Tinder: why do guys swipe right and forget? Guys and girls opinions needed? (Page 2)

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Obviously from the title I'm on tinder. I have about 60 matches. I noticed that maybe 1 out of 60 ( in my case) will MAYBE message me (Usually asking if I'd be interested in "Sucking his dick "... no, no I would not... anyways we will usually match right away and no guy will EVER message, what the point of swiping right and instant match if you're not gonna message? also I've noticed if I'm like fuck it I'll message first I'm super into him hescute. I usually get unmatched right away. Ummmmm sorry when is it a bad thing to make the first move? Usually I would think a guy would be like wow a Chick making a move awesome!!! But I would usually get unmatched right away.  If it was because I am "Unattractive " then WHY swipe right? I mean I understand if you unmatched cause we're actually crazy far apart from each other. (I've literally had guys like 100 miles away and I'm like wtf how'd you find me?) lol anyway I want men and women opinions please

ManOnFire · Answer

I know, Tinder really sucks. I used it for like maybe a week and never got a single match, plus most of the girls did not even live relatively close to me. It's one of the worst online dating things I've ever used.

Najoub · Answer

tinder has become for hookups not dating/meeting new people, if you're looking at tinder then you're under the "one night stand" label, same goes for other dating sites, tinder is just more easy to use and more popular

DefinitelySane · Answer

Guys on Tinder often suck, so that may be part of it. However, most of the time you hear about creepy guys always sending a dozen messages to every woman, so some men like to allow the woman to make the first move.

TheGoodGuy1337 · Answer

I dont know much about tinder because i dont use it, but as a guy, i find it fucking awesome when the girl makes the first move for a change

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

I don't see how someone can be that lazy and not swipe left. I don't get it.

DaveDavidson · Answer

If in doubt, I swipe right without thinking for long about it since most girls are very picky and will be swiping left anyways.
Then if I see that I got a match later that I'm not actually into I just don't message her.

ageless88 · Answer

ok this is the reason there are so many issues. Tinder is a Hook up app and I think it is so retarded for girls to get on there or guys to get on there looking for love. that is not to say that something could spark out of the encounter between two individuals but same things on your bio like not here for hookups essential ways for people to even write. just go to now and saying that the second issue plain and simple is people need to just say what they want and want what they say.

Alonn · Answer

Guys mostly swipe right. I for one am very selective with my swipes. And when i do get a match i always initiate. The girls i match with Generally have many active chats.. Also I'm from israel and so tinder activity differs from place to place.

LittleSally · Answer

I've understood through movies and TV shows most guys just swipe right on EVERY girl... So yeah... you'd forget too if you did that.

Xi3s3r · Answer

my account Tinder over 3 years, I swiped their pictures and without save my like nor received like me... because it's for only buy premium account Tinder. that's very WORSE than Date site online!

nonprofitgibi · Answer

I can tell you a lot of guys, including myself, just swipe right on everyone the filter later. Also I can tell you that most guys on tinder are looking for a hookup or a short term fucking situation and if they read your profile and realize they arnt going to get any they won't talk to you but will leave you in the match queue to make sure they don't get you back in the queue.

EternalSilver · Answer

It's like dating sites/apps 101, like everyone and filter through matches later. It's better than wasting time on looking up people who might not even like you back.

_Babette_ · Answer

I got a hundred matches in a week once but most of them were desperate  Or at least they came off as desperate  That would be my best advice, to be confident and personable

leafygreen · Answer

omg I'm not alone? I totally thought it was me. It happens to me all the time as well. Like what's the point in swiping right? Trying to get as many likes as you can?

GreeseMonkie · Answer

i have used tinder for months now and have gotten 4 matches total. I'm not ugly I know that. but I have the same problem. except the 4 girls none responded. In pretty picky about who I swipe right on. maybe other guys aren't and just always swipe right

sousa · Answer

I don't use tinder but in another app that I use when I get a match I always send a hi or a hello cutie, nothing special and 99% doesn't respond back, they are online and sometimes mark the message as seen and sometimes watch my profile but don't respond back... I don't understand..

19magic · Answer

watch some of the buzzfeed videos with tinder on YouTube that generally helps. I think it's buzzfeed anyway.

HonestGirlAlways · Answer

A lot of guys just go and swipe right for everyone and then filter it later. It's shitty I know but it happens and may be why you're getting unmatched.

solvisykurpudi · Answer

Yeah, we're obligated to message you first. I keep forgetting that that's a rule.

Bianku · Answer

I can right swipe and forget because I don't get matches often.

extraman · Answer

most guys I talk to swipe right on everyone and figure out who they want to talk to later.

Scrabble · Answer

The chances of guys getting matches is so low, that the best way for us to use it is to mindlessly swipe right and hope for the best, most of the time you aren't even looking at who you're swiping on. Sad, but unfortunately true.

April10 · Answer

They might have changed their minds or someone more exciting might have come along

TsundereMatrix · Answer

I have tinder but I rarely use it because of this reason.

GorillaOne · Answer

I don't know. I have experienced the same from girls.  Well yes I don't hear 69 matches to date maybe around 25. But still from those I went on a date with just 1. And two others have replied.

cally480 · Answer

I accidentally swiped right on a few the message and I don't want them to feel bad so it's easier not to see the message

genericname85 · Answer

well cause if you´re a guy and you use tinder, you quickly realize that only like 1 in 100 even answers if you go through the effort of texting first. i stoped bothering. not orth my time.

the_robot · Answer

Sometimes you get several matches and start talking to the one (or two or three) that you find most attractive and compatible and you kind of "forget" about the rest.

Woods94 · Answer

no idea how you are getting 1:60 odds of a message. I don't tinder anymore but I would not message when I was even slightly inebriated

spidersspiders · Answer

Most of my friends dont take Tinder seriously. They just kinda use it like a curious game, swipe and see who swipes you.

ravedave · Answer

When I was on tinder I only ever used it to see what kind of people were interested in me. I never responded or initiated conversation simply because that's not what I was looking for in the app.

2tall2handle · Answer

My option is that most people on Tinder are bots designed to get you to pay for the service. You might encounter a real woman or man ever once in a while but I think it's mostly bots, and not actual people.

Lman3000 · Answer

People on tinder are stupid, I have never got one like by a real person on that app, I got bots, That app is shit, In my opinion, try to go outside you'd have a better chance at a date than tinder will ever give ya

ThatLeaf · Answer

I dunno Tinder is an awful place in my opinion. :V I've only ever gone on there to troll.

AboveTheClouds · Answer

Sucks that I actually use Tinder for the actually use of finding somebody that I can love, but so far, I got matches, and when I do message first, we talk very little, and then I get ignored..

KingOfMaise · Answer

I mean I don't blatantly say " suck my dick" I usually go with "hey wanna hang out and smoke some weed sometime" but I also usually get ignored after that

onxue · Answer

when I pick and choose women I never get matches. so I swipe right on just about everyone and see who I get. I am not shallow, but if I am not attracted I prolly won't bother.

SpiralKipz · Answer

I mean honestly I just swipe right on everybody because it's a waste of time sorting through and only swiping on ones you like because even then the chances of them actually swiping right back are minimal.

supercutegay · Answer

never wait to send a message always be the first to bark back and i tried the site out for a good month it did not really work for me most of the guys i hookup with was only wanting a one night thing and that was to fuck and in between i'm a guy

lostnparadox247 · Answer

This is why I've never made a Tinder and don't do dating sites.

stillagoodgirl · Answer

Because they do it so often, there's lots of girls for them to chose from that they can't remember esp if they swiped weeks ago

PinguGD · Answer

60-1😂 thats a bad ratio. If your not getting messages then the matches are useless.

thunderbob · Answer

sometimes it's insecurity on the guys part like oh man what do I say to her she matched with me but what am I supposed to say now

codyccc · Answer

Those where just guys who swiped right on every girl hoping one would ask them for a tour of pound town

Stmarco · Answer

I swipe right then unmatch because the truth is I never looked at your profile I swipe right till I'm out, super like the last bitch then assess my matches. So their first message is the first time I ever see them. If I look and think meh... rather not... unmatch.
I never message first, waste of time and if they don't message first idc on to the next.
tinder is kinda shit these days though I'd move on to a diff app. If you're looking for something legit... match. com

debocoby · Answer

When ever I swipe right I feel like that's the first move that's like going up to someone and saying hi I'm so n' so and I find you attractive we should talk haha but that's just me

zagor · Answer

Some guys swipe right at every girl, hoping for a match... and a BJ, apparently.

Caaarl · Answer

Sounds like someone who swipes right to everyone and checks his options after they match.

kish310 · Answer

tinder has gone from a good dating app to an hookup app.

geonator · Answer

I had similar experience on bumble (where only girls can message first) and girls would match with me but never message me. I think people are just keeping their options open while being picky

StickStickity13 · Answer

Some guys like me just swipe right on everyone and we weed through who we want

theXlastXstand · Answer

so guys simply swipe right... because...
and girls dont?

seems like rather a stupid strategy tbh
and some of these responses are right
some people simply think that you are a bot or forget you are human and simply ghost you nonstop

CasaNorba · Answer

probably for the same reason why girls swipe right and ignore

Shadowless · Answer

first; why the fuck would you wait to send him a message, second; guys are idiots, most of them look for a beautiful girl with big boobs and a nice ass (not to be rude) but you can't expect that every one of them falls for you

TheDeadlySmilez · Answer

Girls do this too, however us guys like to swipe everyone to the right and hope for the best (at least that's my tactic). much like with fishing sometimes you catch something weird have to toss it back into the water.

Renzo11 · Answer

tinder sucks and is for idiots. stop using it, it will only frustrate you

lala_ray · Answer

I have never used tinder! but my friend he right swipes each and everyone... so I don't think guys take it seriously.

Liisjak · Answer

Honestly, I message about 10-20% of my matches, I don't have the patience to talk to more than 5 girls at a time and setting up meetings.

NomNom187 · Answer

I don't know when it comes to dating apps like this you can never be sure why people do what they do. trying to figure it out only makes it worse.

GoldenStriker25 · Answer

For me it's the same but than with girls, whenever I get matched with a girl and send a message they just unmatch me immediately

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