What are your thoughts on open relationships?

What are your thoughts on open relationships?
  • Everyone should try it
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  • No one should try it
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  • Only if you're married
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  • Only if you're NOT married
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  • To each their own
    Vote E
  • Other
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  • It's like this... I really hate onions, some others love it. Just because I hate onions doesn't mean others shouldn't have them. It comes down to personal preference and what makes your life liveable.

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  • More people should try them, better than non-monogamous people forcing themselves to be with one partner and ending up cheating

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    • Non monogamous? I think you mean polyamourous. Polyamourous is an open relationship... but out of curiosity... why?

    • I think it is rather closed minded to think a monogamous relationship is for everyone.

      There is still a level of taboo towards open relationships, so people feel forced to enter monogamous relationships when they don’t suit that person’s needs

Most Helpful Girls

  • I half way agree with the quote itself. Monogamy isn’t necessarily a “problem”, but people are capable of falling in live with multiple people and the idea that everyone HAS TO be monogamous can limit a person romantically and sexually.
    I would never be in an open relationship myself but I don’t see anything wrong with it.

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  • It’s not for me but if someone else digs it, more power to em’

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  • This will probably be a very unpopular opinion, but I believe open relationships are "more human" than monogamous ones. People in relationships still take a peek at someone else they find attractive, who isn't their partner. And as much as we may like our partner, the spark is never the same as when you first met your partner. We're humans, we naturally take things for granted and get used to what we have. And although it's ok to be in a relationship with only one person, it's insane to think that there is ONLY 1 person for you in the world. For God's sake, this planet has well over 7.2 billion people... there's no way in hell we'd be compatible with just 1 person. In our lifetime, we will have not even met 1% of Earth's population... and yet is it logical to believe that we just so happened to come across the perfect person for us, despite how little we've scavenged through? There's bound to be more. And so, I don't see logical reason to stick in a monogamous relationship, rather than someone possibly getting jealous that their partner may like someone else more than they like you. And yet, if we could learn to be more comfortable with who we are and not allow our jealousy to drive our minds, then I do believe it to be far more logical to live in an open relationship. There would be far less lonely people in this world, as we would stop feeling so much pressure regarding "finding the one" and know that you will still be free to experiment with other people to find someone that you may like for other reasons. Why only stick with pizza for the rest of your life when you can try out burgers, Chinese, ice cream, etc? And so, although being in a monogamous relationship isn't bad, I see far more positives to open relationships than I do monogamous relationships.

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  • In my opinion open relationships, is no different than telling your significant other that you're going to be cheating on them from the start and that they just have to deal with that.

    I think that's terrible. You should love and be with one person. That's just my opinion.

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  • To each their own, though commited monogamous relationships forces the people involved to evolve, grow and work together. Personally I think that's much more fulfilling.

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    • People in open relationships still have to go through those same things

    • I see, I can imagine it must even be harder at times.

  • Some people, open relationships work for. I've known people with open relationships who've been married for a dozen years or better. Other people, they don't work for.

    If you've got two people who both feel the same way about them, that sex on the side is just sex and no big deal, then it probably works out fantastically. If anyone in the arrangement doesn't feel that way though, it's going to be a huge mess.

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  • I tried it once when I was young and naive - it was a stupid idea. It makes no sense and because of that it most often ends badly. The only people who seem to do ok with it tend to be complete weirdos.

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  • I've had one. It ended in fire. No really.
    Never again.

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  • I would never have an open relationship, I'd never support it, and I'll never consider it anything other than bad, but people can do what they want to as long as nobody gets hurt

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  • "To each their own", if somebody wants to try it, then go ahead. Both partners would have to agree to it and be on the same page and set boundaries otherwise it wouldn't work.

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  • Poly relationships only work for some people, same goes for monogamous relationships, to each their own.

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  • open relationship is for less than 1% of people. People keep talking about it as though its highly needed.
    Love isn't cursed by monogamy. Love is cursed by a society that isn't prepared for monogamy.

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  • Its for immature slags & man slags & it spreads STD's. Plus risks totally irresponsible childbirth. The poor baby will not even know who its father is.

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  • Only negative, but I vote for E. I don't care unless it's concerning me. But I have my opinion. And it's really negative.
    It would be a dealbreaker for me.
    Do whatever you want, sure. But keep in mind there are consequences.

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  • If you are dating or married. You are dating or married to someone for a reason. If you are absolutely in-love with your partner,... then there's no reason to open the relationship nor possibly cheat.

    If you are not in-love with your partner, yet you are with that person,... than that person is just there in your life to fill in your empty void, that's it.

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  • To each their own. I personally don't like it. What's the point of being committed if you fuck other people?

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  • Why bother having a relationship if you are going to hook up with random people?

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  • I feel like if you want to or feel the need to be with anyone other than me, then you clearly don't really love me. I personally can't have any sort of feelings for more than one person at a time so I would never even consider it

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  • Pain in the ass. I tend to find it just magnifies drama if you have at least one of them with a twinge of insecurity. Way too much to deal with for me.

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  • "To each their own"... but I personally think it's absolutely fucked up.

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  • i couldn't do it for a few reasons. but i have no problem with other people doing it if that works for them

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  • Works great for some. Might not work at all for others.

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  • i would happily try it myself but i doubt I'd enjoy it, i get jealous, however it clearly works for some people so long as everything is consensual, you do you boo.

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  • Not my thing and I am completely uninterested. And it sounds like a mistake, but let people do what they want to do.

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  • Everyone should try it or to each their own, or at least be more "open" to the idea I mean. I think sexual monogamy isn't particularly natural in terms of biology, especially for guys.

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  • not into it you're either with me or not i dont play games

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  • Polygyny is the best. Women are incapable of multiple partners it literally destroys her mentally, physically , emotionally and spiritually.

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  • Open relationship allows to develop true relation with your partner and to have a complete communication. Open relationship doesn't mean that you have sex with everyone. But it's not for everyone.

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  • People say "to each their own" and "love is love." But where do we draw the line? A lot of people seem to be drawing the line at pedophilia but if that's so wrong why was everything leading up to it right and why is that wrong? I won't try to draw the line on what's wrong and what's right but I want people to start looking at the way they make choices and decide what they believe is right.

    Our culture in this day and age seems to have an attitude of "if we think it's good it must be good and we must strive for it, but there's still this over here that we think is bad." We draw arbitrary lines that suit what we believe and want to be true.

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    • Name one thing under "love is love" that hurts another person. You can't, because all of the things we agree with are between CONSENTING ADULTS. But pedophilia is rape, as children cannot consent. Try again.

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    • That is where we get more philosophical/sociological.
      Good is defined as what society/the majority considers good. If the majority of society believed pedophilia to be okay, that would make it okay (if the laws were adapted to that new norm). Currently the line is drawn at "if one or more can't legally consent, it's bad", but over time norms change. hundreds of years ago homosexuality was treated the same way pedophilia is nowadays, then over time the societal views and norms changed and now it's mostly accepted as an okay thing. Age of consent is also differet in every country, some have it set to 18, some even as low as 14. It comes down to how society judes it, as "good" and "bad" are not objective absolutes, but subjective opinions by society

    • @4pple While I disagree you've done a very good job of outlining my point. At one time homosexuality was considered a bad thing and @lexythelou22 while you say love is love doesn't hurt anyone I remember learning at one point that the AIDS virus is widely believed to have originated due to anal sex between males so whether or not I agree that there's anything wrong with homosexuality the notion that "love is love" can't ever hurt another person remains false. Likewise let me make it very clear that I think pedophilia is a horrendous crime that we should not tolerate. My question is where do we draw the line. You draw it at consenting adults but anyone in their right mind should be able to see that even many adults remain illogical morons through college incapable of making wise decisions about sex. I don't wish to make blanket statements, or draw the line somewhere. I merely wish to make people think. Scary I know a quiet mind may be a terrifying place.

  • What do women need average guys for if they can be in a polygamous relationship with someone rich.

    What do average guys need to work at holding society up for if all the women are taken by the rich.

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    • Open relationships and polygamy are not the same thing by definition. Also it doesn't necessarily take a lot of money to be in an open relationship.

  • It's actually really pleasant but the thing is the consequences are dramatic soooo.. Is it worth the cost?

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    • The question was a open relationship, not cheating.
      There's a difference.
      So I do wonder what costs you're referring to.

    • Open relationships can cause jealousy and resentment for some

  • It's not for me. I don't see what sense it makes to be in one.

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    • It's definitely not for everyone but people have their reasons

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  • What is the point of being in a relationship then? Personally if my partner mentioned that I would think he's not really serious about the relationship him and I have. It just shows your partner isn't loyal to you. I mean cudos to people who do that but I wouldn't trust them.

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  • To each their own but its honestly fucked up. Monogamy is where its at!

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  • I've tried them, never really took the opportunity to use it on my side, because I never reallywanted to anyway. And I found out they're not my thing at all. However I don't judge anyone in sucha relationship, everyone is free to live their life as they wish.

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  • Open marriage is more enjoyable and healthy to me.
    We started it almost a yr ago

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    • And I'm sure you have lot of pleasure and it make your relation stronger 😊

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    • I think you were talking to "asker" but it also be a pleasure for me to discuss with you. Always interesting to see how other couple like us deals with it

  • I would never do such a thing to myself, but if all the people involved are 100% okay with it I don't see how it could be wrong.

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  • I'm not into open relationships, but I'm all about a polygamous one. Share the love.

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  • To each their own, If that makes you happy and doesn't hurt your partner/s , but it's definitely not my cup of tea

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  • I’m going to have to go with No one should try it... it can have affects on later terms around them and others...

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  • I think it’s good for people who are not ready for a monogamous relationship.

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  • I don’t like open relationships so I’m not in one. To each their own

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  • I would say no. have one person cause then you are able to stay strong with that one realation ship

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  • My Open Marriage works great

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    • When it's done in the right conditions it works pretty well. Long time to your happy wedding

  • I'm not into sharing or being shared.

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  • To each their own but my man is mine.

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  • I respect monogamous relationships a lot more.

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  • I love monogamy!!😍

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  • Not for me but hey, knock yourself out.

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  • More stds and unwanted prego

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  • I was recently introduced into one and it's hot

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    • i'd love to hear about it if you are ever in the mood to share

  • To each their own 😊

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  • Good...

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  • its for thots who wanna be thoting unjudged.

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  • A friend of my partner and I is polyamourous... and truthfully... I don’t mind if they do their thing. It’s whatever and I think maybe it can be a cool experience for that person...

    But the minute she tries to pounce on my hubby I’m about to throw fists... not really. I’d just communicate with her first... then throw fists if she continues...😂 and probably lose the fight cause my ass is weak.

    If that’s the case though, I don’t see the purpose of marriage. I also don’t entirley understand the idea besides meeting others and gaining some sort of emotional fulfillment or new experiences such as physical and emotional.

    Me? I wouldn’t do it. I like sharing a bond with the one Guy I love. It’s a special bond that I’ve never had with anyone else. And I get jelous easily (its already tough to work in smaller things. Bigger things as such would suck cause then that bond wouldn’t be as special.

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  • It's bullshit. In he first place, why even be in a relationship if all you want you want to have a free ticket to also be emotionally and physically (i. e. sex) invested on around with other people aside from you partner? aren't you afraid of STD, and bringing that home to your partner?

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    • It's not a "free ticket", There are rules in these relationships. Also the parties are usually careful about what they're doing, not just blindly sleeping unprotected with every person that walks by

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    • No what I said is if you can't trust a person not to do something as simple as wearing a condom then how are you going to trust them not to cheat in a monogamous relationship. People are capable of connecting with or even loving more than one person and that doesn't make them a cheater.

    • Even wierder to have rules. So have to use condoms with all the many other people? 1. Condoms make sex dull, 2. Condoms can split or come off 3. Can still pass around crabs. The whole idea of open is just for immature slags who havnt got the ability or skills to make a single relationship fulfilling.

  • So what do u mean in order to love someoen is better not to be a monogamist?

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