Finding love in a racist society as a single mother with a biracial son?

[Frosteh]

There's several issues that all compound together and make you a really unattractive candidate for dating/marraige.

The biggest one by far, is that you're a single mother. Irrelevant of the race of the child, many men have a very strong negative emotional reaction to putting in resources to raise another mans child. This comes from our evolutionary history, those men who evolved mechanisms to feel disgust towards the idea of raising another mans child simply passed on their genetics more often. The more resources spent on raising another mans child the less you have to spend on your own genetic offspring and traits which encouraged men to be indiscriminate about the progeny of the children he was fathering were simply an evolutionary dead end.

Second of all the child is mixed which means any white man trying to date you is going to have an outward indicator that signals to other men the above problem. And men judge other men on this issue, we all tend to feel this disgust even if its on the behalf of someone else, so there's social stigma there. At least with a white baby the problem is somewhat hidden from immediate view.

Third, the uncomfortable truth here is that black men in many places such as America tend to abandon their children. Approximately 20% of white children are fatherless but a whopping 60% of black children are fatherless. Most people are aware of the fatherless problems with black children, and so men have to question your judgement here. Men are discerning when it comes to a potential female partners choices in life, it's a judge of her character. Why did you pick a man to get pregnant with who is the type of character of someone who would leave? Too many people (mostly women) are quick to blame the man for leaving, but secretly men also judge women for picking that man to begin with, after all you have all the power when dating, who to court, who to sleep with, etc.

Forth, your attitude here is really bad. You're looking for a man to take care of you, that comes with an incredible sense of entitlement. Why would any man do that?

[lightbulb27]

It shouldn't be an issue, everyone is a mix of something. the challenge is at this age, a lot of guys don't have kids, may not want responsibility (it's lot to take on) and risk of baggage... dad comes back, etc..

I think you'll need to do some changing and go fishing in a different pond. Something is "off kilter" here. You write like you have a great heart, your pic... makes me think you are really hurt. Its just a pic, but a pic is worth a 1000 words.

My point is, you have to look elsewhere to find someone who has a heart, so you need to project your best self... not wounded self. The only place I know where people have a chance of growing a decent heart is a place with two good parents, church (I'm not saying all people but some will have a heart), or someone older and more mature that sees the potential.

It wouldn't deter me at all, but I'm not typical. If you project a lot of wounds though... that would deter me. Your traumas... must be resolved emotionally. If willing to try a God solution for that, if that is up your alley, let me know and I'll send you one when it is ready for publishing.

Else, seek support groups and social support as much as you can. It's not easy... what a bummer. Girls... choose those guys carefully... this is the real game of life!

[sejla]

I just saw something similar posted on a dating coach facebook page. A man was communicating with a woman until he asked is your son mixed? She said yes and he said no. The first thing we told is don't post any pics of your son any more.

You're best bet might be going to groups that are more geared for people who are single parents. I mean like meetups on the site Meetup or just do some interest groups on that site. Not a lot of men in your age group are quite ready to settle down to help raise a child. You might date older. It requires a man who is willing to raise other people's children. They are out there My friend is married to one and the kids think of him as their dad.

Your best bet might be to do things you enjoy and not think about dating much. It sucks but it is sometimes part of being a mom. I know I haven't said anything about the biracial issue but in a way you just can't focus on it. Anyone who wouldn't accept your son as biracial isn't datable anyway. The world isn't full of people who are racist it is just that unfortunately you've been running across a whole lot of them right now. Broaden your non dating social circle and you might found more non racist people.

[TheMoroccangirl]

My apologies for the rude comments you have to bear. However I think there is some truth in it, but I understand that you made decisions you probably made because of the way you felt at that time. Perhaps you ignored or did not see the consequences.
It will be very hard to get you a white man since your kid is half black. It would appear weird and it might attack his manhood (Like you cheated on him with a black person yet he stays with you). I'd recommend you to search a black person (you'd have more luck finding one who is willing to date you) but be very careful this time to date a decent one and not one from the hood. Also don't get pregnant again within a short time.
Or what I'd do if I was you, I'd just raise my kid and give him double the love his coward father couldn't give him. Like spending all my time to raise my son rightly as a single mother. He'll be proud of you no matter what. You're stronger than you think you are.

[Anonymous]

We talk about guys... why should a guy want to be together with a single mother who was banged many times by a black guy? By a black guy!!! isn't it already bad enough that guys are insecure about their dick size, now with you they would always think about how this black guy fucked the shit out of you always, thanks to your son they know of your sexual past with a black guy. Its not that your son is coloured, no its because because your son is coloured that they know its the kid of a black guy who fucked you many times, and hey, he left you right after you got pregnant, didn't you know that many black guys do this?
They dont want to take care of a kid who belongs to a black guy.

Sry girl, but you are doomed.
The only way would be to find a guy who is confident in his dick or a guy who has no other choices than you to pick.

[CHARismatic110]

I think it's less about your son being biracial and more about you having a son in general. Guys are less open to dating single moms than women are to dating men with kids.

And it's a fucking shitshow in these comments. So many racist ass people. It's disgusting. I now remember why I stopped coming on here. This site is a joke.

[btbc92]

What you need to remember is that there is no such thing as race, and people are ignorant and idiots for still believing in this lie that have deceived the whole world. You can't afford to think some guy has to take care of you. The problem is not the child and shouldn't be. The issue is you having premarital sex in the first place without being married. You may not believe in waiting but now look at the consequences of what your actions have left for your son. Once you become a parent it is no longer about YOU anymore. But about your son. Focus what is best for him, not yourself. That is my advice. And somebody someday may be attracted to your dedication for your son and want to be in his life. THAT should be far more important than anything. You saw what happened in Charlottetown? These are some dangerous times were living in and civil war as a race war if not just a world war will be upon us whether we want to or not. It is that real.

[Desconhecida]

Wow.. this title is the dream of a liberal

[Jinx67]

OK you hook up with a deadbeat "not even tossing the race card here" and have a child. Then now you expect to have you're veritable pick of the litter in men, sad to say that ship has now officially sailed.

Single successful men that have the confidence and self esteem that make them attractive, are not looking for ready made families. They are looking to start their own.

You've painted yourself into a tiny corner to put it mildly, not in school unable to support yourself, living with auntie. Unfortunately yes the child's race is going to play a role in any relationship you have in the future. Not everyone on planet earth shares your "enlightened" views.
And on their end it actually adds another layer of complexity to the problem of you having a child to begin with "aka hassle".
I'm not speaking for the world obviously, I just know how I would feel going into a relationship such as this.

My 1st thought: Why should I support offspring that aren't mine.
My second thought do I really want to spend the rest of my days explaining your unwise life choices to everyone we socialize with.
My third thought involves running for the nearest hills.

I really don't even know what to tell you "advice wise" other than never depend on anyone but yourself for ANYTHING. And you need to make damn sure the next guy is willing to commit prior to having another child. Because your "not to be insulting" more prone to pump and dump behavior in the future. If you go looking for the next relationship right now.

The best advice I can give you, is to honestly focus on making your life better for yourself and the child, before looking for another relationship. Yes it's going to be hard, yes it's going to involve long hours and stress, and yes it will be lonely at times.

But unfortunately these are now your top priorities for the next 18+ years.

[CastizoCasanova]

Try and think about it from the perspective of a male... not only do you want someone to "take care" of you, but also your half black son. Being a single mother is hard enough, but now every time your man goes out in public with your son, every other person is going to think that you cucked him with a black guy and he was so spineless that he stayed with you to raise this guys kid. What kind of self respecting, sane man would ever sign up for that arrangement?

At least if the kid was the same race people might think it's his boy, he wouldn't feel such intense shame at being seen in public with him, but you chose to create this obstacle for yourself and it's not up to any man to just accept it.

Like others have said, you should probably focus on being independent and supporting yourself first. At which point, you might start looking for eligible black men to step into that role, because at least they won't have the same stigma about being seen in public with your son, or much less of one.

When that time comes, you should take a hard look at your own worth to a man and maybe set your standards accordingly. Beggars can't be choosers, as the saying goes.

[SlavaNat]

Please, answer it to yourself.
Why would i ever consider i single mother, which ofcourse has a chd that is not even mine. I will have to pay for him/her, raise him/her and be a father, while not even having a child of my own?
I want my kids to look like me, and i want my kids to be mine. Is that racist? Protecting your gene pool?
by the way, the kid will have problems. Not only with identity, but with the lack of the father figure in his life.
Also why i wouldn't want to raise a mixed race child? Beacuse most associate better with the "black half" of their family. The child does look like them, does he not?
Basic psychology tests have proven, that white kids usually choose white dolls. And vise versa.
Are they racist? Ofcourse not. It is a part of natural selection and self preservation drive in us. That is usually very much present in men.
I'm sorry that you dislike basic biology and human nature, but denying them and morphing them into a false prejudice, will not change a thing.

[Cupuffs]

I am so sorry to hear that there are so many racists. As a liberated white male, I would like to apologize on behalf of all white males for their typical racist white male behavior.

I want to let you know that I fully support interracial dating, especially white women who choose or prefer to be with Black Men. In fact, I think that such couples look quite delightfully lovely together -- the Black Man's muscular and masculine physique pressed against the soft feminine curves of the white woman.

One can imagine that such a beautiful contrast begins with a soft kiss and then crescendoes into lovemaking as the white woman presses her lips against the beautiful black phallus to show her devotion to the African race who has come to liberate our society from the scourge of racism.

Every act of Blacksperm dousing the white womb is a revolutionary act against racism, and I, as a progressive anti-Trump white male support and endorse your decision.

I for one would be honored to date such a wonderful woman as yourself. And I can assure you that I would not be jealous like those racist white males who wouldn't want you to continue being attracted to Black Men. In fact, because monogamy is largely a racist concept, if you were my girlfriend or wife, you would have my full support to continue seeing Black Men because a woman's happiness and satisfaction is priority and paramount in any modern, progressive relationship!

One world, one race.
Love sees no color.

[tbonetbone]

Let's reverse the roles here. I'm a single attractive man with limited education and career prospects. I'm never going to be able to make the money to support the better life I'm looking for. I hooked up with a black women and got her pregnant. She wanted an abortion but I demanded she have the baby. She left me after our baby daughter was born and now I'm taking care of my beautiful baby girl by myself. This woman was nothing more than a player and she used me only for sex.

I'm looking for an attractive high quality women who is ambitious and can love and take care of me and my daughter. When I say ambitious, I actually mean someone who has money and resources to support my dreams of a better life. I will love this lucky lady with all my heart, but my daughter will always come first. My daughter is my world after all.

When white woman I'm dating find out I'm a single father with a biracial child, they run the other way. Why are white women are so racist? Did I even mention my father doesn't want anything to do with me. He says I'm a foolish man who makes poor life choices. He says I'm not worth the hassle of dealing with. My father is so racist it's unbelievable.

Can people tell me it's not me, but society that is the problem here.

[stawrman]

Hm. It's complicated. See, one must understand that not every one is ready to date a girl who already has a child. Moreover, usually, racially people to have tendencies to mix up in their own races although I don't quite agree with it.
I think you need to learn to take care of yourself. You've come a long way and have been a strong women. You've struggled like nobody but your child needs you more than ever. Attend to him. Even if a man accepts you and your son, let me tell you, that father figure in his life is going to absent anyway.
Educate yourself, get a job, earn, pay his school fee and find a motive in life. An attitude which strives for finding comfort isn't wrong, but you can do much by yourself. Eventually?
You may just end up writing a book about your struggle, because it's a unique one and I don't mean to sound unrealistic, but a self dependant lady scares and attracts a brillian man. Work for yourself and a child, trust me, you're capable of a lot.
Comfort will come, but you're just going to have be like bear grylls for a little
Best of luck!

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Lmao, you're not having problems because your son is half black.

You're having problems because you have a kid which scares guys away. Also, I have a feeling you would turn out to be a very defensive person. That will turn guys right away.

You have to put your love life to the side for now and learn to depend only on yourself. You have a child now. That is a real person with your blood running through his or her veins. That kid is a piece of yourself so what you need to do is find work that you can do well and get promoted in without a college degree. And once you get comfortable, then you can look for a guy.

If you keep playing the worlds smallest violin for yourself now, you'll be doing it forever. You need to smack those tears off your face and get motivated to work hard. Ask yourself: What will my kid be doing when they're my age? Keep working to make sure it's better than what you got now.

[Kaptin]

Yeah it can be trying at times, but if the person you're trying to be with doesn't accept you and everything that comes with you then they're not for you. Some guys can't handle/accept kids in their life though, just try not to take it personal. I can't comment on the racial side because it could just be that you're a single mom. But I will say I've dated a white single mother with white kids and it worked until I realized that she was somewhat embarrassed for all of to be seen in public together. It didn't really bother me because I thought that she would get over it, but she didn't so I knew it couldn't work out. Just keep your head up and stay strong, some guy will come to you one day.

[hellionthesagereborn]

Not wanting to date you doesn't make them racist. You chose poorly, you chose a poor mate and are a single mother as a result. That is what makes men less inclined to date you. You slept with and got impregnated by a man who immediately abandoned you, that shows that you have poor taste in men, that you where only interested in him because of superficial reasons OR because you are just overall irresponsible. So again, this is a red flag to men, its got nothing to do with your child being mixed race (do you know how many men would be fine with being with a mixed race woman? its a lot.). Combine that with the claims that its because others are racist instead of accepting responsibility for your actions just further shows you have not changed and are still that same irresponsible/poor character woman that men simply do not want anything to do with.

[LoU_Hades]

I'm a father of two girls with two different women. My current partner has a son that isn't mine. I accepted the role of being a father of another man's child only because people in my circle of acquaintances know that I have two other children.
Son of my partner is white like 99,9% of kids in my country therefor my perception about a single mother with black kid is a little bit different. But I would never accept a woman no matter how interesting she might be with a half black kid. I suppose majority of males who are interesting for females in their twenties wouldn't accept such a single mother.


In my opinion, a white single mother with black kid has the best chances to find a black guy. The other more radical way is giving that kid into adoption and trying to start new family with a responsible man.
Finding a white guy who has many options to attract women (I suppose that girl would accept only such one man) is practically zero for her with this kid.

[RolandCuthbert]

Well, I don't know the specifics of your situation. I know women who have mixed" children. I think one factor you could be overlooking is that you had a child by a man who abandoned you, it does not matter his racial background. If I were you age, I would exercise caution in dating you. But that is because I would think you have judgement issues.

As for what you are personally experiencing, if it is racism, then I am very, very sorry about it. Perhaps you could try a site I know of, meetup. com.

There are some dating groups there, some are dedicated to mixed people or parents of mixed children.

Try it out.

[FloridaManStrikes]

There is no way I would date this skank, and I would disassociate from any of my friends that would sink so low. It comes down to decision making. I want a woman I am proud of, and how could anyone be proud of having a walking reminder that this beautiful woman who could have pick any number of good guys found a piece of gutter trash and exchanged bodily fluids with it? If she gets a white guy, he will almost certainly be a scumbag with an equal moral character to the one that abandoned her. She burned the coal, now she's paying the toll. As they say, once you go black, you're a single mother.

[hi_no_tori]

I am sorry to hear about your situation, but calling all men "racist" is not going to help your cause.

Reality sometimes is tough to swallow, but it's a fact, that most men won't line up to take care of another guys child. Doesn't matter if the child is black, white or anything else.

Try to make the best out of your situation and don't try to give away the impression, that you are desperately searching for someone, who will raise your child with you.

I wish you the best and I hope that the biological father is at least paying child support.

[RickyKlement]

You though you were so much cleverer, enlightened and progressive than your stupid "racist" father and the rest of your family! All they tried to do is shield you from the obviously very poor life decisions you keep taking. Instead of actually listening to the only people that loved you on this earth you are, even now, still blaming society, men or muh racism.

All you ever learned in life is to parrot some (((media talking points))) providing you with the absolution from ever taking any responsibilities in your life.

But hey, f*ck your family! You go girl and keep being a strong, independent, progressive woman like all the sassy girls in your favourite sitcoms.

The white, handsome, sucessful and well adjusted Prince Charming you now seek is just around the corner! All you have to do for him to show up is to simply keep on crying hard enough, while asking some strangers on the internet to rationalise your child-like behaviour & mindset

[JackWilliford762]

I dated a girl about six years ago who had a biracial son with a black man. She was a very attractive nice girl , but everywhere we went people would stare at us because they knew I wasn't the father of her son. I felt awkward and I eventually ended it for that reason. I wouldn't mind if the kid was white. I would be able to act like he was my own son then. I'm sure that's what the guys that are ghosting you are thinking. I can't blame them. I couldn't do it either. I'm sorry about your situation. I think you would probably have better luck trying to find a black guy instead. A black guy probably wouldn't mind as much. Good luck and keep your head up.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the above statements. You need to focus on raising your child to be excellent. You are a parent need now. No more partying and worrying about guys. If you meet a guy that's great but no your priority. Also if you do not want to deal with responsibility. Then you need to consider adoption for the kids sake so he can be successful in life. Life is not a game you need to know a lot to help you & your kid become excellent. And perhaps when you are successful someone will come a long. Look up self actualization.

[JohnDoe3000]

You were very young and had a kid with a loser deadbeat. I doubt you'd have more success dating if your baby daddy was white trash instead of black (not to deny there aren't racist men out there, as some of the comments here show). Hell, even if you were older when you had the kid, were married with the middle class, white father at the time, and still received child support from him you'd still get turned down a lot simply for being a single mother. Racism really isn't the most obvious explanation here.

[TheKeyMaster]

wow your story is my mom's story. my mom is hispanic and got with my British dad and here I came 9 months later. then he left with no support whatsoever. she prayed and prayed to God for someone to show her the way. a man by the name of Sean brought her into an organization and there she met my romanian stepdad. my dad grew up poor in the ghetto so he accepts those of a different color than him. they then got married and I can say, he is the best dad I could ever have had. I suggest praying to god to find someone you love. someone who knows what they want. someone who is disciplined.

[Shutupman]

guys have actually said that they refuse to be with you because of the color of your kid?

To be fair having heard your story I would judge your intelligence for getting knocked up by a guy that obviously was no good.

How old were you when that happened?

Anyhow I still think most guys just don’t want to deal with single moms. Not many people would want to raise a strangers kid, especially not financially since the biological dad won’t pay.

Can’t really blame men for not wanting to be a part of that, you should have been sexually safer if you wanted better dating options. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[GD360]

My mom raised me in the similar situation. A Single mother. I had a great childhood despite it all. Just need to Keep your head up and keep being strong through the hardships, that means shrugging of comments of insensitive jerks on here as well. There's a lot of crappy fathers that don't want to take care of there own children, then want to crawl back in your life when your successful. I see these absent dead beat fathers as a blessing. Let the weak men leave so a stronger man can lead. If a man doesn't want you, for now on don't see it as rejection, see it as a dodged bullet. They have deemed themselves: too weak or too scared or lacking in some area that doesn't benefit you. You don't need another worthless man to mess up what you have left.

[pandabutter]

That's a pickle of a problem darling. I'd really focus on your son first, and hopefully, the right guy will come along. You'll eventually find someone you can jive with.

It's usually not race that turns guys away, at least what I know, it's the fact you have a child. It's the whole feeling of taking care of something that isn't their's type of thing. Women get that way as well when it comes to children and men. I've seen women turn down men because they have a child. While I would never do it, it's the way society is. Partly because we don't like surprises, and we don't like muddying the water.

Eventually, you'll find someone who loves you and your son. Just keep your chin up, and smile on your face.

[Anonymous]

I personally don't like girls like you aka those white girls who chase After black guys (penis size). Im not trying to be judgmental but giving you my honest and personal experience white girls like you tend to be loud and talk with that "hood accent" like that "cash me outside" girl.

White girls who have dated or date black men are considered undesirable because you are seen as the type of women who date men according to the size of their penis and it's hard to please such type of woman.

[kombuka]

If you were a bit more racist than you wouldn't be in this predicament (raising a child on your own). This is no longer a racist society because racists are being cast out, attacked in the streets, fired and getting banned on the internet. Who cares, you wouldn't want to date a racist so why does it matter if theyre not interested in you. You just live in the wrong area probably. Move to a liberal city and you'll be considered Holy Mary.

[danteloupe]

Obviously it depends on where you are in the country (I assume you're in the US from your post) but I feel like most guys care less about the race, and more about the kid at all. Being a single mother is not a desirable trait in the dating world unfortunately.

[dragonfly6516]

"I want to find someone who will love me ***and take care of me***..."

That's why they run. If they're taking care of you, they're also taking care of another man's kid.

[Rontti]

Don't know what to tell ya. A woman having a kid is a large enough downside, when the kid is not even of your own race, that's a death sentence in the dating game.
You are going to have to date down and find some desperate guy, that's pretty much the only way you'll get anyone. Guys who normally would be on your level are "out of your league" with that kid.

[Cosytoasty]

I don't think it has that much to do with race, just the fact that you're a single mother.

Big no go for the majority of guys who have alternative options.

[ciitruskiwi]

I had to read your description over and over again because I am so confused on why people are saying you're being rejected for shitty life choices. It's not your fault your baby daddy is a deadbeat.

I really wish I could give you better advice but don't rush it and don't give up. Live your life, raise your son, be the great mother that you probably are and be happy. You'll find someone. Good luck.

[maestrodematimaticas]

My thing is forget about race. I judge women I want to get involved with by past decisions. Having unprotected sex with a deadbeat isn't a smart move. I judge people based on who they sleep with. Itds a reflection of themselves.

[Mememagicked]

Have you considered adoption? I see you dating/marrying a blue collar guy you meet at work. That will last 5-10 years before one of you cheats. Just in time for you son to be cognizant of you desperate attempts at finding love with rebound guys in his teens. After that your looks will fade just as your son chooses not to attend college. Good luck with all that!

[Kuraj]

You are not getting getting rejected because you are mother of a biracial son.
You are getting rejected because you fucked your life with a track record of shitty life decisions.

[Mexicoman101]

Eh, I wouldn't date a single mother. The race thing isn't really a big deal for me but I just am not interested.

[Anonymous]

listen lady.. its a tough world we live in now.. you are right current society is really difficult.. Im not trying to be harsh but you should drop the expectation of trying to find someone who will take care of you.. Take care of your son.. If anything.. he is the one who needs anyone the most.. his dad bailed out on him.. he can't have his mother looking for other men..

[BikerGirl89]

I wish I knew what to tell you but unfortunately you are right. It is very hard these days to find someone who accepts another race.

It may take time but don't lose hope. There is someone out there who is non judgmental and will treat you and your child with love and care.

[Gayview_Mahat]

I wouldn't date a single mom. If you are upset about the racist society, why don't you just date black men? That's the most reasonable solution to your problem

[Cycladic]

Of course. What did you think would happen when you took up with a black guy? Even if you didn't have a child. Did you think any white guy worth his salt would ever date you again? I'm not saying it's right, I'm saying it is reality.

[EyezNMindLikeDOGE]

lol some of you girls make the dumbest decisions and then you want a good guy to play superman. you know, you could still be a good guy without being a push over who is on a waiting list...

[FxckBoy]

Biracial or not, you're a single mother. Because of that you'll already have a hard time dating. Plus, it's you're own fault all this is happening to you. I don't feel sorry for you. Not even a little bit.

[Blitzkrieger]

You fucked a black guy got knocked up and he ran away. Its not the child that bothers them. Its your poor choice in men.

[Anonymous]

I guess they don't want a future with someone whose kids will stand out as not being theirs. That's not necessarily racist. You should stick to black guys.

[Anonymous]

You are a strong, brave and empowered woman facing difficult odds in a highly racist and discriminatory society. Unfortunately, the white boys most willing to accept you now are cuckold fetishists who will beg you to sleep with black men while they watch. Win-win situation, I guess. But alpha whites will run away from you, because 85% of alpha whites are racists. My advice is simple: find a black man who is willing to take care of the child of another man. Black men aren't as insecure about their masculinity as white boys, so they're more willing to man up and step up to the plate. What you are experiencing is definitely racism, make no mistake about it. We can serenate all we want about what year it is, what century it is but deep down we are what we alway were: tribalistic apes. Some more than others, like racists clearly demonstrate. Good luck with everything. You deserve to be happy.

[None11am]

I'm sorry for your suffering. I thought the civilized world had moved on from such pathetic and needless judging of others. All I can say is, go to parties, go to book stores, join clubs or volunteer somewhere, and I bet you'll eventually find a decent man who'll love you and find your son adorable. Don't let others bring you down too much, and try to ignore them as much as you can. I wish you luck, and I'm positive you'll soon find happiness.

[JarrydR]

@Ashleysomebody my ex was a single mother of 2.. and 12 years older than myself... so in all honesty regardless of colour single moms are hot!😜 don't let shit get you down, stop trying to find love, focus on YOU and your child (like everybody else says) and it will come to you, somebody out there is right for you, fuck society and what they think don't let society run your life hope it helps

[sawno]

For me i would turn you down not because of his skin color but because i am not ready to be a dad.
I can kinda get that they might want a child thats not so obviously from someonr else but it really should not matter.

[Returnoftheswole]

"The black father abandoned me while I was pregnant"

Lol a little

[Anonymous]

I am a bit older than most of the replies here (41) and came here when my stepdaughter found herself in a similar situation. You need to understand that guys are put off by single mothers at your age. They are still building their own lives, seeking advancement in their career fields, trying to put something into their future. You come with a lot of baggage. But here's the good news. With out a man to distract you, you can focus on raising your child to be better that his/her father, and better than you. That's what parenting is really about. Giving your child a boost so that they have a better life. Stop looking for a savior and start looking for a way to teach your child, a way to give your child a wide spectrum of experiences, and something magical will happen... along the way you will find a PARTNER in this endeavor. Not a man to take care of you, but one who will be more than happy to help. Good luck honey.

[Anonymous]

Just get another black man, surely they can't be racist? If there's a shortage of blacks around you, you could always move to an African country, then you will be surrounded by only black guys, with no racism in sight!

[JamesRandiDebates]

A Mudshark such as yourself, with a fuck trophy in tow, is the absolute bottom of the barrel as far as decent men are concerned. Your only hope is to find another black guy. They don't seem to care. But even then, you won't get a decent one. Only a thug player who will knock you up and disappear just like the last one.

[Anonymous]

The black father abandoned me while I was pregnant, he refuses to even see his son or financially assist me with raising our son.
You fucked up

[IdkSomethingRandom]

You know for a fact it was because the ankle biters mixed? I'd be incredibly unlikely to date a mother

[Anonymous]

It shows you have terrible judgement. You will never find a quality man. Just accept the single life forever.

[WewLad]

Yeah it's definitely not your fault for making stupid decisions, it's society.
/sarcasm

[blondfrog]

Is as likely as an average looking guy to not be rejected by a fat over weight women with high standards.

[Captain171]

I am sorry about your situation that is messed up, and guys should not do that. And I have nothing I could compare to that. But it sounds like it might be a regional problem. Because I have never heard of that being a problem here, I could say more but I don't want sound churchy, of you want to hear it just say. And again I am sorry about all the rasist jerks.

[Anonymous]

Most guy are looking for someone to be reciprocally the most important person in their life.

If you are a good Mom, that'll never be possible, because you'll always put the kid first.

Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Saying the child's father abandoned you is a negative rascist stereotype

[bromisovalum]

The black guy acts like the typical stereotype and abandons you and his son, and somehow this is the fault of a racist society?

[Margillard]

There are million of biracial people out there in the world, in fact Brazil is pretty much all mullatto.