What does it mean if a guy triple texts you?

[Anonymous]

I've got a friends with benefits that I kind of think I have feelings for, and I kind of thing that he may feel the same.

Friday night I go 24 hours with no phone just because I'm with family and I didn't want distractions.

These are the texts I get:

- Friday NIGHT 8.30 PM "hey how was your day?"
- Saturday MORNING AT 11AM "you ok?"
- Saturday MORNING AT 11.30AM "heyyyy" on whats app as opposed to the texting.

Is this needy and obsessive? Sign of wanting control? Or maybe feelings?

[misswierdo]

I think he has feelings for you. He asked you how was your day. and he was concerned intead of being mad when you didn't reply him.
And even after that he texted you the third time. He really wanted to tal to you and was ready to give up his male ego even when you didn't reply him for a couple of hours.

[Asker]

Thank you. The thing is when I went back to him and apologised and said I wasn't too good at the moment (due to anniversary of my granddad's death approaching) he was a bit abrupt with me.

[misswierdo]

What did he say?

[Asker]

scrap it all - I told him I didn't wanna do casual and was leaving the site we are both on. He seemed a little down but it didn't trigger anything where I could say about my feelings and him having any, and it seemed like he really doesn't have any.

[misswierdo]

That sounds rough. Well, I hope he realizes soon enough if he has any.
And even if he doesn't, I think you did the right thing. Otherwise, things could have gotten way out of hand

[Asker]

Yeah I feel like it was the right thing as I know in myself I'm falling for him and the more we sleep together the more I'll fall until it's too late. I've done this twice with this guy now - cut him out just as I start to fall. He did say some lovely things and was worried about me talking care and saying he'll always be there for a chat etc. Maybe it isn't the end. I kind of feel if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. Arghh doing the right thing sucks!

[misswierdo]

It sometimes does, goodluck though.

[Girassol]

I don't think it's wanting control, he just eagerly wants to talk to you, could be feelings

[Asker]

I know he has other friends with benefits so I just wondered if they weren't paying him attention. Or he banks on ALWAYS having my attention and it suddenly wasn't there!

[TasDevil]

he is wondering if you are okay unfortunately because most people have their phones on them 24/7 if you don't answer it straight away they either get worried or angry at you he sounds worried not angry
might be one to hang on to 😉

[Asker]

Thank you. I do find myself thinking about dating him but then I remember that we were friends with benefits before and never told me he had a girlfriend so I feel I can't trust anything he does or says sometimes.

[TasDevil]

sorry to hear that
dumb pricks are everywhere hope you find someone who deserves you

[Asker]

Aw thank you. I ended up saying to him today I'm not doing casual anymore. I didn't tell him that I have any feelings but I didn't feel that he was as bothered as I'd hoped it was ending, so hopefully I've made the right decision. He did say to me "so I guess that means that there is no more us?" I didn't think we were ever an us. Argh! On the flip side he told me I always have a friend in him when I need a chat etc. So who knows what's going on but he didn't run away screaming in sadness haha

[TasDevil]

hope you find what you're looking for

[Asker]

Thank you

[Dudeman1234]

Well you didn't text back so he thought you were mad or ghosting him

[Asker]

But he texted Friday night and then I responded within 24 hours - would he really think I was mad or ghosting?

[Dudeman1234]

Well the "you ok" text means he was concerned. How long does it usually take for you to reply. If this was longer than usual he may have thought the worse

[Asker]

Ah that's fair I guess. I'm usually pretty quick but he knows sometimes I'm with family and so don't respond. Sometimes he's the same.

[bababooya]

Fuck it. go for gold girl

[Asker]

You think?

[bababooya]

you'll never go where you've never gone if you always do what you've always done.

[bababooya]

do it

[Asker]

Thank you - I love that line - it's brilliant!

[bababooya]

lol thanks. let me know how it goes I'm curious now

[Asker]

Cheers!

[bababooya]

That's my girl.