How do I flirt with an INTJ?

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Recently I've been looking into the Myers Briggs personalities. I'm an ESFJ girl (Extroverted, Sensing, Feeling, Judging) and interested in an INJT guy friend of mine. I've read (and yes, these are blanket statements that don't apply to all people) that INTJs can come across as aloof, super confident, non feeling but great thinkers with a wonderful intellect. They're in their heads a lot and don't necesarilly express feeling, even though they feel it deeply. And also not that great at picking up on flirting or doing it himself.

I've been into this guy for years, but always confused about where I stood in his mind. Sometimes he'd give me all the attention in the world and then not at all at other times. He doesn't really initiate physical contact but then gives a rare hug (which I can't help but cherish). He usually hangs out with me in group settings but will also go to things with me that have to do with his interests (dancing, concerts) but I'm the one to ask... not him.

I don't want to be the one who keeps asking... but don't know how he views me asking in the first place. Does it matter to him? Maybe... If I get a text from him wanting to hang out, it's like Hell frooze over... haha

So my question is: how can I tell if there's any interest on his part as an INTJ? How can I communicate my interest to him without being SUPER obvious? Or do I need to be super obvious?
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Not sure if this matters too much. But I'm moving for another country at the end of the month. I'll be gone for at least a school year but am kicking myself for never saying anything to this guy in years past.
How do I flirt with an INTJ?
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