Guys, are obviously fake boobs a dealbreaker?

[ittybittykitty42]

I had the misfortune of winding up with breast cancer at just 18 years old and had to get a double mastectomy. Ever since then, I've felt more like a little girl than a woman and it just depresses me. Now, at 22, I've finally saved up enough to get breast implants (insurance isn't going to pay for any of it, I've already checked). The problem is, the surgeon says that because I'm so petite and have so little room left, I'll have to get saline implants and slowly get those expanded before my tissue is stretched enough to accommodate more natural looking implants. Even though I'm decent looking otherwise, I haven't had a boyfriend since my mastectomy, as it totally destroyed my confidence. I'm just wondering whether anyone will even want to date me once I've had the implants since they are going to look so fake? Any advice?

yes

no

[jp612612]

As I get older, I'm actually more and more accepting of things like fake breasts. For one, I spent 8 years in Los Angeles where you're constantly bombarded by "2-for-1" advertisements! e. g. get your breast implants and the lipo is FREE! But more importantly, this is something that people do for themselves and I'm all for that. A woman doesn't even need to have the extenuating circumstances that you've had. I've known many women who want a "mommy makeover" as they approach 40 and you know, I'm all for it. The social pressure is to simply accept who you are and I think it's great if you can do that, but I refuse to label someone as weak or flawed if they can't and want surgery.

[God_of_Thunder]

Yes, and no...

My opinion isn't based on the implants, themselves, but rather the reason why the person got them.

If she got them because she was insecure, thought they'd make her more attractive, or just wanted bigger ones; then yes, it's a dealbreaker.

If it was for medical reasons, such as in your case; then absolutely not. I'm not a woman, obviously, but I understand that having breasts is an important part of many women's self identity.

It would be like a guy getting a prosthetic testicle, due to losing one from testicular cancer. Completely justified, in that case.

[Twin2814]

personally. i think you should stick with what you have. dont feel like you need big boobs to be attractive. a lot more things are needed for a girl to be attractive.

you sound very chill and brave for going through breast cancer. i am happy that you were able to get through it... but please dont let it ruin your life.

i dont even have to see what you look like to know that you are attractive because your a natural human being. you dont have to change yourself to feel attractive.

but honestly. If YOU want to get said implants. then do it. i only wish for you to be happy in life.

[MarkRet]

I would date you, but I'm old enough to be your dad, at least. In your case, there is nothing wrong with having fake boobs, at least in my opinion. It just couldn't be helped. I don't really care for women who deliberately get fake boobs just for looks. It makes me wonder if anything else with them is false.

[Remus]

people might give u bullshit about being happy n confident about what you have but world doesn't work like that! if you feel the pressure of the world n need the surgery to gain confidence then go for it! be confident n be beautiful coz you are beautiful only if you are happy with yourself!

[Anonymous]

I love boobs. Even if they are fake. It sucks what you went through but in all honesty I don't think any guy who likes you would mind. I assume before he ever sees your boobs you will tell him about your mastectomy. Any guy who cares about you and has a heart will understand what you went and going through and it won't bother him. Besides plastic surgeons can do amazing things and you probably won't be even to tell. Best of luck.

[SteelerNation50]

You should do what you want if you want to get implants because you don't feel right then get them. If someone is going to judge you for this after what you've been through they aren't worth your time anyways.

[TooskilledforU]

I prefer women with natural breasts, fake breasts to me look weird. If a woman has fake breast due to something like breast cancer, then I would make an exception.

[Itsmeyay]

Many guys would take it as a deal breaker, so you might have to get used to that in while dating. But there are a lot of guys that won't mind. You'll have to sift through to find them though. I wouldn't mind.

[Bananaman177]

I'd prefer you as you are, to be honest. Really and truly. And I think so would many men, and you walk past them everyday unawares.

[truthbeknown]

I'm and ass man, lots of us out there! I agree, don't go too big too soon.

[Browneye57]

In your case no. Just do small ones so you look more normal. That is all.