Age is relative.
This is not to say it's just a number but ithas to be considered in relation to other elements:
*-he's 10 years older, that's 50% of your age. When you were learning to walk he was already looking at girls and geting boners from it.
*-You're a student, responsible for your studies towards your parents. You get an allowance, a few $100/month maybe. (if it's that much)
*-He has a job and outside that, he's only responsible towards himself. He has income ten times as much as your allowance.
*-Your freedom is limited by your parents, he's completely free to do as he likes, when he likes it.
*-You don't have much of a past, maybe a few boyfriends. He has half a life behind him, exes, maybe children somewhere.
That makes for a very slanted relationship, slanted in his favor.
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Age is not as big as factor as maturity and interests. The odds of a 21 year old and a 31 year old having similar interests and level of maturity are unlikely, but make that a 60 year old and a 50 year old and it becomes much more likely. When you get older, the relevant considerations are interests and general health. At 60 years old, I may have interests compatible with a 78 year old woman, but I don't want to be pushing a wife/girlfriend around in a wheelchair in the next few years - not if I can avoid it.
Yep, age is just a number. While it is a big gap, that shouldn't matter if it's a happy, healthy and mature relationship with a great possibility for a future together. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 29, but it doesn't feel like there's a noticeable difference because we respect and support each other, tease each other, and have so much in common. We have a lot of fun together, but we also have serious talks about where we want to be in 10 years and how we both see the other person as a partner for life. My advice is to take things slowly and really get to know him (while dating) before taking any drastic steps, such as moving in together. Make sure he's a wonderful guy who you'd like to spend a very long time with before investing in the relationship. Good luck! :)
I don't think 5 years is too old but I also don't think age is nothing but a number. I am 22 and I personally don't think I would date anyone over 29 but its also not set in stone for me. I think if you click with someone then you click with someone. age doesn't necessarily determine maturity or compatibility. I think if you go for someone who's like 40 that might be a bit much. But to each their own. I think 10 years can be fine. If you're still in college though I think it could be hard because you're at very different points in your lives. If you're about to graduate and enter the real world I think it's fine. It has more to do with maturity and life stages than necessarily a number.
I think age is irrelevant, because it depends on what stage of life you are at.
Are you both happy with your jobs/careers? Are you both financially independent? Are you both mature and responsible? Have you both completed higher educational goals to get you to where you want to be in life? Are you both living in an area you want to stay long term? Do you both have the same life goals
I know a woman who is happily married to a guy 20 years younger than she is. I know other's with large age gaps who are happy, and those it didn't work out for.
The common ground was always the stage of life they were at.
I know a couple who are 60 and 70 years old. 10 years right there. You think that matters when you're 60/70? No.
Age matters less the older you get. When you're a teenager even 3 years can make a huge difference. But as you get older maturity differences between the ages get smaller and smaller.
The only problem I could see with 21/31 is him wanting to settle down and you still being all young and spry.
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If your mom likes him, then go for it!
Age can make a difference, or not make difference. As long as you are within legal age, shouldn't really matter depending on the person's standards, and what you find is acceptable.
The age for you, is a quite big, but not concerning, because you are both adults, in this situation. Now as long as you to get on, have great chemistry, have things in common, then have a relationship with each other, At the end of the day, age shouldn't matter now, you both get a long great.
At the end of the put things into perceptive, and don't make the situation any bigger than is, unless you are breaking the law.there is an acceptable age range, this works for any age that there is an age difference (I. E. younger than 14 is too young to date)
for the lower age, take your age X and divide it by 2 (round up) then add 7
you are 21 so, 21/2=11+7=18
so you shouldn't date anyone younger than 18
for the older range, subtract 7 from your age, then double it, 21-7=14*2=28...
so for a 21 year old, there wouldn't be a second glance for you dating anyone between 18-28... now these are just social stigmas... there is no law preventing you and him being together, just social pressure, if you can deal with that pressure, then go for it. (it also depends on where you are too, like in where i am, it would be better for you not to be single than the social stigma from the age gap)10 years is nothing. Seems a huge gap now, but when you are 60 and he's 70 it will be insignificant.
There was over 7 years between my parents, but I know from the way they loved and respected each other, it could have been 17, 27 years.
They loved each other from first meeting.
Only YOU know the answer to your own question. Do not take too much notice of other people, as it is your life and yours alone. You will make mistakes, we all do, but that is how we learn about life.
If you like this guy and he likes you, then give it a go. As long as you don't go too deep too quickly and do something you will regret, you have NOTHING to lose!!
Take care, stay safe!!Age matters less when you get older. It seems like a big deal when you're 12 and 14, but not so much when you're 40 and 50. It also depends on how mature you both are and which stage in your life you are in. I once dated a 14 year old guy when I was 17 and everyone thought it was weird. But he wasn't really like other kids his age. He was extremely smart and went to college before me. I wouldn't really worry too much about it. If you really like this guy, just go for it. It might seem like a gap now, but it won't later.
Age really is relative. It is really how you act that matters. Yes, someone at 18 is generally going to be much less mature than someone at 28, but that doesn't mean you should necessarily rule someone that young or old out.
However I think it is important to realize the potential dangers or interests those kind of age groups have. You maybe able to find an genuine older man who is interested in having a meaningful relationship with someone under 21. The problem is he is most likely interested in your body more than anything so guard yourself well... that is unless you're into that sort of thing then have at it.I think 21 and 31 is questionable, the fact you are even asking shows that you agree. When you are 27 or so, I think any age is fair game for older, and with younger, always your age divided by two, plus 7. So for your 31yr old guy, the youngest he should go for is 23. It always works out that any younger is questionable.
It's weird how this works. Personally for me I wouldn't date anyone under 21 and no one above 30(unless they're willing). My theory is if a girl can't get into bars, she's too young and that limits what we can do.
But anyways I've known guys in their 50s dating women in their 40s. At that point, your older, mature and experienced. That being said when I was in training for my job, a coworker who was 57 was hitting on another coworker who is 25. Even though that's legal, it's still weird. He was 32 when she just came out of the womb.I say if you truly have feelings for him give it a shot.. He could be the one you never know. Age is only a number unless the persona is like 9 and your 20 then that could be a issue... XP But in all seriousness he be the love of your life your significant other and he will move on and you won't have your chance in the future if you don't take it now because of something silly like this.
As long as they are both adults, the age gap is completely up to them. There is often greater challenges with a bigger age gap, but that doesn't mean it is unacceptable to date them.
A ten year a gap is a big deal when you're in your twenties and he's in his thirties. Your goals and motives are going to be completely opposite of his AND if they aren't, you should ask yourself why a thirty one year old man has the mindset of a twenty one year old student. Ten years would not matter if he were fifty and you were forty, but your twenties are all about creating a foundation for the rest of your life, making your adult friends for life and most importantly, testing out relationships so you know what you do and do not want in a person. Age really is nothing but a number, but only after a certain level of experience and maturity, should that philosophy apply. You're twenty one, have fun and date people a bit closer to your age, for now.
I'm torn here cause I'm only 21 and as a result I'm stuck with a small gap. For example a girl who is 18 is most likely still in HS so stay away. So 19 to 21 is my range. 5 years would be a bit weird if I'm 26 and she's 21 its a differing mentality where I'm ready to settle and she is still recently 21 in college. The 5 year gap starts to apply when the woman is 25 and the man is 30 cause both are most likely on a career track and ready to financially start a family. Sorry if I over complicated this lol.
I've dated a bunch of different ages. It seems that
The bigger the age gap, the likely it is for lifestyle differences, mismatches of intention and (often intentional) inequality of power and control to occur. Going through different stages of life can be difficult on a relationship.
That being said, it doesn't mean it's GOING to end up that way. You're an adult. Not every relationship will work, regardless. It's not like you meet someone and then marry them forever in a blink. Just keep your eyes open and think about what makes a relationship work for you. That beind said, often the older partner has more definite opinions and tries to mold a character for his/her own purposes from the younger one. Problems from this can arise later in life. So just keep your eyes open and be mindful of your progression as a person.Age is nothing but a number. But guys who usually that much older than you want one thing.
38.media.tumblr.com/...vb4SJ9s1qi88igo1_r1_500.gifin all honesty, I think age is nothing but a number.. but you just got to make sure he's after the right thing and not something to just keep him entertained. but I think he sounds like a incredible guy! go for it, cause you'll never know until you try it out. and if it does go further & people talk, let them.. cause remember its you and him against the world not a third wheel one.
My boyfriend and I have been together on and off for 7years. I'm 30 and he is 40. To be honest most people usually forget there is an age gap between us. When we met he was 33 and I was 23. At the beginning things were amazing but like all relationship it takes a lot of work and it takes both people involved to make it work. Honestly I say give it a shot you never know what can come from it if you don't at least try.
There's a general rule I've learnt over the years, if you're older the rule is - Half your age +7 so if you're 20 it would be 20/2 =10 +7 = 17.
If you're younger the rule is (your age) subtract 7 and double it.
But there is no normality to dating, take into account the girl/guy as a person and try to look past their age.I think it depends on how old you are, but you 21 so I say go for it! when your an adult age doesn't matter as much, if you were say 18 or something, that would be different, because technically you would be barely considered a legal adult and that would be sort of weird but your 21, and the plus side to someone who is around his age is that he will be stable, the down side is that your 21 and most people are looking for something a little more permanent at his age and that can be restricting for you, that and most people at his age aren't into the same things that most early 20 year old's are into, like partying and stuff like that, but if you want to date this guy, I say why not!
I think 12 years is about the biggest gap I'd be comfortable with. Men pretty much always want to date younger women. If you are attracted to him, you have chemistry and things in common to talk about, and as long as YOU don't feel weird about the age difference, then it's fine.
It's not he's old enough to be your father and you're already over 21 so at least he can take you to the bar. In some cultures, the man being at least 4 years older than the woman is a sign of good luck and a long healthy marriage. I'm just repeating what I've heard 😀. Good luck.
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