Is it racist to prefer to date a certain race?
What Girls Said 40
I always thought racism ran a lot deeper than just whether or not you were attracted to someone.
1. Are you denying this girl and all others freedoms and choices because of their race?
2. If you work together, are you prohibiting her from opportunities *because* of race?
3. Do you make assumptions about her because of her race? (Prejudice)
I'm thinking your answer is no to these questions. There are physical features you find attractive, and you would very likely find them in a race you typically don't date, and just don't know it yet. For example, if you absolutely love dark black hair - you will typically find that naturally within the darker-pigmented races. However, if you met a Caucasian girl with natural dark black hair, then you may forgo any race preference because you have found the physical trait you love.
I don't like it when the word racism is used so loosely, because to me in this case there are connotations of hate, prohibition, ill-treatment all associated with that word. What you're doing is experimenting with how you feel about some physical traits people have, all the while not hating a race because of it, but finding a commonality in traits that appeal to you.0
NO!! someone has said that I am racist because I prefer dating men who are African-American and it is just a preference to me, it isn't like I am racist towards white men or racist towards any ethnicity! I am still completely civil to everyone and i still believe every person deserves equality and shouldn't be grouped by the color of their skin.5
It's racist if you refuse to date African Americans because they're African American or Hispanics because they're Hispanics. It's racist if you think dark skinned people are lesser people than you because their skin looks like the dirt you step on. That's racist.
- Show AllShow Less
No, definitely not. All races have common traits amongst them, all people have preferences, so sometimes you might just like a certain look that's common amongst a certain race.
I prefer one race over all others, and I'm far from racist. Actually, I'm mixed, and one of my own races is really low on my list of what looks good to me and I'm certainly not racist to my own self.1
- Show AllShow Less
It's not racist but if you limit yourself to what's familiar and still expect to find a good partner, don't count on it. If you look for certain people outside of your race, then dismiss the whole idea of finding a strong character jn a mate. If you don't want to date certain people from certain cultures, that's different and sometimes customs and language barriers can impede in a good relationship. Not their fault.2
Who cares what anyone else thinks about who you date? They don't pay your bills or make your life, so they don't get a vote. Hipsters and culture Nazis all think they have a right to tell people what they should think and do in their personal lives. It's bullshit.0
It is very similar to not wanting to date a guy because he is overweight or is super rude. Nothing wrong with wanting to be attracted to your partner. Nothing to be ashamed of, express your opinion and go for what you like.1
Everyone has a preference because everyone is attracted to different types of people it is not rarest but it is shallow. People fall in love with personality rather than looks. If you're just basing finding love through looks it will be harder for you to find love0
Oh my good ness what happened to this world? This is so stupid. Why don't people just fall for who they fall for? Now men are judging if they would date a woman or not by the color of their skin? What the heck. Be with whoever treats you right. You are still young.0
If you just like a certain race than no but if you don't want to date someone because they're not the race you prefer, than that would be racist.5
I don't think so. I honestly prefer white men, but that doesn't mean I am opposed to dating men of color (and I have before!). As a geeky white female, I tend to prefer geeky white males lol.1
Depends on your reasons for it. If you're a self hater meaning that you hate your own ethnicity or think other ethnicities are terrible, then yes that makes you a racist.2
No you are not racist , it's something normal for me I prefer to date white guys but that doesn't mean than I hate black people... etc0
I feel like if I say anything im gonna get bombarded so all im gonna say is, be a panda.2
No it's not "racist" in the slightest. We literally all have our preferences.3
Actually i believe that as long as you don't have ill feelings and negative thoughts about the other races you aren't being racist...1
Nope, I've been called racist for wanting to marry an Indian man, but I have had feelings for men of different races/ethnicities.0
- More from Girls 20
What Guys Said 75
It's not racist, though I think a lot of the people on dating sites are. I'm like you too and prefer other kinds of women.1
For me the difference is would you consider dating a person of that race in a healthy relationship. If you could honestly say that you would consider it, I believe that it isn't racist just preference. If your answer is I would never date anyone of that race or date them in an unhealthy way (abusive and/or demanding), then you are probably racist. Alternatively could you ever be attracted to someone of that race.
True racists would never be in a healthy relationship with or be attracted to a person of the race that they are racist against. The reason I say healthy is because they might date someone of the race that they don't like, but then abuse them. I think that those would be rare, but it could happen. Those that just don't prefer them would be in a healthy relationship in the right circumstances, but it would be harder to fulfill.
This comment only reflects the race in the physical appearance. If you bring beliefs (religion, culture) into the mix that can be a different story. For example being a devote Christian and not wanting to date a traditionalist Muslim is not necessarily racist because they can have conflicting ideas that are not able to be reconciled. That is a different rabbit hole that goes far deeper than I am going to go right now.1
Most people have preferences in dating and I thinks it's fine. Race preference is similar to preferring brunette more than blondes in dating and as long it's just about finding certain physical appearance more attractive than others it's not wrong. But if it's based on prejudice like "I don't want to date X because they're annoying" it's a lot different and then it's racist. It's also racist if you refuse to date another race regardless of the individual.
Here's an example where race preference is fine. If a person has a preference for blonde people with blue eyes he would most likely date people of North-European heritage because these features are most common among them. Blonde hair and blue eyes is rarer among people from Africa for example, so it's natural preferring European looking people more than African looking people because of that. But as long the person is open minded it's fine and it's not people's fault they finds certain facial features, body builds and hair colors for example more attractive than others.0
No, not racist at all. What's racist is not giving someone a job because their black, or not allowing to buy some candy because their black. But, if you have a preference when it comes to intimacy, I would say it's particularly racist.4
to have a preference no. like if someone says i prefer and usually find myself most attracted to hispanic people but still date people of other races and backgrounds that is not racist.
but if you say you prefer a certain race and won't date people of other races that probably points to racism1
Not in the slightest, no.
And if society said it was, would that make you wrong? Not at all, you like what you like.5
If you simply find yourself attracted to the skin color and bone structure of one race more often than those of some other race that doesn't make you racist. But if you categorically dislike every member of a certain race then you probably are racist.2
- Show AllShow Less
No, I guess some could view it as prejudice, but really it just comes down to want you want. It's not weird when you like a certain type of girl compared to another of the same race, it shouldn't be any different. It's not like you have any ill-will towards them.0
I mean, you're attracted to who you're attracted to, so if you genuinely are or aren't attracted to specific races, that's fair. It's just a problem when a race is either fetishized, or shunned due to factors beyond strictly their appearance and you let something about their culture deter you.0
You don't control what your attracted to. You choose to just not like someone because they are a different color, religion, etc...
you don't choose to be attracted to someone. You are or you aren't. I am not attracted to non-white women. That doesn't mean I have any issues with any other women. I would let a black or Chinese woman suck my cock... I just don't want to kiss or fuck them.0
I don't think it's necessarily racist, but many times I can be.. And I agree that if you refused to date any group than that is pretty much racism.. Why are you refusin to date that group? It's silly really.. People complicate ish too much.. Also "preference" is affected by what you consume, and daydream about many times..0
no it's not racist to only date certian races but i do beleive its racist when you single that race out in a profile. see the way i look at is that race you single out could become a friend but he or she is pushed away because of the single out comment on some profile..1
Racism is treating people differently based on their race. Racism is telling a Latino he can't rent from you or giving a slot at a university to a black person with lower test scores over a white or Asian with higher scores.
Whether you prefer chocolate, vanilla, strawberry, or mango ice cream is merely your preference.0
It can be yes... but preferences can be discrimination hiding behind preferences...
It's no different than a boss telling a Asian person you are not qualified for the job when in fact he just doesn't want an Asian person working with him - will you ever know? nope... does the person have malicious intent to not hire you, yes... is it a preference.. Yes,... is it also racist/discrimination.. YES0
Absolutely not. Not intrinsically, anyway. Anyone who tells you otherwise is just a radical, cultural Marxist4
All these " racist " questions !! It is personal preference , ALL races will have their attractive & less attractive members , I'm a Eurasian mix of Uralic / Turkic , Slavic & Celtic ( giving my unusual change colour blue / green eyes ) & have also dated different races , but predominately Europeans. Racist is overused & used out of proper context by the " Liberals TM " ... getting boring... get some new material !!0
No it isn't racist to not be attracted to someone with different skin colour/culture or belief in romance, I'd day it's more fascist to force the idea that one MUST be attracted to all.
It's like some prefer strawberry flavour others like vanilla.
As long as you're not harassing/ bullying o Judging another due to their race then there's no problem.1
No I dont feel it is, I prefer black/mixed woman. I won't date a white girl simply because I dont get turned on. Something to do with the way my brain is wired. Now I might date a white girl if she could understand that I wouldn't get turned on and we most likely would rarely have sex.1
Whom you choose to date or not date can never be bad. If it is then the proponents of such a thought are obligated to come up with ways of controlling the dating lives of people.1
- More from Guys 55
You cannot undo this action. The opinion owner is going to be notified and earn 7 XPER points.