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The main problem with Tinder is that, by design, it's 100% based on looks alone AND because it can easily show you a much larger number of people than you will meet in real life - and because people who use Tinder are already better looking than average (most "ugly" people never use Tinder), it allows people to ignore everyone but their top 1% in looks - across a much larger pool of people - and this causes people to think that these are realistic matches for them. But they usually aren't, plus the other person (the person you matched with) also has unreasonable standards.
Essentially, you can have two 7s who won't give each other the time of day because they both are holding out for a 10, or at least a 9.8, that will never be interested in them. And virtually everyone on Tinder does this - male and female - because online dating in general and Tinder specifically are designed to encourage it.
Unless you are just looking for a casual sex hookup, you (people in general) have no business using Tinder, because it is absolutely NOT a dating app, much less a relationship app. If you think otherwise, then OF COURSE you will have your self esteem crushed.
Tinder is a joke but I believe I can understand the psychology.
Basically, guys have such a low number of matches and positive swipes from women that they actually positively swipe with people that in real life are realistically below their standards. That's how desperate and how low their esteem gets.
The other thing is, being physically attracted to someone and wanting to meet someone is a different thing. Physical attraction may stimulate the dick, but that's just more physical lust based really. I'm on Tinder, and honestly, I'm not trying to be a dick on it, I'm just not actually interested in meeting most of the people I match with. There's about 3 people I've seen on it that I'd actually meet with. So the real intent is never there. Hence why it's a load of garbage really. You want someone who stimulates you on multiple levels, physical, spiritual, emotional, etc.
I just use it to kill time now since life has become so unbearable with these stupid restrictions.
This video may be elucidating for you, if you haven't already seen it:
Simple. Some guys are jerks. In fairness, so are some women. At the heart of it, may be they did not like your message, For some guys it is all about the picture. Me, I actually READ the profiles. Presuming they filled it out. They are "liking" the pictures, more often than not. I had the same experience with some ladies. They matched, I sent a message, and boom unmatched. I am always respectful and polite, so I know that wasn't it. Me, if I matched and someone sent me a message and I realized this was not going to work, I always politely explained that I was no longer interested, before un-matching. Usually I will at least meet the person first, because sometimes people do no present well on the app. I am better if I write things out, so for me I present better that way. And Tinder does not really give you a lot of space to sum up who you are and what you are looking for. For what it's worth, I have had better luck with Facebook's app for dating. Just be sure you set your preferences within 25 miles. Good luck. Oh, one more thing to consider, if you are in a major metropolitan area, there my be a local based an operated app for your area. I live near Portland Oregon, and there is a Portland dating app. They verify people are actually IN the area.
I always thought it was the other way around. I read numerous articles and personal experiences about guys having it hard on dating apps and hookup apps because of how picky girls were. It was always "girls have it easy because they don't need as many things to be attractive as does a guy" and "girls only swipe right on the top 10% of men regardless of how attractive they are themselves". I'm surprised you're having trouble on Tinder. I looked at your profile picture you posted on this question and I honestly find you attractive (you'd probably reject me because I'm not the top percentage of males). But all in all, it just shocks me that you're having difficulty considering all the gender biased experiences I've come across leading me to believe guys have it a lot harder.
Well, I can only say from my only experience with Tinder, you only swipe away if there's something that turns you off. There is literally nothing on that profile besides an image, age, and distance to touch down. More than likely it means they met someone else and have something stable going there to whatever degree.
Writing what you want, your goals, ambitions, desires, no one reads that, my profile had literally nothing written in except my picture, first initial and I still got a match every now and then. Some guys might also like the attention but get anxious about actually talking to or approaching women. Seems strange, but it's possible.
Get off social media, they are poison. I don't know one damn person who is happier for being on social media. I know a whole bunch of people who are miserable and addicted to it. Hoping that next 'like' might be the magic bullet that makes their life full. But it leaves you empty and miserable. You sit there and get depressed by somebody you never met or know, who said something mean, possibly as a joke or they are just assholes and you are bearing this invisible cross, for what? Comminicate who you want to communicate with and let the world be miserable without you. Believe me, it will be.
Because we guys often like girls without really looking at her profile. He could have matched you without being really interested in you. Because many guys don´t have a premium Tinder we don´t have the opportunity to take a like back. It´s not best way to end it though.
You get similar with girls, I think it’s just how it goes on Tinder and other platforms.
even on here, someone follows you, you request to be added to their private profile, they don’t so you ‘boot’ them.
why follow if not going to chat etc.
Insta has its own quirks as well lol.
the joys of social media and especially online dating lol
guys swipe on every girl. Thats how it always is with dating apps. For guys you need to do this since there are so much other guys on it too. For girls this is not needed since they have so many guys to choose from, every like will end up in a match for her.
Could be that they match with everyone and only filter when they get a response. Or maybe they've met someone else recently. Or sobered up and changed their mind. There are many reasons, I found it best with Internet dating not to take it too seriously or personally. It can work out though, met OH on Bumble a few years ago, we're expecting our second child in a few weeks
i can't tell you all the reasons, cause i can imagine there's plenty.
one might be that guys on dating sites don't get many likes, so some of them just swipe everyone right and then choose who they speak with from whoever responds.
another might be, that they're not really involved with the platform and just wanna see who they are being liked by.
I don't know about that, but why is it iv used like 9 dating apps, and like 99% of rhe time it's either older women, men, trannys 1 guy named isis. A literal witch. And many gay or very very unattractive people hitting me up?
Why can't I find someone my age? With similar tastes? My home boy always matching and getting likes and does like nothing to get the attention. I don't know what is so off putting about me
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