I am a promiscious girl, should I still date him?

Question

There is a guy a like very much. I know that if i ask him out then he surely will say yes because he seems to like me too.

I know some things about him.
He is 26 years old.
He is a guy who dont drink, smoke, do drugs or parties.
He is a guy who had only 1 sexual partner who was a 5 year long girlfriend.
He has a negative view on casual sex and sexual contact outside a relationship.
He dont even kiss girls aslong as he isn't in a relationship with them.
He is a guy who can't separate love and sex

Im the complete opposite
Im 24 years old
I party a lot and drink a lot and smoke a little but no drugs
I had 9 sexual partner who only 1 was a boyfriend of 4 months
I do casual sex and sex is not love

Do you think he will date me if he would know about my sexual past? I dont really want to keep my past a secret from him because one day he will find out about it and he might see it as a dealbreaker and break up with me.
We have completly different values on sex and it might lead to problems later on.

Should i even try it or should i rather seek someone like me and he should seek someone like him?

Malik00 · Accepted Answer

From a pure compatibility standpoint this is never gonna work. Your viewpoints on so many things are just vastly different.

He's going to expect you to only be around him, and you sound like you're used to sleeping around. You also have different views on sex, which could lead to you cheating and that would just make everything fall apart.

Not to mention, even if you did somehow make it work, learn some restraint and stick with him and only him, if your past ever came back to haunt you and he found out... well lets just say if i were him. I would start to get worried about the relationship.

Not out of any notion of you being unclean for sleeping around, but if you're that used to such a wild life, they I would honestly start to question whether you ever had any real attachment to me in the first place.

My ultimate opinion, if you really like him and want to give it a try then go for it, just know that it will not be easy, especially if you want to have everything out in the open.

Lonerguy1234 · Accepted Answer

please, please dont chase him. my ex was like you and i got FUCKED OVER. you won't be able to control yourself , there are lots of attractive charismatic 25 + year olds that will eventually grab your attention. i think you "love" him because he isn't easy to get and every other girl gets rejected. i can't really explain i dont have as much experience as mr. olderandwiser. but you both have completely different beliefs and your still young and i dont think you'll be willing to stop drinking and partying. I don't know if he is christian or not but we share some beliefs , i prefer long term rship i want to find that one person and just tell everyone else to screw off. i realize how hard it is especially since im 22 most girls this age dont want a serious rship. sigh. but please dont bother this guy unless your willing to change your lifestyle.

SarahsSummer · Accepted Answer

Why pursue a guy with such different values than yourself in the first place?

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If you don't want to settle down with one guy in a LTR why would you think you should date this guy?

GeorgeDubyaKUSH · Answer

You should tell him about your past the first time you two start talking romantically, but don't be brutally honest - instead sugar coat it and say you had several partners but you're not proud of it and are wiling to change, and want to settle down and be with one person only.

Speaking of which, ARE you willing to be with him and only him? Are you capable of monogamy, or would you end up looking outside the relationship for sex after a while has passed? If you're not willing to be exclusive with him, then don't waste his time. Go after this guy only if you're willing to be exclusive for a long time, and you're confident that you won't break his heart.

pogicraft · Answer

Play him like a fiddle and toss him to the side. I don't see why you're looking for a long term relationship here... The way you set it up, you'll probably be with someone else before Christmas anyway. So why can't you just introduce him to casual sex? Or have sex so much he gets bored...

Anonymous · Answer

You should tell him what kind of person you are so it will be easy for him to lose interest and not be thinking about you anymore.
You need to find someone like yourself. You two have different morals. If you were with him he would emotionally suffer and it would eventually end anyways.

keelan · Answer

I'd say tell him how you feel about him, but tell him straight away about your views on your ideal relationship. He might be interested in going out with you, but make it clear that that is what you are offering to avoid confusion later on.

Anonymous · Answer

That depends. What are you looking to get out of this guy? An actual relationship or just to try someone out? If you're not gonna give this guy your 100%, then don't do it. As for the past thing, don't say shit. It's VERY stupid to ask about a girls past. Only questions to ask are,
1. Are you clean?
2. Do you have kids?
3. Are you single?
4. Are you still seeing any of your ex's?

pathseeker · Answer

this may sound harsh but those guy are right but if you feel like you can be patient enough and grow together then go for it it may just work as long as you don't put too much expectation on him

Anonymous · Answer

LMAO IF YOU THINK THAT HE WILL DATE YOU, YOU ARE ENTIRELY WRONG. UNLESS HE DOES NOT KNOW ABOUT YOU. IF HE GETS HURT, HE WILL FUCK WITH SO MANY THAT YOU WON' T BE ABLE TO COUNT BECAUSE THOSE KIND OF PEOPLE WHEN GET HURT, THEY FUCK EVERYONE AND THROW THEM AS HE WAS THROWN ONCE AWAY.

Anonymous · Answer

You're probably gonna cheat on him, which is what all promiscious women do.

I'm guessing you're gonna keep riding the cock carousel till you're somewhere near your late 20's/early 30's and then try to settle down with a "nice guy" that has a lot of money or is successful.

ThisDudeHere · Answer

It doesn't hurt to try, but since you're aware that it might be a dealbraker, better put it on the table as fast as possible in order to find out.

bgowd · Answer

Nope. You're fundamentally incompatible. Even if he dates you, you'll probably not be satisfied with him and either breakup because of that or cheat. Go for your own kind.

JohnDoe3000 · Answer

Nah, if he doesn't even drink or kiss outside of a relationship then you two are too different.

404filenotfound · Answer

I'd say be honest and upfront with him, if it works out then you'll know

EyezNMindLikeDOGE · Answer

What's wrong with not keeping sex and live together? That's how it should be.

DizzyAster · Answer

Yeah, try it. Why not?  You are willing to stop if you date him, right? If not, then don't bother.

Asad1ONE1 · Answer

I personally wouldn't even if she's kissed one before lol. But yeah you BETTER ask him! Hopefully his answer is "NO" unless he's promiscuous himself.

CT_CD · Answer

Gross. Hopefully he doesn't date you. He can do better.

Anonymous · Answer

What kind of man wants a woman who has been used by 10 other men?

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell him that you are a ho... Then, he can decide from there. I would just bend you over and send you home. Other guys may react differently...

Asiantrash · Answer

Ask him that you want to date with him but you can't keep the sex life monogamous

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