What are your thoughts on an open relationship? (Page 2)

Question

My boyfriend and I had a long talk last night about open relationships. What are your thoughts. Good or bad idea?

Fuzzy86 · Answer

The main thing with any open relationship is that the ground rules have to be set and adhered to at all times. If one side breaks those rules, it will lead to problems.

The main thing is to agree upon rules that you are both comfortable with. If something falls outside of either side's comfort zone, it should be immediately off the table.

osantoniette · Answer

it depends. there are people who get easily jealous, and there are not. and when you got a partner who wants an open relationship, and you agree with it, then why not? it's your choice. just make sure that no one gets hurt in the end, cause it'll be a wrong decision at the first place when you ended up fighting about it.

harryish · Answer

Look when I think with my brain it looks completely normal to me that love is a different thing and sex is different. Do as much sex as you want but keep the love for the one who you really love.
But when I think with my heart, It just doesn't feel right. Maybe it's a no big deal but tbh I will feel really sad seeing my partner going to someone even if for sex.
So, a YES from my brain and a NO from my heart.

metalsucks2 · Answer

It's a bad idea and shows the moral decline of our society and this is coming from an Atheist.

Why bother be in a relationship if all you want to do is f#ck more than one perosn? Just be single and f#ck how many people you want.

cutegirlygirl · Answer

I was raised to believe that loyalty is a huge part of a relationship and that open relationships break that loyalty. that's my own opinion though. if you want it then go for it. I myself am against them

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know, I always looked at it as a bad thing cause relationships are usually about trust and fidelity and all, so I felt that being in an open relationship is as good as not being in a relationship.
Now, I have been accustomed to seeing people's opinions but I still feel that it does not make sense and this is how I see convenience relationships generally..

zombiebabe · Answer

an open relationship, in my opinion is not a relationship

dragonfly6516 · Answer

Never been happier! No jealousy when I know he's coming back to ME. No insecurity when I can veto chicks that make me uncomfortable. And reserves the same rights with me.

James78 · Answer

What's the point? You are either in a relationship or you are not. My vote is 'hell, no'.

BuckyLane · Answer

they are usually a bad idea. people get jealous and feel left out/used. seen four of them fall apart already among my friends

Jemini_Crocket · Answer

They rarely work. Maybe at the start it's great but then it usually ends very badly.

I believe that if you really love someone, you don't want them to sleep with anyone else except you and no, that isn't a shallow thing.

Anonymous · Answer

For me personally? I'm gonna give an unpopular answer but ah well. If I'm in it for love then no way in hell im allowing him to cheat. Now if it's some wealthy guy that wants to date me and I'm not in love with him AND he wants to cheat, idgaf 🤷‍♀️

girlinthisworld · Answer

What's the point? If you don't want to be in a relationship where you're committed to one person then just don't be in a relationship. An open relationship is just a silly excuse to cover the fact you don't want to commit.

Anastasiya00 · Answer

Stupid idea. I take relationships seriously and if a guy ever tries to talk me into an open relationship I would instantly assume he is already seeing someone else but wants to use ''open relationship'' as an excuse to not feel guilty about it.

aj2958 · Answer

They can be good if you set out some rules first like don't talk about it to each other or, do not go with friends you know stuff that could break it up between you, but mainly make the choice you both are happy with

carlos06 · Answer

As an idea it's good if both persons agree with it and are mature and responsible enough to have it. It aleviates the stress of "monotony" in the relationship and the fear of being cheated on.

Having said that I don't think I could have one.

MaskCat · Answer

It is an dishonorable, sordid , salacious etc the individuals who perpetrates this act or join it. has a distorted belief that nothing about it is wrong or immoral misleading oneself into a hurtful or sad experience.

HOAAH · Answer

I Am not a fan, I am a one guy kind of gal and looking for a one gal kind of guy.

SnapTsch · Answer

open relationships show the lack of commitment to one person and unwillingness to to put in the effort for someone that you apparently have feelings for

it also almost always ends in hurting one of the two

Kimosabe · Answer

I hate the idea. Just can't do it. Relationships are about trust for me. And being there for each other. It ought to mean something.

guy42069 · Answer

Bad idea, I don't like the idea of just banging anyone you want and saying you're still in a relationship, it's gross

McKellar · Answer

If the couple don't love each other that much or not at all,... then really what's the point of getting into a relationship in the first place?

mUddling · Answer

From personal experience, I've found it works when you agree to it and agree not to share or ask anything about the other people in each other's lives. Also it's works much better when the other people are flings and only one person remains in the long term. That's just my experience, I'm sure it's different for different people with different levels of curiosity and self-confidence.

Anonymous · Answer

In my honest opinion if you feel okay with sharing the person your with you don't have really strong feelings for them. I feel like those relationships someone will always get hurt. So why risk it?

ladsin · Answer

Not for me. I get incredibly jealous as is, although I know of several people in open relationships and it works well for them. Just know what you what and go for it

April10 · Answer

What's your definition of open? Are you allowed to date other people only or are you allowed to have sex with them?

In either case, it's not for me. I guess I tend to be more jealous and I wouldn't handle it well

Pro14340 · Answer

I guess Idea of 'open relationship ' only sounds good. Even interesting n cool I must say. But same is not the case in reality. I'm pretty sure it never ends well.
But still if you want to try, then you can. But go for it only if he is agree.

Nora_90 · Answer

I don't see the point in it. Either be in a committed relationship or don't. It's not loyal and makes you look like a d*ck.

bedroomeyes · Answer

They're a bad idea to me, personally. You're inviting the end of your relationship.

bajustus · Answer

If you both are okay with it, I don't see a problem

_lauren_ · Answer

I don't think I'd want one. If my partner really wanted to then I might let them, but it'd make me insecure. However, every relationship is different and it just depends on the two people.

mimiblondychick · Answer

i honestly don't think its ever a good idea to be open , consider he wants to be with other girls , unless you are going with other guys and hooking up so its on your court

falafelany1 · Answer

It definitely isn't for me. I want only one person at a time and I want my partner to only want me. When it comes to marriage, I don't know how that would work.

joeboyes87 · Answer

For me no. Absolutely not. If i had a girlfriend who suggested it id have to leave her. Its not for me but if its what other people want more power to them.

Jenom · Answer

Not against it, it's totally up to the consenting individuals in the relationship. Personally, it is not for me at all. I don't "share" and I hold my significant other quite close to me.

Λασκαρης · Answer

i think it depends from the age... if you are young enough its not bad because you are dating with new people you are going to have new experiences and of course both of you , you are going to understand who is the one for each other.. so if you boyfriend is the one you get to know it

Itsjustsomeguy · Answer

In general, I feel like it only hurts people. There are plenty of cases though where it makes the relationship healthier though so I guess it just takes a specific kind of person/people to make it work

catsandstuff · Answer

I don't know. It depends on the couple and requires an IMMENSE amount of trust in one another. It's a little risky and if you or your partner are prone to jealousy it's probably not going to work out

Kaazsz · Answer

I wouldn't do it. I can barely get one girl, why open up my relationship so I can stay with one girl while she goes and gets 10 new dicks every week? lol.

JSmuve · Answer

I don't think they're for me. If my partner wants to be in an open relationship, then she's not into me enough and we might as well just be friends-with-benefits. On second thought, maybe that's not a bad idea 🤔

Volucum · Answer

think of your boyfriend not coming home at night. sleeping alone. and the next day getting a text sorry. I was with... it just gets you hurt not even starting about jealousy issues.

BrokenheartedPam63 · Answer

Bad idea for me. I want just one man that loves me and love him.

Dinaomg · Answer

We can't call it a relationship. Cause relationships have rules and open relationship has no rules both can do whatever. So it calls " be with someone and do what you want "

HitGirl_4680 · Answer

Could only work if I didn't have strong feelings for the other person otherwise it would kill/break my head heart!!!

JustinTheGreat · Answer

i dont see the point of being in a relationship if you want to be with more people.  but if people are happy with a relationship like that then its not my business

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

Doesn't sound like people in an open relationship actually love each other, It seems plastic to say I love you to one man and then turn around and bang another. Vice versa for men too.

Goodwifie · Answer

If you keep the passion in the relationship going and have amazing sex with your spouse then there should be no need to seek out another person.

TheOtakuMaid · Answer

if i catch my hypothetical partner with another dude, that dude is getting killed and her possibly as well.  now if its a female i dont mind so long as they share every once and awhile

MJCooper · Answer

Depends what the fuck the people in the relationship want. i would say this though, never agree to an open relationship if you aren't comfortable with it just to please your partner because it'll fuck with your head

Abe90 · Answer

I never knew that an open relationship was immoral. Did the open relationship commit a crime?

There is no wrong or right to this. Use that brain to realize that there will always two sides to things. Moron

Dale1982 · Answer

The only people that want open relationships are the ones that can't keep it in their pants. It's honest I suppose but it ain't a proper relationship unless it's exclusive. And so the moral degeneration of society continues

SleepyDon · Answer

open relationships can work, they just need people who can handle their feelings and not get jealous so easily.

BlackSkye · Answer

It's not something I'd do, but if a couple wants to do it and they know the ground rules, more power to them.

Anonymous · Answer

Personally I couldn't. Either your with someone or your not (same with breaks) Adding someone else just complicates things

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Pointless and gross. Just fwb's cheating on each other

Anonymous · Answer

bad, I'm clingy in a relationship though.
if you could cope with him being with other girls and him ok you being with other guys that's cool I guess. just know that this could make or break the relationship

Mr_Kapstar · Answer

Honestly I think if two people truly love each other they wouldn't need anything more than a traditional relationship. But hey, whatever floats your boat.

JhonnyMA · Answer

If you are ok with it then go for it, If my boyfriend proposed it, I'd say ok... but it really would be him going out with others, cuz I'd not feel right doing it...

BarracudaFunyun · Answer

Terrible idea, awful idea.

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