Here's the thing.. And I've done this as well. Tinder is like a "girls world". The girls have the advantage as to who they like and don't like. I, along with a lot of other guys, try to maximize our chances by swiping right on every single girl. I know.. That's absolutely terrible.
I basically wait for a girl to match with me. I then check out her profile to see if she's attractive or not. If she's not, I either unmatch or forget to unmatch.
My guess is one of these five things:
1) A guy is planning on unmatching
2) Guy just forgot about you
3) The guy truly likes you and is shy
4) The guy is waiting a couple days to make a first move
5) The guy is just really busy and doesn't get on Tinder a lot
I actually do number 4 a lot as well. I do this because usually if a girl is spam or a robot, I'm able to tell when they send a first message like "Why haven't you looked at my moments sweetie?" Ugh.
Just give the guys a couple days to respond. You never know how busy they are. For the ones that don't talk to you, well that's their loss. It's also good for you because in a way it seems like you two weren't meant to be.
Keep your head up, be patient, and everything will work itself out :)
I ask myself why don't girls message first xD From dozens and dozens of matches, only a handful have messaged me first.
I guess some of the guys only use it for ego boost, just like some girls. Other also may not know how to start a conversation. Depending on your level of beauty, they may get nervous. I mean, if you're a 10, they may only have swiped right to see if a girl like you would find a guy like him attractive, but he doesn't know what to say.
You should ask a guy why he didn't text you first. Just ask him out of curiosity.
lol happened to me too... or usually it's stuck on morning... good morning. done.
I don't know clearly about this, my friends told me to play tinder because they're tired of seeing me being single... so I just played along. and I heard that it's actually for hook up not for a relationship.
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"I've been using Tinder recently and I have matched with a lot of girls, but only one or two have actually messaged me. I'm shy and am not the best at starting conversations so I usually wait for the girl to message first but they don't seem to, why is this? Do they just want me to message first or are they not that interested?"
Doesn't read so well the other way around, does it? If you like the guy, go for it.
Some guys also don't know what to say to a girl to get her attention. Many have figured out that a simple "hi, how's it going?" Isn't going to cut it these days. Also, it's a well known fact that girls on tinder are just there for the ego boost and have no desire or intention of messaging any guy, whoever messages first.
Guys far out weigh guys on apps like that.
If you aren't getting many messages if could be because they are assuming you already have you attention talking to lots of guys.
just cause you matched doesn't mean they stopped swiping at you.
Some use it just for boredom I think, swipe swipe, killing the time?
The same exact reason why you don't message first on tinder, ya dummy
Uhh... 8 times out of 10 they message first.
Guys do message first, you're just not that hot.
Why should they?
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