Why Women Have Totally Unrealistic Standards for Men, Dating, and Marriage?

[burpzzzzz]

Please watch this video before answering the question please. This video is 21 minutes long if you reply before then I will ignore your comment because you're not being serious.
This isn't an attack on women.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=H6ONHDmDD8s

[btbc92]

You did not link. Anyway, unrealistic expectations depend's on who you're dealing with. I expect men to understand that if they expected to date me, at the time, that I refuse to be touched sexually or have any sex before marriage. That I want to get to know who they are before deciding if romance is possible. I don't need to be dating somebody who was a waste of time and have no desire for marriage. And neither would I be unfair with who I am with. I rather know in the very beginning. Other than that, I can't speak for other women. It really boils down to what she is asking of the guy, and what about the guy that is a problem for the girl. I always say that if you have no desire to respect the other person for how they choose to date, and or want in a partner; leave. Or don't date them at all. Stop trying to 'change' or 'convince' people to date you.

[burpzzzzz]

I don't date nor do i have any desire to date. I don't even have desire to have sex with a woman. But a lot of women are having expecations that aren't realistic. For example most women expect men with 6 figure salary which only accounts for 10% of the male population. But when they are in the 30's they want to settle and when they can't get a man they complain there are no good men left.
Not a complaint but some of men are tired of expecting to settle for women who never wanted them in the first place. Some women have become desperate.

[btbc92]

I think it really all depends on what she is looking for. Most secular women want a 100k man because of what she has to offer, or expect. If she doesn't want marriage, it
s obviously to spend on her in exchange for sex. Those who want to get married know's things cost money. How can a man expect a family when he can barely provide for himself, yet he wants sex? Its all about what one and the other can bring to the table. I'm not saying all do this. But most sadly do.

[burpzzzzz]

It's no wonder society is messed up. People are suppose to build together. Plenty of men like me don't want sex. Men who have money don't want children. More and more men are giving up sex and women are freaking out about sex robots.
Plenty of men who could provide, were cheated on or dumped for someone else. But these very same women wanted to these same men they didn't want before. You have no idea what you're talking about in my country South Korea men didn't have money to provide for a family. Both men and women worked together. it was a team effort and both genders grew together.
Women want men to provide but all they offer is sex which isn't enough.

[btbc92]

What are you talking about? I am overall stating what premarital sex have done, and those who believe in it. They don't want to follow God's rules. They don't want to listen, but the reality is men want's sex from women. Even if you don't personally want sex. There is no reason to be in a dating relationship if you have no desire for marriage. But many people today don't believe in marriage anymore. So they pursue relationships for the sake of sex and expect it or they'll leave. Men need's to look how they are treating women before they can try to correct women.

[burpzzzzz]

Men don't believe in marriages anymore because women are initiating 70% of all divorces which will usually destroy a man's life. Women will call you a bitter loser if you don't date these women. Many women have sex with multiple men and some women have relationship with several men at the same time. I too don't believe in sex before marriage but most women get angry at that.

[burpzzzzz]

Men need's to look how they are treating women before they can try to correct women.

Men get treated like garbaged and are expect to treat them like princesses? Why do you think I don't want to date women? It's the lack of respect for men. Some women get that. One women apologized behalf of all women. The constant attack of on men Guys like me who don't have sex with women or do anything with them are considered losers who can't get laid both by men and women. Men have been treated like garbage for the past 50 years and it has gotten worse. Men lose jobs because of women but us men just treat women with respect? Are you kidding me?

[btbc92]

I don't think most women get angry. I say it's a misconception. Most women as young girls DO desire to have only one man in their life. Many are being manipulated and taught that men want's sex before marriage, which is often the case, and they do. Blame other men, before you can blame other women. Like I said, many girls want's to wait. Most men pressure girls into sex. Now girls think's it's meaningless and raise up the divorce rates. It's also statistically proven that premarital sex raises divorce rates. I'm celibate. Still a virgin and never dated. Your reason for not wanting to date is the same reason as mine.

[btbc92]

It's a domino effect going on. Girls hear that guys want's sex before marriage, so she does it. Now men hear that women want's experienced men, so what do they do? The same thing. It's a lie as well as a reality now. We were all taught this as children.

[burpzzzzz]

Man and women want sex before marriage. Quite a few men who didn't want to sleep with the woman they dated left them because they didn't have sex with them. I haven't dated in 17 years and have no motivation to do so. Why would I waste my time and money?

[burpzzzzz]

Women are angry at men. They want to compete with men this is obvious if you look around. Men are considered the enemy because women were oppressed which clearly was a lie. Yes some girls have sex with men because they want a relationship. But in my city you can not usually approach a woman even to talk to and is considered harassment. It is easier to get laid in my city than to get a date because women want to know how much you make before even start dating a man. I'm not saying it's all women's fault but women do get upset when I show proof that divorce is higher when people have sex before marriage or live together.
I was accused of being religious when I haven't been a Christian for over 17 years. My father did force me to go Catholic church but I stopped going anyways.

[burpzzzzz]

"Many are being manipulated and taught that men want's sex before marriage, which is often the case, and they do. Blame other men, before you can blame other women. "
This is why I can't trust women. You can't take accountability for your own actions but you want men to do it. Women are being manipulated is an excuse. If women are being manipulated then then why would a man trust her at all? Why marry a person that doesn't have her own mind?

[btbc92]

I'm not saying you should. It is your choice to be celibate as it was my choice. I overall answered your question. Again, most girls are willing to wait. The problem lies with how they were taught, and who they were influenced by. If they first guys she was with taught her that sex means love, then they will be perceived as they get older, that any guys who won't touch them sexually doesn't love them, or is sexually attracted to them.

[burpzzzzz]

"I don't think most women get angry. I say it's a misconception" Odd my two step sister told me so in other words and a woman who I used to live with when I rented a room in the basement told me the same thing and another told me from her personal observation. Even a male tourist from another country told me this too. The lack of respect for men. In fact the reason for no wanting to get married goes back 31 years ago. The lack of respect for men. Women being controlling and combative to men.

[burpzzzzz]

." We were all taught this as children. "
Then why are you a virgin? And why did I believe this lie?

[btbc92]

The point is, God didn't say to create a religion. You told them the truth, but at the same time, you can't enforce your views on them. If they don't want to listen, then let them suffer. It is not your place. You told them whatever you told them. But you can't get upset at them for what they ignorantly don't know. It is their choice.

[btbc92]

I am a virgin because it is my choice. I no longer desire marriage, or sex or children. Nobody wants to really get to know me for me like how it was with you. But you have to make a decision on what you want to do. I would rather die a virgin and go to heaven than to fulfill earthly pleasures and go to hell. I lost my mother because of cervical cancer. You know how cervical cancer starts. You think I want to end up like what happened to her? It hasn't even been 2 years since her death. But just because the world says 'have sex before marriage', my God says 'wait'. I honor him. Not the world.

[burpzzzzz]

". Again, most girls are willing to wait. "
Not in cities. You're making an assumption here even Christians are having sex before marriage.

[btbc92]

Update: She has a lot of good points in this that I can overall agree so far.

[btbc92]

I KNOW that even Christians are having sex. I am not talking about them. I am overall saying that before they reach that breaking point, that many wanted to wait. Very few do. I KNOW somebody personally who is and didn't. Now she regrets it because she was fooled, other than being manipulated. I'm telling you by experience. And I lived in NYC.

[burpzzzzz]

I didn't try to enforce anything all I was doing was proving my case. If they want to destroy their lives it's not my problem and I won't be trying to fix those problem no amount of money. We are growing number of women accusing men of false rape, in colleges and in general population. They believe regretting sex is rape. Do you seriously believe there were manipulated to think that? Women have become so greedy. Wage gap, etc. This isn't attacking women it's the truth. Just like the bible tells you the truth. If you ignore the truth you can't make the problem go away. In the same way there are weeds int the garden. You're confusing yourself with blaming. Truth is isn't blaming. Calling out unacceptable behavior is not blaming. Most men are raised to be responsible for their actions when they were little boys.

[burpzzzzz]

Nobody wants to really get to know me for me like how it was with you.
Not really I did have one or two women that wanted to get to know me. She didn't make sexual advances like other women did. However she made much more money than I did and my health was poor. I really didn't know her since she was my customer and I always promised by self never mix business with pleasure.

[btbc92]

I'm not confusing anything. I'm saying it for what it is. You're stating your opinion as I am stating mine. What is going on in South Korea is no different than what is happening around the world.

" Most men are raised to be responsible for their actions when they were little boys." And HOW many can you say, are being responsible. Most men don't want to be responsible. Most men today don't want marriage. Most men want sex. Therefore what I said is right in that standard. It is blaming. I'm not saying you're not telling the truth. But you are only looking at this one-sided. But at the same time, you are blaming women. You just aren't seeing it as that. The world is becoming greedy. But remember, who was the one who is supposed to be in charge over women? The men. God didn't call women to be heads of the household. But if there is no man to be leaders, then how can women be women?

[btbc92]

I'm not ignoring the problem. I am addressing it as it should be addressed. I know so as a young woman myself. I have spoken to some of these girls. I don't know exactly how it is in Korea, again. But still, you have no idea what their lives were like. Unless they specifically told you themselves they wanted to all along, you still never know. They could be lying. Because they don't want to be judged by anybody. So they give you an answer they hope you will accept. Sadly we women are like that. It is a defense mechanism. After a while, you start telling yourself that and you begin to believe it.

[btbc92]

Some of those girls are secretly hurting, like some men. They don't want to be seen as weak, so they try to be strong by being like other people. In the end, it's killing them.

[btbc92]

But at the same time, they are also scared.

[burpzzzzz]

Nope not for most women. Women want to control men to spend more money. That's it. Women tend to spend far more than men. We live in a materialistic culture. Funny because when I fear someone I am not in a relationship with them. You're making excuses. You see I call out on men too. I never blame anyone. I am not white so my culture is different although I spent most of life in Canada. My parents influenced me in Asian culture it's very different.
If they fear men why are they having relationships with several men at the same time?
Women are weak because they took their own power. Femininity isn't a weakness.

[btbc92]

How am I making excuses? I don't make excuses for no one. But neither am I just going to sit here and here the ones your saying. There is no such thing as race. You being Asian, have nothing to do with it. I'm not even what you call so-called white. I'm so-called black and mixed.

"If they fear men why are they having relationships with several men at the same time?" Because they think that is all there is to LIFE. It's a simple answer. If they are indeed called to relationships, then who is anybody to stop them? The problem is they chose to get involved with the wrong men. Some even believe that they aren't good enough for a good man, so they end up who they end up with. It is a common mistake many women go through.

[btbc92]

It is fight or flight for them.

[btbc92]

"Women want to control men to spend more money. That's it. " Because that is how you chose to perceive it. It's bad enough many are doing it. But you're giving them power over your choices and influences. Why fear them? If you believe that you are that right kind of guy, then why worry about what other women do or think? See that is your problem. I no longer care. Modern dating is terrible. I knew this growing up.

"Women tend to spend far more than men." Yeah, because now they have the rights to work for themselves. And it also depends as I saId before, how they have been taught.

[burpzzzzz]

No even if the guy is the bread winner. Women are spending too much money. They never think about retirement and stuff.

[btbc92]

That is a false generalization. Women do think about retirement. But many may not be able to afford to do so like so many men today because of our economy. It affects everybody. But it is not just about spending. It's about what to do with it. Plus, you also have to look at background and age brackets. Many young women aren't saving money. Yes, but it doesn't mean there aren't any women who are. I know of women who are saving money.

[Tdieseler]

well, for one, i didn't watch your video... that is because i LIVE and understand what you are saying. but i solved my problem.. seems you are wallowing...
dude... women are crazy and stupid. so do what you are... be a man... stable and conscious...

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[Anonymous]

Some women have unrealistic expectations, indeed. Many men too have unrealistic expectations.