My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost 3 years. (we are 20)
I had to go to an appointment where the doctor asked me to rate my appreance out of 10. I said 4 (though truthfully I am much less, i just didn't want to sound bad).
When I was telling my boyfriend the story, he cut me off and said i was at least a 7.
Now i know a lot of people may not be offended, but all I could think about was the times he has told me that he has hooked up with much prettier girls, and described them as being a 10/10.
I am very self concious, but should i really be this upset.
I am always scared he will leave me for someone prettier, and this just freaks me out a bit
Most Helpful Guy
Well, physical appearance is the most important thing, right? He could really only be interested in someone prettier than a 7, right? Obviously he only gets with 10s. 9s sometimes. MAYBE an 8 on a slow day. But a 7? Woow! No way.
Okay, I'm being facetious. But do you get my point? You have to believe you have more to offer than just your looks! I mean, shit, 7/10 is nothing to scoff at! If he thinks ur a 7, then he thinks you're a very good looking lady. Maybe not the most attractive in the world, but at least you know he's almost certainly not lying (if he was he'd have called you a ten lol.)
But no, seriously, how shallow is this guy? If you answered "pretty damn shallow!" then MAYBE you have some legitimate concerns (again, 7 is really pretty decent). But if you said "Well... he's not that shallow, I guess" then he's obviously with you b/c he sees something special in you. You understand? YOU'RE SPECIAL. I know that's hard to process, but get used to it. He likes you. Loves you maybe (idk how far you guys are in ur relationship).
Still not convinced? Talk to him about your feelings. At least give him a chance to tell you himself.1
Most Helpful Girl
I would probably be upset if something similar happened to me. I'm very realistic with myself when it comes to my looks. I know I'm not the prettiest, but I also believe that if you love someone, they can become the most beautiful person to you, inside and out. With that said, guys can say things and not realize how they'll be interpreted. Believe me I understand how you feel. I'm constantly wondering why my guy would want to be with someone like me. You just have to remind yourself that he's chosen to be with you for a reason :)0