For me the difference is would you consider dating a person of that race in a healthy relationship. If you could honestly say that you would consider it, I believe that it isn't racist just preference. If your answer is I would never date anyone of that race or date them in an unhealthy way (abusive and/or demanding), then you are probably racist. Alternatively could you ever be attracted to someone of that race.
True racists would never be in a healthy relationship with or be attracted to a person of the race that they are racist against. The reason I say healthy is because they might date someone of the race that they don't like, but then abuse them. I think that those would be rare, but it could happen. Those that just don't prefer them would be in a healthy relationship in the right circumstances, but it would be harder to fulfill.
This comment only reflects the race in the physical appearance. If you bring beliefs (religion, culture) into the mix that can be a different story. For example being a devote Christian and not wanting to date a traditionalist Muslim is not necessarily racist because they can have conflicting ideas that are not able to be reconciled. That is a different rabbit hole that goes far deeper than I am going to go right now.
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Most people have preferences in dating and I thinks it's fine. Race preference is similar to preferring brunette more than blondes in dating and as long it's just about finding certain physical appearance more attractive than others it's not wrong. But if it's based on prejudice like "I don't want to date X because they're annoying" it's a lot different and then it's racist. It's also racist if you refuse to date another race regardless of the individual.
Here's an example where race preference is fine. If a person has a preference for blonde people with blue eyes he would most likely date people of North-European heritage because these features are most common among them. Blonde hair and blue eyes is rarer among people from Africa for example, so it's natural preferring European looking people more than African looking people because of that. But as long the person is open minded it's fine and it's not people's fault they finds certain facial features, body builds and hair colors for example more attractive than others.
I always thought racism ran a lot deeper than just whether or not you were attracted to someone.
1. Are you denying this girl and all others freedoms and choices because of their race?
2. If you work together, are you prohibiting her from opportunities *because* of race?
3. Do you make assumptions about her because of her race? (Prejudice)
I'm thinking your answer is no to these questions. There are physical features you find attractive, and you would very likely find them in a race you typically don't date, and just don't know it yet. For example, if you absolutely love dark black hair - you will typically find that naturally within the darker-pigmented races. However, if you met a Caucasian girl with natural dark black hair, then you may forgo any race preference because you have found the physical trait you love.
I don't like it when the word racism is used so loosely, because to me in this case there are connotations of hate, prohibition, ill-treatment all associated with that word. What you're doing is experimenting with how you feel about some physical traits people have, all the while not hating a race because of it, but finding a commonality in traits that appeal to you.
Who cares what anyone else thinks about who you date? They don't pay your bills or make your life, so they don't get a vote. Hipsters and culture Nazis all think they have a right to tell people what they should think and do in their personal lives. It's bullshit.
If you prefer a certain race, it's not racist. If you refuse to date another race regardless of the individual, it's racist.
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Not at all, many factors play a role.
- Preferences
- Family history
- What parents want what is best for you (e. x: A Christian man marrying a Christian woman or Muslim man marrying a Muslim woman)
- Most importantly, kids, how do you want your kids to be raised. I am a firm believer in God, going for prayers and etc, therefore I would not want to be with a woman who is an atheist, that's just my personal preference.
At the same time, it's perfectly fine for interracial marriage or couples to be with each other as well. E. x - A Muslim marrying a Christian. That's quite common in this world day as well.Preferring one race over another for dating is okay. Downgrading other races isn't okay.
I prefer a certain race too. Does it mean that I hate any race? No! I'm afraid I'm a bit racist towards Arabs in this case tho. They are hot, but I don't like their culture.When it comes to dating and relationships I believe you have the right to be a picky as you want. Dont like someone for whatever little reason you have.
But you must accept that others play by these rules too.
You must also accept that by being too picky you might never find someone.
Tolerance is great and even in dating I believe in having some tolerance for the little things that might not be your tastes but at the end of the day its a matter of preferences and if you dont like something, anything, then you dont have to be with them.Usually there is an undertone of racial fetishness and/or self hate with interracial relationship.
For example - Many Indian/Asian girls date white guys for their skin colour and perceived status elevation of having a white partner. In addition, Indians tend to have a caste system put in place where white skin is deemed good and may very be dating you so their kids can have lighter skin tone.
In short, a large percentage of people who tend to focus on a given race usually have a deep seated messed up reason of wanting to be with that race. Whether that reason is skin colour, status elevation, or a strong belief/stereotype of expectations of someone based on race.
akphoto1.ask.fm/.../file.jpgNot in the slightest, no.
And if society said it was, would that make you wrong? Not at all, you like what you like.I live in Canada.
Exactly.
I've seen dozens of thousands of people of every race here, plus those of tv.
1 of the black girls was Okay, and the other one I actually liked.
But that's not serious, I've literally seen thousands of white girls that I find cute or attractive.
I want my kids to have a certain upbringing, having an Alien culture to mine wouldn't allow for that.
About my own race, it's why I even don't consider dating many nationalities of white women as well.
I hope you realize I don't plan on travelling the world to look at every individual to them base my preferences.
Have you tasted all the types of coffee? No? then you can't say you like coffee.
Point is, with a sample size in the few thousand you can make assumptions.
+ I'm literally just biologically not attracted to them.
The only black girl I actually find attractive is pretty light skinned.Define "prefer"...
If you simply find yourself attracted to the skin color and bone structure of one race more often than those of some other race that doesn't make you racist. But if you categorically dislike every member of a certain race then you probably are racist.no it's not racist to only date certian races but i do beleive its racist when you single that race out in a profile. see the way i look at is that race you single out could become a friend but he or she is pushed away because of the single out comment on some profile..
No, definitely not. All races have common traits amongst them, all people have preferences, so sometimes you might just like a certain look that's common amongst a certain race.
I prefer one race over all others, and I'm far from racist. Actually, I'm mixed, and one of my own races is really low on my list of what looks good to me and I'm certainly not racist to my own self.to have a preference no. like if someone says i prefer and usually find myself most attracted to hispanic people but still date people of other races and backgrounds that is not racist.
but if you say you prefer a certain race and won't date people of other races that probably points to racismIt's racist if you refuse to date African Americans because they're African American or Hispanics because they're Hispanics. It's racist if you think dark skinned people are lesser people than you because their skin looks like the dirt you step on. That's racist.
No, not racist at all. What's racist is not giving someone a job because their black, or not allowing to buy some candy because their black. But, if you have a preference when it comes to intimacy, I would say it's particularly racist.
Certainly not.
Racism is treating people differently based on their race. Racism is telling a Latino he can't rent from you or giving a slot at a university to a black person with lower test scores over a white or Asian with higher scores.
Whether you prefer chocolate, vanilla, strawberry, or mango ice cream is merely your preference.No, I guess some could view it as prejudice, but really it just comes down to want you want. It's not weird when you like a certain type of girl compared to another of the same race, it shouldn't be any different. It's not like you have any ill-will towards them.
You don't control what your attracted to. You choose to just not like someone because they are a different color, religion, etc...
you don't choose to be attracted to someone. You are or you aren't. I am not attracted to non-white women. That doesn't mean I have any issues with any other women. I would let a black or Chinese woman suck my cock... I just don't want to kiss or fuck them.I mean, you're attracted to who you're attracted to, so if you genuinely are or aren't attracted to specific races, that's fair. It's just a problem when a race is either fetishized, or shunned due to factors beyond strictly their appearance and you let something about their culture deter you.
NO!! someone has said that I am racist because I prefer dating men who are African-American and it is just a preference to me, it isn't like I am racist towards white men or racist towards any ethnicity! I am still completely civil to everyone and i still believe every person deserves equality and shouldn't be grouped by the color of their skin.
It is because rejecting an entire race, millions of people only because of the race and nothing more. We have preferences but race doesn't make sense. For example I like guys with cute faces and a sweet personality and that guy could be white or Asian or black or from any other race. Every person in a race is different, appearance wise, personality wise, intelligence wise. Race is very vague, you just limit yourself for no reason.
No being attracted to/dating another skin tone doesn't make you racist, we are all one race, other's treat shades differently based on inferiority complexes. However, if you are saying that you wouldn't date people of your shade because you don't consider them attractive means there are underlying issues with self-esteem that need to be addressed, perhaps through counseling. Because not seeing the beauty in your own, is no seeing the beauty in yourself, and you should see beauty in everyone any negativity is unwarranted.
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