What is an acceptable age gap when dating? (Page 2)

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Im 21 and a guy has presented himself as intrested in dating me. he's 31... Its a 10 year age gap, I first met this guy when I had my first job when I was sixteen at a grocery store. he's 31 sucessful owns his own farm, and works two other side jobs just to stay busy. He works with my mom and is always asking about me. My mom jokingly made the comment "if there wasn't such an age gap youd be perfect her!" which he responded with "you know 10 years is that big of a gap." What is your opinion on age gaps? How old is to old?

MrStyleR · Answer

Ewwww sorry but nooo if I dated a girl I rather she would be the same of my age... At least she understands my age and she know what our relationship needs for our future XD ❤️

lame_name · Answer

im currently dating this man who is 16 years older than me.
before i met him i thought 12 years gap is always acceptable, after i met him for a while i thought to myself a lot, age is just a number.
i know what i want and i have gone out with many other guys as well but they were all different and I knew I wanted nobody but him.

threepinkdoors · Answer

As long as it's legal, go for it. In my opinion though, if you date someone old enough to be your father or grandfather, that's kind of weird. And a little creepy. But 10 years is fine :)

ButtHoleSandwich · Answer

It's a bit much and this is coming from someone who is doing a 21 year age difference. Different stages in life. He may want to settle down, kids and marriage and at your age you may not want that now

sailorjupiter · Answer

as long you're comfortable with the person, you have connection and happy with him, I don't think the age gap matter. Chemistry- That's the key for a happy relationship, not the age

lePoivre · Answer

I personally cut it off at 10 (made one exception at a 14-year age gap though... It didn't work out), but it all depends on what you're comfortable with.

Onyx277 · Answer

I love older men in their 30's. Age is a number. If you like each other then it doesn't matter. You're both legal adults and can make your own relationship choices.

Outofthegrey · Answer

Age is a changing factor, the older you are, the larger the acceptable age gap.  That's why some people say the lowest age you can date goes: Your age divided by two, plus 8.

Anonymous · Answer

I would date a Grand-mother who has been single her whole life , if there was Hot chemistry between us... By the way I am sweet 24 :)

AmandaLynn1930 · Answer

as long as you are both of age it doesn't matter... as long as you guys are happy together and want the same things :)

KBob93 · Answer

It all depends, older you get, less of a big deal it is.  I heard there's like, an equation you do to figure out the oldest & youngest you should date.

Anonymous · Answer

I think its accepted but the only thing is in ten years he will be 41 but hey if he treats u good go for it I say

NervousPie · Answer

I'm 19 my boyfriend is 23 that's pretty much the gap I will go but for other people as long as if they are in that appropriate age area then I understand but if you're like 19 dating a 60 yr old then holy crap... come back to reality!

jessiie06 · Answer

I would say neither because 6 years older is not too bad when your 40 and he's 46. But when you're 21 you're still in school, not ready for kids, not ready for marriage, not ready to live with him while he's ready for all those things.

kittykatbrat · Answer

I HATE the words 'acceptable" + "appropriate" Just be yourself and do what YOU feel works :) Peace xo

slatyb · Answer

He sounds like a stand-up guy. Your mom likes him and that's a good sign. If you want to date him, why not?

Mo_frasa · Answer

Honestly I don't think age matters, as long as they are legal then I don't see the problem with it, as long as you have a connection with them then go ahead

Anonymous · Answer

To me, it is the stage of life a person is in means more than the number. 21 and 31 should be different stages, but there are immature guys out there that could be stuck. So it might be okay. Just be aware he might not mature for his age.

Balcazaurus · Answer

The older the couple gets, the less it matters. As in: If the guy is fifty and the lady is forty or vice-versa. As it goes on, who cares. It's just creepy when say one is twenty-two and the other is thirty-five. That's just me, however.

Immainlove · Answer

My friend is 18 and her mum is 36. Her mum is dating a 25 year old guys whos young enough to go out with either of them.

RobCammarata · Answer

As long as you are both adults, I don't think there is an issue. Once in your 30's you won't even notice the difference

GeekyPanda · Answer

Honestly I believe love is love. it doesn't matter what age, race, religion or gender you are, if you love them then cherish them :)

friendlymbflirty · Answer

Wait, B means ten years is NOT to old right? Anyways as far as older guys with younger girls go I don't find it too weird. Actually in a lot of cultures it is pretty normal.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess it depends on your stage in life. I was 23 and dated a 39 year old, he was really sweet and caring but we weren't exactly in sync with our wants and ambitions. I think 10-12 is the highest I'd go, and I would rather not date a guy under 20...

I_am_repulsive · Answer

Age doesn't matter when it comes to love, provided both parties are LEGAL. There are people who are going to be judgmental about it, but what matter is what both of you think and not anyone else.

Anonymous · Answer

I've dated and 18 yo and a 20 yo, I didn't feel anything wrong about it. They wanted to be in the relationship and we were both fine with it. So age is truly just a number in my opinion.

PhoenixRisingDK · Answer

At your age it probably wouldn't work out. 10 years from now... no problem.

HighlanderTheOne · Answer

Having 10 years gap depends. If you are 10 and he is 20 there is a problem. But if you are 30 and he is 40.

Cjanes · Answer

I'm 19 my partner of over a year is 27 don't worry about it is the best thing to do

Hazel_alchemy · Answer

Many celebrities and famous people date younger men. Eg. Steffi Graf, Angelina Jolie list is endless. What matters is sharing of interests and compatability

deez_nuts · Answer

I always ask myself that. Ever wonder how some couples met? Like a guy who's 50 and a girl who's 40 for example? Maybe if two people love each other age doesn't matter?

Cam700 · Answer

It's not an unreasonable age gap, anything is possible, give it a go :)

Creole_Flavor · Answer

An acceptable age gap is anything that you are comfortable with as long as it's legal

Anonymous · Answer

My parents are 10 years apart. If you were 15 it'd be different. Just make sure you understand that he's probably looking for wife material at his age, and if you're still looking to be in the "dating scene" then it may be unfair to both of you. Also there will be differences in what you're into, but if you're both willing to give it a shot, why not :)

FallenAngel92 · Answer

I voted B, as long as everyone is legal, then it doesn't matter.

AnnVdB · Answer

im 28 my boyfriend 21 but I look way younger :) Age is not an issue

Anonymous · Answer

17 years apart is totally normal and not creepy as long as he buys you a car and a house and pays your bills and takes care of your kids and asks you to stalk his ex. Totally normal behavior!! 100%

ThisAndThat · Answer

There's nothing wrong with 21 and 31. In fact there's nothing wrong with 21 and 51. OK now that that's settled what time should I pick you up?

Anonymous · Answer

age's just a # as long as u r both legal :D

ChefDavid · Answer

My wife and I are 10 years apart in age. I'm 54 and she'll be 44 this year. It doesn't seem like much now but it might have when I was 31. If you're comfortable with it, it doesn't matter.

GoodDogNigel · Answer

Half your age plus seven rule. Never fails. 21/2= 11.5+7= 28. He is too old for you, your partner's max age is 28.

abundantlyrich · Answer

Are you asking for my approval to date him because he is rich?  You should know what your answer is if you felt attraction for him. Not because you think he has bigger assets than your mum.

scottb80 · Answer

My parents are 10 years apart and have stuck together all these years.

cutesie1babe · Answer

I'm 20 and I would date a 30 y. o guy. It's not a big deal.

1-3-2-4 · Answer

My girl is 21 and I'm 30 we get along just fine she's not worried about the age at all

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on how you feel about it. I mean, I have a teacher 10 years older than me so that would be weird for me.

WaydeTheOne · Answer

Age means nothing, It is all about how one can love the other.
If you love him with your heart and he does also then there is nothing to worry about, what I'm trying to say do what your heart says! LIVE LIFE TO IT'S FULLEST

couldntthinkofaname · Answer

Here's a formula for you (1/2 your age)+7  It doesn't work for over 40s though

Consultant · Answer

10 years is getting up there, but whatever. who cares?

Arthurred · Answer

I say go for it while he maybe 10 years older, he is still fairly young

WilliamWinslow · Answer

Ideally an age gap smaller than 3 is fine in my opinion, but it really depends on the case-by-case situation.

Homebakedcookies · Answer

You're over 18, so it's a green light. However, judging from the text it sounds like he is showing some concerning behavior. I'd stay away.

chrisbigman · Answer

I would say within 2 years for the late teenagers/early twenties. Then, gradually the gap widens as both people get older.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm in my 20's and I date guys older than 31. Grow up.

KramivViolin · Answer

On average, men die sooner.

jannette723 · Answer

Divide your age in half then add 7, so for me it would be 18. I think that's acceptable.

HollywoodGlam · Answer

You're legal, so the age gap between both of you is fine.

10kresistor · Answer

Once you are over 18 its totally up to you. But under 18 you should try to stick to your own age group, someone on your emotional level.

niceguyja15 · Answer

I say if u like the person age dosent mean a thing unless u let it I've dated women that were older then me and younger if that person makes u happy that's what matters most

Anonymous · Answer

in my opinion once u pass the age of 20 the gaps aren't that big of a deal

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