Does having sex too early ruin the relationship?

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Does having sex too early (on the second to fifth date) ruin the relationship? Does it always make the guy lose respect for the girl and not see her as relationship material? If you've had sex too soon, can you back track and save the relationship?

Smmyskittles · Accepted Answer

Honestly, it depends on the 2 people

- I've known some that began really slowly. They were together for a year or two before they had sex (highschool). Those two (aunt and uncle) are married with children to this day. Still actually pretty happy from what I see and how they interact.

On the flip side, I know my friend (who just had her baby) started sleeping with her boyfriend on the 2nd date. They've been together for almost 2 years, are still quite happy.

I also know where having sex too early has ruined things for people. Or they waited too long and also ruined it.

- - So to be perfectly honest, do it when you feel ready. If you're ready to join the man's bones after date #2 he's doing something right. ;)

anny1994 · Accepted Answer

I'm personally against having sex too early on in the relationship. I once read steve harveys act like a lady think like a man book. And i agree with the book.

Also i only have sex with people i am in love with and who love me back. I don't believe in casual sex. But thats my personal opinion!

You should do whatever makes you feel the best. No one can decide what's best for you!!!

xHoneyxBeex · Accepted Answer

No, not necessarily. It really just depends on the couple. Also, what constitutes "too early" is subjective as well. Basically, if you trust your partner and feel that it's the right time then that's fine. There's no time limit for how long you have to wait in order to have sex. I think it's more of a matter of making sure you're with the right person and just relying on your own best judgment.

samit11 · Accepted Answer

In my opinion having early sex has nothing to do with respect but everything to do with preference/values/lifestyle.. etc. For me, I value spending long time with a person before having sex.. In other words, I choose to put "significance" on sex. just like other people "choose" to put significance on birthdays, turning 21, Superstitions.. etc. Life is cold without those ;) but point is: no.. Respect is not lost unless it was never present in the first place.

fuqthegovt · Accepted Answer

Hell if they don't put out I give up all together after the 2nd-5th date. Like most guys I tend not to see them as relationship material anyway whether they put out or not (and I quit pretending I did just to get laid long ago, got tired of the drama when the truth could no longer be hidden).

Prof_Don · Answer

Women are so damn scared of having sexual play early will somehow make the guy write her off as a girlfriend, simply not true!

I would be MORE likely to write her off as a girlfriend, if she is intentionally withholding sex with me as a strategy, knowing or strongly feeling that she'd fuck a less quality guy more quickly.

Centerino · Answer

It depends on the people in question.

I am someone who likes to take his time and settle into a relationship, so having my girlfriend push for sex early on will make me anxious about the relationship and whether or not she's in it for the right reasons.

bryon · Answer

I don't get in a rush to have sex in any given time frame actually. I really prefer it happen through natural coarse of time and circumstances. I'm not going to dump her solely based on the fact it hasn't happened within a set time frame unless it's obvious that she has no plan to have sex at all

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on more than that. Sometimes personalities shine, or two people click very well, sometimes it's just whatever... There's more too. But really, more than sex will come into these decisions. Apart from first dates I guess, because then he doesn't really know her.

litty · Answer

Depends on the type of relationship. For example,
Someone who will give their body for something in return (attention, gifts, etc)
Or giving their body because they want to be even closer to the person they love
Both consensual, but you tell me which sounds like there is more respect?

kaylaS91 · Answer

No. If you feel like the guy loses respect for you and doesn't see you as relationship material after you had sex, regardless of how soon or 'late', he never saw real potential in you for a serious relationship in the first place.

limousin · Answer

Q No. ! Absolutely!!! Q No. 2 Absolutely not!!! Come on, Girls. Have a bit of respect for yourselves!!! No decent man is going to buy the cow if he gets his milk for free."£$%^&*(

orphan · Answer

no it doesn't. if a guy wants to be with you, he'll stick around regardless. . early on it can be more likely the sex is for the wrong reasons, that's all

BlackPantherSpeaks · Answer

If he didn't respect you before you give him play he won't respect you after..

genericname85 · Answer

i don´t think so. it doesn´t ruin anything. either it was never meant to be, or it´s all coming together anyway. the sex doesn´t change that.

dovido · Answer

well, i think it does in some way.. cause it bases the relation ship on sex, which doesn't last too much in my opinion

Anonymous · Answer

No. I believe that when it's meant to be, it's meant to be.
I also think that the idea that having sex early ruins the relationship is an excuse used by men to dump women they have no interest in.
Just an excuse

meatballs21 · Answer

All the best and longest lasting relationships I've been in introduced sex within that timeframe.

scooogy · Answer

I think so, because you need to get along well with each other in order to enjoy sex, and this will make you get along well with each other.

gobsmacked3 · Answer

I had sex on the first day I met my ex-wife  We shared a 22 year long marriage

Anonymous · Answer

If I don't get sex by the second date, there won't be a third. There's no chance of me losing respect for a woman, because I had none to begin with.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on the relationship Current one it hasn't. Past one it did.

Anonymous · Answer

No. I require sex by the 3rd date, or there is no 4th date.

zombiebabe · Answer

i think so

Anonymous · Answer

The earlier the better...

Anonymous · Answer

mybe

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily.

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