IS JUST RIGHT FOR YOU, AND YOU WILL BE JUST RIGHT FOR THEM! ^_^ Think positive!

ThirtyThree · Answer

Misanthropy is a dangerous and negative approach to life. You need to find faith in yourself!

Anonymous · Answer

A guy like you should start playing WoW.  I've heard of guys meeting chicks on there.  If that doesn't work try D&D.  Also I really think that bathing is really important if you are trying to get girls.

cacapisu · Answer

find something to believe in, hobby sport etc...   don't think about girls so much  and they will start thinking about you. Focus all your negativity and sadness on a different thing, the rest will come...

bookie19 · Answer

i really agree with the fact that people today just judge you on what you look like and it's bullsh*t. I spent my life being judged beacuse I was fat, and when I lost weight people started to treat me better and it made me mad as hell.

the thing is, you are a special guy, just because your ugly doesn't mean you won't find love, it might just make it harder. it sucks but you just have to have faith, faith that it will all wokr out. I guess that's all any of us can have really just fatith

cut_up_story · Answer

well not with that attitude. ugly guys get laid all the time, the key is confidence. get some of that and you'll be getting some in no time

alemarie · Answer

yeah there's hope... don't worry there's going 2 b girls that will like u!but is like I always say, it depends on the girl!

oxidizer235 · Answer

success is the best revenge... take it from those who have been there... HS is just that... HS... and the stars of HS... peak too soon, and generally do nothing with their lives after HS...

gunner28 · Answer

Trust me man you can get laid, you just have to go to the right places.  I know a lot of girls can be bitches about looks when they them selfs aren't that pretty. There is a lid for every pot and a lot to try on  ;).  And if you're just lookin to get laid then don't set your standerds high, cause it's all pink inside. But don't let  yourself get down and there's always tomorrow.  I wish you the best and good luck

emilyisme · Answer

someone out there will think you're hot, but you sound like you aren't really looking. you have one set outlook about yourself and you aren't being flexible. go to new places, talk to new people. if you limit yourself you'll never find her

senio · Answer

well I got a girlfriend so there's always hope man! just stay positive? don't try to hard, just be yourself you'll find someone? or someone will find you?

AliceJMP21 · Answer

Please do me a favor, for me please, stop thinking ill of yourself. Its like my mom says, if you don't like yourself, change yourself. Try exercising, or visiting your dermatologist. And don't worry about girls. Just stay sweet,kind, & passionate. I'm 18, & I like this boy in my hr whos not the skinniest, or hottest guy. In fact, most girls don't like him, but I do. stay positive, & I know people can be evil and cruel, but never lose sight of who you really are.  I hope everything works out :)

motocat · Answer

Really - you know the answer.  Just make a lot of money -- and you can get the woman of your dreams.  Yes, sadly, it is that simple.

Enideqa · Answer

Nice, I really hope that you can keep up the possitive attitude, it really does go a long way, there is hope for everyone.

nessbess1 · Answer

i don't date guys for looks, i never have. Because i'd rather have a "ugly" loyal, kind man, than a hot cheater. so yes, there is hope.

jbowy4 · Answer

What one person thinks is ugly, another thinks is hot! There is no such thing as "ugly guys", because no matter how ugly you think you are, someone somewhere will find you attractive.

rocknroll3333333 · Answer

If you want to impress people, make yourself into the guy that everybody wants, personality wilds. Make edward cullen your medium. See, I'm not one of those vampire obsessed freaks, but a man that is mysterious and intriguing totally catches my eye. You don't even have to be gorgeous to do it. and about the greasy hair, just wash it better, you can do that.

Littletad · Answer

There are tons of women out there who love a face only a mother could love. You'll just have to keep searching.

kellybelly88 · Answer

No ones going to love you unless you love yourself first. And your the only person that can make you happy. People can always dissapoint you, I'm not saying they always will but at the end of the day its up to you to make yourself happy

jkjk123 · Answer

as long as you have a fat wallet, girls will not care whether you are balding or fat or physically deficient in any area.

alaric · Answer

GO FOR A MAKEOVER DUDE. Have you watch the show? The swan, beauty and the geek. Amazing how a hair cut and wardrobe makeover changes things

jacquesvol · Answer

'Ugly guys' are the last resource of 'ugly' girls. Once you get really close to the 'ugly girls' you'll find that they're not really ugly: they're just thinking that.

katiedid · Answer

if you think your hot you will be hot...fat cheerleaders for example

midnight223 · Answer

First girls were paranoid as hell about guys, looks and confidence, now guys are...What has this world come to!?

Deathecutioner · Answer

NAh dude, us uglies are f#cked And not in the good way : P -Deathecutioner

Anonymous · Answer

Hmmm...

There's another alternative. Stay on the internets and be as depressed as you are.

Just follow the best advice, and you'll be fine. Sorry I couldn't help you, because I'm in the same situation as you.

phoenix69 · Answer

question- would you go out with a female version of yourself?

BlackSuperman · Answer

look at Flavor Flav... if he can get chicks, anybody can...

DemsBones · Answer

get some of that proactive stuff and exercise constantly, that should clear up most of the self confidence and skin issues. take some martial arts

Marrryyyyy · Answer

no such thing as ugly, just doesn't put in effort in his appearance

zemushy · Answer

I knew the king of the nerd, ugly, and gamer groups. If he could get girls to like him, you can.

Anonymous · Answer

I have dated guys other people have found unattractive, I'm sure you are not a hopeless case if you are willing to exercise.

Anonymous · Answer

Sometime I feel what you feel but in a different way. And exercising does help with anger it does for me.

Anonymous · Answer

I had terrible acne too. but some how I found some people who actually saw through my extirrior and got to know them through interests. Just join some clubs or activities and ur sure to meet some one

MaxAsian9 · Answer

if she knows you well, looks don't really matter.. if looks matter, everyone would get a plastic surgery hoping to look like their fav celeb

coolmaaz · Answer

yes...be good...girls like good heart not good face...!

Just-A-Random-Guy · Answer

Grow a beard and you'll be manly.

MissConfused93 · Answer

Of course there's hope for ugly, fat, greasy guys. That's why god made fat, ugly, greasy girls. =)

AliceR89 · Answer

You say you're fat, have acne, and long hair. You can very easily wash your face, exercise more, eat a better diet, and cut your hair. It'll help your self-confidence.

mattkevin1991 · Answer

I feel for ya dude, I know how it feels... but think positive! :D

ashgrovian91 · Answer

its like my mother always said to me, don't have faith in god or jesus.. they won't help you, but have faith in people

shyguy94 · Answer

i know how you feel. you want to just walk to agilr and be ll confident but you can't you should try with girls that already know you.

Anonymous · Answer

There is hope. Most ugly guys I was with had big d***s. So it made up for there appearance then if you go out and spend a little money on yourself you will feel 10 times better buy your self a 50 dollar pair of socks your worth it.

Anonymous · Answer

to be honest, I generally don't like the guys most girls find to be "attractive".  the ones who are, tend to be arrogant jerks.

LisaMarieCarter · Answer

zombieland should cheer you up :)

twiggebitch · Answer

UGLY GUYS NEED LOVE TOO! ULL FIND URZ!

rocksongwriter · Answer

Read "How Successful People Win" by Ben Stein

pman24 · Answer

If you got money then yeah.

Sexy-Senior-09 · Answer

Girls are shallow//

lexiloo718 · Answer

nope... sorry just go for an ugly girl

Anonymous · Answer

I don't is there any hope for ugly girls?

quadraticmodel · Answer

Liquor

Anonymous · Answer

Why not. It doesn't matter if you are ugly.

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