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Tinder: why do guys swipe right and forget? Guys and girls opinions needed? (Page 2)
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I admit guys can be weird as well, but how old are these guys? They sound like their 15 years old. I am not saying you are pursuing 15 years olds, I am saying they act like it. To be honest, what many guys tend to do is swipe right for practically every girl because guys rarely get matches unless he's attractive. Girls/women, on the other hand, get plenty of super likes and likes because I think many guys use Tinder as I want to fuck her app.
I used Tinder, didn't like it, deleted it, met some weird ass girls on there.
I've been on tinder for a few years now.
And there are a few reasons
1. If the picture he first saw when he swiped right looks nothing like your other photos. Then he probably won't bother
2. Some guys swipe right on every girl just to get matches but doesn't mean they actually like you (I don't do that but a buddy of mine does)
3. I typically have to message first. And I FUCKEN HATE boring people. So if I message her, it is going to be a creative or funny message about something in one of her pictures or in her bio. If her bio is bland as white bread or has nothing in it. And she has nothing but selfies... then I'm moving onto the next one
Some guys reach a point where they just feel dating is a hassle. So they swipe right on everyone and just collect matches for the ego boost without ever intending on messaging.
Source: I'm one of those guys and I had 700 matches last I used Tinder
As for your update - I took Coffee Meets Bagel more seriously and actually tried to get dates off the app. I would exchange numbers after about 6-10 exchanges (so 3-5 sent messages, etc)
So you have 700 messages for your ego? Lol
I hate to admit it... but yes
Matches though, not messages. I rarely receive messages and don't message
Guys swipe right to all girls then unmatch later. The reason for this is guys get less matches then girls (women are super selective). So if they dont cast a wide net they will not get any matches.
So our strategy is to swipe right on every woman then only pursue the attractive ones that match with them.
Tinder is shit, people are only there to fuck, that's it. I think what's happening is that guys put all they match in their 'fuck list' so if they can't get with the girl they are talking with currently, they'll move on to the next. So if you message them first it's giving the vibe you might want more than a one night stand as you are the one putting the effort in? 🤷🏽♂️
Girls do the same, Tinder is just really ineffective. It's a number game for some, but mostly just adds and people spamming their instagram for follows. Most of the guys swipe right on everything and filter out people once they match, 'no use paying attention to people you will never speak' and such.
I tried it for a while and I'm still single, while I think I look quite attractive and I'm quite successful, so it's pretty much just the system that sucks.
Try comparing it to talking with random people in a chat app, like this one for example. You will notice that the conversation flows a lot more naturally and carries on a lot longer than they would on Tinder; without even knowing what you look like.
You're free to message me if you want to give it a try.
because barely any women reply anyway... so not worth the hassle of talking first, if she is interestes she'll message first.
as for unmatching. if i get bored i just spam the like button to speed the process up and get a few matches then i can decide which to keep, its easier that way.
and you say you message first. so you pick the best looking one and totally ignore the rest basically, he's probably doing the same. picked one he prefers and ignoring the rest (in this case, thats you).
That's amusing. Assuming I like a "Specfic" type ie ripped abs ,6pack muscles that's OPPOSITE of what I like so yeah don't judge if you don't know
show me where i have assumed that. don't make stuff up now, i said you pick the best looking one and he's probably doing the same. I assume you mean that part? if you select one out of many to message first why would you not pick the best looking one to you, thats just common sense 😂 nowhere did i say your type was ripped and a 6 pack, are you high?
I don't like the "Best looking ones" I'm not shallow
then why are you using an app that focuses on photos as an initial match? i assume this then means you swipe right to everyone then if you aren't bothered about looks? and how then do you pick your one guy that you message? through their short bio's? i think not 😂
also you stated in the initial question "sometimes i'll message first if i'm super into him, he's cute"... that's basing it on looks is it not?
It was implied I would only like the shirtless 6 pack an guys and that's the ones I'm swiping on. Obviously everyone thinks "Atractive" in different ways but yeah I actually message matches and if there funny and sarcastic I continue talking. Obviously if I swiped right I think there attractive... I don't mass swipe like men apparently do
well i definitely didn't imply that. think thats your mind thinking that up i'm afraid. but you initially said you only message the rare ones first and you asked why guys dont message you initially. so you do base it on looks then?
No , but the guys you swipe I'm assuming you think are attractive otherwise I wouldn't swipe right. So yes I message the ones I swiped for
In my experience, guys around your age are just looking for a hook up, whereas older man are looking for something more serious. I meet my current boyfriend on Tinder, he is 39 and an amazing man... So, maybe try another site. One with a better reputation among people of your age.
I agree with a lot of people here; tinder is mostly a hook-up site; guys looking to easily get laid. I would suggest if you are serious about online dating, try the better sites like eharmony or Match. Unfortunately, you have to pay quality dating sites today.
You'd agree with who? Guys getting laid. Woman have a hard idea of who guys are... wow. Look at what you do first. Woman play more games than men do... lets start getting those facts straight
seriously, I didn't come here to argue. I'm only speaking from personal experience. Take your bitter rant elsewhere.
I didn't come here to arguer either, I came here for the truth! And I'm speaking from my experience too :) Take your judgments somewhere else!
well, we are both entitled to an opinion. I am speaking from my experience and from a woman's perspective. Tinder is a hookup site for both men and women, let's leave it at that.
"guys looking to easily get laid" Doesn't sound like a hook up site, from your first view? Why I said something in the first place :) You seem to know everything from your experience, mine seems to think you need to learn more!
that's my experience with most dating apps that are free. So many guys are just there for sex (and I'm sure there are a lot of women too). It's sad that dating has been reduced to nothing more than judging a person on one single photo. To me, people are so much more. Thats why I say you get what you pay for.
Sometimes guys bottle it and think it's better to have the girl on the list of matches than to say hi and be removed because she swiped right by mistake. Or they take a look at the guy's profile again and think differently. Guys are just sick of rejection and saving themselves some pain. That's what I do sometimes, anyway. When I don't, I'm proved correct.
I don't know if this is what most guys do, but I only swipe right when I know I'll get a match (there are a few ways to pretty much guarantee this). By having a higher positive ratio, Tinder puts you higher on the list of profiles because the program assumes you are more desireable, and being earlier on the list means you get more matches. What this means is, I will often match with people I have no intention of messaging, simply because getting their match increases my "score."
So you match the first ones you see on the list. Yeah I know that's how you get more matches and also if there out of your distance setting and they show up there usually a match as well
I'm guessing those guys swiped right on everyone and only messaged the matches they were interested in, which apparently isn't you.
The same thing happens to guys on tinder with girls who are just window shopping or only message the single hottest guy she matched that week.
It's worse on the flip side. Out of 20 or so women I've matched with, only 2 have bothered to respond to my first message and none of them have messaged back a second time. I realize the problem when I saw my moderately attractive female friend's profile to see 200+ matches. There's a big difference in the amount of each gender on that app...
Its a fked up app that just created a virtual bubble for woman. Bad for society.
It because the male on the site swipe right on every single female. Just read all the other comment. The female have too many choices so what do you expect? You need to work harder to stand out from the crowd. The male who swipe right on everything irresponsibly have brought doom to the rest of his gender.
They're not interested/you aren't their type and/or they found something off putting about your profile. Guys become picky too when they have a lot of options. I'm assuming most guys like me will try to get their 100 swipes of the day and swipe anyone remotely decent looking to increases their chances of a match without looking into their profile. Some also swipe by accident.
You can customize what your profile says. Put very blatantly what you are looking for. And go through every guys profile looking for similar interests and such. Relationships are able to be had on there. I even managed to find my happily ever after. Don't give up.
This in a nutshell
Men typically just swipe right on all the women, then if they get a match they look to see if she's someone they want to fuck.
If you are matching with the hot guys those guys are matching with ALL the women and they chooses the hottest women who will fuck, otherwise they just ignore you.
Online dating gives women the impression they have more options than they actually do.
Never had this problem, guys message me all the time and I ignore them because there are just too many coming through. I maybe reply to the odd few and usually we end up just becoming friends.
But most guys on tinder are looking for sex, so I don't know what exactly you are looking for but tinder probably isn't the place to look for it. And if you think about it, when you date a guy off tinder, chances are you not the only one 👌
yah that shits confusing like vice versa like. like so do they want a hookup or a relationship.. I don't know is it weird to ask? also like most dating apps half the girls are 'hired help' lol which is a real bummer. like I get matches but 99% of the time no response... I get busy to and get over these dating apps. I don't know I guess it was designed as a hook up app but mainly people use it as a dating app. for me its prolly more of a confidence boost I guess. I wish they had a more modern dating app that have realisic suggestions and somewhat gsve you matches that are somewhat reasonable. some matches are jus like give me a break she way outa my league lol
These guys aren't 'forgetting' to message you. They are swiping right in hopes that you will be the first one to contact THEM.
Honestly, TInder's not exactly the best way to find a relationship. If youu're just looking to get laid, sure, but that's really it.
I do the same thing tbh I used to go onto tinder just to see how I would do and often wouldn't check the app until a month of two later which is awkward when you have someone text you and then reply a month later... I also realised that all the people on the app are looking for casual sex, which is goof for them but I realised through my experience that I want more. I want a relationship with someone and sex is just a plus
People looking for casual sex? Wow, woman think really nicely about us guys, don't they? maybe you should stop playing games, and message some people? A month? Yeah, I'd rather fuck you more than talk, if you'd respond back in a month... Grow up more!
I match with a lot of unnatractive girls. They trick you with a clever first pic, you swipe right. Next thing you know you're matched and you go through her profile and she's insanely ugly or actually like 500 lbs and I become amazed at how she was able to make herself look so good in that first pic. I rarely get matched with a hot girl and they absolutely never respond.