So you say your ugly, face full of acne , out of shape.and have no idea how to present yourself in a social situation and you have been mocked , ridiculed and laughed at.
First of all. Where are your parents in this? Are they trying to assist you in being sucessful?
Now, let's get rid of lust and get that off the table. Let's exercise a way to develop a plan. Ok?
Now you say your ugly? What do we do with this? First , I would ask my parents if they health insurance , and if so , I would see a Dermatolgist for my skin ailments..
Secondly , if you work after school. I would suggest a gym that offers PERSONAL TRAINERS. Now I live in South Beach ( Miami) and what I see down here pertaining to what women like is more of a Mesomorphic type frame. Real simple : A boxers physique. This is easily more attainable. And since you probably don't know how the exercises go , trainer can and will kick you into too gear and kick your ads into shape. Plus heal you with nutrition to help develop your muscle size and defination..
Next. While going to your Dermatolgist and working out and putting the " Plan into action" . I would suggest picking up GQ Mag and look at the new fashion trends ; take a walk through your local mall on a Saturday afternoon and window shop ; look at the guys to , and see what styles their wearing and as as haircuts well. Go to Macys , Dillard's and check out the colonge counter. Learn how to wear the stuff properly.
TEETH.. Yellow? Green? Need to get them white. Again use your parents medical plan and get them chicklets right. Lol. Use mouthwash !
Most importantly , seek out guys who know how to pick up girls. Yes it going to be hell in the beginning and yes get ready for rejection. Going to happen ! But with these guys you will learn how to have FUN with young women..you'll learn to talk to them , joke with them , understand their body language. But most importantly have FUCKING FUN.
You just need confidence man! Do not WANT to have confidence, BE confident!
Improve on yourself, make the commitment to like lose some weight since you felt better about yourself after hitting the gym, groom yourself, the way you present yourself such as the clothing you wear, ditch the spectacles if you have one 'n' get contacts, practice talking to the mirror, get a new hairdo and experiment from people's reactions. Perhaps if you are kinda pessimistic, go sign up for some courses and enhance your skills(maybe you might want to learn how to play the guitar, or photography or tennis,etc.) so that you might not feel like you are lacking of skills or lacking of something you perceive others might think of you and stuff.
And you're not ugly, bro. No one is. Some girls might think you look like a sloppy mop, while others might think you are a fresh page, someone different from the others and attractive man! So you just need to change the attitude a little and have a little confidence, there you go, mate! n___n
I'm glad you're not just ignoring the problem and hoping it will go away. You're dealing with some really socially crippling issues. However, you're not completely without options. One is finding some way to get into a better environment. If you're from a small place, and run across the same people all the time, that kind of thing will tend to get worse, never better. Working on some qualities other than your looks will help you in that you won't have to bank on changing so much about yourself. I mean, if you're a well-thought-of professional in some field, and make decent money doing it, then looks are much less important. I've got a handful of filmmakers in mind as I write this, and I can guarantee you, they're not lonely. And just being known for what you already are... "nice, cooperative, amiable..." will help make friends, and believe it or not, sometimes those friendships lead to more in the long run. Even when they don't, they give you a better sense of who you are than you get from most people your age.
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Alright. First things first.
Improve your image; get a hair cut, try a new style (but still be you), etc.
Next, get your life in order, and what you are looking for. It was hard for me start this, but I started figuring out things in my life; what I believed in, what I liked in men, what I wanted to do in the future. Trust me, I love a guy who knows who he is. :)
You need something to boost your confidence around women. And if you think you are ugly, they are going to see that you are not confident on how you look, and its a turn off.
So once again, improve your image. :)
And as the anonymous user down there said, doctors can help with the ance spots. Than again, I pretty much agree with everything she said.
And on another note, if you are looking for a great group, and they won't reject you? A youth group is always nice. Its not to meet people, but to gain faith in what matters, Christ. I hear people talking about how they haven't had sex yet (at 17), and I just think its a little werid and disturbing. And you aren't alone when it comes to this, everyone is longing for love and to be loved. And I feel that if you start hanging out with a better group of people and growing in faith; life won't seen as bad (or people) and insults have no affect.
Matthaw, Mark, Luke and John. I don't care who you are, those are the pages of life.
Reject anyone who dares to speak anything wrong about You.
Go to the clinic and ask what You should do about Your skin.
That's Your homework to do.
I know it feels like wrong and unfair that someone can have everything without doing anything while You have to do a lot of heavy work, but You have no choice.
Also You might try to find a people who are in heavy metal or punks. They actually don't care much about looks and usually are very friendly and social.
There are a lot of hot girls in HM also and usually that they actually LIKE a long haired men :D
Good advice, although I am not the sporty type at ALL. I dislike using labels but I'm definitely on the more geeky side with a slight rocker edge (funny to imagine that eh?).
You need a determination to reach some goals and work out on Your body. Trust me - I was in Your shoes years ago. I tried a LOT of different things to change my situation and I had and still have issues with a spine. But after I found a good trainer and started to attend a gym where his all other team works out - I started to feel myself rally confident and satisfied with myself.
Seriously, at 19... now is the perfect time to transform yourself. Get your skin taken care of. Work out to up your hormones and attitude, and change your over all life styles. If you are an inward person, fast off of the things you busy yourself with to get yourself out of your box. No TV, computer, video games for like a week. You'd be surprised what a difference those things can make in your life. You seem like a deep, self aware person, and women are begging for that in men, but you need to work on your self and fix what YOU don't like before you want some one else to appreciate you.
just want to say you sound very self-aware, intelligent and funny and likeable.
ever heard of 'sexy ugly'? it's the term used for guys who are kind of ugly but that girls find sexy/appealing inspite of that, usually due to confidence, which you will get one day.
a lot of times, it requires a new situation and new people who accept and like you, that will give you more confidence and help you develop into your potential.
i think the most common way that people grow and develop is through their hobbies, esp if it includes the opposite sex.
do you have guy friends out of curiousity?
why makes you happy or excited in life as far as spare time activities?
I don't have guy friends because, even with them I'm shy! And I've also moved around a lot recently..so it's difficult to hold meaningful relationships. I find it difficult to relate to most people overall.
I know it may be hard but you need to make yourself join group activities and keep trying. you will meet people who will like you, at least people who are in the same situation!
and I think it's more important to work on having friends first. when you have that, you will feel better about yourself, confidence will be increase, otherwise you leave yourself too vulnerable in depending too much on the girl when you date (and you will!)
I honestly doubt that you are that ugly, but once you have this idea in your mind then you are stuck with it. So, you believe that you are ugly, but thankfully for you, that more females in this world feel the same way about themselves. They want the same thing that you do and think the same thing about themselves. There is someone out their for you and is feeling the same way about themselves currently. You will find her and be head-over-heels (sorry for the girl term) when you do. Your not a helpless romantic, your a hopeful romantic.
About your uglyness: Don't worry, just be patient. By the way romantic guys get the most girls at the end. Go to a dermatologist (or whatever its spelt) to see that acne problem, its very common. Work out a bit, not too much. And if you want a boost, learn to play the guitar or any other musical instrument.
and if you're feeling down, do silly things like making a evil laugh or a catchphrase or something stupid like that, adn you'll end up laugh at your own pathetic efforts, then remember that it was some random guy on the internet that told you to do it and laugh even harder. lol.
You know that 95% of people at some point get married? You have to assume that at least a percentage of those people are ugly but they still fell in love and got married. And you know about the other 5%? Well, some of those people are retarded or just don't want to get married. If someone wants to find someone, they eventually will, it's all a matter of where you look. And you may think you are ugly, but what is ugly to some people is hot to others. Believe it or not but there is someone out there that finds you attractive, you just haven't met them yet. Like for example everyone thinks the guy I like is ugly but I think he's very hot. It's all in people's opinions so don't worry.
your class mates are really mean! as for bad skin, are you eating healthily? bad skin is something you can solve-eat omega 3s, zinc and vitamin c or try a health food store product called 'perfect skin'-it works super good and I've tried it. also drink more water and work out (I also do that) and if your fat, then exercise and be more pro active instead of just complaining about it and last of all be strong and dont' be harsh on yourself. I was not hot in highschool either so I know how it feels-but I'm a totally different story now ;) you got to work on your goals and work on your personality. I jog at least 3 times a day and I eat super healthy so...yeah.
I think it's pretty simple. You gotta believe in your self. First question I got for you is are you working or going to school. Girls love ambition. Secondly, I think that if you get out more. Take the time to do more healthy activities and sincerely come up with a do-able diet. You could be on your way to bringing sexy back in no time. I think it's most important to try to forget about girls first before you can start thinking about getting one. It's really depressing to remind yourself on a daily basis that your single and lonely. Depression could be the cause for the weight and acne (Hence the lack of female attention). Try finding something to get your mind off of girls. If you can trick yourself into thinking that improving yourself is fun you'll be unstoppable. This ain't gonna be easy. You gotta kick old habits you may have been doing your whole life but once you do you won't regret it. I hope this helps buddy. Were here for you!
You want to get the girl of your dreams? Well unless she is also a "fat, acne infested, gross looking, greasy, long haired" girl, you're going to have some problems.
Think about how much you want a romantic relationship. If you want it BADLY ENOUGH, make some MAJOR changes to your life in order to get it.
1 - start walking. Walk for hours every day until you lose the excess weight. No girl will be turned on by a fat dude.
2 - CHANGE YOUR DIET. Go to the health food store, search "acne diet" on google, do whatever it takes. Try the "raw food diet". It could totally change your mood, your energy, your weight, and your complexion.
3 - think positively. You CAN get what you want from life, it will just take a lot of time, effort, and maybe a lot of pain.
Is there any hope for ugly guys? Some. But only if they have the drive and ambition to chase their dreams and change themselves for the better.
And don't just do it for "her", do it for your self.
Dude, never ever put yourself down man! There is always hope for everybody. Hell, I'm more ugly that you! And never think your alone either. What I do is exercise because it makes me feel tough, and go to work and work my butt off so I can get what I want in life. If there are some activities or events around, I go by myself.
You can join special interest groups and make friends. The only thing I can tell you is to not be Shy about anything anymore because you have nothing to lose.
Im a fairly attractive girl and I'm dating what some people call an "ugly" "chubby" etc, have been for almost a year.
I've always been told I can do better.
My boyfriend means the world to me, he's wonderful, I love him to pieces. He makes me who I am today.
Trust me, it's what's on the inside that counts, and if your partner loves you for who you are on the inside, she will love you for who you are on the outside, no matter what :)
My only advice: cut your hair if its too long, clean it up a little? haha I dunno
Also, my boyfriend is my first everything>>>>kiss, relationship, sex and I'm 19, age doesn't matter.
thats right, working out DOES make you feel better! KEEP AT IT, lose all the weight, get your hair cut nice, see a doctor about your spots, sometimes a course of antibiotics can completely cure them, and there are other treatments too. When you have lost your fat, hit the weights and start bulking up, get your diet sorted and you will begin to look ALOT better. it doesn't happen over night, it may take a year or two depending on your goals, but if you stick at it and want it bad enough, you can look however you want. When you look good you will feel good, and your confidense will rise above the rest, when you are confident, the girls will be on your arms, I PROMISE!
hey man my friends mom always told me that there's someone out there for everybody just depends on when you meet them lol but listen if you don't want to be "ugly" anymore and want to gain confidence do something about it...i used to be a little overweight and I had acne problems to man and its not the end of the world...i joined a gym lost 20 lbs packed on some lean muscle and I got treatment for my acne like proactive and now girls are coming up to me and talking to me first in some cases and my self esteem is through the roof...bottom line is if you want to be something you got to do something about it I did and I'm loving life now I still have some problem asking some girls out that I think that are out my "league" because I still look at myself like the old me but in reality I am not...if you really want to change start now man good luck ur only 19 I started at 20 and I'm 21 in one year I changed a lot so get to it maN! good luck
I know that this is going to be a long process for you but unless you learn to love yourself, nobdy can love you. That's the way it is. It is not attractive to see a person that can't even love themselves and insecurity is a really hard trait to deal with. It's not as easy as it sounds though. Like you said you can't just go "No more issues. Oh Joy!" You really need to focus on celebrating the things about yourself that you find attractive and really try and make the most of them. Looks aren't everything, honestly a person can seem very attractive with the help of a shining personality. I have fallen for a few guys that weren't traditionally attractive and that was all because of who they were on the inside.
So, can't you change how you look? It's not shallow or wrong to look your best. If you are eating unhealthy foods, you are contributing to your weight gain and skin conditions. Yes, it's easy to remember all the hurts of the past and let that rule your life, but you can start fresh right here and now. Go for walks if you don't want to join a gym. Eat more fruits and veggies than junk food. Make small changes and over time, these small changes will add up to big ones. You ask if t here is hope for the ugly? Of course! My husband is a bigger guy with not so great skin, but he's also is super sweet, nice, and has interesting hobbies. Start by being more positive and then work on the physical things that are bothering you. Best of luck and don't give up.
Give yourself some credit, because looks aren't everything, despite what disgusting remarks your classmates directed at you. Some people could REALLY care less about how someone looks, and will take a closer look at hand at who a person is. Nobody is 'helpless' unless they chose to be. Nobody has a right to put anyone down because they're different. It's a crying shame and inexcusable. Our differences from one another is what makes us unique. There is always hope, so don't give up so easily. I know it's easier said than done, but don't give up : )
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So you say your ugly, face full of acne , out of shape.and have no idea how to present yourself in a social situation and you have been mocked , ridiculed and laughed at.
First of all. Where are your parents in this? Are they trying to assist you in being sucessful?
Now, let's get rid of lust and get that off the table. Let's exercise a way to develop a plan. Ok?
Now you say your ugly? What do we do with this? First , I would ask my parents if they health insurance , and if so , I would see a Dermatolgist for my skin ailments..
Secondly , if you work after school. I would suggest a gym that offers PERSONAL TRAINERS. Now I live in South Beach ( Miami) and what I see down here pertaining to what women like is more of a Mesomorphic type frame. Real simple : A boxers physique. This is easily more attainable. And since you probably don't know how the exercises go , trainer can and will kick you into too gear and kick your ads into shape. Plus heal you with nutrition to help develop your muscle size and defination..
Next. While going to your Dermatolgist and working out and putting the " Plan into action" . I would suggest picking up GQ Mag and look at the new fashion trends ; take a walk through your local mall on a Saturday afternoon and window shop ; look at the guys to , and see what styles their wearing and as as haircuts well. Go to Macys , Dillard's and check out the colonge counter. Learn how to wear the stuff properly.
TEETH.. Yellow? Green? Need to get them white. Again use your parents medical plan and get them chicklets right. Lol. Use mouthwash !
Most importantly , seek out guys who know how to pick up girls. Yes it going to be hell in the beginning and yes get ready for rejection. Going to happen ! But with these guys you will learn how to have FUN with young women..you'll learn to talk to them , joke with them , understand their body language. But most importantly have FUCKING FUN.
You just need confidence man! Do not WANT to have confidence, BE confident!
Improve on yourself, make the commitment to like lose some weight since you felt better about yourself after hitting the gym, groom yourself, the way you present yourself such as the clothing you wear, ditch the spectacles if you have one 'n' get contacts, practice talking to the mirror, get a new hairdo and experiment from people's reactions. Perhaps if you are kinda pessimistic, go sign up for some courses and enhance your skills(maybe you might want to learn how to play the guitar, or photography or tennis,etc.) so that you might not feel like you are lacking of skills or lacking of something you perceive others might think of you and stuff.
And you're not ugly, bro. No one is. Some girls might think you look like a sloppy mop, while others might think you are a fresh page, someone different from the others and attractive man! So you just need to change the attitude a little and have a little confidence, there you go, mate! n___n
confidence is BS yes becuase its easy to be happy when a girl literary spit at me for complimenting her
I'm glad you're not just ignoring the problem and hoping it will go away. You're dealing with some really socially crippling issues. However, you're not completely without options. One is finding some way to get into a better environment. If you're from a small place, and run across the same people all the time, that kind of thing will tend to get worse, never better. Working on some qualities other than your looks will help you in that you won't have to bank on changing so much about yourself. I mean, if you're a well-thought-of professional in some field, and make decent money doing it, then looks are much less important. I've got a handful of filmmakers in mind as I write this, and I can guarantee you, they're not lonely. And just being known for what you already are... "nice, cooperative, amiable..." will help make friends, and believe it or not, sometimes those friendships lead to more in the long run. Even when they don't, they give you a better sense of who you are than you get from most people your age.
Alright. First things first.
Improve your image; get a hair cut, try a new style (but still be you), etc.
Next, get your life in order, and what you are looking for. It was hard for me start this, but I started figuring out things in my life; what I believed in, what I liked in men, what I wanted to do in the future. Trust me, I love a guy who knows who he is. :)
You need something to boost your confidence around women. And if you think you are ugly, they are going to see that you are not confident on how you look, and its a turn off.
So once again, improve your image. :)
And as the anonymous user down there said, doctors can help with the ance spots. Than again, I pretty much agree with everything she said.
And on another note, if you are looking for a great group, and they won't reject you? A youth group is always nice. Its not to meet people, but to gain faith in what matters, Christ. I hear people talking about how they haven't had sex yet (at 17), and I just think its a little werid and disturbing. And you aren't alone when it comes to this, everyone is longing for love and to be loved. And I feel that if you start hanging out with a better group of people and growing in faith; life won't seen as bad (or people) and insults have no affect.
Matthaw, Mark, Luke and John. I don't care who you are, those are the pages of life.
Go to the gym.
Find a good company to play sports.
Be picky about who You accept as Your friends.
Reject anyone who dares to speak anything wrong about You.
Go to the clinic and ask what You should do about Your skin.
That's Your homework to do.
I know it feels like wrong and unfair that someone can have everything without doing anything while You have to do a lot of heavy work, but You have no choice.
Also You might try to find a people who are in heavy metal or punks. They actually don't care much about looks and usually are very friendly and social.
There are a lot of hot girls in HM also and usually that they actually LIKE a long haired men :D
And besides that - heavy metal sounds good :)
Good advice, although I am not the sporty type at ALL. I dislike using labels but I'm definitely on the more geeky side with a slight rocker edge (funny to imagine that eh?).
Rock on :)
You need a determination to reach some goals and work out on Your body. Trust me - I was in Your shoes years ago. I tried a LOT of different things to change my situation and I had and still have issues with a spine. But after I found a good trainer and started to attend a gym where his all other team works out - I started to feel myself rally confident and satisfied with myself.
1. Sports are iffy.
2. everything else is fine.
3. Rock on.
Seriously, at 19... now is the perfect time to transform yourself. Get your skin taken care of. Work out to up your hormones and attitude, and change your over all life styles. If you are an inward person, fast off of the things you busy yourself with to get yourself out of your box. No TV, computer, video games for like a week. You'd be surprised what a difference those things can make in your life. You seem like a deep, self aware person, and women are begging for that in men, but you need to work on your self and fix what YOU don't like before you want some one else to appreciate you.
just want to say you sound very self-aware, intelligent and funny and likeable.
ever heard of 'sexy ugly'? it's the term used for guys who are kind of ugly but that girls find sexy/appealing inspite of that, usually due to confidence, which you will get one day.
a lot of times, it requires a new situation and new people who accept and like you, that will give you more confidence and help you develop into your potential.
i think the most common way that people grow and develop is through their hobbies, esp if it includes the opposite sex.
do you have guy friends out of curiousity?
why makes you happy or excited in life as far as spare time activities?
I don't have guy friends because, even with them I'm shy! And I've also moved around a lot recently..so it's difficult to hold meaningful relationships. I find it difficult to relate to most people overall.
I know it may be hard but you need to make yourself join group activities and keep trying. you will meet people who will like you, at least people who are in the same situation!
and I think it's more important to work on having friends first. when you have that, you will feel better about yourself, confidence will be increase, otherwise you leave yourself too vulnerable in depending too much on the girl when you date (and you will!)
I honestly doubt that you are that ugly, but once you have this idea in your mind then you are stuck with it. So, you believe that you are ugly, but thankfully for you, that more females in this world feel the same way about themselves. They want the same thing that you do and think the same thing about themselves. There is someone out their for you and is feeling the same way about themselves currently. You will find her and be head-over-heels (sorry for the girl term) when you do. Your not a helpless romantic, your a hopeful romantic.
About your uglyness: Don't worry, just be patient. By the way romantic guys get the most girls at the end. Go to a dermatologist (or whatever its spelt) to see that acne problem, its very common. Work out a bit, not too much. And if you want a boost, learn to play the guitar or any other musical instrument.
and if you're feeling down, do silly things like making a evil laugh or a catchphrase or something stupid like that, adn you'll end up laugh at your own pathetic efforts, then remember that it was some random guy on the internet that told you to do it and laugh even harder. lol.
You know that 95% of people at some point get married? You have to assume that at least a percentage of those people are ugly but they still fell in love and got married. And you know about the other 5%? Well, some of those people are retarded or just don't want to get married. If someone wants to find someone, they eventually will, it's all a matter of where you look. And you may think you are ugly, but what is ugly to some people is hot to others. Believe it or not but there is someone out there that finds you attractive, you just haven't met them yet. Like for example everyone thinks the guy I like is ugly but I think he's very hot. It's all in people's opinions so don't worry.
your class mates are really mean! as for bad skin, are you eating healthily? bad skin is something you can solve-eat omega 3s, zinc and vitamin c or try a health food store product called 'perfect skin'-it works super good and I've tried it. also drink more water and work out (I also do that) and if your fat, then exercise and be more pro active instead of just complaining about it and last of all be strong and dont' be harsh on yourself. I was not hot in highschool either so I know how it feels-but I'm a totally different story now ;) you got to work on your goals and work on your personality. I jog at least 3 times a day and I eat super healthy so...yeah.
I think it's pretty simple. You gotta believe in your self. First question I got for you is are you working or going to school. Girls love ambition. Secondly, I think that if you get out more. Take the time to do more healthy activities and sincerely come up with a do-able diet. You could be on your way to bringing sexy back in no time. I think it's most important to try to forget about girls first before you can start thinking about getting one. It's really depressing to remind yourself on a daily basis that your single and lonely. Depression could be the cause for the weight and acne (Hence the lack of female attention). Try finding something to get your mind off of girls. If you can trick yourself into thinking that improving yourself is fun you'll be unstoppable. This ain't gonna be easy. You gotta kick old habits you may have been doing your whole life but once you do you won't regret it. I hope this helps buddy. Were here for you!
You want to get the girl of your dreams? Well unless she is also a "fat, acne infested, gross looking, greasy, long haired" girl, you're going to have some problems.
Think about how much you want a romantic relationship. If you want it BADLY ENOUGH, make some MAJOR changes to your life in order to get it.
1 - start walking. Walk for hours every day until you lose the excess weight. No girl will be turned on by a fat dude.
2 - CHANGE YOUR DIET. Go to the health food store, search "acne diet" on google, do whatever it takes. Try the "raw food diet". It could totally change your mood, your energy, your weight, and your complexion.
3 - think positively. You CAN get what you want from life, it will just take a lot of time, effort, and maybe a lot of pain.
Is there any hope for ugly guys? Some. But only if they have the drive and ambition to chase their dreams and change themselves for the better.
And don't just do it for "her", do it for your self.
Dude, never ever put yourself down man! There is always hope for everybody. Hell, I'm more ugly that you! And never think your alone either. What I do is exercise because it makes me feel tough, and go to work and work my butt off so I can get what I want in life. If there are some activities or events around, I go by myself.
You can join special interest groups and make friends. The only thing I can tell you is to not be Shy about anything anymore because you have nothing to lose.
I hope that helps somewhat.
JTM
Im a fairly attractive girl and I'm dating what some people call an "ugly" "chubby" etc, have been for almost a year.
I've always been told I can do better.
My boyfriend means the world to me, he's wonderful, I love him to pieces. He makes me who I am today.
Trust me, it's what's on the inside that counts, and if your partner loves you for who you are on the inside, she will love you for who you are on the outside, no matter what :)
My only advice: cut your hair if its too long, clean it up a little? haha I dunno
Also, my boyfriend is my first everything>>>>kiss, relationship, sex and I'm 19, age doesn't matter.
thats right, working out DOES make you feel better! KEEP AT IT, lose all the weight, get your hair cut nice, see a doctor about your spots, sometimes a course of antibiotics can completely cure them, and there are other treatments too. When you have lost your fat, hit the weights and start bulking up, get your diet sorted and you will begin to look ALOT better. it doesn't happen over night, it may take a year or two depending on your goals, but if you stick at it and want it bad enough, you can look however you want. When you look good you will feel good, and your confidense will rise above the rest, when you are confident, the girls will be on your arms, I PROMISE!
hey man my friends mom always told me that there's someone out there for everybody just depends on when you meet them lol but listen if you don't want to be "ugly" anymore and want to gain confidence do something about it...i used to be a little overweight and I had acne problems to man and its not the end of the world...i joined a gym lost 20 lbs packed on some lean muscle and I got treatment for my acne like proactive and now girls are coming up to me and talking to me first in some cases and my self esteem is through the roof...bottom line is if you want to be something you got to do something about it I did and I'm loving life now I still have some problem asking some girls out that I think that are out my "league" because I still look at myself like the old me but in reality I am not...if you really want to change start now man good luck ur only 19 I started at 20 and I'm 21 in one year I changed a lot so get to it maN! good luck
Hi there,
I know that this is going to be a long process for you but unless you learn to love yourself, nobdy can love you. That's the way it is. It is not attractive to see a person that can't even love themselves and insecurity is a really hard trait to deal with. It's not as easy as it sounds though. Like you said you can't just go "No more issues. Oh Joy!" You really need to focus on celebrating the things about yourself that you find attractive and really try and make the most of them. Looks aren't everything, honestly a person can seem very attractive with the help of a shining personality. I have fallen for a few guys that weren't traditionally attractive and that was all because of who they were on the inside.
yes becuase its easy to be happy when a girl literary spit at me for complimenting her
So, can't you change how you look? It's not shallow or wrong to look your best. If you are eating unhealthy foods, you are contributing to your weight gain and skin conditions. Yes, it's easy to remember all the hurts of the past and let that rule your life, but you can start fresh right here and now. Go for walks if you don't want to join a gym. Eat more fruits and veggies than junk food. Make small changes and over time, these small changes will add up to big ones. You ask if t here is hope for the ugly? Of course! My husband is a bigger guy with not so great skin, but he's also is super sweet, nice, and has interesting hobbies. Start by being more positive and then work on the physical things that are bothering you. Best of luck and don't give up.
Give yourself some credit, because looks aren't everything, despite what disgusting remarks your classmates directed at you. Some people could REALLY care less about how someone looks, and will take a closer look at hand at who a person is. Nobody is 'helpless' unless they chose to be. Nobody has a right to put anyone down because they're different. It's a crying shame and inexcusable. Our differences from one another is what makes us unique. There is always hope, so don't give up so easily. I know it's easier said than done, but don't give up : )