Hi. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 3.5 months. I am so happy... waited 7 years for this. So, when we first got together, he was so attracted to me but I think my insecurities have made him to think other women have assets more attractive than mine. I understand that maybe women can make a girl seem more attractive if we act insecure. But I have been cheated on in the past and compared to women by my exes, so I felt the need to ask my boyfriend questions about the way guys think and things like that. Maybe it wasn't a good idea... because it went from him being a butt guy, to him I notice noticing girls cleavage and confidence with their big breasts.
My body type, is petite. I am 5'2 and 112ish lbs. My thighs and butt are more dominant than my breasts. I sometimes notice him looking in the direction of when women are bending down showing their cleavage and walking confidently with their large breasts. He said he doesn't care about breasts from the beginning, and I believe him, but he also hasn't been with many women in his life so I am unsure if he can be satisfied for the rest of his life with me. Also, we were in bed, and he was grabbing my butt saying my butt is his ideal butt. I asked him "what about my boobs", and he hesitated, and said of course.
Is it the bad energy I have given off, or is it really what he is attracted to?
Most Helpful Guy
Men are attracted to many things. Have you ever heard men have the drive to "spread the seed"? That means we are physically drawn to like 85% of the women in existence. So many of these questions. @_@
I'll try to make this one short. Women don't typically look at other men unless they are unsatisfied and looking to trade up. Men do. Men can look at other women all day long and still be satisfied with their partner.
In essence, you can never fulfill him totally, physically. Not on that instinctual level of "must see boobs; must see ass". That's not the part that matters. It's meaningless. It means nothing. It's is as if you were staring at a particularly delicious cake.
You will never be the hottest chick on the planet. You most likely will never be a man's physically ideal. That's not the part that matters. You are not perfect, and you never will be.
Men do not give a fuck about insecurity. See. That's it right there. You're projecting your female thinking onto him. He's not a female. Just because he is looking at other women doesn't mean that he is unsatisfied by you. That's just what men naturally do. Doesn't mean he will cheat on you. Doesn't mean he is not attracted to you.1
Most Helpful Girl
Your boyfriend sounds like a vain type of guy. And with the way he is going, you will never be 100% satisfied or comfortable when your out with him. I have been with guys who made me feel this, I would constantly question what type of females they like or look at their exes and end up being devastated because I felt like I wasn't as prettier as they were. Its not good to put that much pressure on yourself, also he should be the one trying to make you feel comfortable when he is around you not staring openly at women. If im on a date with a guy and he does that, that will be the first or last date. Its very rude, unattractive and makes me think me think he doesn't have self control.0