I don't drink and would actually prefer to have a partner who doesn't drink either. But my current boyfriend does drink, though much less than the average guy I think. Our relationship would work even if he did drink as much as the average person, because at the end of the day drinking isn't even that big of a deal in our relationship. He has never pressured me to drink and I've never pressured him not to drink (although when he whines about hangovers I do say that there's one simple thing he could do to avoid them... lol).
What would be a real dealbreaker for me is if my partner was an alcoholic. Alcoholism has become especially normalized in my country. You see drunk/homeless people everywhere all the time. Students blame their poor drinking habits on their studies, claiming it's just a "stress reliever" to get or be drunk every other day of the week. Men and women alike turn to the bottle when facing difficult low points in their lives. That would be a definite dealbreaker for me. I want someone who can be strong without the alcohol. Someone who can deal with stress and pain without finding help at the bottom of the bottle. Someone who values communication, therapy and a strong bond over silence, denial and a drink. The alcohol often just enhances the worst parts of these issues, resulting in the person not being trustworthy and them becoming aggressive and manipulative. I can't be in a relationship with someone who's more in love with alcohol than me.
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No and I DO drink. I drink quite often and (as sad as this sounds lol) it's kinda a big part of my life. I like to crack a beer open after work and I love going to the bar on weekends and getting wasted. But one thing I don't like doing is drinking alone or being the only one drinking and just seeming foolish. I tried dating a guy once who didn't drink at all and it just was too weird for me and it didn't work out.
My fiancé doesn't drink. Well, he WILL on occasion but VERY rarely. Really only at parties or holidays. I on the other hand like to drink on weekends and occasionally have a few after a long day. We're both non-judgmental about it so it's a non-issue. If he tried to ride my ass over it or vice versa then it would be a problem.
You should use alcohol as a test of character. You cannot blame alcohol consumption for your behavior; it only removes your inhibitions and makes you show your true character, good or bad. So if someone acts aggressive and mean while drunk, that's a huge red flag that it's time to cut it off. If they're happy and sociable, all good. If they can't stop themselves then keep them on trial and see how far they go with their drunken stupor.
It's super easy to spot a psycho when they're drunk but it's also super hard to spot a good person when they go all the way to comatose
I brew beer, its kinda my thing, i plan to open a brewery in the next 2 years.
Dating a girl who doesn't drink would cut her out of a HUGE part of my life.
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I'd love it. I don't drink myself and never would. It's my big preference that he doesn't drink.
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Yes and I DO drink alcohol :)
Its not a deal breaker if they don't drink. I did for many years
It really didn't effect pur relationship at all and i enjoy drinks when the occasycalls for it. We even went on all inclusive paid trips and she never drank
Would of been nice to share a drunk night with her. Yes of course! I think it would of helped us bond more
But it didn't take anything away
If that makes sense
Funny. She drinks now though lol bahI haven't had a drink in 34+ months and I don't care if the woman I'm dating has wine with her dinner or any alcohol at anytime. I prefer to not drink.
I don't drink alcohol.. So it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me at all.. My girl drinks alcohol though, and me not drinkin it isn't much of a deal breaker for her..
I don't drink alcohol. I'd be fine with a girlfriend that drinks socially; I'd even be okay with the rare drunkenness. But I'd definitely prefer not to be with a frequent leisure drinker.
I have dated Moslem girls who don't drink alcohol (and some that do).
It doesn't really matter.Yes, i would date a non-drinker cause I'm a non-drinker myself.
I wouldn’t find that an issue. The only time i drink is when it’s a special occasion
I enjoy getting drunk together ocassionally a little too much, so no, i would not date them.
I do not drink alcohol, or smoke, or use recreational drugs.
Alcohol is a poison that damages the body, especially the brain.No because I'm asexual/aromantic, and I don't drink alcohol.
I have a wine cooler maybe once every few months. If he's an alcoholic than definitely a deal breaker. A bear daily maybe.
I only drink alcohol sometimes and yes I would date a girl who doesn't. I'll even stop drinking if she preferred me not to as well.
I guess a little drinking is okay? I'm not into alcohol. Thankfully my boyfriend and I both do not drink.
I dont drink but the people I'm with usually won't know that unless I say.
I plan on never drinking, I would date someone if they drank at most once a week apart from on special occasions
I don't drink alcohol and would try to avoid dating anyone who does
i do drink alcohol and would date a person who didn't drink alcohol... if i were single
I'll drink every now and again so it doesn't matter to me
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