Does anyone else hate being called beautiful by strangers?

[Anonymous]

I've a Badoo account and most of the guys who start up a message start off with saying, "Hi/hello beautiful," and for some reason I find it irksome.
I see the meaning of the word beautiful as in finding or being astonished by someone down to the core, like everything from their physical/mental/emotional flaws. When close friends and or male best friend calls me that, that's when I take it as a compliment.
I don't know how to explain it... I just hate that word being thrown around aimlessly.
Anyone else like this or am I just getting worked up over nothing? 😂

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+1 y

Beauty isn't all about appearance to the dumb fucks who aren't even bothering to read what I'm saying. Beauty meant to describe someone as a WHOLE, not just appearance. If you want to compliment someone on appearance, use pretty, cute, gorgeous. Beautiful doesn't have the same meaning as that.

[ketfoen]

I have no idea what Badoo is. I will look it up, when I get the time.
Being called beautiful is mostly a compliment to women and sometimes even men.
The meaning sometimes means more to others and for some people it can have a more casual meaning describing someone that is easy on the eyes. I myself am in that same boat as yourself and don't needlessly say it to everyone I think is good looking. Unless it's an object, like a flower or a cloud that looks like a swirl of fluffy cotton candy.
I also think some people get worked up on the word, because they themselves don't feel beautiful enough to be told that word, which is sad, because we all as people are very uniquely beautiful in our own way of looks and thoughts.

[Asker]

If I could already close this conversation and choose your opinion as the most helpful one, I'd so do it. Thank you so much.

[ketfoen]

wow, thank you.
You are very welcome.

[lightbulb27]

What are you ok being called? or maybe nothing til you know someone.

I get that now, I didn't before. When a guy is attracted, it is often visual and he sees beauty. obviously he doesn't know you to say you are a beautiful person all around. I learned not to use that word the hard way. Its all about learning to communicate to reach that person, and everyone is different. What offends one person may please another... although in general, I don't think girls like to hear that word as much as guys think they do.

[lovydoey]

Same specially if they say it just too get ur number. Like if u will fall for those words, and like if he is the only guy u heard those words from. Yea it bothers me too, and more if they are pushy. "Well I want to talk to you more because you are beautiful, pretty"

[Bleh-___-]

It's sometimes obnoxious online where guys will call any 1/10 girl a 10/10 just to get in their cyber pants. In real life "respectful" catcalling is nice. I've never given a death glare at a stranger for giving me a genuine, respectful compliment.

[RJGraveyTrain]

I think you're worked up over nothing. For most people, beauty is a reference to appealing physical aesthetics. It doesn't offend me, but it doesn't overly flatter me either. It's sweet, I appreciate it even still.

[super147]

I can understand what you mean, a compliment without substance is meaningless. Also, compliments as well as insults are only as important as the source.

I think the idea is that you are supposed to be flattered and then you will be more receptive to their approach. I somewhat subscribe to the idea that you shouldn't be throwing around words like beautiful when nobody has sought your opinion in the first place. If a girl is beautiful then there is every chance that she has had that feedback a million times before. Far better to just approach with something to actually say instead of generic compliments based on little to no information.

[PiuBravoRagazzo]

I think you are overreacting just a bit.
These dudes are just being creepy corn balls and using the oldest line in the book.

People mis use words all the time and apply different meaning to them.

Your definition of beautiful isn't an absolute one either. And you can't expect everyone to have the same interpretation of it.

Would it still irk you if they said "hi pretty lady" lol

[Anonymous]

I think you are annoyed, because you found it shallow. Im pretty sure if someone would say you from their heart (obviously you wouldn't know), you would be flattered.
I'm a guy and I'm always being called as beautiful. I think most of the guy find it insulting, kind of feminine thing. But I dont mind. Once I was dancing alone. A girl with her boyfriend just came in front of me and with wonder in her eyes, she said "Hi, you are beautiful". I didn't care what adjective she used. But looking at her eyes, I understood she found my facial aesthetics quite pleasing.

[JesseBrooks]

It must be difficult from a womens pov, always hit on by guys who make you feel like sex objects etc. On the other hand, I most definitely wouldn't mind getting attention like that once in awhile. Doesn't work like that though. You definitely seem to be a tad hostile towards it, but I wouldn't take it as personal as you do. At least you get attention, albeit somewhat unwanted.

[tbm1986]

The only time I call a male friend "you beautiful man!" is when they are being particularly helpful and resourceful and I want to respond in a jovial manner.

When men (including me) say "Hello (there) (, you) beautiful (creature/person)", they are telling you they like what they see and they hope you will be flattered. They/I sure as hell like being complimented on physical appearance/attributes. It's a shame that women see it as leering.

[Anonymous]

It's badoo... What did you expect.
Well, at least those are better than some messages you could have gotten.

[Asker]

You're right. I've never done anything like that before and I blantly put up I was looking for friends so I thought that would've helped, but yeah. It could be worse

[Asker]

*never done a social kind of thing like that before

[Opinion Owner]

They don't care. You could put that you've been happily married for 30 years, and they still will. Badoo is crazy lol.

[Brokenheartedx]

Going to be honest those sorts of guys even call me beautiful, chances are they just say it to everyone. No biggie just ignore them and find someone who don't call you that.. beautiful should only be reserved for us when get to know person and it's only us they are saying it to

[soffffixaz]

in a way yes, like its just a standard thing they say to act charming like, you only really feel beautiful when someone truly means ur faults and everything but when its just "sup beautiful" its just a word

but also in a way no, it's still better then "whaddup cum dump" or "hey, nice tits/ass"

[Levin]

Thank you. I was wondering why I was having such little success in my approach. I'll go with, 'how's it hanging, hob-goblin', next time...

[Asker]

Love it 👏🏻

[Levin]

Anyway, I disagree with you, I think someone's physiognomy tells you an awful lot about that person. While for sure, many guys probably mean they just want to have relations with you; I think one certainly can deduce that someone is beautiful from photos, and indeed, their words!

[Cosytoasty]

Different people interpret different words... differently.

Beautiful is merely physical to a lot of people. Attractive is what i'd use to describe someone as a whole. You seem to be getting worked up over nothing.

[Relentless_Hippie]

I think you're getting worked up over nothing. Or maybe you aren't worked up at all and just wanted to tell the world that everyone thinks you're beautiful.

[wankiam]

i can see why you dont like it but it really is just a go to way of breaking the ice for those without imagination

[Anonymous]

SO you have a narcissistic account on a "please look at me" website, where you likely have images where you are doing your damned to show off as much of yourself as possible... but YOU HATE when people go to that page and take your peacocking displays for what they are and reach out to feed your ego.

WOW... typical entitled western female.

[Asker]

But little do you know I clearly put "looking for friends" on my profile.

[Asker]

It's not like I'm showing off anything. It's just a plain picture of me. I'm on the site to make friends because I have trouble making them irl. I don't see what's so wrong about that.

[Opinion Owner]

"looking for friends"... HA You are looking for male attention. Period.
You just want to be able to pick and choose who that male attention comes from. You don't like when it's someone who isn't attractive but will have zero issue with someone who you find attractive.
If you have trouble making friends in real life, it might be because you have this entitled attitude and look down your nose at people trying to interact with you.

It's easy to be a snob about interactions when you are not the one who is expected to do all the initiation. It takes a shit ton of guts to try and break the ice, especially with a pretty female. Knowing she will likely be a cold rude bitch.
You (females) simply have to post a pic, then wait and sift through the multitude of attention and look for the one or two you like enough to reach back out to... WOW that must be a real hard life you lead.

[Asker]

How does that make me look for male attention? I don't see how that says I'm looking specifically for that.
There's just a different approach to going about greeting someone than saying something about appearance, I don't get why some of you don't understand that. I'll reply to almost anyone who decides they want to talk to me, regardless if I find them attractive or not. If someone already starts off by mentioning something about my appearance, I feel like that's it's just mainly for just sex reasons, so that's when I ignore. I'm not there for that. I've never had someone come up to me in person starting off with "hi beautiful", if ANYTHING it's just "hey what's up? How are you" kind of thing.

[Opinion Owner]

You don't understand why we don't get that because you live in a bubble of privilege. If you had to fight constant rejection from every member of the opposite sex, had to try and guess what game or shit test they were going to put you through in order for them to even respond to you, if you had to try and think of something topical to talk about that didn't make the other sex roll their eyes in frustration... you would know that as men, we have given up trying to put a shit ton of effort into breaking the ice, just to be shot down... so saying "Hey Beautiful" is the quick and easy method of making contact. Then when she ghosts, we haven't had to invest mental effort or have to feel the rejection.

In regards to guys only messaging you with sex on their mind.
Males will NEVER try and talk to you simply because "you are interesting".

[JesseBrooks]

Anybody talking about giving a man a compliment is instantly down voted. Un friggin believable

[Mrwoo99]

I once called a woman beautiful whilst walking on college campus and she gave me a dirty look then she turned her head whilst walking.

I don't understand why they don't like it. I've never been called beautiful/handsome in my life by a woman.

[JesseBrooks]

No kidding, would be crazy for a woman to say that to me. Id be lke DAMN my whole week just got better. But judging by the downvotes coming from the girls side, its totally not ok to think this

[JesseBrooks]

And yes the downvotes are coming from the Asker lol

[Mrwoo99]

@JesseBrooks Women don't realize how privileged they really are...

[Righttobeararms83]

Lets be honest the internet is full of werdios just make sure your personal details aren't readily available.

[Luci160999]

I like it as long as is respectful. No one hates compliments :)

[lualesca]

"hello, nice cranial structure you got there, you remind me of an ancient greek tale of Amazonian women, they wore trousers, they smoked pot, covered their skin with tattoos, rode horses, and fought as hard as the guys, how's you doing today?"

Sounds more appealing right?

[Asker]

Y'all being extra 🙄 Just a normal how's it going is fine. I'm not asking for anything spectacular. Who comes up to someone just saying "hi besutiful" in public. You just say "hey how's it going"

[Blonde401]

Wish someone would call me beautiful. But I can see where you're coming from. However we shouldn't place such high meaning onto some words, just ends up with you being disappointed.

[sunshinechyk]

I hate it too. You don't know me and have no right to use terms of endearment with me. It is a sleazy pick up line they say to everyone. No way does it make you feel special.

[castratedwhiteguy]

Maybe he really is hoping you'll be special? But given your attitude, he'll probably be disappointed. Nevertheless, at 43 years old, you'd better hope that some guy tells you that you're beautiful and that he really means it...

[sunshinechyk]

@castratedwhiteguy

Clearly you are one of the guys who uses this line on women. I have a great attitude and at 43 I am in my prime. I still look great and am financially secure. I have my own home and buy my cars outright. Life is good. I do not need a stranger to tell me I am beautiful or sexy. I already know it. Love your handle... sounds like some woman chopped your balls off and you are bitter.

[castratedwhiteguy]

sunshinechyk - If you had taken the time to read another comment that I made on this thread you'd have noticed that I clearly state that I never complement, hit on or cat call strange women simply because I know that bitchy women like yourself will be offended by it. Maybe you should read my profile for further clarification about my username? by the way, I looked at your profile and, as far as I can tell, you're either divorced or never married. So sad to never have been loved! Personally, I'm widowed from a very loving and caring women, so you'd think think that I'd want to remarry. Not so! It's been knowing to many bitchy power women like you over the years that has made me decide to go MGTOW. Getting serious with a woman like you would be my worst nightmare. Enjoy your money, and may the chains of misandry rest lightly upon you...

[ASEXY]

I don't hate it unless they're being weird or forward about it.