When I was 16 I was already living on my own, my friend (since childhood almost like a brother) at the time went to prison for 5 years, he had a 3 month old baby (the baby's mother/his girlfriend died from drug overdose) and we made an legal arrangement that I would take care of his 3 month baby till he got out, I wanted to help him and he has done a lot for me. So I basically raised this baby for about 5 years, and I bonded with her to the point where I saw her as a family member, sometimes maybe as my own kid. She even called me dad (even though I always explained to her that she already has a real dad) Eventually he got out of prison and was able to raise her.
When I was 24 (the baby was 7 years now) He got killed from a gang member on some crime thing he was involved in and they put her up for adoption. I wanted to adopt her, and tried but I wasn't able to and a family eventually adopted her when she was 8 years old. So I basically moved on with my life even though on some level I loved that child almost as if she was my own. Now I am 35. I met this girl recently who is 20 years old and she was amazing, and we started dating/sleeping together. I recently found out that this girl is the same girl I raised. I haven't told her anything. In one hand I really like this girl and she likes me, but on the other hand I feel weird dating a girl I raised and even saw as my daughter who also called me dad and tried to adopt.
What should I do/ what would you do? How would you feel if you were the girl?
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this can't be real tea
it sounds like one of those karma things, the work you put into it is the work you receive out of it
obviously it would be weird as fuk for her unless she has any memory of it happening, which I doubt it, ask her about what she knows from her dad, make her connect the dots, don't tell her. What kind of smalltown is this though to run into that scenario?2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE