Would you date someone who doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs?

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SueAnon84 · Accepted Answer

I don't do any of that. I would rather spend my time being healthy and productive and I felt that doing those things would endanger my health and or my future children's health! That said, I actually did go out with people that were doing these things. In fact, a lot of my exes were doing this stuff. But I was always getting conflicting messages from the media and health sites that say that smoking is bad for your health, that it is going to unnecessarily shorten your life , give you a stroke or heart attack, give you fertility issues and give you cancer of the lungs or other body parts! I didn't want any of that nor did I want to shorten my life so I promised myself not to get addicted to those things! I also want to mention that it can cause sudden infant death syndrome, or fetal alcohol syndrome and many more stuff that I just didn't want to risk it and I am still not planning to do that! I've already gone through a lot and I don't want to necessarily complicate my life any further... especially if I can help it! ... That's all. :)

BluesheepOwl · Accepted Answer

Wow that would be amazing if I found a guy who doesn't drink. Most guys don't do drugs but as soon as they tell me they like weed, I leave. I hate weed. If they ever touched hardcore drugs that would be an instant deal breaker for me.

I don't drink, I don't smoke cigarettes or smoke weed, I've never tried hardcore drugs. So I'd like to find someone similar to myself. Also both my older brothers are alcoholics so I am sensitive when it comes to drinking. I'd prefer if he never drank but it's ok to have a drink once a while, just not often. It's good to make sure they don't have a problem being sober. If they always need to be intoxicated then there are a lot of mental problems there and most people won't want to stick around and try to help them. Only they can want to change. It'll just be painful for you to try and help them.

Inexpensivefurniture · Accepted Answer

So I can't drink and I don't do drugs and when I'm around people who are drunk or high and I'm the sober one, I have to be the voice of reason and basically babysit which I don't like when I'm also trying to have fun. I don't mind as much if they are just tipsy or if they handle themselves well when they aren't sober, but there's always at least a part of me worrying about them.
So while someone drinking or getting high once in a while on pot or mushrooms isn't a deal break for me, I do prefer being around people when they are also sober and I don't have to watch out for them so much

HotJealousy · Accepted Answer

Maybe, but depends. Personally I drink quite a lot and occasionally take drugs, but have never smoked. If she had a problem with me doing those things then I wouldn't date her as that could cause problems. But if she was fine with it then I don't see why not providing she'd still want to come to raves/parties with me :)

sejla · Answer

I don't either so it would be nice. I mean I used to have a drink once a year but since I guess since they found some stomach erosion during my last scope I can't even do that. The first thing the nurse asked when they called after the scope was do you drink which I don't. I guess that's the common way that happens.

SydneySentinel · Answer

Yes. As long as he didn't mind me having a few drinks once in a while.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Considering I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs, I would love a partner that doesn't do any of that!

MrOracle · Answer

Absolutely. I do none of those either.

tiffany_g · Answer

I'd prefer if my partner didn't smoke. It makes me a hypocrite since I'm a chimney myself, but I'm trying to quit and having a partner who smokes will make that more difficult. I don't mind if they drink in moderation or have an occasional drink on weekends, but I won't put up with someone who gets drunk every night.

Drugs are an absolute deal breaker. Doesn't matter if it's the "harmless" stuff like pot or the potentially fatal stuff. Stoners keep coming into the store where I work, make a general nuisance of themselves, and I'd ban them all if I had the authority to do so.

yoshi_wanna_ask · Answer

Yes! That's my ideal partner. I definitely don't want the smoke/drugs part but alcohol is just so smelly and expensive and there's so many other options if it's just about drinking something. If not, hopefully he'd be happy enough within himself and those around him that he wouldn't need to get wasted either. I mean, of course there's exceptions and special days and certainly wouldn't expect him to be 'perfect' but just to want to aim for having a satisfying lifestyle without them, you know? If I can find someone who *already* wants that, that'd be amazing.

Chikky · Answer

That's a total package honey

Anonymous · Answer

I don't drink, smoke or take drugs. And I'd only ever date a guy who didn't drink, smoke or take drugs.

I used to go out to bars and clubbing when I was at college. I drank, but not a lot. But I've never drank for years. I don't like the taste of alcohol now , and I don't see the point of drinking it lol

xBec14x · Answer

Cigarettes actually make me sick and throws me into coughing fits that I can’t breathe so absolutely no. But vapes are fine cause it’s pretty much just flavored and scented vapor water.
Drugs. Meh it depends. I’ve had a few college friends that tried something heavy once or twice but never injected.
Alcohol hate to say it but they kinda have to with me. I don’t want them never giving themselves a treat once in awhile. Go out for a nice dinner? Just get 1 beer or have champagne at a wedding enjoy yourself you deserve it :)

Flamdring · Answer

Well, as I am someone who does not smoke and barely drinks - a beer or wine once a month at best, I would have no problem dating someone who does not drink, smoke or use other drugs (tobacco and alcohol are already classified as drugs).

Price511 · Answer

I'll date somebody who drinks, but I think I'll stay away from those who do drugs or smoke. Do you have any idea what that can do to your oral hygiene? I find it appalling to say the least.

I mean maybe if they experiment with it a little, sure, but if they full on just do that and get an addiction then I'm out.

Unless they have weed, because I want to try it out. Might calm my nerves a bit from my anxiety over everything.

MissChasityL · Answer

I would because I don’t drink, smoke or do drugs myself. I don't know how alcohol tastes lol.

Hurlyburly · Answer

Sounds quite perfect tbh. I do not have anything against drinking (as long as it's moderate and only happens on certain occasions) but I most definetely wouldn't want a relationship with someone who's smoking or doing any kind of drugs.

MusicMayhem · Answer

I wouldn't date someone that does drugs and prefer they don't smoke. Just today I was walking down the street minding my own business and some drugged up lady just started abusing the shit out of me throwing f bombs left, right, and centre, even after I had walked well past her.

As for alcohol I prefer they do drink because those that don't often flat out refuse to even go to places where others do drink and I want to still go out for a few beers with a mate.

mistixs · Answer

Yes! I'm the same way, except the psych meds I need to take

Wolframium · Answer

I am someone who doesn't drink, smoke, or do drugs. Or hazard. And I'm not willing to change it. Obviously, for obvious reasons.
If this is your idea of fun, then sorry, but nope.
You think doing this is so cool? No. What's cool is having sharp mind and fast reflexes, for example. That's hard. Drinking? That is easy.
It's about the ability to catch suddenly falling object in mid-air, not get wasted.

humanearth · Answer

I prefer dope free people. You do any kind of dope that includes pot or weed if thats what you want to call it

I beer here and there i dont give a shit about. But if your a drunk all the time your gone

I won't stand for a cigarette smoker them are gross

jmzero · Answer

I have nothing against people who dont. And I don't do drugs but I do like to drink on occasion and for me it feels just weird to be out with a partner trying to enjoy a couple drinks and they're completely sober. I feel like were not on equal footing and I can't enjoy being loose.

Anonymous · Answer

I didn't drink until I was like 21 but now I drink wine at home on the weekend. I don't get wasted but I enjoy a few glasses to relax. As long as my partner lets me to do that i'm good. The one i'm currently dating hates alcohol because he can't stand the taste and because he has an alcoholic father so he wants to avoid it, but he doesn't mind others drinking.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't drink, smoke or do drugs either. Tbh I wouldn't mind at all if he drank once in a while, smoking may be a bit of a turnoff but I can look past it, drugs would be a deal breaker cuz they're illegal here. A man who does none of those seems pretty reasonable. I think it'd be pretty great

datgirl · Answer

Yes, I'd be fine with it. As long as he dont come off as arrogant or prudish and doesn't get mad when i do drink. I have a drink every now and then when i go out with others but im not a huge alcohol fan and never understood the hype around it so he wouldn't have to care too much about me drinking and I don't smoke at all and drugs are an automatic NO. So we'd get along fine.

Ayer93 · Answer

People have more chemistry with people that engage in the same activities as them. I would prefer that my partner drinks at least occasionally so we can have fun together. On the other hand, I don't smoke and would rather my partner didn't smoke because I just see it as a dirty habit that makes you smell, ruins your lungs and doesn't really give you a happy feeling like drinking. It all varies from person to person and there's definitely no wrong preference here.

Kevinnnn · Answer

I am that kind of person.
I drink a beer if I want to but that never happens actually.

I do not go to parties and I hate drugs more than anything else.
Nothing is more degenerated.

Why would you poison yourself to feel better than average for a few hours, then fall asleep and wake up with a headache and a LOT of brain damage in the following years?

Literally the same as attacking a nest of poisonous insects.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I have no problem with that. Are we talking illegal drugs? If it's illegal , so i would ask what kinda of drugs and if it's a real problem for the person am dating, i wouldn't consider taking the person seriously to a relationship

Anonymous · Answer

Of course.
What kind of question is this? Lol
They're the right type of people to date!

Smokers - breath stinks, body odour, etc
Doing drugs - they will get addicted and will be very abusive and/or go to jail
Alcoholic - they can turn into an abusive person and may financially go broke

But if he drinks on occasions, that's fine.
I drink too when there's a birthday, etc
But that's only once a month or once every 2 or 3 months.
OCCASIONALLY

fonduegirl · Answer

90% of people in general wouldn't mind unless they're against it

TripleAce · Answer

Ya i did. And while it wasn't a big deal. There was times i wish she could just get a bit drunk
Like on vacation
Or just having a glass of wine on evenings. A bottle of wine at dinner

Stuff like that is more fun than none at all

AdHdSqUiRrEl · Answer

Fuck yes. I wouldn't want to date some who did all of those things.

CubsterShura · Answer

They're my preference actually. I wouldn't date a guy who does any of that to begin with.

AuroraRoseat · Answer

Sounds boring. I would want him to at least drink socially if only a couple of shots. The ones who don't drink are usually the ones who complain about others drinking. Smoking and drugs are a no-go.

Dav1ss · Answer

I wouldn't date someone who did drugs or smoked I am talking about recreational drugs

Annie12234 · Answer

Of course! I would date someone who doesn’t drink, smoke, or do drugs because I would want someone who cares for their health. Also, I do cares about someone health and be happy.

Hacienda94nature · Answer

Since i was 14 I've been drinking beer occasionally but only beer never other drugs or cigarettes. The smoke from cigarettes used to make my stomach sick. I need my beers.

Princess-alexandra · Answer

Someone who doesn’t smoke or do drugs would be perfect!! I would want to get drunk with my boyfriend every once in a while so I’d be a little disappointed if he didn’t drink

Porcelaine · Answer

That's exactly who I want since I don't do any of these things either. It's quite rare since most at least drink or smoke or both.

yeeeeeeeet · Answer

After reading all these girls' comments about how this is their dream guy, I've come to the conclusion that I'm just a piece of shit. I dont smoke, drink, or do drugs, but I'm still every woman's last human choice. I'll never flirt again.

chriswohlleben01 · Answer

In general people who do drugs tend to find eachother... those people are not bad or mischievous but would it be held against them no just like it should not be held against anyone who doesn't do anything

Sethdove · Answer

So to me this is an issue of communication, respect and boundaries. Here I feel you must be upfront if you are serious about a relationship. People are all different, coming from different places in their lives, so priorities often differ. Best to sort them out early.

Sp3cialK · Answer

Always have however the single 1 (ONE) female i dated that did not, I got pregnant. She was also a complete psychopathic demonic bitch and thats not me being mean... I was awarded full custody.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

Yes. Personally I do not do any of those things. I’ve seen firsthand due to family members and friends. how things of that nature can go sideways in a hurry.

fauchelevent · Answer

Sure, that's fine. I drink sometimes, as long as they didn't have an issue with it, then I can't see there being any problems :)

Girlasks1234 · Answer

It’s preferred actually. But not someone who is very against it. That was frustrating. Just someone who keeps it occasional.

Philyouup · Answer

Why wouldn’t I. I am myself, I am not somebody else. If I give them the power to rule over me, shame on me

BlacklightShade · Answer

I don't do drugs or smoke so I won't date anyone that does. I don't drink much so if he doesn't drink then that's no bother for me.

MindYourEyes · Answer

Hell yeah! Very rare to find anyone like that now a days.

Lone099 · Answer

Pro: I get to drink every time we go out and still stay safe.  Con: I don't get to drink and to get drunk with them.  I don't date guys who smoke or do drugs... except for pot

Poppykate · Answer

I don’t do any of these things because I want to live a healthy lifestyle. but I don’t care what others do. I aren’t their mother! Lol 😂

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes i would. I stopped smoking 34 days ago and i am so happy i am saving money and i don't do any illegal drugs and no alcohol i do drink water , tea , coffee, pop.

Mixedlove21 · Answer

Only if they aren’t too judgmental about me doing it. I don’t like alcoholics or people who rely on something but if I like to do it here and there then that’s fine

holograph · Answer

Yes, but I'm not going to change how I live for them, so they'd have to be okay with me having an occasional drink plus whatever else I do.

Eila_ · Answer

what more do you want? sounds like you're after a junkie

CaptainOverthink · Answer

It wouldn't stop me from dating that person. But then we'd have to be really compatable because I usually need the drinking to open up.

Anonymous · Answer

I made my boyfriend stop all that. I wouldn’t be with him if he did any of that at all. Just stupid and gross

Miristheiss · Answer

I wouldn't date them if they did smoke or do drugs. Drinking must be mild. Partiers, drunkards I avoid.

Keyarose · Answer

Yes, because I don't do it neither. I would want someone who cares for their health.

sexphobe · Answer

Nah man i wanna be able to get fucked up with my boo

cth96190 · Answer

I do not drink, smoke, or use recreational drugs. I had zero interest in females who smoked, or used drugs. An occasional drink was okay.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Yes, in fact, that's preferred for me, as I don't do any myself.

no1pieater469 · Answer

Sure! Ass long ass they swallow, ride hard & can take it all in their mouth, why not! LMAO

Redstang88 · Answer

Probably wouldn’t get along too well with a girl that doesn’t drink at least occasionally. I like to party and would rather have a girl come with me than sit back and whine that I went out

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